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GOFRONT:
And Ruth my colleague at my working place collected my phone and logged in her facebook acct......

She received an emergency call to report at our head office, na so she forget to logout...

I say make i check her infidelity level.....omo, come see chat....."I luv your pvssy"...."I miss your dikc"....."Anytime u need sex, that is when u have time for me"

Mehn my eye see can of worms that day......and since that day, I jst dey use corner eye dey look her anytime she wan form holy holy for our office . My eyes be like

Triniti:
Baba, forget about this girl and move on, your life presently does not need divided attention. You should focus more now on having stable source of income

Slimmacho:
Wow!
First time I read comments on NL without seeing stuff like IPOBPIGS, AFONJA, SKULL MINERS, CONE HEAD, FLAT HEAD, BUHARI, ATIKU etc.

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nelxxy:
see this one claiming saint.. I know you type

resurgent4oodua:
God bless you sir.
It seems I was talking through you. This is exactly my ideology. I won't say women are evil but they are a handful. Men should just hustle for money and buy a woman for marriage when the time is right.
Safe bro.

nho4:
Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.

Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no fucking girlfriend.

Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any fucking lady.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

spyg1:
The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.

There is a girl I met at a friend's wedding sometime last year, she is 24 years and a 200L student while I am 30 years old postgraduate student but an amateur when it comes to relationship.

We started dating, at first I wasn't serious because I don't have enough money to take care of a girl, as a student sponsoring myself, I hardly have enough money to take care of her needs, she always complain that I don't take care of her which her friend's guy use to take care of her, the girl in question always advice my girl to quit our relationship because I am a broke guy and even if I get a job in future I will dump her for another lady, that I am just deceiving her, nevertheless she do assure her that I will not disappoint her, despite her friend's advice the love grew even stronger, at times she will buy me some gifts, me too I do buy some for her, having seen the commitment in her, then I started paying attention to her hoping that if things work well I will take her to the alter.

But, there was a day she called me to come and meet her at a particular Junction, on my arrival to the place I saw her exchanging phone number with a guy in car, upon enquiry, I discovered that she did not know the guy before, then I left home quietly she later called and apologized which I accepted.

Another time I called her around 10pm and I discovered that she blacklisted my number, she did this twice which I confronted her and suggested that we should quit, she begged me and cry for Africa then I accepted her back again.

After that, sometimes she will not pick my calls in the night and the following day she will giving excuses that she was sleeping, her phone is on silence or she plugged in her neighbors house etc, I started withdrawing from her, she called me one day and started crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, I am just like other guys, she know the reason why I am doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla.

To fast forward the story, she login her Facebook account on my phone and she forgot to logout, when I went through her chat I discovered that she use to give people they meet on Facebook her phone number and according to the chart I discovered that she met one yesterday, I also discovered that she is still having an affairs with her ex.

Note: Anytime i call her to come to my house she used to come.

I feel like quitting the relationship but because of sympathy and I don’t want it to look as if I disappointed her. Honestly I am seriously confused, now my question is this; is it wrong that I went through her chat?

Second, what should I do? should I confront her? or should I quit quietly?

Pls I need your sincere advice, insults are welcomed. I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

PLS IGNORE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS

Tinalex:
Choi...girls don deal with this guy too ooo....their by resorting to self loathing. Pele, enjoy what suits you!! Please don't marry ok

Memyselfu2009:
Everyone do things for a reason try and find out her own side before taking actions.
Why quit a relationship if you know you love her have a good conversation with her get to the root of what she really wants in life. If she is not ready to let go of her past you can then let her go.

CHoccolaTE:
I don't understand why the guys on this thread are getting so emotional over this issue. Do you people think men don't mess up in relationships?
You think men are saints and women are devils? Or you think men are always faithful while women always cheat?

Get over yourselves jor.

With the many stories of men raping their girlfriends because they refused them sex, there was a story on nairaland of one that killed her after raping her because she wanted to keep her virginity.
Then what of men that waste a womans life, date her for years and years then leave her when she is old?
What about the ones that use women for money then abandon them for another woman?

Rubbish.

I won't even take this thread seriously untill I hear the girls side of the story. How are we sure OP hasn't been mistreating that girl or even cheating on her as well because if he has he won't come here to tell us.

Anyone quotes me to say nonsense, may your family be afflicted with any nonsense or insult you write to your tenth generation.

rosalieene:
see them NL guys turning the table around making themselves victims.

You lots once made a girl cry over you now its a crime to cry over a woman?

Once a guy brings up his story here gbam! you'd see encouraging comments but when a lady brings up hers, even when clearly she was wronged, you lots would end up bashing her. sometimes Calling her names

Always playing the victims game.

sometimes, we should seat down and ask ourselves, what if you're in this person's shoes, what will you do? Besides, you don't even know her part of the story or if the OP exergerated at some point.
I know how this works, girls always get advances what's more important is how to handle it.
from what I am seeing, that girl loves you but she is confused as she also wants to settle down. Every lady wants that comfortability, some would be fortunate If it ends well while some are unfortunate. What if you re not the one for her? what If she misses her chances with the right one? so most times a lot of ladies are just confused
And don't blame us either.... its best you just let her go.



and most importantly, don't punish your next for this sins of this one!

resurgent4oodua:
God bless you sir.

It seems I was talking through you. This is exactly my ideology. I won't say women are evil but they are a handful. Men should just hustle for money and buy a woman for marriage when the time is right.

Safe bro.

kalmebad:
I hardly reacts to comments, sometimes because of lots of in matured mind and how they rant simply because talk is cheap. Am a lady and I speak from women perspective. My advice don't leave her yet....but distant yourself, keep in touch when u can but don't make yourself available. .play busy but also play nice, that way.. U r disarming her,We learn better when handled firmly. If she loves u, she will stick around. We miss guys when we lack their attention, only then we give much value to what we have. U never know what d next girl will b like, no one is perfect. The table will eventually turn around...then set d rules, if acceptable fine and if not.. Face front

rosalieene:
see them NL guys turning the table around making themselves victims.

You lots once made a girl cry over you now its a crime to cry over a woman?

Once a guy brings up his story here gbam! you'd see encouraging comments but when a lady brings up hers, even when clearly she was wronged, you lots would end up bashing her. sometimes Calling her names

Always playing the victims game.

sometimes, we should seat down and ask ourselves, what if you're in this person's shoes, what will you do? Besides, you don't even know her part of the story or if the OP exergerated at some point.
I know how this works, girls always get advances what's more important is how to handle it.
from what I am seeing, that girl loves you but she is confused as she also wants to settle down. Every lady wants that comfortability, some would be fortunate If it ends well while some are unfortunate. What if you re not the one for her? what If she misses her chances with the right one? so most times a lot of ladies are just confused
And don't blame us either.... its best you just let her go.



and most importantly, don't punish your next for this sins of this one!

spyg1:
The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.

There is a girl I met at a friend's wedding sometime last year, she is 24 years and a 200L student while I am 30 years old postgraduate student but an amateur when it comes to relationship.

We started dating, at first I wasn't serious because I don't have enough money to take care of a girl, as a student sponsoring myself, I hardly have enough money to take care of her needs, she always complain that I don't take care of her which her friend's guy use to take care of her, the girl in question always advice my girl to quit our relationship because I am a broke guy and even if I get a job in future I will dump her for another lady, that I am just deceiving her, nevertheless she do assure her that I will not disappoint her, despite her friend's advice the love grew even stronger, at times she will buy me some gifts, me too I do buy some for her, having seen the commitment in her, then I started paying attention to her hoping that if things work well I will take her to the alter.

But, there was a day she called me to come and meet her at a particular Junction, on my arrival to the place I saw her exchanging phone number with a guy in car, upon enquiry, I discovered that she did not know the guy before, then I left home quietly she later called and apologized which I accepted.

Another time I called her around 10pm and I discovered that she blacklisted my number, she did this twice which I confronted her and suggested that we should quit, she begged me and cry for Africa then I accepted her back again.

After that, sometimes she will not pick my calls in the night and the following day she will giving excuses that she was sleeping, her phone is on silence or she plugged in her neighbors house etc, I started withdrawing from her, she called me one day and started crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, I am just like other guys, she know the reason why I am doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla.

To fast forward the story, she login her Facebook account on my phone and she forgot to logout, when I went through her chat I discovered that she use to give people they meet on Facebook her phone number and according to the chart I discovered that she met one yesterday, I also discovered that she is still having an affairs with her ex.

Note: Anytime i call her to come to my house she used to come.

I feel like quitting the relationship but because of sympathy and I don’t want it to look as if I disappointed her. Honestly I am seriously confused, now my question is this; is it wrong that I went through her chat?

Second, what should I do? should I confront her? or should I quit quietly?

Pls I need your sincere advice, insults are welcomed. I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

PLS IGNORE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS

The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.

I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

nho4:
Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.

Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no fucking girlfriend.

Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any fucking lady.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

vikstandon:
What did he say or do that God is blessing him for.

He started well but ended bad... A girlfriend is a sex mate I agree...and not to be taken serious. Your commitment to her is being friends with benefit. But a friend is different from a girlfriend, you owe her a lot, you could offer limited sacrifice not to the expense of ur life.
A wife, you could die for and go the extra mile.

Sex before marriage not good, doing with one premarital sex partner bad, Ashawo very bad

Don't help this man buy ticket for STD homeland!!

Psoul:
Oga, to start with, you pleaded that we should ignore your grammar. I am saying NO to that request. When we want to correct something, let us correct them all.
I will pick 2 things I want to correct before going into the main topic.



Stop using "reason" and "why" together.
The whole statement did not actually say what u really wanted to say. You meant to say...You want to avoid taking a decision you will regret in the future as against you saying, to avoid taking a decision that you will not regret in the future.

Secondly,


It is not Modulator. It is Moderator.

That said, let's look into your main case. I have to be very brief and straight to the point.
You are really a relationship novice.
Secondly, you are unnecessarily jealous.
The reasons you gave up there are not enough to end any relationship.
The girl is just behaving the girl in her. Every girl needs to be taken care of and when you fail to most start behaving funny.
This girl seems to love you, she accepted you even the way you are now. Coming back to u anytime she feels that she has made u angry and begging you not to leave. She loves you.

U opened her Facebook chat and noticed that she was giving out her numbers to men...and so fucking what.
Was she not dating someone before meeting you. Was she not dating someone before giving out her number to you. If u think it is wrong, you should have rejected her that day she gave her number to you.

My guy, what you need to do is to solidify the relationship, make her know how much u love her (if actually u do), explain to her that it may not be easy now but that u have a bright future and two of u should join hands together to build each other. By the time she starts seeing how committed (not necessarily financially) you are to her, she will start dropping most of her male friends and even the those her female friends that are bad influence.
Right now you have not come to that point and you have already started bn over possessive. What will happen when you start providing for her all she needs. Then u will dictate to her when to talk and when not to talk. Ur actions may scare a good woman away from u.

Sterope:
Quit the relationship and work on your grammar. Your English is too poor for a postgrad. You really to need to focus on your personal development.

safarigirl:
women are emotionally and mentally stronger than men. YES! Just because you bring a few coins out does not give you mental and emotional strength. Who is the lots that don't want to work for their money? Most homes in Nigeria today are surviving because of the woman

Millions of Nigerian women are working hard everyday, putting food on the table and providing for their children while covering their husbands' shame by lying to everyone that he is the one paying. Nigerian women are resilient, they are surviving. Most of them work multiple jobs, they not only work in civil service, they are also business women. Hardly will you find a married woman in Nigeria who isn't working two jobs and trying to make ends meet


I don't know where you people are meeting these leeches you surround yourself with, but most of the women I know are hardworking women who provide for their families without making noise. I know women who pay their kids fees. When my mother was alive she was paying I and my sister's school fees, she doled out 500k per year for our school fees, and let me not even count the clothes she always bought and the snacks she got from work everyday. My father only had to pay my little brother's fees. They both paid house rent with combined salaries, same with food.


Stop judging millions of women based on the ten or so you know. Are your sisters also leeches? Are you judging women based on stories on social media? The woman in Niger state that is entering a farm to break firewood, harvest cassava and cook, is she on social media? You think I am talking about the small girls you men enjoy courting? People that can barely stand on their own, are those ones women?


Nigerian women are strong and resilient. Women will always be emotionally stronger than men. Millions of women are living without husbands, many of them widows, they are making it work, they are surviving. The minute a man's wife dies, he is already hunting for another woman. Men only have brute force, they do not know what mental and emotional strength is. They will never understand it

CHoccolaTE:
I don't understand why the guys on this thread are getting so emotional over this issue. Do you people think men don't mess up in relationships?
You think men are saints and women are devils? Or you think men are always faithful while women always cheat?

Get over yourselves jor.

With the many stories of men raping their girlfriends because they refused them sex, there was a story on nairaland of one that killed her after raping her because she wanted to keep her virginity.
Then what of men that waste a womans life, date her for years and years then leave her when she is old?
What about the ones that use women for money then abandon them for another woman?

Rubbish.

I won't even take this thread seriously untill I hear the girls side of the story. How are we sure OP hasn't been mistreating that girl or even cheating on her as well because if he has he won't come here to tell us.

Anyone quotes me to say nonsense, may your family be afflicted with any nonsense or insult you write to your tenth generation.

safarigirl:
women are emotionally and mentally stronger than men. YES! Just because you bring a few coins out does not give you mental and emotional strength. Who is the lots that don't want to work for their money? Most homes in Nigeria today are surviving because of the woman

Millions of Nigerian women are working hard everyday, putting food on the table and providing for their children while covering their husbands' shame by lying to everyone that he is the one paying. Nigerian women are resilient, they are surviving. Most of them work multiple jobs, they not only work in civil service, they are also business women. Hardly will you find a married woman in Nigeria who isn't working two jobs and trying to make ends meet


I don't know where you people are meeting these leeches you surround yourself with, but most of the women I know are hardworking women who provide for their families without making noise. I know women who pay their kids fees. When my mother was alive she was paying I and my sister's school fees, she doled out 500k per year for our school fees, and let me not even count the clothes she always bought and the snacks she got from work everyday. My father only had to pay my little brother's fees. They both paid house rent with combined salaries, same with food.


Stop judging millions of women based on the ten or so you know. Are your sisters also leeches? Are you judging women based on stories on social media? The woman in Niger state that is entering a farm to break firewood, harvest cassava and cook, is she on social media? You think I am talking about the small girls you men enjoy courting? People that can barely stand on their own, are those ones women?


Nigerian women are strong and resilient. Women will always be emotionally stronger than men. Millions of women are living without husbands, many of them widows, they are making it work, they are surviving. The minute a man's wife dies, he is already hunting for another woman. Men only have brute force, they do not know what mental and emotional strength is. They will never understand it

tayooluwole:
Gbe enu e soun... Love from women of now are days is a scam... I dont need to hear the other side of the story cos i know how women behave, most of us commenting here have been a victim of bitter @break one way or the other... See, before i know my ex that broke my @ bitterly, i was a gentle guy and always like to treat ladies with intensive care. But today, yours sincerely, i am the badest guy, i dont take any crying from any lady serious any longer... The key point is, never let any woman be in charge of your happiness... I was once in a worst case than that of op... omo is not easy... The kind of person i am today doesnt beleive in love again... In this our generation, Loving woman wholeheartedly can have negative effect in the long run... No woman on earth, i say again, No woman on earth can break my @ again... Pls guys out there, becareful, dont trust woman too much, the effect at the end is emotional prison...

ALAYORMII:
You’re someone’s mistake and making ur own at the same time.

Kingwizzy16:
OMG I want to buy you drinks sir