The only reason I wished one person merry Christmas today was because I won her fastest finger wassap game!

NiggasInParis:
So speechless. You just penned down everything i am going through right now...only difference is; I will say for me, i know exactly why I am feeling this way and trust me I think it might be thesame for you too...

There are specifically two things that could be the cuase:


"" Going through a phase of emotional and personal development and maturity that you feel so advanced in your thoughts that you seem to look down on other things and conclude them uninteresting and petty especially when it doesn't triggers an utmost interest in you...my gosh! How do I break this down!!!

See, for example, Can you imagine my bro will be wedding on 28th and here am I far away from FAM and home like nothing is happening(funny thing is I am not even bothered) not like I don't care, of course I do..but this boils back to the second reason/cuase which is?



"Not achieving things you have/had planned to achieve which you feel will elevate you to certain level and make you fulfilled to an extent. Like finances, a big project etc""

Trust me these are the two things that can initiate just anybody into the cult of feelings you have described above, and you know the most vulnerable? Are we introverts! Dam it....

Do you know my routine for today? Hehe...check it out


I woke up around 8 am, turn on my laptop and watched a movie right on my bed till 11 am...if not that I was flat on cash I shouldn't have even gone out, so I after the movie I got my paranoid ass up to withdraw some cash got some food stuffs and back home..(you need to see the way I was hurrying to back home) came back cooked, freshen up and slept...

Upon all these , on the background , are several text messages, WhatsApp mesages and calls and of which some which I didn't attend to...


After a long sleep from 4pm to 7pm , i freshened up, turned on the tv, I am currently sipping on some fine red wine and blasting my Sound system with a particular song i heard on MTV which i fathom feats perfectly for this mood......

Rudimental - Live my Life...

There is a lot I want to say, but I don't have the patience to write.. I am so forking anxious


Now I feel so relieved typing this, like I have let a burden out of me and also recognize I am not alone in this..And like the chorus of the music playing on background playing, I will live my life!

Hugs OP!

To the MODs I think the thread is more than front page Worthy

Wow, you had a great day. It feels good to know there are people who feel the same as I do. We are indeed special breeds.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

that makes two of us. Are you a Scorpio?

patronise me anD u will be emotional

Yes, you are a sadist

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why am I so unemotional? I mean, nothing hardly interests my fancy. Just this morning, I've received countless 'Yuletide's' greetings from acquaintances and close friends, but I haven't even deemed it fit to return the texts nor the calls. I intentionally rejected two calls from unknown persons who I know were calling to wish me a Merry Christmas. Nothing ever interests me.

I'm not even turned on/elated of the fact that today is Christmas. Seeing people passing by and chanting at the top of their voices 'Eku Odun' or 'Merry/Happy Christmas my sister' really irks me a lot. I wonder what the whole fuss is all about!

I mean, I've just been trying to force myself to reply people who've been disturbing my ears to the ongoing celebration, and in actuality, I don't even mean it.

I remember warning someone yesterday never to wish me anything else I block him. How sad!

Now, the whole summary of my post is, I'm not fun-seeking. I'm too rigid. I'm never elated at any celebration. I don't go to see movies. I hate eateries. The mall scares me. I tell off the few friends I have, but they understand my madness and they keep returning. I hardly get moved if someone is even dying. I always find faults in everything.

Am I mentally deranged or totally normal?
Am I a sadist? Why am I so unemotional? Right now, my mind is filled with strife. I truly agree now and think that I need mental help. I think I'm a psycho.

You're a more extreme version of me.

I'm not moved by Christmas and I have to almost physically restrain myself from posting on social media that everyone should stay in their house; Nobody should come visiting me. My friends are beginning to stay away from me because I avoid them. I would rather love them from a distance. I thrive more when I'm alone. I always like being alone. I'd probably never step out of the house if I could work from home because I really love my own company.

See, you're just ultra-reserved. There's nothing wrong with you, BUT, Man is a social being and interaction and co-existence is meant to be a part of the larger social structure of his environment. While introversion and seclusion is your temperament, don't get too detached from your environment so that you can function well in the society. That's how you survive because you're NOT a hermit. I just reconnected with an uncle I haven't seen in 18 years and to my surprise, i enjoyed it. I keep telling myself that I don't need anyone, but surprisingly, it felt good to interact with my all time favorite uncle.

Social interaction.

I TRY as much as possible not to alienate myself too from people by making the very rare phone calls and occasionally returning their WhatsApp messages because I have come to recognise that I am not living on a mountain. I am living in a world where we are all inter-connected in one way or the other. We need one another, whether we like it or not.

You come online to get a few laughs, don't you? Who are the people that make this place worth coming back to? Human beings. (I met one of my dearest and closest friends here on Nairaland ). Even in death, it is our fellow human beings that will commit us to mother earth. You see why we need one another in different ways?

Lord knows when last I visited anyone in their houses but I occasionally send a 'hi' to them so that they are aware I'm alive and well, and still a part of the race for survival in a world that is very unpredictable.

No man is an island to himself. How you interact with these human beings outside this internet platform is an extension of social interaction, so, my dear sister, make an effort to interact with people, no matter how inconveniencing it is. It's part of social etiquette. It won't kill you and it will enable you achieve a level of balance.

You can try for a bit of consistency in these interactions. I time myself by waiting for those times when I have a little free time on my hands before sending messages to people. The people around me have gotten used to my methods and a few of them respect the distance I want to keep between us because I have been consistent in my rare 'hellos'.

Live a little, sis.

it's sad that some people tag this behavior as a form of depression either from being broke or something related to the present... most don't understand the half of it..... they have cough.... you have cold, catarrh, cough, fever etc...

The name of this syndrome is EDD, someone stated this one the front page....

I've known about this for years....
I actually wanted to help u tackle it.... but I think you should bask in it for a while, just so you'd appreciate it when you are free from it....

right now, you have found that bliss in solitude.... it will get worse
..
but it's still not fatal...

there is a surefire way to tackle this but you are not ready for it.
actually just 3 easy steps that requires extreme commitment and consistency.

you can breach the commitment part at some point but the consistency part..... once breached.... you become worse off.

don't worry, in due time you will understand everything I have typed on your thread op

LordKO:
Yours is a case of emotional numbness - you being indifferent/unemotional about Christmas and other festivals isn't an issue (some of us are like that too). You being strifeful is what makes your case abnormal and the solution to it lies in your hands. If you're truly not comfortable with the situation - some people in same situation may find it convenient, their choice - follow the following steps:

- Revert to your default settings. After achieving this feat you'll be in a carefree state. . . enjoy its bliss. But avoid making it your permanent abode (it's a very comfortable place to be), actually your inability to transmute will automatically turn you to a sociopath (I say avoid it) - fortunately, the world needs more altruistic and conscientious people. Be fair to the world.

- Now define yourself (your new self) - I'll advise you to take to good and no nonsense personality option. By so doing you'll automatically become an altruistic and conscientious person as I mentioned above.

- To achieve all of the above, you need a serene environment and personal home to live in alone (or to live with people with harmless attitude) - this doesn't mean that you should alienate yourself from the world. Avoidance of toxic people remains constant - just strive to detoxify yourself first.

Should you follow this lead and inculcate it as your anima, believe you me that the happiness and benefits you in particular and people around you (sane and sound ones) in general will begin to experience, this place will not be able to contain them if I begin to enumerate them.

However, failure to do the needful will lead you into a full state of psychotic in the near future.

Health and personal advancement solution service is very expensive to afford, but here I've given it to you free of charge.

Good one. But pocohantas needs this solution more.

obekediamondfuto:
it's sad that some people tag this behavior as a form of depression either from being broke or something related to the present... most don't understand the half of it..... they have cough.... you have cold, catarrh, cough, fever etc...

The name of this syndrome is EDD, someone stated this one the front page....

I've known about this for years....
I actually wanted to help u tackle it.... but I think you should bask in it for a while, just so you'd appreciate it when you are free from it....

right now, you have found that bliss in solitude.... it will get worse
..
but it's still not fatal...

there is a surefire way to tackle this but you are not ready for it.
actually just 3 easy steps that requires extreme commitment and consistency.

you can breach the commitment part at some point but the consistency part..... once breached.... you become worse off.

don't worry, in due time you will understand everything I have typed on your thread op

I did state the EDD on the front page, wanted her to go read wide on it as I know someone who is exhibiting same and the organization where he works mandated he go for therapy and he is presenting seeing a psychotherapist.

Traumatic childhood experiences, insecure attachment, repressed emotions etc are some of the issues that needs to be journeyed through.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
She lacks empathy, such state of mind are consistent with psycho killers.

But I think she might have gone through some harsh experiences while growing up to be this way. Perhaps if she meditates and search within, you'll find the answers she seeks.

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I agree, she's a psychopath. OP, might have a temperament that makes her react this way, coupled with hardened treatment giving to her by a primary care giver in childhood. The only solution is DELIVERANCE. You can be a Christian for years and still live in bondage because your prayers are not targeted at your problem.










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UyaiIncomparabl:


Hmm. I don't even feel elated in the house of God. Whenever those pastors preach, my mind is always elsewhere. They sound like loudspeakers to me.

Then I'd say you're getting worse than normal!!!

Mizwisdom:
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I agree, she's a psychopath. OP, might have a temperate that makes her react this way, coupled with hardened treatment giving to her by a primary care giver in childhood. The only solution is DELIVERANCE. You can be a Christian for years and still live in bondage because your prayers are not targeted at your problem.












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I would gently disagree on the deliverance route, she needs professional attention. You'd be surprised what talk therapy can do to one when they feel the empathy and zero judgement.

DeeMain:
Look to your childhood experiences and the kind of loving, parenting and upbringing you got as a child for the answers you seek. Your early family life is the very foundation on which the present you is built.

If the foundation be destroyed, what can the righteous do? Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.

So you are set. Your yesterday moulded your today. Your past is the key to your present. To set the real you free and get to the authentic you, that child needs to be set free.

Targeted prayers, meditation, confessions/affirmations will help. Or get a good therapist. Pm me if that interests you.

I never had a sound upbringing. My parents are a write off.

Appelmoik:
O. p you are phlegmatic and there are things that are bothering you. that's what I can deduct from your write-up.

Yes, I'm phlegmatic. Another reason I so much detest myself.

VeeVeeMyLuv:

Lol okay
Tho,
With cool kids (child) that understands you, not pikin (ajepako).

BTW am also Virgo, trust me I know that feeling too,
Are you the only daughter or child of your parents.

I hope you enjoy your Christmas celebrations.

Kids are pesky, okay?

No. I'm not the only child of my parents. I've forgotten how many we are sef.

Mizwisdom:
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I agree, she's a psychopath. OP, might have a temperament that makes her react this way, coupled with hardened treatment giving to her by a primary care giver in childhood. The only solution is DELIVERANCE. You can be a Christian for years and still live in bondage because your prayers are not targeted at your problem.










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You're a psychopath.

chrisbaxtian:



you are a schizoid! with a tint of sociopathy. that's my diagnosis

You know too much my friend!

UyaiIncomparabl:


I never had a sound upbringing. My parents are a write off.

This is not a deliverance issue as someone posted earlier. If you can, seek a psychotherapist when you feel the need work through your fixations. Talk therapy is what you need as the therapist could with you use therapy techniques of Psychoanalysis, Gestalt and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy to help you get in touch with your core.

I have friends who are therapists so I am picking so much from them for my mental health well-being.

Pavore9:


I did state the EDD on the front page, wanted her to go read wide on it as I know someone who is exhibiting same and the organization where he works mandated he go for therapy and he is presenting seeing a psychotherapist.

Traumatic childhood experiences, insecure attachment, repressed emotions etc are some of the issues that needs to be journeyed through.

Possession of ED (emotional detachment) trait and its actions do not automatically mean that such an ED personality has EDD (emotional detachment disorder). Only an emotional numb person is automatically classified as EDD sufferer. So, EN (emotional numbness) is different from ED. The poster's problem is EN, which of course makes her EDD sufferer.

ED personalities are naturally emotionally detached to festivals, but that do not mean that they are antagonistic of such festivals. Also, they are usually quick to emotionally detached themselves from toxic people, whether or not they had been traumatized before, in order to maintain their mental soundness. They understand the value of inner peace. In summary unlike EN people, ED personalities are not EDD sufferers, and they are usually the happiest and most peaceful and sensitive sets of human beings.

In fact, lordko captured and analysed the poster's situation very well, with a top-notch solution too.

This is my area of expertise, so I understand it perfectly well.

UyaiIncomparabl:



You're a psychopath.

LMAO! Nairaland

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yes, I'm phlegmatic. Another reason I so much detest myself.

You have mood swings?

UyaiIncomparabl:

You know too much my friend!

Admittedly, I don't think I know enough

UyaiIncomparabl:



You're a psychopath.

You're a psychopath but this is in no way intended to call you names. I didn't quote you but concurred with what someone else had said. You're not my equal so I wouldn't exchange words with you. My intention is to help someone who has a problem and knows she does. Been there done that, those friends you think can take your crap will disappear with time, those Xmas calls too, was trying to help. Good luck

Mizwisdom:



You're a psychopath but this is in no way intended to call you names. I didn't quote you but concurred with what someone else had said. You're not my equal so I wouldn't exchange words with you. My intention is to help someone who has a problem and knows she does. Been there done that, those friends you think can take your crap will disappear with time, those Xmas calls too, was trying to help. Good luck

ewo!

Pavore9:


I did state the EDD on the front page, wanted her to go read wide on it as I know someone who is exhibiting same and the organization where he works mandated he go for therapy and he is presenting seeing a psychotherapist.

Traumatic childhood experiences, insecure attachment, repressed emotions etc are some of the issues that needs to be journeyed through.

I agree with you...
but the timing for the cure needs to be perfect else she will return back to it in no time and when this happens..... it'll be chronic

Themellowone:


Possession of ED (emotional detachment) trait and its actions do not automatically mean that such an ED personality has EDD (emotional detachment disorder). Only an emotional numb person is automatically classified as EDD sufferer. So, EN (emotional numbness) is different from ED. The poster's problem is EN, which of course makes her EDD sufferer.

ED personalities are naturally emotionally detached to festivals, but that do not mean that they are antagonistic of such festivals. Also, they are usually quick to emotionally detached themselves from toxic people, whether or not they had been traumatized before, in order to maintain their mental soundness. They understand the value of inner peace. In summary unlike EN people, ED personalities are not EDD sufferers, and they are usually the happiest and most peaceful and sensitive sets of human beings.

In fact, lordko captured and analysed the poster's situation very well, with a top-notch solution too.

This is my area of expertise, so I understand it perfectly well.

your area of expertise but u decided not to read it thru?

read the first post again.

obekediamondfuto:


your area of expertise but u decided not to read it thru?

read the first post again.

Look for your mates elsewhere. You do not know what it takes to obtain a PhD in psychology.

UyaiIncomparabl:


I never had a sound upbringing. My parents are a write off.

Good. A problem diagnosed is half solved. You now have a map to set yourself free from the prisons and chains from the past.

No theorizing, or philosophizing or blame passing or anger will help you much. Your parents did whatever they did out of ignorance or their own pain or trauma or dysfunctional upbringing too.

Time for you to break the pattern and not pass it on to your future children like they did. Take your destiny into your own hands, take responsibility and break free no matter what it takes.The beautiful and powerful you within deserves it. Your future husband and children deserves to meet the real you too.

Take charge. May God help you on this journey.

UyaiIncomparabl! You Just Defined Me... Just Of Recent A Friend Reminded Me That I Am so Unemotional...

Ishilove! So You Too De This Team...


Let Me Tell You Something, My Friend Was Feeling Pains in His Stomach that Made Him Uncomfortable but I Was Busy With My Writing, i Looked At Him And Continued With My Work... He Cut Himself With A Knife But I Couldnt Even say Sorry but Rather I Told Him That His Cut Was Small compared To The One I Saw Some Days Ago. my Friend Looked At Me And Said "You Are A Vampire, you Dont have Emotions".


I Remember Dropping A Padlock On Somebody's Head From The Second Floor Of A Building and Didnt Feel An Atom Of Pity...


At One Night Rehearsals, a Female Friend Of Mine Fainted every One Rushed Around Her but I Didnt Move but Rather I Just Concluded She Was Pretending.


I Also Hate Being Visited On Christmas Day as I Hate Going To People's House On Christmas Day or Even Most Days... I Love To Reflect And Think, Write And Maybe Chill With My Girl (I Sent All Packing before December)...


I Discover That I Am A Simple Complex and Classifed Being

Themellowone:


Look for your mates elsewhere. You do not know what it takes to obtain a PhD in psychology.

You may have attained a PhD or PsyD but it doesn't cost human blood to achieve it so arrogance should not come in. Is it not the same doctorate program I know many Nigerian Reverend Sisters are running here in Nairobi and one can feel their congruence!

If you felt he rubbed you the wrong way, you know there are better ways to relate to it.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Yes, I'm phlegmatic. Another reason I so much detest myself.

Detest Yourself? Anyway, I Love You Like This, although I Know You Dont Care what I Think, I Dont Care what You Say too