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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Funkeshuga(m): 12:04am On Dec 04, 2018
Reading your post I deduce that you are never in a relationship. You need to understand the meaning of relationship. there's nothing relationship about that weird engagement


Don't quit the relationship now but get a serious, loving and humble lady who has control over social life to date. After dating her for some months then compare, if this one is ok then you can stick with her because everyone has their own flaw but that your current girlfriend flaw is something you can't take away from her it might be from her background don't engage yourself in what you can't erase

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by xtervaganza(m): 12:06am On Dec 04, 2018
Ask any married folk, they'll tell you women attitude get worse after marriage.




If she's this bad now, imagine the monster she would become once you get married?

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by stanliwise(m): 12:06am On Dec 04, 2018
UyaiIncomparabl:
Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around. smiley
See as you dey give strong advise to people asif if dem give you same advise you go take. Yeye dey smell... The said guy is man and he knows what to do and again you can't tell people what to do especially when you only heard from one side- you should only clarify the issue by expanding their understanding through your own life experience of the situations and point out inconsistency and patterns... Leave the rest for them

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Khallyella(f): 12:06am On Dec 04, 2018
khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?


Please end the relationship if you can't deal with her egoistic attitude, she's never going to change.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Seandisputed(m): 12:07am On Dec 04, 2018
grin
eunisam:
Take a brake
grin
eunisam:
Take a brake
you no go like clutch?

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Jombom: 12:08am On Dec 04, 2018
khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?
You mumu never na why you de consider such girl as a potential marriage material.
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by demarc001: 12:08am On Dec 04, 2018
khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?
Exactly same scenario I am facing
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Tokziby: 12:08am On Dec 04, 2018
Small pikin everywhere grin grin grin grin from the first comment to the last...

What u just explained exist virtually in all women, forget whether u are in a relationship now or married. Women are like Television, they may have different manufacturers but they are wired the same way. Either u buy flat screen or orobo tv, whether u use ur TV with ordinary antenna or cable tv they will all show u something, some u will like and some na to just manage... That's just a tip of the ice berg. I laugh in roman numeral hahahahah this children will not kill someone.

Have u ever heard of a saying that, a woman will offend u but u will accept the blame plus ending up to apologizing to her. That's women trickery for u and every woman is born with her own form of trickery.

Example, The lady u love does something wrong but didn't want to apologize, then it causes a heated argument and the woman hits u first(be it a slap or punch) but she immediately starts to cry, and saying "u see what u made me do now, u made me hit u" while she continue to sob. . Abeg Bros, what will u do?? You'll definitely hug her and start to pacify her like a baby saying sorry dear, sorry i made u hit me.

You are talking about the only human being that had a one on one talk with the Devil himself and convinced man to eat the forbidden fruit... someone that single handedly humbled SAMSON wey dey kill lion with bare hands. someone that made Bill Clinton lied on national tv and still came bak to eat his words. The people that made a president mumu himself and to talk about oza room on national tv.


Guys one very good advice, have it at the back of ur mind that the lady u date today either for 1 day or 100 years, will never exhibit her full potential/behavior until she pack enter ur house as wife. If all men could discover the entire behavior of their wives before marriage, there can never be anything called divorce. Hence, u that is forming sharp and hard guy today, saying ur girl is gentle and quiet, and that u have a total control of her and u are 100% sure that she can never misbehave, i have one bad news for u... YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET!!!

Just know this, women are carved from our crooked rib, if u try to straighten them, them go break and if try to bend them the more, them go scatter. Hence, na to just manage them like that and accept them with their faults as no one is perfect. But if them try to destroy ur life, abeg u know what to do...

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Nobody: 12:10am On Dec 04, 2018
Leave her. Been there.
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Uglymind: 12:10am On Dec 04, 2018
The problem of a man is too much
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by tellwisdom: 12:12am On Dec 04, 2018
After giving you advice, u go still marry her....Well 98.5% of Nigerian women are like that according to world index. They can't love u without money or material things. Please stay away from them. But if you foolishly marry her, don't come back here for my advice when suicide comes knocking angry

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by YoungLionken(m): 12:13am On Dec 04, 2018
Brother don't be deceived, she doesn't love you as you think, therefore you don't have her "mumu" button. Look for someone else, or else you will regret marrying her. Economy is now too hard to waste resources on somebody who is not worth it.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Jombom: 12:13am On Dec 04, 2018
sfgrace:
Nobody is flawless,since you can't live with it,& she's not ready to change Quit.
Are you trying to make sense or justifying the egoistical altitude as a flaw ? Either way none should be condoned.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by stanliwise(m): 12:14am On Dec 04, 2018
khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?
Bro you need to really understand why your girlfriend behaves that way. She could be a narcissist or could it be you are the one who always seek apologize . Anyway if you find the reason always remember you owe her no duty to marry her except you have taken an oath to that. You shouldn't do anybody a favor by marrying them nevertheless if it is just you who only notice this then check yourself. You are in the best position to answer your question and no one has the right to take it away from you.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by YoungLionken(m): 12:15am On Dec 04, 2018
Jombom:
Are you trying to make sense or justifying the egoistical altitude as a flaw ? Either way none should be condoned.
He said the truth bro
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by OkoAnike(m): 12:15am On Dec 04, 2018
UyaiIncomparabl:
Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around. smiley

Too blunt...

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Nobody: 12:17am On Dec 04, 2018
Sorry is such a simple word that some are too proud to say.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Nobody: 12:21am On Dec 04, 2018
The lady is not here to defend herself. That is why you came here to say all these because you know that people who can't afford to be in or even keep a relationship will tell you what you want to hear.

This is exactly how they will destroy your marriage whether its with her or another female.

You made a big mistake which means you have to check yourself too. Table your matter along with her to someone you both know and respect before making a decision.

Leave Nairaland.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Jombom: 12:21am On Dec 04, 2018
bettercreature:
Hmmmmmmm and what if she loves saying sorry but won’t stop repeating the same bad attitude?
I’ll advice you not to listen to online advisors on here and take her out for counseling
Some of the guys on here are as young as 15 years old they don’t know anything about life
Would it have been ok if the guy could also not apologize when’s wrong ? I mean why can’t people be reasonable ? What is the big deal in doing things to please other ? Why should any understand he or she is wrong and find apologizing difficult or needing counseling for such nonsense. A dirty slay should do the trick not any bs counseling, arrant nonsense.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by pippimp(m): 12:21am On Dec 04, 2018
stanliwise:


Why would anyone disclose the location of another person to you wen you are not a cop?? How do we believe your story is real!!
How are we sure this is not a frame-up...
Get the help of the police bro.what you are asking is illegal nevertheless it is just an advise.

I tire ooooo.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Akeem79(m): 12:24am On Dec 04, 2018
emmabest2000:
It’s better to free the girl joor

But on a serious note @OP you’re not yet matured for marriage , you are looking for apology today and truth be told if she starts apologizing now , tomorrow you will still look for something else ...
mind you so many girls would like to pretends and obey almost everything you said for now and until you stupidly put that ring in her finger and said be my wife before them go come out on their original true self and show you pepper grin

We have so many great pretenders in female gender... shocked
So for you to be well prepared for marriage you must first learn how to say sorry or apologize even when you know that you done nothing wrong!

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Nobody: 12:26am On Dec 04, 2018
flyca:
Well, big ego. But you do not know what characteristic flaw the next partner will come into the relationship with.

No one is perfect. If she ticks majority of “the boxes” for you, then ..... what do I know kwanu tongue
If his next is also unbearable, e no hard naa, the jilting continues
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by arrestdarrester: 12:28am On Dec 04, 2018
You can be sure she will only get worse. You can't change her. This type will disrespect your parents in your face and defend it rather than apologize.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by ExHusband: 12:32am On Dec 04, 2018
Dude it's better to be single than to be married to someone with psychological issues. Take it from me, speaking from experience. Run the f**k away while you can. Don't bring innocent children into a situation they didn't ask to be born into.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by braine(m): 12:35am On Dec 04, 2018
Marriage amplifies characters and She certainly is not going to change. End the relationship.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by braine(m): 12:39am On Dec 04, 2018
demarc001:

Exactly same scenario I am facing

And what are you doing about it?
Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by Winter4: 12:40am On Dec 04, 2018
And what if it's a boyfriend that doesn't apologize?
Just asking. Cos some guys think they cannot be wrong.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by nextstep(m): 12:41am On Dec 04, 2018
khalhokage:

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing

We all make mistakes, and anybody - man or woman - who's to egotistical to admit wrongdoing, is indicating they don't really care about your feelings. They may be sweet, but only as long as it suits them. I can't imagine somebody who really loves you will refuse to compromise and not always want to win.

Hate to say this bro, but you have to break up. It won't get better, but then there will be kids, finances, house all tied together. Peace yourself out and find another. We all have flaws, but some are deal breakers, and this is one of them.

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Re: She Never Apologises: I Am Thinking Of Ending This Relationship. by BillionPAGE(m): 12:43am On Dec 04, 2018
Run!

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