khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

khalhokage:

I don't want to have to coerce her to apologize every time she's supposed to, she's a grown woman not a child, if i make her apologize then that apology is meaningless.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around.

khalhokage:


Thanks a lot.

sfgrace:
Nobody is flawless,since you can't live with it,& she's not ready to change Quit.

khalhokage:

I don't want to have to coerce her to apologize every time she's supposed to, she's a grown woman not a child, if i make her apologize then that apology is meaningless.

Ranchhoddas:
I am flawless!

sfgrace:
Nobody is flawless except Ranchhoddas.

Hipsofagoddess:


Is it all about saying it or acting? If she loves writing, probably chats better than she talks, then it’s her personality. Your goal should be whether she is remorseful or not. Everyone can’t be alike

Olami90:



bro, it isn't a small issue at all.
It seem you are dating my ex girlfriend... because this is exactly who she is.

she is damn arrogant and added self centeredness and too-know to hers..

There is no way I personally can deal or relate with such a person.
I so hate manipulative people.

Forever is too long to manage some attitude.

You obviously know what you want in a relationship/partner and i wont advice you to compromise, else you will lose your peace.
Not because I want to discourage you but she already feel comfortable doing such and she will always do worst since she knows she can always get away with it.
Bro if you can't cope, don't force it, find your level. There are still few respectful and submissive ladies.

Don't allow anyone mess your psyche up.

Leo10000:


WHAT IS THIS ONE EVEN SAYING,BROTHER PLEASE NEVER BE A SHOE SOLE IN YOUR LIFE,NEVER CONFUSE AN ADULT WOMAN TO AN INFANT,ALL ADULT HAVE THE conscience OF BOTH RIGHT AND WRONG,WHICH ONE YOU SLAP ME AND THEN START CRYING,I THINK SHE NEED FACTORY SETTING

boomssey:
Just do d needful since she doesn't want to b corrected or won't apologize for her wrongs.what she doesn't understand is finding a good man these days isn't easy n there are so many ladies out there older than her who doesn't av a serious relationship talkless of marriage. Abeg japaa! U go always get another babe but mind u no one is perfect. All d best.

khalhokage:

My dear i'm not perfect and i'm not looking for perfect either.
She's a great person, that's why I fell in love with her in the first place but this attitude is not something i can bear, i know what i'm saying because it didn't start today, it makes me doubt myself and my value to her, i don't want someone to make me feel less than i am.

Kooldon:
Which One Is After Marriage? Wedding is a one day event while Marriage is an everlasting thing. Slap me hard to reset to my default mood, if I'm nt thinking well

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

Tokziby:


Its not about being a shoe sole or dumbness. Its about love, reality and what happens in marriage. Forget having a conscience of both right and wrong in women, they are emotional being, they react before they think and that's their nature. If she hits u does not mean she hates u and if she didn't hit u doesn't mean she cant kill u in a second. That's woman for u...

vickydevoka:

My niggur u de burst my brain lyk balloon in De air. Buh finally good women dey. I swear I don see buh it's rear. Three Sisters from a wealthy family got married n after 10yrs all dere husbands are still showering accolades..

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

olaide1260:
Whether u make her apologize or not datz ur problem oooo. U guys are here judging d lady one way or d other what abt dis that is also repeating same problem or issues all d time. Oga u self change ur behavior n attitude towards her so dat same issues won’t keep on happening again. If Dere is love y r complaining nah, u guys hav bin together fr quite a time now. U guys shud sort urself joor.

bettercreature:
Hmmmmmmm and what if she loves saying sorry but won’t stop repeating the same bad attitude?
I’ll advice you not to listen to online advisors on here and take her out for counseling
Some of the guys on here are as young as 15 years old they don’t know anything about life

jaxxy:


Hmmm I know her type bt it’s either of 2 things.

Such lady can either be a sadist or she sees u as a push over/ Sisi bf that will always accept her stupidity no matter what.

U better be a man...

Tell her Ure not interested in a relationship where people can’t apologize when they are wrong. She will immediately come begging and if not she doesn’t value u or is just a sadist like i said earlier.

Tokziby:
Small pikin everywhere from the first comment to the last...

What u just explained exist virtually in all women, forget whether u are in a relationship now or married. Women are like Television, they may have different manufacturers but they are wired the same way. Either u buy flat screen or orobo tv, whether u use ur TV with ordinary antenna or cable tv they will all show u something, some u will like and some na to just manage... That's just a tip of the ice berg. I laugh in roman numeral hahahahah this children will not kill someone.

Have u ever heard of a saying that, a woman will offend u but u will accept the blame plus ending up to apologizing to her. That's women trickery for u and every woman is born with her own form of trickery.

Example, The lady u love does something wrong but didn't want to apologize, then it causes a heated argument and the woman hits u first(be it a slap or punch) but she immediately starts to cry, and saying "u see what u made me do now, u made me hit u" while she continue to sob. . Abeg Bros, what will u do?? You'll definitely hug her and start to pacify her like a baby saying sorry dear, sorry i made u hit me.

You are talking about the only human being that had a one on one talk with the Devil himself and convinced man to eat the forbidden fruit... someone that single handedly humbled SAMSON wey dey kill lion with bare hands. someone that made Bill Clinton lied on national tv and still came bak to eat his words. The people that made a president mumu himself and to talk about oza room on national tv.


Guys one very good advice, have it at the back of ur mind that the lady u date today either for 1 day or 100 years, will never exhibit her full potential/behavior until she pack enter ur house as wife. If all men could discover the entire behavior of their wives before marriage, there can never be anything called divorce. Hence, u that is forming sharp and hard guy today, saying ur girl is gentle and quiet, and that u have a total control of her and u are 100% sure that she can never misbehave, i have one bad news for u... YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET!!!

Just know this, women are carved from our crooked rib, if u try to straighten them, them go break and if try to bend them the more, them go scatter. Hence, na to just manage them like that and accept them with their faults as no one is perfect. But if them try to destroy ur life, abeg u know what to do...

oladayo63:
Egoistic, proud lady.

The reason she never says sorry is the reason she won't take to correction.

She will never say sorry because she thinks she is right. She can never and should never be wrong.

She won't take to your correction because she thinks she is right by never saying sorry.
She can never and should never be one to say sorry.

Bro, if she can't get fixed, don't sign that agreement with her.

People like that don't like seeing other do better than them in life. It always have to be them and they love grabbing all the attention to themselves and themselves alone.

They will never allow you outshine them because no one close to them should be better than them.

Khallyella:


I clearly comprehend what I typed, jog on.

Kooldon:
Which One Is After Marriage? Wedding is a one day event while Marriage is an everlasting thing. Slap me hard to reset to my default mood, if I'm nt thinking well

NwaAmaikpe:




I really think you should let her go.
A woman should apologize when she is wrong and even when she is right.
That is total submission.

You don't need to tell her she is wrong or try to convince her to apologize.
Apologies come naturally to every woman oblivious of her onions.

She should apologize when she is wrong,
She should apologize when you think she is wrong,
She should also apologize when you are wrong,
Even when she is right, she should still apologize for not being perfect.
But the main apology she owes herself is for finding an immature scum.