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Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Les: 11:25pm On Dec 25, 2018 |
The only reason I wished one person merry Christmas today was because I won her fastest finger wassap game! 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Hopez456(m): 11:47pm On Dec 25, 2018 |
NiggasInParis:Wow, you had a great day. It feels good to know there are people who feel the same as I do. We are indeed special breeds. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by johnkey: 2:56am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:that makes two of us. Are you a Scorpio? 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by nedubest(m): 3:01am On Dec 26, 2018 |
patronise me anD u will be emotional 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Heartbender: 4:11am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Yes, you are a sadist UyaiIncomparabl: 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Ishilove: 7:53am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:You're a more extreme version of me. I'm not moved by Christmas and I have to almost physically restrain myself from posting on social media that everyone should stay in their house; Nobody should come visiting me. My friends are beginning to stay away from me because I avoid them. I would rather love them from a distance. I thrive more when I'm alone. I always like being alone. I'd probably never step out of the house if I could work from home because I really love my own company. See, you're just ultra-reserved. There's nothing wrong with you, BUT, Man is a social being and interaction and co-existence is meant to be a part of the larger social structure of his environment. While introversion and seclusion is your temperament, don't get too detached from your environment so that you can function well in the society. That's how you survive because you're NOT a hermit. I just reconnected with an uncle I haven't seen in 18 years and to my surprise, i enjoyed it. I keep telling myself that I don't need anyone, but surprisingly, it felt good to interact with my all time favorite uncle. Social interaction. I TRY as much as possible not to alienate myself too from people by making the very rare phone calls and occasionally returning their WhatsApp messages because I have come to recognise that I am not living on a mountain. I am living in a world where we are all inter-connected in one way or the other. We need one another, whether we like it or not. You come online to get a few laughs, don't you? Who are the people that make this place worth coming back to? Human beings. (I met one of my dearest and closest friends here on Nairaland ). Even in death, it is our fellow human beings that will commit us to mother earth. You see why we need one another in different ways? Lord knows when last I visited anyone in their houses but I occasionally send a 'hi' to them so that they are aware I'm alive and well, and still a part of the race for survival in a world that is very unpredictable. No man is an island to himself. How you interact with these human beings outside this internet platform is an extension of social interaction, so, my dear sister, make an effort to interact with people, no matter how inconveniencing it is. It's part of social etiquette. It won't kill you and it will enable you achieve a level of balance. You can try for a bit of consistency in these interactions. I time myself by waiting for those times when I have a little free time on my hands before sending messages to people. The people around me have gotten used to my methods and a few of them respect the distance I want to keep between us because I have been consistent in my rare 'hellos'. Live a little, sis. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by obekediamondfuto(m): 7:56am On Dec 26, 2018 |
it's sad that some people tag this behavior as a form of depression either from being broke or something related to the present... most don't understand the half of it..... they have cough.... you have cold, catarrh, cough, fever etc... The name of this syndrome is EDD, someone stated this one the front page.... I've known about this for years.... I actually wanted to help u tackle it.... but I think you should bask in it for a while, just so you'd appreciate it when you are free from it.... right now, you have found that bliss in solitude.... it will get worse .. but it's still not fatal... there is a surefire way to tackle this but you are not ready for it. actually just 3 easy steps that requires extreme commitment and consistency. you can breach the commitment part at some point but the consistency part..... once breached.... you become worse off. don't worry, in due time you will understand everything I have typed on your thread op 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 8:24am On Dec 26, 2018 |
LordKO: Good one. But pocohantas needs this solution more. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 8:42am On Dec 26, 2018 |
obekediamondfuto: I did state the EDD on the front page, wanted her to go read wide on it as I know someone who is exhibiting same and the organization where he works mandated he go for therapy and he is presenting seeing a psychotherapist. Traumatic childhood experiences, insecure attachment, repressed emotions etc are some of the issues that needs to be journeyed through. |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Mizwisdom(f): 8:51am On Dec 26, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:. I agree, she's a psychopath. OP, might have a temperament that makes her react this way, coupled with hardened treatment giving to her by a primary care giver in childhood. The only solution is DELIVERANCE. You can be a Christian for years and still live in bondage because your prayers are not targeted at your problem. . |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by damtan(m): 8:52am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Then I'd say you're getting worse than normal!!! 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 9:02am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Mizwisdom: I would gently disagree on the deliverance route, she needs professional attention. You'd be surprised what talk therapy can do to one when they feel the empathy and zero judgement. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:36am On Dec 26, 2018 |
DeeMain: I never had a sound upbringing. My parents are a write off. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:40am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Appelmoik: Yes, I'm phlegmatic. Another reason I so much detest myself. |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:42am On Dec 26, 2018 |
VeeVeeMyLuv: Kids are pesky, okay? No. I'm not the only child of my parents. I've forgotten how many we are sef. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:45am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Mizwisdom: You're a psychopath. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:46am On Dec 26, 2018 |
chrisbaxtian: You know too much my friend! |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 9:49am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl: This is not a deliverance issue as someone posted earlier. If you can, seek a psychotherapist when you feel the need work through your fixations. Talk therapy is what you need as the therapist could with you use therapy techniques of Psychoanalysis, Gestalt and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to help you get in touch with your core. I have friends who are therapists so I am picking so much from them for my mental health well-being. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 10:16am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Pavore9: Possession of ED (emotional detachment) trait and its actions do not automatically mean that such an ED personality has EDD (emotional detachment disorder). Only an emotional numb person is automatically classified as EDD sufferer. So, EN (emotional numbness) is different from ED. The poster's problem is EN, which of course makes her EDD sufferer. ED personalities are naturally emotionally detached to festivals, but that do not mean that they are antagonistic of such festivals. Also, they are usually quick to emotionally detached themselves from toxic people, whether or not they had been traumatized before, in order to maintain their mental soundness. They understand the value of inner peace. In summary unlike EN people, ED personalities are not EDD sufferers, and they are usually the happiest and most peaceful and sensitive sets of human beings. In fact, lordko captured and analysed the poster's situation very well, with a top-notch solution too. This is my area of expertise, so I understand it perfectly well. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Ishilove: 10:27am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:LMAO! Nairaland 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Ishilove: 10:28am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:You have mood swings? |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by chrisbaxtian(m): 10:31am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Admittedly, I don't think I know enough 4 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Mizwisdom(f): 10:32am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You're a psychopath but this is in no way intended to call you names. I didn't quote you but concurred with what someone else had said. You're not my equal so I wouldn't exchange words with you. My intention is to help someone who has a problem and knows she does. Been there done that, those friends you think can take your crap will disappear with time, those Xmas calls too, was trying to help. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by chrisbaxtian(m): 10:34am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Mizwisdom: ewo! |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by obekediamondfuto(m): 10:39am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Pavore9: I agree with you... but the timing for the cure needs to be perfect else she will return back to it in no time and when this happens..... it'll be chronic |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by obekediamondfuto(m): 10:43am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Themellowone: your area of expertise but u decided not to read it thru? read the first post again. |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Nobody: 10:46am On Dec 26, 2018 |
obekediamondfuto: Look for your mates elsewhere. You do not know what it takes to obtain a PhD in psychology. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by DeeMain(m): 11:04am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Good. A problem diagnosed is half solved. You now have a map to set yourself free from the prisons and chains from the past. No theorizing, or philosophizing or blame passing or anger will help you much. Your parents did whatever they did out of ignorance or their own pain or trauma or dysfunctional upbringing too. Time for you to break the pattern and not pass it on to your future children like they did. Take your destiny into your own hands, take responsibility and break free no matter what it takes.The beautiful and powerful you within deserves it. Your future husband and children deserves to meet the real you too. Take charge. May God help you on this journey. 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by IamPlato(m): 11:10am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl! You Just Defined Me... Just Of Recent A Friend Reminded Me That I Am so Unemotional... 1 Like |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by IamPlato(m): 11:23am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Ishilove! So You Too De This Team... Let Me Tell You Something, My Friend Was Feeling Pains in His Stomach that Made Him Uncomfortable but I Was Busy With My Writing, i Looked At Him And Continued With My Work... He Cut Himself With A Knife But I Couldnt Even say Sorry but Rather I Told Him That His Cut Was Small compared To The One I Saw Some Days Ago. my Friend Looked At Me And Said "You Are A Vampire, you Dont have Emotions". I Remember Dropping A Padlock On Somebody's Head From The Second Floor Of A Building and Didnt Feel An Atom Of Pity... At One Night Rehearsals, a Female Friend Of Mine Fainted every One Rushed Around Her but I Didnt Move but Rather I Just Concluded She Was Pretending. I Also Hate Being Visited On Christmas Day as I Hate Going To People's House On Christmas Day or Even Most Days... I Love To Reflect And Think, Write And Maybe Chill With My Girl (I Sent All Packing before December)... I Discover That I Am A Simple Complex and Classifed Being 2 Likes |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by Pavore9: 11:31am On Dec 26, 2018 |
Themellowone: You may have attained a PhD or PsyD but it doesn't cost human blood to achieve it so arrogance should not come in. Is it not the same doctorate program I know many Nigerian Reverend Sisters are running here in Nairobi and one can feel their congruence! If you felt he rubbed you the wrong way, you know there are better ways to relate to it. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Am I So Unemotional? by IamPlato(m): 11:33am On Dec 26, 2018 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Detest Yourself? Anyway, I Love You Like This, although I Know You Dont Care what I Think, I Dont Care what You Say too |
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