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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 11:19am On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

It's okay. You'll never just understand.

To make you happy, Merry Christmas. Hope you're satisfied?

Lol

Thanks

Just a suggestion: the kids in the neighborhood might help put a smile on your face and improve your mood, try them.

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:28am On Dec 25, 2018

Dyt:

possessed because you dont celebrate Christmas or parties?
maybe i am too

i dont even celebrate my own birthday

Hmm. I don't even feel elated in the house of God. Whenever those pastors preach, my mind is always elsewhere. They sound like loudspeakers to me.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by namo77: 11:33am On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

You're fine. All you need is a major credit alert. Credit alert that will chase away strife....

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:35am On Dec 25, 2018

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Lol
Thanks

Just a suggestion: the kids in the neighborhood might help put a smile on your face and improve your mood, try them.

I hate their noises. I might spank the living daylight out of someone's child.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:35am On Dec 25, 2018

namo77:

You're fine. All you need is a major credit alert. Credit alert that will chase away strife....

Lol.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 11:41am On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

You're dealing with Emotional detachment., go read up wide on Flat effect.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:42am On Dec 25, 2018

Pavore9:

You're dealing with Emotional detachment., go read up wide on Flat effect.

Is it a book? Emotional detachment? Perhaps.

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by damtan(m): 11:45am On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

This is so me.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 11:52am On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

Is it a book? Emotional detachment? Perhaps.

It is not a book, just google the terms: Emotional detachment, Flat effect and read wide.

I hope this link can help.
https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/general/what-is-emotional-detachment-disorder/

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Magnoliaa(f): 12:25pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

Maybe... you're like that because you seek deep and meaningful companionship, people who get" you, sees your core self and a lot of the "friends" you have aren't like that? They don't inquire, don't have intriguing conversations, aren't interested in things you're passionate about.

That's why I shut people out sometimes and don't bother about making friends because it's always the same with everyone.

I relate with your situation, because for me too, all of those things seem shallow to me. Birthday wishes,
funeral, festivities etc... I like to do things with so much feelings, if it isn't heartfelt - it feels draining.

You're a Virgo, and they very sensitive, so I don't think anything is wrong with you at all, you probably haven't found things that make your heart go wild.

It's just your personality, and there are others like you out there. That most people are interested in such stuff (going to malls, throwing parties etc) and you aren't doesn't make you abnormal.

Finding faults in everything is the only thing I'd say you should work on.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by obekediamondfuto(m): 12:53pm On Dec 25, 2018

This is s* l*** m*

lemme give u some other unique behaviors of this condition.

* You don't miss people
* You find it very difficult to keep in touch and when you do, you find it very tiring. It's more of a job than a feeling to call people (family and CLOSE friends)
* You take only important calls that are work related and core family related..... any other call will most likely be ignored.
* You find it very easy to relocate because you avoid genuine relationships CONSCIOUSLY.
* You have a very high emotional intelligence quotient. You can easily keep emotions in check.
* You find it very difficult to please people.
* You really don't care about people's feelings.
* You are not moved by anything.... ghastly motor accident....Nah, someone desperately in need.... nah..... life and death situation........ nah. You ain't bothered

if this is your story, ... the internet cannot help you

trust me, it's damn abnormal.... weirder than what most people here think it actually is.
weird enough for you to see it as the only serious problem you have!

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Appelmoik(m): 1:10pm On Dec 25, 2018

O. p you are phlegmatic and there are things that are bothering you. that's what I can deduct from your write-up.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by anycolleges: 1:12pm On Dec 25, 2018

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Dyt(f): 1:33pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

Hmm. I don't even feel elated in the house of God. Whenever those pastors preach, my mind is always elsewhere. They sound like loudspeakers to me.

read this thread over and over and you will laugh out loud
grin

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 1:41pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

I hate their noises. I might spank the living daylight out of someone's child.

Lol okay
Tho,
With cool kids (child) that understands you, not pikin (ajepako).

BTW am also Virgo, trust me I know that feeling too,
Are you the only daughter or child of your parents.

I hope you enjoy your Christmas celebrations.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:42pm On Dec 25, 2018

Dyt:

read this thread over and over and you will laugh out loud

What's funny, Dyt?

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Acidosis(m): 1:52pm On Dec 25, 2018

You need a man

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:59pm On Dec 25, 2018

Acidosis:

You need a man

I don't.

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Acidosis(m): 2:00pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

I don't.

You do

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Dyt(f): 2:09pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:

What's funny, Dyt?

Reed not red madam

In future
You will laugh over it

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Eberechi24(f): 2:19pm On Dec 25, 2018

Stop worrying about your problems. Whatever you can't change or stop should not occupy your mind.

How i manage mine;
Whatever I cant have, I forget.
Whatever I can't change, I stop trying to.
Engage your mind funny activities, Stay away from toxic people, don't ever engage in argument with anyone. Yea, I love defending myself but when my sanity is threatened, I accept defeat- it doesn't make me a coward.
Read comic books, it will help you retain some sense of humor.
Stay with people that don't judge, someone with understanding, who you can relay your problem and fears to. if can't find them, get anonymous diary, where you rant, vent, cry, it won't judge you but you will be relieved emotionally.
Don't ever leave your mind unoccupied, read novels, watch films and take it easy on yourself. Stop dwelling on your problem
Lastly, nobody has it all. Even rich men cry. The truth is that we all have stories to, yours isnt worst. Stop dwelling in self pity.

It's a step by step process. Set your mind to be better version yourself.

Be happy, its not easy but try. If I remember anything else I share with you.

Everything is going to be alright. Stop bothering when it will take place.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by chrisbaxtian(m): 2:23pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

you are a schizoid! with a tint of sociopathy. that's my diagnosis cool

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 2:24pm On Dec 25, 2018

Acidosis:

You do

I don't. Men are overrated.

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by helinues: 2:57pm On Dec 25, 2018

@ op, you are not the only one oo. I have not sent a single message to anybody and I have received a lot today.

To even greet someone Merry Xmas is doing me somehow.. I ignored all the invitations even though I knew some people are not happy with me but who cares

It is normal when you see things differently from the way majority of people see it. Like politics and religion.

High IQ or probably your third eyes has opened

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Martinez39(m): 3:31pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

Anhedonia?! grin

I had this last year.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by LordKO(m): 3:46pm On Dec 25, 2018

Yours is a case of emotional numbness - you being indifferent/unemotional about Christmas and some other festivals isn't an issue (some of us are like that too). You being strifeful is what makes your case abnormal and the solution to it lies in your hands. If you're truly not comfortable with the situation - some people in same situation may find it convenient, their choice - follow the following steps:

- Revert to your default settings. After achieving this feat you'll be in a carefree state. . . enjoy its bliss. But avoid making it your permanent abode (it's a very comfortable place to be), actually your inability to transmute will automatically turn you to a sociopath (I say avoid it) - fortunately, the world needs more altruistic and conscientious people. Be fair to the world.

- Now define yourself (your new self) - I'll advise you to take to good and no nonsense personality option. By so doing you'll automatically become an altruistic and conscientious person as I mentioned above.

- To achieve all of the above, you need a serene environment and personal home to live in alone (or to live with people with harmless attitude) - this doesn't mean that you should alienate yourself from the world. Avoidance of toxic people remains constant - just strive to detoxify yourself first.

Should you follow this lead and inculcate it as your anima, believe you me that the happiness and benefits you in particular and people around you (sane and sound ones) in general will begin to experience, this place will not be able to contain them if I begin to enumerate them.

However, failure to do the needful will lead you into a full state of psychotic in the near future.

Health and personal advancement solution service is very expensive to afford, but here I've given it to you free of charge.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by thetruthmale: 4:12pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

Most people here know nothing about what you might be going through so, you need discern what you take.

Also, most here share similar disposition which isn't much of a surprise as it is a fact that most Nigerians suffer from depression.

.

Now, I am not try to label you... But, you might want to take psychological tests (you can search for them online eg "test for depression" wink

especially if you think this is a problem... Your last paragraph suggests so.

Also, try seeking help... I strongly advice that you seek professional(Psychologists or Psychiatrists not clergies) help, teaching hospitals have them.

You can dm @MentallyAwareNG on twitter they are an NGO that deals with mental health issues.

Good luck.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Youngzubi(m): 4:20pm On Dec 25, 2018

Sigh!.....

Where should start from..??

You probably have a problem to tackle but i don't know how to advise you since you failed to mention the source of your present state of being unemotional...

What can i say to make u feel better if..

Those kids wandering around the whole streets with oversize eyeglasses,long-sleeves shirt,my papa dash me kind of shoes and all sort of colorful dresses can't make u smile...

Even those with spoons in their pockets waiting for u to offer them plate of rice can't make u smile for Christmas or maybe non of them have visit you..

How you think determines how you feel, free your mind, make up your mind that situation around you won't stop you from having fun with others in this festive season..

Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by sisisioge: 4:42pm On Dec 25, 2018

Hmmm...you are who you are. Just relax, don't beat yourself too hard. We aren't all the same.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 5:06pm On Dec 25, 2018

LordKO:
Yours is a case of emotional numbness - you being indifferent/unemotional about Christmas and other festivals isn't an issue (some of us are like that too). You being strifeful is what makes your case abnormal and the solution to it lies in your hands. If you're truly not comfortable with the situation - some people in same situation may find it convenient , their choice - follow the following steps:

- Revert to your default settings. After achieving this feat you'll be in a carefree state. . . enjoy its bliss. But avoid making it your permanent abode (it's a very comfortable place to be), actually your inability to transmute will automatically turn you to a sociopath - fortunately, the world needs more altruistic and conscientious people. Be fair to the world.

- Now define yourself (your new self) - I'll advise you to take to good and no nonsense personality option. By so doing you'll automatically become an altruistic and conscientious person as I mentioned above.

- To achieve all of the above, you need a serene environment and personal home to live in alone (or to live with people with harmless attitude) - this doesn't mean that you should alienate yourself from the world. Avoidance of toxic people remains constant - just strive to detoxify yourself first.

Should you follow this lead and inculcate it as your anima, believe you me that the happiness and benefits you in particular and people around you (sane and sound ones) in general will begin to experience, this place will not be able to contain them if I begin to enumerate them.

However, failure to do the needful will lead you into a full state of psychotic in the near future.

Health and personal advancement solution service is very expensive to afford, but here I've given it to you free of charge.

Quite profound.

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by boldconfidence: 5:24pm On Dec 25, 2018

ignant:
I think I remember you stating something about your. unstable childhood. Your emotional dissociation is a coping mechanism against the pitfalls of unaffection you experienced while growing up.

It is not a phase in your case, it is how you raised yourself. Associating with people drains you. You will get easily irritated because you are wary of anything that implies companionship.

You have no idea what to do with the warmth shown to you by others. You do not understand why people even show you warmth. You have survived this far without much warmth and find it hard to understand why people show weakness, and term it "warmth".

You are ice cold as a motherfvcker.

Wow! You have described this so well

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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by castro316: 5:42pm On Dec 25, 2018

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

When is your birthday. Maybe I help out

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