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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by MrMcJay(m): 10:47am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

Getting married in a self con is not the problem. Just ensure you marry a woman who won't ensure you remain in the self con.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by awoofawoo: 10:47am On Jan 05, 2019
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Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Nobody: 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
if both of you can cope, go ahead
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by TRUEBLOOD59(m): 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
it is OK since ur salary is less than 80k and u can start saving to get anoda before the arrival of a baby but it is ok
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by rozayx5(m): 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
do it now


or when u can get a one bedroom flat


undecided undecided

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Speedyconnect15: 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
You can but delay kids etc.
Afterall ppl marry even in a single room.

Although there will be a lot of inconveniences like visitors coming and no space for them

Imagine having a relative for 3 months.

It means no love making shocked

Ideal minimum should be a room or 2 rooms and parlour.



Life no easy oo

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Jayslicky: 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
CreepyBlackpool:
no don't marry her now.
Wait till you build a duplex.

When you build a duplex you will come and ask us again and we will tell you to wait till you can afford a mansion.

When you finally own a mansion come and ask us again so we'll tell you to wait till you own an estate.


You're asking us because it's us your getting married to :[
This really cracked me up, OP you should be talking to your girlfriend and not us, just cut your coat according to your cloth.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by mayorall(m): 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?



No bro, the best you can do is to relocate to another area in same city with 150k or less, you can get 2 bedroom.


Your wife might agree but women reason with emotions, they mostly think of today and not tomorrow.


Her nagging and insults in one room can frustrate you, please don't even if she agreed, her character and behaviour will always show no.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by abiaumo(m): 10:48am On Jan 05, 2019
Why not, what happened to little beginings.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Gaspardd(m): 10:49am On Jan 05, 2019
Save, start a biz, then do whatever u want.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Jonadull: 10:49am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?
... but don’t get pregnant there
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Lordofthewest(m): 10:49am On Jan 05, 2019
pythonkid:
No bro , you have to build a duplex before you get married bro.

Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by mokkalu1(m): 10:50am On Jan 05, 2019
I don't feel you should. I don't like the idea.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by olamy7(m): 10:50am On Jan 05, 2019
Newboss:
I know a guy who did that thing about 4 years ago. Till date, he still lives in a self contain while popping kids like champagne grin grin

Don't do it. It could make you desperate for money irrespective of who you married. You might end up considering doing rituals sef grin grin You don't need such pressure in your life
wait, what is ur say actually?
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by SocialJustice: 10:51am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?
Yes, I live in a selfcon too and will be getting married this year but make sure you can move to a 2 bedroom apartment in 3 years. When children start coming, even if you move to a 2 bedroom, the baby will share your room for another 3 to 5 years at least. Having a free room in your house is also a draw to unnecessary family members or visitors unless you're fine with it.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by demmydy(m): 10:52am On Jan 05, 2019
Mr man, cut ur coat accordn 2 ur size. Beta still seek advice from ur pastor Bcus he will always be 4 u.
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Nobody: 10:54am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?
dont mind people saying its not advisable. So long as you have a roof over your head and have your privacy,there is nothing wrong with it. The most important part is if the lady is OK with it,of which I assume you have discussed it with her,if not then you need to sit her down and have the conversation with her and hear her thoughts about it because in the end the marriage is between you and her and not with nairalanders.

I personally hate "face me I face you" setting. Since its a selfcon with a considerable level of privacy, go ahead if your wife to be is comfortable with it,thats the main thing. Hopefully when your family increases you can get a bigger place.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Born2Breed(f): 10:55am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

What do you mean by self contain? A living room,bedroom with bathroom and kitchen?
If yes then go ahead with your marriage plans.

If it's like a studio then,well,hmmm,its not that it's that bad oh but you know with marriage comes kids. The question is do you want to raise ur kids in such condition?

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Grupo(m): 10:55am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

Why do most of you rush and get married? Huh? You earn around 80k and you are already rushing to get married?

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Nobody: 10:55am On Jan 05, 2019
Offpoint:
yeah, The sex is always extra ordinary.

Abraham got married to Sarah in a hut

Adam was homeless when he married eve.

My great grandpa got married while still living with his father, my grandpa.

as long as there's enough space for bed, get married and pump those kids.


Happy Easter everyone.

Easter??
Omo...u dey in a hurry ooooo

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by PapaAdanna: 10:56am On Jan 05, 2019
Any girl that can't stay with you in self content house for a start doesn't worth it.




As for those saying NO and saying you should wait till you get a 2 bedroom apartment... You are lame.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by faithfull18(f): 10:57am On Jan 05, 2019
bedspread:
Start the way u and ur wife are comfortable with!
As you grow you shift level..

Don't allow anyone or anything make you live above your Capabilities ....

Life is not a Competition...

But if u can get a one bedroom that has its own Restroom and Bathroom.. that would be great
Op, when you are done getting the apartment, come collect bedspreads for your bed from this person..lol

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Neddyogu(m): 10:57am On Jan 05, 2019
If you're still seeking other's opinions before taking any step, then u are not ready for marriage yet.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by blackjack21(m): 10:58am On Jan 05, 2019
It's not advisable but, it's doable.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Admiralomoniyi(m): 10:58am On Jan 05, 2019
Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?
Most of them that are telling you no....live in one room apartment with their wife and children. Follow your heart desire bro...so far you are focused. You ar good to go.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Okoroawusa: 10:59am On Jan 05, 2019
Noooo!

wait till u build mansion...u hear?

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Mike008(m): 11:00am On Jan 05, 2019
People are married and staying in single rooms. Self contained is an upgrade.
So long as your woman is comfortable, why not?
But look set to look beyond that in the near future.
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Ibadanchief(m): 11:00am On Jan 05, 2019
pythonkid:
No bro , you have to build a duplex before you get married bro.



Be nice uncle,lol
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Offpoint: 11:01am On Jan 05, 2019
1StopRudeness:


Easter??
Omo...u dey in a hurry ooooo
none of my neighbors gave me Xmas or new year food... I wan see if the repeat the same on Easter...
Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by davecris(m): 11:03am On Jan 05, 2019
If you are comfortable and ready for marriage, and also if she is okay with ur present status, why not? Go ahead and marry. She can be a source of open doors and bigger things to come your way. Just pray for a good woman. Your present status wouldn't matter.

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Re: Is It Advisable To Get Married In A Self Contain? by Grupo(m): 11:05am On Jan 05, 2019
mayorall:




No bro, the best you can do is to relocate to another area in same city with 150k or less, you can get 2 bedroom.


Your wife might agree but women reason with emotions, they mostly think of today and not tomorrow.


Her nagging and insults in one room can frustrate you, please don't even if she agreed, her character and behaviour will always show no.


You are an intelligent man.

If the OP asks his girlfriend now, she is obviously going to say she is content with living with him in a self con. But just give her two months after the marriage, that's when she would change and start giving him trouble. If the OP likes, let him listen to people telling him to go ahead.

First, he earns less than 80k a month. When he gets married, he is going to need nothing less than 60k every month to feed two mouths. Now, after taking out such an amount from his meager salary for feeding, what would be left? Meaning he is going to remain in a self con for many more years.

A better advice for the guy would be to improve his finances before thinking of getting married. If you look closely, the guy might still be under 30, yet he is already considering marriage. I wonder why all of them are rushing?

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