victorazyvictor:


Advice responsibly bro. no offense, jor o!

Isoduwa:



If you like use your mouth � dey talk rubbish
I dey with my family �� no marriage but we are happy �

nkwuocha:


Many of us started from a self contained as bachelors to two rooms and then start building.Many who do this do it not because they can't afford it,but because we are planning to build.In Lagos and Abuja as Nwadiala if you dey pay 2 + million for House for years and your guys find out say you never build or at least have a land Omo na refugee you be o.Them go laugh you tire say you be mumu.Excerpt ofcourse you are using rent from your building in another location to finance your rent.

victorazyvictor:


Here in Abuja, reasonable flat of 1 bedroom is N450 - 600 - 2 bedroom = N 600 - 1.2m per annum.

GistFullGround:





This is the only golden advice I gave him, "So, OP, don't rush into marriage, strive to be more comfortable and I tell you, God shall bless your hustle and make your wife stand firm with you"



Please tell us what is bad in it.

Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

nkwuocha:


Some people rent duplex here,2.5 million to 4million.
Sometime they rent for 2 million but by the time you are done with renovations,it will be clocking 3 million.

Fela4ese:
as an adult there are certain questions u don't ask in public,do u also need our opinion about d woman u are getting married to?my broda life na personal race so do what u n ur intended spouse want OK.

victorazyvictor:


Bro! don't take this personal...

I want to let you know say that there is no comfortable time, when man spirit don decide to settle down it should not be discouraged.

I was expecting you to ask him what time of work he is doing, whats the profession of his prospective wife. He should immediately search for extra skill to acquire because double expenses is on the way that will require adequate care.

Hustle and be comfortable when bro? with the same income?

victorazyvictor:


Yes your very correct!

Am an architect, I have two friends who got big contracts, went and rented duplex of 3m now one is back to River state where he came from after refusing to pay us, and he is a bachelor. So he will be carrying diff women, lodge in big hotels, now where are the women, yet he is not married.

GistFullGround:




No qualms. I did not take it personally.
In 2019, NOTHING will make me quarrel with anybody because I don't know the spirit people carry.
I will use my energy to make more dough

Nobody knows his age, most people are assuming his current location.
What if he is a young guy of between 21 - 30 years of age? Can't he hustle more to buy a plot of land?

Anyways, sha take care

victorazyvictor:


Your right!

His age matters which we forgot to ask him.

Anyway, sorry for the little altercation.

Speedo17:
Yes! Yes!! And YES!!!
When I got married. I was living in a one room (face me I face you) family house. With B.Sc and a 12K teaching job. My wife who also just finished her NYSC joined me in that room after our wedding.
As expected, my siblings started picking on her and together we pooled some resources to set out. After looking for self contained apartment and it's cost challenges in PH. We met a kind Land Lord who offered us a store in front of his compound with the toilet behind the main house.
I had my first child in that store and my other bigger breaks began from that point.
Today I live in my own house in Abuja with the same wife and 3 kids.
Actually I'm glad we started that humble. And the Woman also believed we will move up.
How else do you know your life partner now that you are in a self contained apartment?
When you up how will she know how you started?

nkwuocha:


There's this colleague of mine in church that stays in one of this resettlement in Abuja.For years I know him to be a Hustler,he is into electricals. Young guy!He just opened his own house recently.
I don't know why people are killing themselves over nothing.Even people who were once in duplexes as we speak are moving out to kubwa axis and gwagwalada.
People just keep fooling themselves.

Newboss:


And some started poor and ended poor

Where una dey rush to? Nobody dey race with una o, so make una chill and make money

When you get married, everything gets VERY sophisticated, that's why they use the word "settle down"

You must not marry her now. If she's in a hurry, let her go ASAP

victorazyvictor:


God bless you my brother.

If the woman love me and agreed to start life with me, wetin concern and duplex now.

Duplex, fine cars, good life shall be there BUT age won't .....

Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

ehissi:


More like 13yrs, because he will want to furnish the place well before he marries.

On 80k per month, E go tey. Before he will now start saving for wedding, both traditional and spiritual (be it church or mosque)

pythonkid:


Why can't he get married now since he can't afford two bedroom for now , they can do family planning and put heads together to work on a brighter future , if you wait until you save enough for two bedroom my guy u may end up getting married 3years later than intended .

Ejiod:

Chisos both traditional & spiritual..
Badt guy...

Princedapace:


Bros, everyone must not reason like u.. what makes marriage more difficult is children.. Many average people get married abroad and plan how to raise kids.

As long as the guy and the lady are earning and are comfortable to settle down, they are free to do so. I dont blame u though, i blame the guy for even bringing stuff like this online..

Money doesnt guarantee shit. That money u think u av made can disappear within few seconds.. My brother, if ur babe is comfortable with ur standard and u are earning salary, fine, go ahead and marry if u both are okay. However, plan ur babies.

Black man and money mentality shaaa.. so, once he makes 'plenty money' his problems are over.. how many people are even earning over 100k in Nigeria of today?

beesyb:
Why not, please get married already. One of the self-inflicted problems an average youth battle is the urge to show off,live a fake life trying to impress people. Start small and move forward. I'll never live in a three bedroom flat with a husband who has neither procured a land to build his own house nor invest heavily in a business. I prefer living in a self-contain apartment until our own house is ready. Call me Ijebu, I will nod in affirmation. My brother,money can sometimes be a visitor. When it's in your home, use it well.
Very importantly,no need for an elaborate wedding. Pay bride price during a low key engagement and then go for registry. Please don't struggle for an elaborate wedding and one Iya Shade living in the opposite house(Iya ile okan) will still be eyeing your destiny.
My two cents

Offpoint:
yeah, The sex is always extra ordinary.
Abraham got married to Sarah in a hut
Adam was homeless when he married eve.
My great grandpa got married while still living with his father, my grandpa.
as long as there's enough space for bed, get married and pump those kids.

Happy Easter everyone.

Newboss:


My brother, it's not so much about money o. It's about the person with the money

50k a month is 600k per year All I see is enough pay to live in a nice flat without losing your shirt You can rent a decent flat for 150k a year.

The guy would be making a mistake by getting married now because he's even earning way beyond what I stated but still confused He should sort out his life first and leave marriage alone

The time he's to waste on marriage should be spent making money (yes, making money because he needs it for his future) If she can't wait, she should get lost because when they divorce tomorrow, nigga dey on his own

fergieboy:
people stay in ordinary one room sef and they go born reach 6 pikin

So self con. Is better

Goodplace:
Please advice, wish to get married, live in a self contain but working for a salary less than 80k. Is it reasonable to live with a wife in a one room?

demmydy:
Mr man, cut ur coat accordn 2 ur size. Beta still seek advice from ur pastor Bcus he will always be 4 u.