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Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 2:17am On Nov 03, 2018 |
okeyfineboy: You know one funny thing. I have come to grow beyond hypocrisy and I'm not the type who seeks likes or admiration from any lady hence the reason why I create the threads you see on front page. What correlation does the fact that a divorced lady is successful has to do with her emotional state? You must really be very ignorant. Most of these very successful divorced women are crying in silence which is why association of sweet boys are having a swell time with them. Some women say they are better off without a man yet secretly sleeps about so who is fooling Who? Go to dating sites and you will be amazed at the number of divorced ladies their but when you see them one on one you won't have a clue of what they go through. I'm not interested in pulling any gender down but I'm just keeping it real. 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 2:26am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Chi59: I just enjoy the cluelessness of the "go and marry crew" |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Herrmes: 2:26am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Who puts this guy's stuff up on the front page? What does he stand for? 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Nobody: 2:35am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008: Sermon's over. Say the grace. You're 42. I'm 23. By far you are older. Don't tell me that you haven't found an older, submissive, lady to settle down with. Oh I forgot, no one really wants old school anymore. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 3:34am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Chi59: And I have been fooling myself thinking you are old enough to understand this thread. I know age is not maturity but this thread is too deep for you at this point in your life. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 3:35am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Herrmes: Can you explain your cryptic signature please? |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by OgahBohz: 3:35am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Omotayor123:... . Honestly marriage is not an easy thing to do , let alone to remain in it, .. one thing I know for sure is Nobody goes into marriage with the intention of leaving it someday ... nice one Tee, .. by the way are you a Muslim? 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Carinaflo(f): 3:37am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008:Please do not say "The world", rather say Africans especially Nigerians. It is because of the so much importance Nigerians attach to marriage that makes most Nigerian ladies behave as if their sole purpose of being on Earth is to get married. You see a very young girl, in stead of her to be thinking of how to build a career and be productive like her male counterparts, all she thinks about is how to package herself to look like a wife material so she can get married. She ends up seeing marriage as a do or die affair, when she eventually gets married, she feels she has arrived, she stops relating with her single female friends, she starts seeing the other single ladies as irresponsible ladies not minding that some of the single ladies are very hard working and can pay their own bills without looking for the help of any guy. Then few years into the marriage, the husband starts seeing the married lady as a"liability" because she has nothing to offer, all she knows how to do is to spend money and incur expenses, the husband out of frustration starts maltreating the wife, he starts beating her up, cheating on her and then the wife could not do anything because the only skills she had equipped herself with all her life are the skills that would help her get married. She can't even fend for herself and again how can she face her family and friends after she has been making mockery of single ladies?, So she is forced to stay back and endure, if she is lucky, she ends up so miserable and unhappy if she is unlucky, she ends up dead in the hands of the husband. Few years later, the husband marries a prettier, younger lady who had also been preparing herself to be a "married woman" and the cycle continues.... NB: The earlier our society stop making ladies believe that their sole purpose on Earth is marriage, the saner our society would be. Let us teach our girl child how to be a good person, how to be a productive adult, how to be a responsible adult, how to be a hard working adult, how to Carter for her needs as an adult. Let us stop making our girl child believe that her greatest achievement in life would be to bear "Mrs" as a tittle. 3 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 3:43am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Carinaflo: So the summary is that ladies should not get married but just develop themselves so that they can live without a man. Issokay 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by ednut1(m): 4:08am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Clarathomp:u are mean . D guy dey mess up.according to him women need men cos they would feel lonely forgeting many women are married and are miserable /lonely in the marriage too. Just like joro forming boss they know all about marriage and women but are unmarried. Nonsense 4 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Seahawk: 5:16am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Women don’t lose more after a divorce or break up. Actual research shows that women get healthier, less stressed and more beautiful after removing themselves from a bad union. The only thing that exists is propaganda by people like you to convince women that they should feel bad about leaving a bad marriage. Many women are beginning to see through it and that’s why it’s women now who are overwhelmingly initiating divorces despite baseless generalizations like yours. Toks2008: 5 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Seahawk: 5:19am On Nov 03, 2018 |
You’re right except for the fending for themselves aspect. Many married Nigerian women are the financial backbones of their homes. They stay and endure stupidity from the men because Toks and people like him always make a determined effort to make them look bad. It’s their life’s mission Carinaflo: |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Hotfreezer: 5:37am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks must have been really surrounded by terrible women in his life. Mother, sisters, etc. They detailed his mentality and he can't think straight. At 43, he's still running after secondary school girls in romance section. |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Intrepid01(m): 6:01am On Nov 03, 2018 |
I wonder if all men were like Toks2008; the typical African man with wharped mentality of women, if Meghan Markle would be a princess in England today... Prince Harry; a royal blood married a divorcee and no one gives a heck about it in the royal family. Imagine that happening where you have Toks2008 and his likes... 4 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by tete7000(m): 6:42am On Nov 03, 2018 |
ok |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 6:43am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Intrepid01: I honestly love to read counter opinions and I appreciate it so much but what I'm yet to come to terms with is when people fail to comprehend before stating counter opinion. First and foremost I never wrote anywhere that all female divorcees face hard times finding a man ESPECIALLY THOSE WUTHOUT CHILDREN as the case is with the dutchess meghan. Now even at that please how many female divorcees are that fortunate? So you don't just take an isolated case and make it a norm. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Danchibez: 6:48am On Nov 03, 2018 |
I pray God give me an understanding wife, i need a wify companionship |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 6:52am On Nov 03, 2018 |
ednut1: I try to respond to some ignorant posts here not because I must but for the sake of other people reading who might want to seek genuine knowledge. How many countries have you been to and how many mature women have you come across? The biggest lies unmarried women tell themselves is that they are fine without a man and ignorant people like you fall for that. At my age I have seen things but amazingly when I write on nairaland many underage and children still under their parents roof rant endlessly as if they know what they are saying. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by ednut1(m): 6:57am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008:life has no manual oga. There are many women married and miserable and their husbands no send them. Stop generalising . Lived in d uk for 3 years so cut that crap out. Ur not exposed bt myiopic. U wey be over 43 wey never marry are u not surviving Are there not widows surviving too. Mtcheeew 3 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 7:00am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Hotfreezer: Some say I'm 40 Some say 42 now this one just mentioned 43...not forgetting the goanmarry crew. Honestly Nairaland is one fun place.
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Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by nnacent(m): 7:10am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Elder0001: Each time i see people trying to balance gender tolerances in this part of the world it makes me laugh. Talk about balance: Who must do the toasting? Who must pay for every outing? Who pays the price for the relationship to be aka bride price? On whose shoulders is the wellbeing of the family? Who is expected to cater for financial needs? So a man will do all these and you still say whatever is good for the goose is good for the gander? Natural justice bro! Summary is that we need a better social balance else th OP will continue to be absolutely correct on this issue. 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 7:10am On Nov 03, 2018 |
ednut1: Do you know why many of the younger generations keep making mistakes?, it's because they are too arrogant to learn from the older generation If I start to list different known female divorcees who are still single whilst their ex have moved on... You kept ranting about women been miserable in marriage and I wonder why you are still missing it....NO BE MUST TO MARRY and my thread is not about the need for ladies to remain in a "BAD" marriage but they need to understand that it is better to be never married rather than be a divorcee and for the married women to try all they can to stay married... Is this too difficult to comprehend? The ooni just got married to a beautiful younger lady while the first and second wives are probably still single. Let me be sincere with you...leave what you read on social media..every woman at a stage in their lives need a man and even the feminists yearn to be in the arms of a man. If you have truly lived in the U.K then you must be too young not to see what single mums and female divorcees go through despite the care they get from the system. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by ednut1(m): 7:18am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008:sorry sir u are making no sense. So the two ex wives shud have stayed and continue to suffer emotional abuse from his bossy sisters and interference abi. Ooni of a man is a jerk no be person be 80 year old alafin wey dey handle small gals wella 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Toks2008(m): 7:27am On Nov 03, 2018 |
ednut1: You keep proving your ignorance. It might interest you that most divorce cases were actually instigated by the women and you are sure to hear them give various reasons. Imagine what you just write.. "Emotional abuse" another will say "infidelity" another will be irreconcilable differences please does this change the fact that she is a divorcee? Does it change the fact that it is usually easier for the man to get a new spouse? Let me just leave you to your own view. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by zeb04(f): 7:39am On Nov 03, 2018 |
This is the story they tell so women don't leave marriages laced with violence and infidelity. ( AND THIS SERMONS IS MOSTLY PREACHED BY MEN ). maybe you haven't read that a man's life span is affected more after divorce. Check a woman after divorce esp if it is from a domestic violent partner, you will see the glow and the peace of mind. It is mostly the man running around,looking for how to get his wife back. Lol Keep fooling yourselves oh. 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Nobody: 7:44am On Nov 03, 2018 |
But it's not like we re deliberately staying single. Husband is hard to find |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by pwettyeddy(f): 7:47am On Nov 03, 2018 |
NJ Toks2008: Life has a way of humbling everyone as we grow older. Even God humbled himself after regretting creating mankind to allow His dear son redeem humanity from the prince of the earth. Marriage humbles you, changes you and modifies you. Now I know why companies would rather trust a young man succeeding in his marriage with management positions than the unbanked. We all get to a point we swallow our pride and roll up the sleeves and do dirty work. Marriage ain't easy but a wonderful marriage is possible. It's just sacrifices here and there. My only addition to the wonderful submission above is that intending couples should always do research or sufficient readings on each other's temperament. Even the married should take with utmost seriousness readings on their partner's horoscope, zodiac sign and temperament. You wouldn't wanna go on head on collusion with a stubborn Taurus who is also a damnation choleric. You will never win. If they both marry each other, that marriage is mostly like when tornado meets a vulcano. That's just one example. It helps make your marriage sweeter. Knowing your partners temperament and possible reaction will help ensure better communication, in applying wisdom and what to avoid per time, as well as deal with issues. Love gets you into a union, what keeps the union is your ability to make little sacrifices and read more than enough books on marriage. Especially on how to become each others damn addiction. 2 Likes |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Laeroy(f): 7:49am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008, oya come here and tell us the truth how old are you and why ain't you yet married.... Or is it what I'm thinking |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by ednut1(m): 8:14am On Nov 03, 2018 |
pwettyeddy:how can anyone believe this crap 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by jkbee(m): 8:25am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008: The topic & the content are worthwhile. Merely reading the topic I am convinced it would address issue as regards marital ... It didn't fall short of objectivity.. Thumbs up OP 1 Like |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Raalsalghul: 8:43am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Chi59:I agree that his posts are somewhat biased against women, but there's some truth in them. You mustn't take everything an article, post or sermon offers. Pick the one that applies to you and move on. |
Re: The moment you become a Mrs. by Raalsalghul: 8:44am On Nov 03, 2018 |
Toks2008:Classic example at the bolded. |
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