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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 3:00am On Jan 08, 2019
TRUST A B*ITCH AT YOUR PERIL!

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by freddaboh(m): 3:06am On Jan 08, 2019
luminouz:

My bro,i have never given any gf any monthly allowance since I was born and unless she is my wife,no girl will collect that shiit from me...its a relationship,not a job opportunity.. The sooner men realise u overinflate women's egos when u do these 'allowance' thingies,the better...Don't u see Women are either wired for love or for materialistic gains....u deceive ursef when u think women equate the two...she either truly loves u or she is in it for the money.....
What dafuq is that rubbish statement...'taking care of me as my bf' when she couldn't visit u in Ibadan after Ur accident... What if you died She wouldn't ever give a damn.....Like a poster said above,learn to control ur woman.....be in charge, women are like lionesses...they respect strength,will and power....the moment u show weakness(being too nice,stop taking charge, being predictable,less mysterious,dull) they take over and take you for granted. If only men understood women like I do,the world would be way easier for us to live in.... No matter how pretty she is, a Lich Queen (leech mama) can never get my attention... U need to have something to offer as a woman(intellectually, hardworking, insightful, diligent and so on) before I even look at you... We are supposed to be MEN not he-goats controlled by sex and pheromones....

Until Men start acting like they are men,women will continue to use reverse psychology, click-bait technique and emotional blackmail to make men sissies....I watched a lion documentary of what happened to an old lion who couldn't control his pride...I could literally see the disgust on the faces of d lionesses,they booed him off,shooed him off, chase him round like a little bitch and force him to eat last over a meal...it was the most pathetic thing I have ever seen...they literally killed him themselves (allowing a new male to enter the pride and chase the oldie away,he died the next day from his battle wounds). It taught me a monumental lesson ...no matter what they say,women respect an Alpha,a male in control,it drives them insane and keeps them in check...u lose ur will,u lose their respect...so learn to say No to her demands,keep her guessing,be mysterious,being too nice to women(even the ones who love u truly) translates to weakness.....u were made by evolution to lead,be in control, take charge... Not begging her to 'manage' 25k as if she be Angel Gabriel when she hasn't even given u a kobo since u knew her....or buying her IphoneX cuz she asked for it(of cuz she might have used the line ' a bf must cater for his gf') as if u be her fada. I see some stuffs men do and i wonder whether I'm alone around here with some senses left...u already made her feel like the MAN in the relationship,so she took charge!!

Conclusion:

So,never ever ever ever kowtow or sissify ursef cuz of a woman...be an Alpha.. Be in charge..and watch while they beat themselves up to gain ur attention(money or no money)

#Luminouznuggets#
You are right on that. Show no weaknesses and you ate in control of the relationship.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by alfredo4u(m): 3:11am On Jan 08, 2019
larryking540:


I still don't get it
Watin go make guy wake up one morning say na girl way u never marry or give belle u wan day pay her school fees, ,,just becus say she accept to date u, ,,,na wa for some guys oo

Even devil kws dat some guys are stupid


U have not been in love before....... Sometimes people do crazy things for love....






Me and u no be the same........ Maybe ur family genre is that of hating and not caring...... Mine is of love and caring

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Divay22(f): 3:21am On Jan 08, 2019
JasonScoolari:
Divay22, good morning, come and share yours cheesy
I don't have a past relationship just my current one tongue
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by omhor(f): 3:25am On Jan 08, 2019
selfwife:
Never trust a man with all. Something you never considered might be his downfall.


Can you pls explain further?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by omhor(f): 3:26am On Jan 08, 2019
ValCon888:

No matter how many orgasms you give her, she'll still leave you if you don't have money.


Wow...like seriously!!!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by ClumsyFlimsy: 3:31am On Jan 08, 2019
After reading all the. Funny comments from guys. I can gladly call myself an alpha male. Cos I can't tolerate quarter of this shit and hoes be tripping. Funny thing is that I don't do all this bad boy or alpha male shit. I just live naturally; I think my own key abi strength is LOVE. Yes LOVE in the sense that I love myself so much I enjoy being with me in such a weird manner , money wey I go give hoe I no go use Am buy better things for myself, travel go different places and see different things amd experience so much. Sometimes I would wish to experience love just to understand what others feel but at the end of the day I realise my love is already reserved for me my son and future unborn daughters and son. Movies don follow brainwash men this days . Men are weaker in this generation age and time compared to before.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Xioxing: 3:32am On Jan 08, 2019
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by cooltola(m): 3:52am On Jan 08, 2019
Anyone that cheat on you abeg eliminate the relationship sharp sharp. Better to be single than date a cheating partner. And please stop giving gf allowances or monthly income especially if she is not wife. My experience i will never ever ever do a long distance relationship ever.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Hoodbilonia: 3:58am On Jan 08, 2019
my ex left me because i fukd hee too much
at times 6times a day...
i miss her big ass .

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by cooltola(m): 4:02am On Jan 08, 2019
mikaelangelov:
It's not yet an ex relationship but I believe by weekend it will be.

I've been too easy and simple for the bae aswear, and even she herself says that, I girl I've never shouted on before, never cheated on her, she will never say that I've failed getting her whatever she's requested for, a girl that I've fed comfortably since early 2018 till now, just name it, yet bae still got the guts to cheat me countless times, cheated on me with random guys that can't even match my shoes even though they're all older than I am, aborted babies for them and I still care for her, buying her life relief drugs during the recuperating stages thinking it's menstrual related issues, got her a job so she wouldn't be idle, best way she could make me proud is to become a cum-bag to her boss who offers her nothing, just because they all offer her marriage which I don't want to tell her first because I want her to learn a skill this 2019 first, before I'll think about tying the knot with her, my only crime was loving her too much, well next 60 days I'll be moving permanently to Copenhagen so I guess marrying a white chick is the next thing,

infact I know that I've reached my boiling point and enough is enough,
Are you serious? Well first you are not married to her so you are not obligated to help her in any way or form. Secondly there is no trust in this relationship if what you say is true. When a relationship has no trust then my bro just end the relationship asap. Once a cheater always cheater. You can be nice but being nice does not mean being a fool. You can be nice and assertive at the same time. Please get your mind occupied so you dont think about her e.g hanging out with friend , get busy with work, so you can move on. There is always hope

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Peterlawyer(m): 4:13am On Jan 08, 2019
This post just made my day... Girls are very dangerous be very careful with them they come for money and help they could get from you not Love guys be very careful

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by ofiko123(m): 4:22am On Jan 08, 2019
ajalawole:
if you know, you know

grin

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by dingbang(m): 4:32am On Jan 08, 2019
Nigerian relationships sef, ike gwuru.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by lordizak(m): 4:37am On Jan 08, 2019
missimelda01:
I learnt to respect people's view about life, if we can't find a point of balance then it's Better we stay out of eachother's lives instead of fighting all the time sad

I have already fallen in love with you.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by felixmuyiwa: 4:51am On Jan 08, 2019
OYO State CBT Centre

Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 4:54am On Jan 08, 2019
obembet:
It's very bad to cheat, that is my regret so far that make me lose the man of my dream.I wish he can give me second chance but God knows the best

Share yours guys


Never sacrifice for any man who is not your husband. Once you upgrade them, they will start giving you problems. Better to have heartbreak with full pockets

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by mrkings1999(m): 4:55am On Jan 08, 2019
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.
Bro face your family, even though if they are OK take care of your guys, girls are really wicked, I hate them now I swear. I know you are older than me but am talking from experience.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by HeavenlyCherub(f): 4:58am On Jan 08, 2019
Omenka87:
some females are after help not love so b careful , I have quickly learnt to differentiate between help and love

How?
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by SexExpert(m): 4:59am On Jan 08, 2019
mikaelangelov:
It's not yet an ex relationship but I believe by weekend it will be.

I've been too easy and simple for the bae aswear, and even she herself says that, I girl I've never shouted on before, never cheated on her, she will never say that I've failed getting her whatever she's requested for, a girl that I've fed comfortably since early 2018 till now, just name it, yet bae still got the guts to cheat me countless times, cheated on me with random guys that can't even match my shoes even though they're all older than I am, aborted babies for them and I still care for her, buying her life relief drugs during the recuperating stages thinking it's menstrual related issues, got her a job so she wouldn't be idle, best way she could make me proud is to become a cum-bag to her boss who offers her nothing, just because they all offer her marriage which I don't want to tell her first because I want her to learn a skill this 2019 first, before I'll think about tying the knot with her, my only crime was loving her too much, well next 60 days I'll be moving permanently to Copenhagen so I guess marrying a white chick is the next thing,

infact I know that I've reached my boiling point and enough is enough,

I can feel your pain.
Just smile and move on!
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by ujampie: 5:08am On Jan 08, 2019
Love is a compound word and relationship is a level playing ground........ Give your best to it and don't give your all, just to avoid being hurt at the end of it all. ... A partner cheating on you doesn't necessarily mean you aren't good for them, but in their own quest for exploit...... Go for a cool headed lady whom is contempted with what you can offer..... Run from flashy lights slay Queen �... They would run your savings down and still cheat with your uncle.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Nobody: 5:19am On Jan 08, 2019
femi4:
you ll cheat again, if given the second chance.....OKAFOR'S LAW
Exactly.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by TyroneP(m): 5:32am On Jan 08, 2019
obembet:
It's very bad to cheat, that is my regret so far that make me lose the man of my dream.I wish he can give me second chance but God knows the best

Share yours guys


Never to trust a woman so much.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Speedyconnect15: 5:34am On Jan 08, 2019
Omenka87:
some females are after help not love so b careful , I have quickly learnt to differentiate between help and love

What's the diff between help and love?


its all same. Relationship is business.

Strictly business.
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Sushsu7: 5:56am On Jan 08, 2019
U all should go and read proverb 31

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Paxie55: 6:00am On Jan 08, 2019
luminouz:

My bro,i have never given any gf any monthly allowance since I was born and unless she is my wife,no girl will collect that shiit from me...its a relationship,not a job opportunity.. The sooner men realise u overinflate women's egos when u do these 'allowance' thingies,the better...Don't u see Women are either wired for love or for materialistic gains....u deceive ursef when u think women equate the two...she either truly loves u or she is in it for the money.....
What dafuq is that rubbish statement...'taking care of me as my bf' when she couldn't visit u in Ibadan after Ur accident... What if you died She wouldn't ever give a damn.....Like a poster said above,learn to control ur woman.....be in charge, women are like lionesses...they respect strength,will and power....the moment u show weakness(being too nice,stop taking charge, being predictable,less mysterious,dull) they take over and take you for granted. If only men understood women like I do,the world would be way easier for us to live in.... No matter how pretty she is, a Lich Queen (leech mama) can never get my attention... U need to have something to offer as a woman(intellectually, hardworking, insightful, diligent and so on) before I even look at you... We are supposed to be MEN not he-goats controlled by sex and pheromones....

Until Men start acting like they are men,women will continue to use reverse psychology, click-bait technique and emotional blackmail to make men sissies....I watched a lion documentary of what happened to an old lion who couldn't control his pride...I could literally see the disgust on the faces of d lionesses,they booed him off,shooed him off, chase him round like a little bitch and force him to eat last over a meal...it was the most pathetic thing I have ever seen...they literally killed him themselves (allowing a new male to enter the pride and chase the oldie away,he died the next day from his battle wounds). It taught me a monumental lesson ...no matter what they say,women respect an Alpha,a male in control,it drives them insane and keeps them in check...u lose ur will,u lose their respect...so learn to say No to her demands,keep her guessing,be mysterious,being too nice to women(even the ones who love u truly) translates to weakness.....u were made by evolution to lead,be in control, take charge... Not begging her to 'manage' 25k as if she be Angel Gabriel when she hasn't even given u a kobo since u knew her....or buying her IphoneX cuz she asked for it(of cuz she might have used the line ' a bf must cater for his gf') as if u be her fada. I see some stuffs men do and i wonder whether I'm alone around here with some senses left...u already made her feel like the MAN in the relationship,so she took charge!!

Conclusion:

So,never ever ever ever kowtow or sissify ursef cuz of a woman...be an Alpha.. Be in charge..and watch while they beat themselves up to gain ur attention(money or no money)

#Luminouznuggets#
Rubbish
If you like be an alpha from here till tomorrow, if you don't have money, oyo is your case.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by tallskinnyperv(m): 6:14am On Jan 08, 2019
obembet:
It's very bad to cheat, that is my regret so far that make me lose the man of my dream.I wish he can give me second chance but God knows the best

Share yours guys

why did u cheat..cos of money or dicck undecided
Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by Happyfela(m): 6:14am On Jan 08, 2019
Don't go Raw on ur Gf thinking shes only yours, U will get shocked by Live wire one day... Use a condom always.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by islandmoon: 6:21am On Jan 08, 2019
never spend any tangible money on a girl you have not married, she can walk away at any time if she get a better offer, you are not her father.

promise her heaven and earth, and be nacking her until she get sense to run.

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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by flyca: 6:22am On Jan 08, 2019
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Re: What Is The Biggest Lesson You Learnt From A Past Relationship? by b0rn2fuck(m): 6:24am On Jan 08, 2019
PrinceBBlack:
Well for me, i had a girl who i met in 2016. She is currently in her final year and i work with Nigerian Breweries in Enugu. I give this babe a monthly allowance of 50k while she doesnt even get 10k from being that her parents are in the village and he uncle gives her schoolfees.
First, i realized that i loved her so much with my heart that i forgot to use my head. I had a car accident in 2017. i was in the hospital for four months and then relocated to Ibadan where i was till september in 2018 where i was recouperating getting ready for a final surgery. I got her an Iphone X in that same september. In october, i told her that i was no longer getting salary that i wont be able to keep up with the 50k allowance but i could still manage 25k. Do u believe this girl said she cant come to Ibadan cos its far to visit and that i reduced the allowance i give her that what is 25k going to do for her. She finally said if i cant carry out my duty as a bf, that i should let her be. Well it was easy for me... i could part with the money but i personally sent someone to collect the Iphone X i bought for her and told her that the phone isnt my problem but she is an ungrateful piece of a person. Broke up with her and the phone is still in my wardrobe with full accessories since its not up to 1month i bought it waiting for the next person. I didnt love with my head but loved with my heart. If u dont take care of them, na war, if u do, na still wahala.
Don't put any girls on a payroll even your wife because the very day you stop paying them , they look for alternative

Never impress any woman with cash and not even phone gift any more, because you will be shocked that the same phone you bought for will be use to chat and search for other clients boyfriend like you

The very day you give any woman tangibles cash, you have sold your relationship for cash and she will start seeing you as ATM and not boyfriend

No woman can ask me for card anymore, but should the moment they claimed they want to call their parent, I will only send 100# card . not because the card is expensive but I always tell them I cannot send 200 or 500 card, you use 15# to say thank you to me and the rest 485# to call some other guys or chat with them, I will never be fool again, I have lost over 2m impressing a lady and one paying 5k weekly, I don mumu in the past like you

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