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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by stubbornman(m): 3:01pm On Dec 30, 2018
limbolimbo:


She works, but it doesn't pay much.

No dey cover up for her abeg angry Shebi she show you her salary alert abi no be wetin she tell you wey you go believe

You're not her side hustle!!! she doesn't have the rights to your pocket!!

was in a relationship like that early this year it really drained me bro... Babe was always waiting for month to end whether something go drop she even wanted to know the exact amount I was being paid , I thought we were gonna settle down but guess what this girl came sometime around October that she is liking someone else..... it was damn obvious , the changes were glaring.... I painfully ended the relationship !
Most painful part was that she wasn't even remorseful about the whole thing !!!

But I'm fine now.... I learnt my lesson but unless a woman Worth's it she will never eat my 1naira again... I'd rather spend on old friends (male and female) or family member!!

just be careful bro and end it peacefully while you can .... No allow love turn your thinking!

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:02pm On Dec 30, 2018
rame18:



Forget no dee my mind oh She's extremely good to me I mean it but I don't like showing her I don't know if it's good Idea









She try, I hope you don't forget the sacrifice when your hustle finally pay.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:02pm On Dec 30, 2018
Las las you boys on here will still beg for money. I spit on you grin
jorion:


Shut up and give me your address, I need that 10k badly. Prove your worth today.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by mistacoco2: 3:03pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
One thing you men dont understand is that women have it easier. A broke woman is far better than a wretched broke man. Who wants a broke man? He is at the bottom of the bottom and seen as shittt. Calling me broke can never pain me but las las you will still cry yourself to sleep because of your condition. It is well.
sorry to say but you talk like a frustrated and a cheap gold digger.. You better change this mentality before its late.

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Chukapage(m): 3:04pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
Is it your pussayyy? Las las maga will still marry somebody even if the pussy has gone through miles. Go and make money, no love for brokeaZez cheesy
is it your broke ?? see problem broke na your broke ?? lol NO MAGA WILL MARRY A WIDENED PUSSY WITH NO SENSATION OR A FAKE TIGHT PUSSY WITH POOR "WETTING" ABILITY DUE TO ALUM.....beware of ritualist ooo ..no be only pussy mileage ..boys fit still use you arrange better GLC coup ..na so e be ..no dey deceive your sef oo go and work and safe your destiny ..even your SENIOR ADVOCATES in Nollywood NEVER LAND MAGA TO MARRY THEM..na you marry ?? e go shock you ..las las na babymama you fit manage that is if you get luck ooo

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by elonize(m): 3:04pm On Dec 30, 2018
Finally, I c somebody thinking what am thinking, Jan bless
Qtsnow:

Do not give her any weekly or monthly allowance until you both are married, it is not your responsibility as a boyfriend, else if you have plans to marry her soon. That doesn't mean you are stingy, I think she's just being smarter than you. I repeat do not give her shishi.
Let me scold you small, have/did you spent that kind of money on your mum at a go.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by jorion(m): 3:05pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
Las las you boys on here will still beg for money. I spit on you grin
London my foot. I blame the stupid guy whose dik is giving you this stupid confidence

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:06pm On Dec 30, 2018
Ramos16:


I don't think that is what the OP meant

I am as confused as tarorfeek
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Diffdeef(m): 3:08pm On Dec 30, 2018
Life is a lot simple than we thought,if her request or entitlement mentality is unacceptable to you,you call it quit, eventually, believe me she'll still find someone that accepts those requests of hers,you on the other hand will still find someone who entirely doesn't put up such request or have such mentality,so at the end,everybody is happy. Not a do or die affair.

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:08pm On Dec 30, 2018
uyiekpenn:
I once walked a girl out of my car in the middle of the road while I was in Nigeria last year over some stupid comment that she made. She said no man should go into a relationship if you don't have money and guess how I replied her? No girl should go into a relationship if she's broke and has nothing to offer besides pussyy. Majority of these girls are hopeless.

Both of you are right. You didn't have to walk her out of your car though undecided

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by mechanics(m): 3:09pm On Dec 30, 2018
You shouldn't have given her the wrist watch, you should have given her the cash, explain to her on the amount you use in buying the wrist-watch so she will understand you are doing your best, you need to spend wisely on her so you won't have heart attack if the relationship ends abruptly, you made mention of full cycle, don't understand that statement.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:10pm On Dec 30, 2018
Shut uppp. Beggarrr oshi. Cow
jorion:

London my foot. I blame the stupid guy whose dik is giving you this stupid confidence

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by elonize(m): 3:10pm On Dec 30, 2018
Hahahahhahahaha, guy don't be so open to tell her how much u earn,cos as u r telling her,rty in front of u,she don calculated her share,naso dm b,after going tru n seeing what most girls do,I just prefer to be single and it has been so sweet been single
stubbornman:


No dey cover up for her abeg angry Shebi she show you her salary alert abi no be wetin she tell you wey you go believe

You're not her side hustle!!! she doesn't have the rights to your pocket!!

was in a relationship like that early this year it really drained me bro... Babe was always waiting for month to end whether something go drop she even wanted to know the exact amount I was being paid , I thought we were gonna settle down but guess what this girl came sometime around October that she is liking someone else..... it was damn obvious , the changes were glaring.... I painfully ended the relationship !
Most painful part was that she wasn't even remorseful about the whole thing !!!

But I'm fine now.... I learnt my lesson but unless a woman Worth's it she will never eat my 1naira again... I'd rather spend on old friends (male and female) or family member!!

just be careful bro and end it peacefully while you can .... No allow love turn your thinking!
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Ginalex(f): 3:14pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
If you can’t afford it, don’t kill your self. If you can, great. Nothing wrong with spending on your babe, if you have interest in her, just don’t make yourself unhappy or slave-like to please her. But if you’re looking for a long term commitment, you can’t run away from spending and that’s just the truth. Don’t let these niggaz deceive you smiley
A guy spending on his babe is very different from a babe feeling entitled to a monthly stipend from the guy's salary Hanty. When she no be the guy mum or wife? Use ya head abeg undecided

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:15pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
Is it your pussayyy? Las las maga will still marry somebody even if the pussy has gone through miles. Go and make money, no love for brokeaZez cheesy
come on my lady enough ok. Those guys are saying nothing but the realest truth. 80% of naija girls have this stupid mentality that when you are in a relationship with them you have to take care of all their needs just because they give you their pussy.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by rame18(f): 3:16pm On Dec 30, 2018
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You better show her love o, before she change her mind.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Ozkar: 3:16pm On Dec 30, 2018
PrimadonnaO:


They are really just deceiving him, when in actual fact they do otherwise in their own relationship.
The girl in the OP's story is quite annoying...her matter-of-factly entitlement.

The truth is that the things that happen in a relationship are all unwritten codes, but we operate by them. Y'all are deceiving yourselves if you feel you can be in a relationship and not spend money... It's nothing about a woman being lazy, far from it, because even working class ladies and business women have expectations of their man, too. It's one of the ways women feel cared for. We've from time immemorial come to see men as primary providers. While women, on the other hand, are primary caregivers. But it doesn't mean that a woman doesn't assist, too. As a matter of fact, a woman usually goes the extra mile for a man she loves and who in return makes her feel loved. Trust me on this one.

All of these guys whining, they are either broke or badly bruised... not anybody's business, neither does it change the fact.

What I do have an issue with is a woman who won't do anything for herself... and would in fact, be in a pathetic state without a man giving her money.

I work and I earn, and can sort out my basic needs and a bit of indulgences for myself, but no, I won't be with a man who's tight-fisted, a man who doesn't understand that he should be supportive and occasionally do random stuff for his woman whether or not such was requested.

I mean, that would stifle my natural inclinations of goodwill. I'd feel stupid if I cooked such a man a sumptuous dish as a treat with my money...I'd feel silly if I saw that nice shirt and got it for him because I felt it would look great on him. I'd feel overzealous if I arranged a surprise for his birthday. Nahh...can't be with a man like that.

What I won't do however, is tell a man I expect a portion of his salary. Lol. It's actually laughable... Neither would I ourightly be slamming him with bills. I'm a lil too proud to do that.

For y'all vile men all over Nairaland, slamming ladies and selling out wack ideologies, I hope you find a solution to your problems pretty soon.
wow... Several paragraphs of undiluted waffling.

You don't get the point, do you? There are basically only two real issues here...

1) Is it okay to spend extravagantly on a lady one isn't even in a relationship with? According to the OP, he is a "To be boyfriend", and after he stated his stance, she said she doesn't think they can be in a relationship.

2) Is a lady entitled to a part of a man's salary as pocket money because they are dating? This is the part that gets the most backlash. You said you found her matter-of-fact entitlement annoying, yet went ahead to explain how it is a natural expectation that women have of their man. So what exactly makes her entitlement annoying to you? The fact that you wouldn't say it outright?

I found it interesting that you noted you would not want to spend your money to do stuff for your partner. He has to give you money from time to time, for you to spend money on him.

It is known that many ladies are tightfisted with their money. So what would encourage a man's natural inclination of good will? Why shouldn't guys who spend on these ladies (that only receive and never give) feel stupid too?

Women from time immemorial were relegated to domestic duties in our part of the world. Many used to think (many still do) that women are incapable of any logical thought or of managing positions of leadership. Does the fact that many have thought so for long justify it?

You are viewing the world with colored lens, and expect others using colored lens too to have the same color as yours.

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by WaffenSS(m): 3:16pm On Dec 30, 2018
Hizzy:

Bro plz dash me any thing the money YOU'RE earning is
A Blessing in this hard tim make I use amm promote my new single na beg I de beg

Send an email with the necessaries

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by jorion(m): 3:17pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
Shut uppp. Beggarrr oshi. Cow

With due respect to your parents, accept my condolences on their behalf. If they only knew their daughter was dyking for money

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by warmachine(m): 3:17pm On Dec 30, 2018
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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by nora2018(m): 3:20pm On Dec 30, 2018
boiz2men:
Lol.

All the girls in my life think I'm stingy.

I fvcking don't care.

They gossip me and say "which kind person b dis"?

I still don't care.

Only a few understand I'm not.

I have never said no to my family members and real friends (male and female alike)

Footnote: no one is stingy.. You just don't worth it.

All because you have a puxxy.. So what?


In fact, it's easier to give a guy money than a babe.

In case u wondering, I think I'm single grin lol
you must be my twin brother
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Veetee(m): 3:21pm On Dec 30, 2018
limbolimbo:


She works, but it doesn't pay much.

bro.. go and look for a full blown working class lady u will have peace of mind. leave these jobless girls for sugar daddies and yahoo boys. u can't impress them .if u try u will be doing it at your expense..your focus now should be on investing in yourself and expanding your source of income. sorry to say most Nigerian girls mentality about dating is messed up. she won't add value to u except her body. but if the sex is what u are after then good luck

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by ayesco202(m): 3:22pm On Dec 30, 2018
You even refer to her as "my girl"? Who told you she's your girl?

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:23pm On Dec 30, 2018
WaffenSS:


Send an email with the necessaries
Okay sir

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:24pm On Dec 30, 2018
WaffenSS:


Send an email with the necessaries
I mailed you now sir

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by warmachine(m): 3:24pm On Dec 30, 2018
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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Kenfil(f): 3:25pm On Dec 30, 2018
Lemme tell u this, no man is obligated to give money to a woman they are not married to. If u r dating someone they should at least have small change to care for their needs, then if u wanna help out then great if not don't let any lazy girl bully u into becoming their father Christmas. Please find women and men who are willing to contribute in ur lives and I bet u they are out there. Thank u

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by boiz2men(m): 3:25pm On Dec 30, 2018
Saffi:
Yeah for those who live in Nigeria, not a babe like I. I can dash you 10k without blinking, would you like it you wretched soul? I tire for nl guys, everybody is not your mate.

Hey, get off your high horses.

I know a lot of friends who live in Europe and are not doing great. I have a better life than most. Only fellow docs in Europe live better.

Being outside Nigeria doesn't mean you have a great life.

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by edicied: 3:25pm On Dec 30, 2018
The op mad! How would you buy a wristwatch of 90k+ for a girl? the emphasis here is on the watch. You should have gotten her something reasonable that also cost the same, what would she use the watch for, read heavens time?

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Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by boiz2men(m): 3:27pm On Dec 30, 2018
nora2018:
you must be my twin brother

Your twin is smart then...

He will live long. grin cheesy
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by Nobody: 3:30pm On Dec 30, 2018
rame18:


I have been showing her love since I met her










You better show her love o, before she change her mind.
Re: My Girl Thinks I Should Give Her Stipends From My Monthly Salary by RedboneSmith(m): 3:33pm On Dec 30, 2018
Don't waste a minute with a girl who makes you (or wants you to) spend more than you're comfortable with.

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