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AGideon:
Well.... there's an Igbo adage that says: the hen that claims to be mad, is because she has not seen a drunken fox.

I believe there are subtle tricks you can use to get her understand she's wrong and have her apologize whenever she is wrong.

Khallyella:
The same reason I'm thinking about ending things with my boyfriend if he doesn't change , Ego runs in his veins, he'll never apologize lest he sees tears dropping from your face , I despise proud egoistic humans, pfft.

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

Tokziby:
Small pikin everywhere from the first comment to the last...

What u just explained exist virtually in all women, forget whether u are in a relationship now or married. Women are like Television, they may have different manufacturers but they are wired the same way. Either u buy flat screen or orobo tv, whether u use ur TV with ordinary antenna or cable tv they will all show u something, some u will like and some na to just manage... That's just a tip of the ice berg. I laugh in roman numeral hahahahah this children will not kill someone.

Have u ever heard of a saying that, a woman will offend u but u will accept the blame plus ending up to apologizing to her. That's women trickery for u and every woman is born with her own form of trickery.

Example, The lady u love does something wrong but didn't want to apologize, then it causes a heated argument and the woman hits u first(be it a slap or punch) but she immediately starts to cry, and saying "u see what u made me do now, u made me hit u" while she continue to sob. . Abeg Bros, what will u do?? You'll definitely hug her and start to pacify her like a baby saying sorry dear, sorry i made u hit me.

You are talking about the only human being that had a one on one talk with the Devil himself and convinced man to eat the forbidden fruit... someone that single handedly humbled SAMSON wey dey kill lion with bare hands. someone that made Bill Clinton lied on national tv and still came bak to eat his words. The people that made a president mumu himself and to talk about oza room on national tv.


Guys one very good advice, have it at the back of ur mind that the lady u date today either for 1 day or 100 years, will never exhibit her full potential/behavior until she pack enter ur house as wife. If all men could discover the entire behavior of their wives before marriage, there can never be anything called divorce. Hence, u that is forming sharp and hard guy today, saying ur girl is gentle and quiet, and that u have a total control of her and u are 100% sure that she can never misbehave, i have one bad news for u... YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET!!!

Just know this, women are carved from our crooked rib, if u try to straighten them, them go break and if try to bend them the more, them go scatter. Hence, na to just manage them like that and accept them with their faults as no one is perfect. But if them try to destroy ur life, abeg u know what to do...

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

NwaAmaikpe:




I really think you should let her go.
A woman should apologize when she is wrong and even when she is right.
That is total submission.

You don't need to tell her she is wrong or try to convince her to apologize.
Apologies come naturally to every woman oblivious of her onions.

She should apologize when she is wrong,
She should apologize when you think she is wrong,
She should also apologize when you are wrong,
Even when she is right, she should still apologize for not being perfect.
But the main apology she owes herself is for finding an immature scum.

khalhokage:
I don't want to have to coerce her to apologize every time she's supposed to, she's a grown woman not a child, if i make her apologize then that apology is meaningless.

Jombom:
Are you trying to make sense or justifying the egoistical altitude as a flaw ? Either way none should be condoned.

Emmanuelcann:
You're right. There's no guarantee that she'll change even after marriage. What about her positive attributes, can you overlook her flaws? Because you also have your own flaws too.

Tokziby:
Small pikin everywhere from the first comment to the last...

What u just explained exist virtually in all women, forget whether u are in a relationship now or married. Women are like Television, they may have different manufacturers but they are wired the same way. Either u buy flat screen or orobo tv, whether u use ur TV with ordinary antenna or cable tv they will all show u something, some u will like and some na to just manage... That's just a tip of the ice berg. I laugh in roman numeral hahahahah this children will not kill someone.

Have u ever heard of a saying that, a woman will offend u but u will accept the blame plus ending up to apologizing to her. That's women trickery for u and every woman is born with her own form of trickery.

Example, The lady u love does something wrong but didn't want to apologize, then it causes a heated argument and the woman hits u first(be it a slap or punch) but she immediately starts to cry, and saying "u see what u made me do now, u made me hit u" while she continue to sob. . Abeg Bros, what will u do?? You'll definitely hug her and start to pacify her like a baby saying sorry dear, sorry i made u hit me.

You are talking about the only human being that had a one on one talk with the Devil himself and convinced man to eat the forbidden fruit... someone that single handedly humbled SAMSON wey dey kill lion with bare hands. someone that made Bill Clinton lied on national tv and still came bak to eat his words. The people that made a president mumu himself and to talk about oza room on national tv.


Guys one very good advice, have it at the back of ur mind that the lady u date today either for 1 day or 100 years, will never exhibit her full potential/behavior until she pack enter ur house as wife. If all men could discover the entire behavior of their wives before marriage, there can never be anything called divorce. Hence, u that is forming sharp and hard guy today, saying ur girl is gentle and quiet, and that u have a total control of her and u are 100% sure that she can never misbehave, i have one bad news for u... YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET!!!

Just know this, women are carved from our crooked rib, if u try to straighten them, them go break and if try to bend them the more, them go scatter. Hence, na to just manage them like that and accept them with their faults as no one is perfect. But if them try to destroy ur life, abeg u know what to do...

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?

Thislady:
So it might just be that she's BROKEN, she doesn't want to let you know and she feels an apology would make her feel weak..
Yes she might be proud
Yes she might be Broken(due to past relationships) and her philosophy is if he truly loves me he'd come back, what's mine is mine. MAYBE

Khallyella:
The same reason I'm thinking about ending things with my boyfriend if he doesn't change , Ego runs in his veins, he'll never apologize lest he sees tears dropping from your face , I despise proud egoistic humans, pfft.

NwaAmaikpe:
I really think you should let her go.
A woman should apologize when she is wrong and even when she is right.
That is total submission.

You don't need to tell her she is wrong or try to convince her to apologize.
Apologies come naturally to every woman oblivious of her onions.

She should apologize when she is wrong,
She should apologize when you think she is wrong,
She should also apologize when you are wrong,
Even when she is right, she should still apologize for not being perfect.
But the main apology she owes herself is for finding an immature scum.

eunisam:
Take a brake

Tokziby:
Small pikin everywhere from the first comment to the last...

What u just explained exist virtually in all women, forget whether u are in a relationship now or married. Women are like Television, they may have different manufacturers but they are wired the same way. Either u buy flat screen or orobo tv, whether u use ur TV with ordinary antenna or cable tv they will all show u something, some u will like and some na to just manage... That's just a tip of the ice berg. I laugh in roman numeral hahahahah this children will not kill someone.

Have u ever heard of a saying that, a woman will offend u but u will accept the blame plus ending up to apologizing to her. That's women trickery for u and every woman is born with her own form of trickery.

Example, The lady u love does something wrong but didn't want to apologize, then it causes a heated argument and the woman hits u first(be it a slap or punch) but she immediately starts to cry, and saying "u see what u made me do now, u made me hit u" while she continue to sob. . Abeg Bros, what will u do?? You'll definitely hug her and start to pacify her like a baby saying sorry dear, sorry i made u hit me.

You are talking about the only human being that had a one on one talk with the Devil himself and convinced man to eat the forbidden fruit... someone that single handedly humbled SAMSON wey dey kill lion with bare hands. someone that made Bill Clinton lied on national tv and still came bak to eat his words. The people that made a president mumu himself and to talk about oza room on national tv.


Guys one very good advice, have it at the back of ur mind that the lady u date today either for 1 day or 100 years, will never exhibit her full potential/behavior until she pack enter ur house as wife. If all men could discover the entire behavior of their wives before marriage, there can never be anything called divorce. Hence, u that is forming sharp and hard guy today, saying ur girl is gentle and quiet, and that u have a total control of her and u are 100% sure that she can never misbehave, i have one bad news for u... YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET!!!

Just know this, women are carved from our crooked rib, if u try to straighten them, them go break and if try to bend them the more, them go scatter. Hence, na to just manage them like that and accept them with their faults as no one is perfect. But if them try to destroy ur life, abeg u know what to do...

airsaylongcon:
Please just speak regular English. Your use of "lest" here is contextually incorrect. he'll never apologise lest unless he sees tears....

mayusguy:
After dumping him, holla at me so we can start afresh. I’ll apologize to you every minute

mayusguy:
After dumping him, holla at me so we can start afresh. I’ll apologize to you every minute

valdes00:
Getting married to such lady is the same as man utd employing mourinho as coach.. ask their fans now, they are suffering for it...

NwaAmaikpe:




I really think you should let her go.
A woman should apologize when she is wrong and even when she is right.
That is total submission.

You don't need to tell her she is wrong or try to convince her to apologize.
Apologies come naturally to every woman oblivious of her onions.

She should apologize when she is wrong,
She should apologize when you think she is wrong,
She should also apologize when you are wrong,
Even when she is right, she should still apologize for not being perfect.
But the main apology she owes herself is for finding an immature scum.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Subtlety rules the world. I believe this, explains everything. To get absolute peace, get rid of that distraction that causes you that pain. I cannot tolerate an egotistical spouse, I expect that you shouldn't too. Please do the needful. Get RID of her. She won't change. Dissuade any person who tells you otherwise. She'll only get worse.

Make your struggle easy. No need recycling dysfunctional homes. We are tired of the ones around.

khalhokage:
We've been together for a while now, and I intended to marry her, but she has a flaw that i can't get past and she has to change.

She never apologizes, she finds it so difficult to say sorry for any wrongdoing, she will either try her hardest to defend it or start being emotionally manipulative, I have spoken and complained to her about it so much and I'm tired of talking about it because it now seems like I'm begging for an apology from someone that is supposed to care about how I feel.

It may seem like a small issue to some but I've thought about it, if she's like this now what will she be like during marriage?
At this point i think I should just end the relationship instead of going ahead to marrying someone with a flaw I know I can't live with.

What do you think?