Tallesty1:
Do you know that you're a witch if you can wash for your mother but cannot wash for your mother in law.

You don't want him to suffer somebody's daughter but you will shift your family's financial responsibilities to somebody's son.
The way some of you reason is pathetic.

I was Confused by the Question, but even more surprised by that lady's response.
Leave that immature, i too know girl wey no know life alone.
I feel really sad for any Nice young man that would be unfortunate to marry her

lilmax:
lol....is it girls of 19 years comment you guys are taking seriously?

oh my days, old family section comes to mind....

Hehehehe remember she said she is Not 'emotional' lol

No mind the mumu

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Very funny how you people rush to comment without being objective. There are so many circumstances that can make a daughter Inlaw do her mother in law's laundary. If the old woman is staying with them and sick,then she can. If they travel to visit her in her place and she is not in good condition, her daughter Inlaw can help out. Nobody forces his wife to start washing for his mother.Let's always put two and two together before commenting.

jakandeola:
when u marry dont cook or wash for mum in law and see if dey wont chase u away

if she was dangotes daughter or bill gates daughter would you make this statement or expect this nonsense from her

I pity any woman who dates a man with primitive mentality and treats him like her alpha and omega

Don't you know that its the way you carry your spouse( husband or wife) that your family members will treat her

If you don't respect your wife and see her as a glorified house help your family would use her like a slave ( same for husband)

If you treat her like a Queen your family and everyone around will respect her

No one is chasing anyone out of the house except the man of the house lacks balls and can't put his foot on the ground as to how his wife should be treated.

If both parties decide to get a divorce its entirely their decision and shouldn't be because family members are the decision makers.

Is it a crime for a son to wash his mother's clothes?
Please, get your mom's clothes out and start washing. Perhaps your girlfriend will join you and both can do it together

UyaiIncomparabl:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!

Madam, there's absolutely nothing wrong for my wife to help out. It is not like it's a everyday thing. If I find myself in a similar position to help out her dad, I would.

Let's not let pride fill our heart so much that we no long know the difference between right n wrong.

Where is d love that we all keep confessing

Khallyella:
This man again, the mature comment you crave for is right after your post, but I'll ask you, is it a bad thing to wash for your wife's dad?

No, it's not bad.

77up:
Am sure that ftc is one of those stupid low life pained basterd feminist


Did she know that op before cox am just wondering why she's so bitter laidat

There has been a previous post on this matter on family section.
So this is a follow up.
Try look for it and read then understand the FTC.

ShameOnAPC:
Foolish Question, this is my story

I experienced one silly act from my fiance (26) when we both went to celebrate new year with my family, they welcomed her , treat her nice, in fact my mom always want her by her side , we are to leave on the 3rd, I told her to wash my bedsheet and the wrapper that my mom gave her to tie, she declined ,saying we need to take them to laundry as she can't wash them(not a slave mindset) a Lady that her parent doesn't have a washing machine ,after nagging with me for long, I told her she should go back to her base alone as I won't drive her along with me neither will I give her tfare, I will never marry a bossy lady, not knowing my mom was watching her, she said to me secretly, don't fight with her, let her be, you haven't gotten a fiance, let her return to her base in peace and leave her to be dating herself. she later washed the wrapper and bedsheet.
When we were returning back to our base, guess what, my mom called her to her bedroom, talk nicely to her and cracked joke with her, bought 2 different ankara for her , gave her cash & some of her used jewelries .
She as been calling my mom on phone every now and then to thank her thinking she has gotten a mother in-law to be, but didn't know my mom as rejected her and I will soon dump her.

To the OP ,know the type of lady you'll marry, Courtship is very important, Linda ikeji that was shouting men are scum have been used and dumped .

Never marry a feminist

Your girlfriend was obviously very wrong not to wash the bedsheets and wrapper she used when visiting. In fact as a guest she is expected to do certain chores except your mom tells her to completely hands off from it as her guest that she wants to relax

But I'm sorry to tell you that your mom is two faced. You might feel offended but that's the truth ( in fact you and your mom)

If she was her daughter wouldn't she have called her and corrected her. I know you will say your sister is well trained and can't do that sort of thing but nobody is a know it all. No one is perfect.


Some people aren't very good at social interactions , social intelligence and reading people. For some people yes is yes and no is no. They don't understand that people can be passive aggressive.

I'm even surprised that you will just break up with someone you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Is it that you already had many things against her and that was the straw that broke the camels back.

Aren't there memories and sacrifices that you both share that will make you think twice or maybe you picked her from among several girlfriends and now you are going back to reshuffle to pick another one.


At least she did the washing at the end when she realized she was wrong.


This is how you men end up marrying retired slay Queens . If its washing bedsheets, floor, wall , car and cooking for the whole family these girls have a degree until you marry them. They are even fervent n church .

The best spouse isn't someone who is perfect but someone who is willing to be corrected and learn from their mistakes.

If you have decide to break up with the girl, let her go now instead of wasting her time sleeping with her you don't know the extent she can go to take revenge for deceit and time wasted.

I think she's lucky sef

No problem washing ur mother - in-law's laundry(s) but it shouldn't be compulsory.

3 things a lady needs to enjoy and rule her marriage: 1. Win your mother in-law heart 2. Be a good cook 3. Be humble to your husband.
And all other thing(s) will be an added bonus.

pocohantas:


I am far from lazy, but I have more mental strength than physical. I am also of the school of thought that we work/earn money to make life easier. Time that I should use and rest the brain earning me money, cuddle with my boo, chat and catch up with loved ones? I will na use it and be washing clothes?

LOL......anyways we all have choices!!

Mac12:
I happily wash for my mother in law even without her asking. I don't see it as a big deal

I wish I can like your comment a thousands time ....not all those one forming washing machine generation ...

Not bad, she also regards you and her daughter.

Is the husband's mother living with the son and his family? If yes, then they should find a way to do laundry in that home. They can get laundry woman or man to do laundry weekly on weekends or get a washing machine.

If the woman can wash her own mum's clothes, then no issues with MIL. Then again, it is depends on the DILs schedule, she can't work in Lagos, go through traffic stress and then come back home to begin laundry of the entire village in ekiti state, she is a wife not a slave in a plantation farm.

Get a washing machine, this is 2019 no longer stone age or cave man Era.

nkwuocha:


Well she will tell you to do it.

That one is different. At least you'll know that is what she wants you to do since she has asked.

And ones she asked you twice,as a smart person,the kitchen is no longer new to you.She believes the kitchen soon will no longer be her issues and you're there to take over. At this point as a new wife,the wife now will decide what to cook for the family and money will be provided.

Well since these are her rules and her sons have no issues with it.
It's all good.

Not really a bad thing...
As far as you wash your own mother why wouldn't you do the same to her

generationz:


Your girlfriend was obviously very wrong not to wash the bedsheets and wrapper she used when visiting. In fact as a guest she is expected to do certain chores except your mom tells her to completely hands off from it as her guest that she wants to relax

But I'm sorry to tell you that your mom is two faced. You might feel offended but that's the truth ( in fact you and your mom)

If she was her daughter wouldn't she have called her and corrected her. I know you will say your sister is well trained and can't do that sort of thing but nobody is a know it all. No one is perfect.


Some people aren't very good at social interactions , social intelligence and reading people. For some people yes is yes and no is no. They don't understand that people can be passive aggressive.

I'm even surprised that you will just break up with someone you chose to spend the rest of your life with. Is it that you already had many things against her and that was the straw that broke the camels back.

Aren't there memories and sacrifices that you both share that will make you think twice or maybe you picked her from among several girlfriends and now you are going back to reshuffle to pick another one.


At least she did the washing at the end when she realized she was wrong.


This is how you men end up marrying retired slay Queens . If its washing bedsheets, floor, wall , car and cooking for the whole family these girls have a degree until you marry them. They are even fervent n church .

The best spouse isn't someone who is perfect but someone who is willing to be corrected and learn from their mistakes.

If you have decide to break up with the girl, let her go now instead of wasting her time sleeping with her you don't know the extent she can go to take revenge for deceit and time wasted.

I think she's lucky sef

if I can like your post a million times, I will certainly do that. you wrote with so much wisdom and maturity.

Biingoo:
The ftc is probably a pained feminist

I'm not.

The truth is, the OP brags about having too much money. Let him get his mama a damn washing machine.

queenjuli:

if I can like your post a million times, I will certainly do that. you wrote with so much wisdom and maturity.

thanks dear

sacajawea:

I was Confused by the Question, but even more surprised by that lady's response.
Leave that immature, i too know girl wey no know life alone.
I feel really sad for any Nice young man that would be unfortunate to marry her

Ok.

I'm much in a very smooth relationship, and we are good. No hassles. You can't always be right everytime. Everyone can have the same mentality as yours. I hope you have sense in your later years.

77up:
Am sure that ftc is one of those stupid low life pained basterd feminist


Did she know that op before cox am just wondering why she's so bitter laidat

Hahahahahhaha. Awon werey 100%. Keep them guessing. I'm no frigging feminist!

Tallesty1:
Do you know that you're a witch if you can wash for your mother but cannot wash for your mother in law.

You don't want him to suffer somebody's daughter but you will shift your family's financial responsibilities to somebody's son.
The way some of you reason is pathetic.

Hahahahhahahahha.

Koolking:



I don't understand this your fiancee part. The subject emphasized "husband mother". Mother in-law is a mother, forget the words.

However, act of kindness and sense of responsibility is not pride neither does it take away your glory. Be humble

She's not yet a wife. Still a fiancée. Until he wifes her, no homely responsibilities please. Every body has got their different opinions. Thanks.

lilmax:
lol....is it girls of 19 years comment you guys are taking seriously?

oh my days, old family section comes to mind....

Ok. Ancient of days.

sureheaven:
It's not right. Is she your maid? Is your mum so old and frail or doesn't have a daughter(s) to do them for her? If your mum needs help with the laundry(ies), please get her a washing machine.

That isn't a way to define a wife material, which in actuality, your fiancée is trying too hard to please and prove to you. Some girls and desperation are inseparable. I read your former thread, you were so incoherent, unwilling to adhere to people's advice and here you are again, fidgeting and pleading for us to give you another? For what? For you to perhaps chose a comment which best suits your interest and myopic/faulty thinking.

Simple, get your mother a maid or a washing machine, and of course I expect you also teach her how to use it. Don't stress someone else's daughter, and please, get a frigging life!

You're too egotistical. And errr, she's not your wife yet. Still a fiancée. She owes you or your immediate family no homely rights. You leave the important things undone and tend to the minute ones which are utmost inconsequential. Even if she eventually becomes your wife, she still owes no RIGHT. Grab that!


It depends on your upbringing. All these your long writr up sound like someone who is feels too pompous.
My wife at times watches my mum's clothes despite I will tell her not to. She will tell me she is using it to do exercise.

Ok sir.

pocohantas:
Is it bad? No, it isn't bad.

Will I do it? No, I wouldn't do it.

I can't remember the last time I even washed my own clothes with seriousness.

I wonder why it is men always asking all these questions.

Mehn. Bae. Leave these pained creatures. I find it very hard washing my clothes sef, to top another na hassle on him own.

If I will do it, I will. If I won't, you won't force me.

sacramento1212:


Very good of you. May God bless you with a good man.

Hahahahahhahaha.

sacramento1212:


Very good of you. May God bless you with a good man.

Hahahahahhahaha.
AMEN!

jakandeola:
it means u are lazy and not ripe for marriage

Lol. Oga go sleep.

nkwuocha:


Oga calm down.
If you want a lady that will wash your mom's clothes,you should go get that woman.Women plenty for market.Dem full yakata everywhere.Not all men fancy this washing of clothes to prove loyalty things abeg.

Oil dey your head.

jakandeola:
ur opinion is idiotic and foolish and insane. mind ur words

Lol. Must everyone agree to your 21st slavery incentive?