Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

Don't do it unless you have definite plans to upgrade your financial status.

pythonkid:
No bro , you have to build a duplex before you get married bro.

Are you sure this is enough?

He needs to buy Venza or Range Rover sport too.

Comfortability matters in Marriage.

In this economic hard times, many would be very much happy to get to your level before marriage.

Were you around when he said people who don't earn up to 30k a month don't have business living in the FCT? Also as per housing, so many villages have been destroyed and estates erected thereon, now those estates are idle as no one is buoyant enough to rent them. Isn't it a shame that the FCT dont have industries?

As London dey, Industries dey. Wetin dey wrong wid us sef?

Papertrail11:


elrufai didnt make plans for affordable housing all created this illusion its all burgoise city no industries no futuristic Dev just overpriced houses that a large percentage of the population can't afford

oluwamae:

Which one is born like fish??
Bia is it ur born?

pythonkid:
No bro , you have to build a duplex before you get married bro.

I just love your advice to him. he should buy Ferrari too b4 getting married.

Elders full here ohh

Guy you can do it if you want it, I live in a room&parlour self con(200k) close to ojuelegba and my salary is a little less to your own. I ve 1 kid his school fees is 45k per term. B4 I got married I save 40k or 30k monthly my T fair daily is300naira. Just tell God you need your own wife thins will work well. After I got married i do contribution of 20k per month to cover my yearly rent and any month am to pay my son sch fees I will stop the contribution for 2 months then later coverd it back. My wife do assist in kitchen tins and drinks, biscuits for my son to take to sch she buy in bulk. The main secret is we don't buy food outside everyone of us take food to office and sch. If you believe that you can do it then it will work for you.

amalab30:
Were you around when he said people who don't earn up to 30k a month don't have business living in the FCT? Also as per housing, so many villages have been destroyed and estates erected thereon, now those estates are idle as no one is buoyant enough to rent them. Isn't it a shame that the FCT dont have industries?

As London dey, Industries dey. Wetin dey wrong wid us sef?

I heard when recession started to creep in a lot of pple heard it that town I complain to my friends about the same thing happening in Lagos that manufacturing is dieing

all you see is fancy shops, malls, barbing saloons, sharwama shop, and least I forget the estate craze. one of the things that made Lagos the buzz back in the days wasn't cos of the port but majorily because if manufacturing and a large chunk of them have closed down I pity naija long term

The future of any country in the Global South is manufacturing. Nigeria is not gonna be spared long term of we don't do anything about it now. What's our problem gangan?

Papertrail11:




I heard when recession started to creep in a lot of pple heard it that town I complain to my friends about the same thing happening in Lagos that manufacturing is dieing

all you see is fancy shops, malls, barbing saloons, sharwama shop, and least I forget the estate craze. one of the things that made Lagos the buzz back in the days wasn't cos of the port but majorily because if manufacturing and a large chunk of them have closed down I pity naija long term

You can marry into a self-contained apartment so long as you don't let that define you.
I married into a self-contained apartment and after one year as my wife was about to give birth, we moved to a one bedroom apartment.
The second baby was coming and sister moved in and we had to move to a 2 bedroom apartment
Today as i write, we live in our own 5 bedroom duplex with a pentfloor.
Don't be dismayed, cherish your humble beginning. And I had no steady job when we got married.

jeff1607:




if your yearly rent can afford a piece of land by all means vacate that place and start building one ,move to a smaller place

na small small... before u know it, u are there

somehow:
Were you earning the same income with the OP and does he have the same surname you have?

Your background and his, are they the same?

Good durations you asked there.

Those coming from backgrounds like his don t understand how much rougher it is for others to break even

amalab30:
The future of any country in the Global South is manufacturing. Nigeria is not gonna be spared long term of we don't do anything about it now. What's our problem gangan?

lack of foresight

Thinking only abt today

And high tolerance for useless leaders

amongst other problems

fergieboy:
people stay in ordinary one room sef and they go born reach 6 pikin

So self con. Is better

@bold people doing it does not make it right
In a country like nigeria with so much uncertainty awaiting the
unborn child, i see no reason for giving birth to more than two kids...whether rich or poor.

morgan100:
na small small... before u know it, u are there

I concur

sure, you can get married in a self contain room. it simply depends on you and your wife to be. you will both make sacrifices pending when there's a better accommodation such as having to turn down family who may want to visit and stay over while you plan to get a better accommodation. cheers

Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

He who finds a wife has found a good thing... Op arrange urself and don't ever live above your means... If she is your wife things will work themselves out. You don't know how lucky u are to have a woman by u when ur struggling. Its very dangerous looking for them when u done blow.. Very risky

There are so many things to consider before going into marriage. You said you earn 80k per month which is still ok being single, but then, I will have to ask about your own family and your girl's. If she doesn't have something that brings her money and if she seems to have people dependent of her and if you're also the one taking care of your parents and/or siblings, please you need to sit, think and plan again because that's going to cause a constraint to you being able to move out of there to a better and condusive place when you start having kids as you may not be able to save enough after you must have given everyone their own share of your salary. That being said, it's still very ok to start from there considering that you have plans of moving into a better place soon, not because of yourself, but because of your woman and kid(s)... So yes you can do that but then with the mindset that you're going to move into a better place before you start having kids or at most before your first child clocks 1.... Good luck with whatever you decide on.

of course you can, I know of people who married in a room, a room o not even self contain and they're now living in mansions today.

Discuss with your wife.Set aside some amount alone every month if she is not contributing financially.Go and look for a piece of land somewhere cheap and buy.Build your own house.You cannot keep jumping from one house to another.Its not a crime to leave one room to your personal house where you can focus the money you are earning into other pressing needs

shaqur4:
Guy you can do it if you want it, I live in a room&parlour self con(200k) close to ojuelegba and my salary is a little less to your own. I ve 1 kid his school fees is 45k per term. B4 I got married I save 40k or 30k monthly my T fair daily is300naira. Just tell God you need your own wife thins will work well. After I got married i do contribution of 20k per month to cover my yearly rent and any month am to pay my son sch fees I will stop the contribution for 2 months then later coverd it back. My wife do assist in kitchen tins and drinks, biscuits for my son to take to sch she buy in bulk. The main secret is we don't buy food outside everyone of us take food to office and sch. If you believe that you can do it then it will work for you.

l so much love your analysis and financial planning. I just took some valuable cue, thanks!

I like this thread. It's inspiring.

sweetilicious:
Discuss with your wife.Set aside some amount alone every month if she is not contributing financially.Go and look for a piece of land somewhere cheap and buy.Build your own house.You cannot keep jumping from one house to another.Its not a crime to leave one room to your personal house where you can focus the money you are earning into other pressing needs

If that were possible right now , there would be no need for this thread madam

zinaunreal:


If that were possible right now , there would be no need for this thread madam

We talking about make wise investment decision.He should save as little as to acquire a land and build a boy's quarter.If he decides to leave self con into a flat just for recent pleasure and space, children are coming in and expenses is growing.Sow asorrowly so as to read bountifully.Save for investment.Understand my point of view and see reasons from my assertion