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Xaos:
Shít! Shít!! Shìt!!!

Why do you want to go back to someone like that?!
How can you even love someone like that?!

A woman that have her eyes only on money... Gosh! She was even frank with you that only money moves her but yet you still want her... Even to the extent of begging!

I can't take it anymore. I just have to let it all out now.

Why the heck are some guys dumb?
Why do they listen to their heart's and not their brain's?
Why are they blinded by something as fake as love?
Where do they keep their self esteem?


OP, if you don't want a miserable life, delete her from your life. Even if you indeed manage to make a lot of money, she'll never be yours. Her body, mind and soul is for the highest bidder. Unless you are Bill Gates, forget!

I've always told men women are objects of mere pleasure but they always have a way of defending them foolishly.

So many CaptainSaveAHoe everywhere.

Reminds me of 50cent:

"That bítch there a doorknob, I mean we all get a turn,

Fvck you catching feelings for, I mean when your ass will learn?"

hahahahahaha:
How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money

Well said!

oshe111:
The Keyword is "Best Friend" not Male Friend dear.....

If Your undestanding skill is this poor, it tells alot about your experience with the wrong guys......

I'll act like I didn't see that last line,but be it a best friend or male friend I don't have much of them and I hate keeping a guy whom I know I can't do anything with as a friend talk more of a best friend


And you really don't have to insult me just to make a point

Claireshan1:
I'll act like I didn't see that last line,but be it a best friend or male friend I don't have much of them and I hate keeping a guy whom I know I can't do anything with as a friend talk more of a best friend


And you really don't have to insult me just to make a point

Sorry ma'am


But if I get you correctly.....
You are saying every male friend You've kept, You've done something with them(probably dated them)

Well, I'd advice You keep some male friends(maybe 1 or 2) that way U can learn how to diff btw bad n good guys and probably know when a guy truly loves u or after your P

Brightgem:
Awww! Thank you for believing there are decent girls out there! Not all these nairaland boys with fish brain that wnt stop insulting and degrading women! The good and decent ladies hereby give you a standing ovation.

you are welcome...

hahahahahaha:
This right here is how to use a semi colon.

You must be female number 4,457,896,260.

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

Thanks guys, but what do I do with all this likes?

go to the bank and convert those likes into cash.

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

EEEYYYA pele you still growing in this game called LOVE!!! We all go through that cycle of oooo after all we have been through and times we spent together another girl will come and take her place. BROS this is the perfect setup of LIFE!! This experience is meant to ELEVATE you into a HIGHER REALM of LIFE and have a better UNDERSTANDING OF YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WANT.

Secondly DATE FOR A PURPOSE, when you date for a PURPOSE you will find the decision to get MARRIED EASY.

I broke off with my ex couple of WEEKS TO OUR CANCELLED WEDDING because i realized SHE will be the death of me. I THOUGHT MY ROLE IN LIFE IS TO BRING IN THE BREAD and MAKING HER HAPPY. While she was HAPPY I WASNT HAPPY deeply, I was playing perfectly into her plans but she was not playing into MINE. I was too BLIND TO SEE because I FELT I HAVE BEEN WITH HER for long AND CANT LET GO.

When i STOPPED out of my way to see how she would react that was when the BEAST in her CAME OUT!!! Till today i honestly know GOD gave me the WISDOM TO DO IT because it BROUGHT OUT THE REAL HER she was hiding for the period we were dating.

BROS date with a purpose , MARRY with a purpose because this SHIT CALLED LOVE IS OVERRATED!! and technically does not exist, what exist is UNDERSTANDING... Because UNDERSTANDING BREEDS purpose not LOVE

I can HAPPILY SAY GOD blessed me with another LADY, that am older than with the same mindset as mine and the knowledge to understand the PURPOSE of being together.

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henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

Brother.. Pls read my own recent breakup experience on my profile.. Reading your writeup almost made me cry cos I could relate deeply with everything you said. That is why its advised men have an element of the redpill in them. Never love blindly. Please I ll like to send you a PM regarding my own experience. pls do reply

Bro your story touch me and I feel the pain for you.. It is hard to forget, but you have to deal with the pain, something similar to this just happened to me couple of weeks back, remembered Lil Wayne Mirror that says “ I see the pain in ur pride” Bro, pls don't allow this matter to weigh you down and try to move on with life. The sky is the limit for your success

HavocGirlMile99:
Nigga just shut the fûck up and stop bitching in my ears.

Gush! Wtf... How irritating.

Yen yen yen.


Love fire.


See bros, love doesn't exist, believe me... She loved you for what you could offer at some certain point.

I feel like giving you a resounding slap across your face.

And maybe what you had for her was genuine which is rare.


Listen, let me tell you something...

I once dated an ibo dude, mehn I did heaven and earth for that male bitch. Yet when things became sour for me, he resented to cheating and hitting me.


That was when I knew that, no one ever truly loves you except you've got something to offer.

Please don't be a fool inlove. Make money and watch how that bitch will come crawling at your feet.

You should be happy, cos you just dodged a bullet.


One love.

Sadly true in most cases. But what's up with your last statement though?

Fortissimo502:
Sadly true in most cases. But what's up with your last statement though?

What's wrong with it?

HavocGirlMile99:
What's wrong with it?

Nothing wrong. I just don't understand it. You say one love but acknowledge that love doesn't exist.

Fortissimo502:
Nothing wrong. I just don't understand it. You say one love but acknowledge that love doesn't exist.

It's a normal slang.


I don't see anything wrong with using it.



I bet you the kind of dude, that believes in love.

HavocGirlMile99:
It's a normal slang.


I don't see anything wrong with using it.



I bet you the kind of dude, that believes in love.

Hahahaha. I really want to sometimes. But I can see that it's extremely elusive.

Btw reply my email na.

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

wow...your write up is so touching, reminds me of Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber.

P. S Justin Beiber moved on and he is already engaged to another woman...you also can!

Fortissimo502:
Hahahaha. I really want to sometimes. But I can see that it's extremely elusive.

Btw reply my email na.

I have since on the 21st

HavocGirlMile99:
I have since on the 21st

I saw it and replied.

Fortissimo502:
I saw it and replied.

I didn't see your reply.

HavocGirlMile99:
I didn't see your reply.

Seen...

illitrate:
Your engine knocked, I suspect your village people. leave naija sharply, I heard no foreign country gives visa to village people for now
so they cant reach you oversea.

Olddirtywizard:
OP, don't learn the wrong lessons by following one-sided comments that overwhelmingly seem to demonize women who love money or who purportedly love because of money. More than 90 percent of ladies would choose Dangote or Bill Gate's son ahead of a random dude from nowhere. It's in the nature of humans to gravitate towards region of maximum comfortability. It's not wrong to love someone simply for the money just same way folks love for the looks, fame, sex, shape and intelligence etc. In your case, you failed to spot her motivation and when she's had enough of you, she moved on. She didn't even have to initiate the breakup since she was way smarter than your stupid a$$. Don't deceive yourself with some implied notion she won't make it and would come back to you once you are back on your feet. She might just end up with your employer or even being your employer since she is quite clear about her motivation and would go for it.

Don't be too emotionally invested in a woman who is NOT your wife. There is no for better for worse in dating, it's just an experiment that may or not work. Be always at alert to move on in a moment's notice. If she's good enough to warrant smashing, smash and leave. Don't waste her time and yours as well.

yours is sure the most premier advice given to the O.P