No body actually gives a Bleep know that, believe that and you shall be free

Op, you are self-absorbed and feeling entitiled. .

Read Subtle ways of not giving a f*ck by Mark Manson.. Thank me later.

undefeateds:
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SKhanmipost=74928815:
Your topic itself screams out the problem. Dude you have just 2 things to fix. Work on your self esteem & stop giving a damn! Most of the introverts I've come across Ehn,you either fear or respect them. How come yours is different? Cos you want to prove yourself & they see it.

Through out my 100level,i maintain my distance with everybody,but they do say it behind me and even to my face that i always form,and am proud,and during my 200,i try to associate myself with everybody on and off-k,but right now,both left and right,everything is humiliation for me,i can't even retrace my step,am in locked zone,but thanks to everyone that have been commenting

undefeateds

Please message me in case you need to talk about this. Be careful about the kind of advice you heed to on here.

This is just a phase of life you're going through and this one is not going to last.

You don't need material things or validation from other people to feel confident about yourself.

Start by getting feedback about your behavior and everything else from people that know you dearly and won't judge you. Think of it like a SWOT analysis.

Afterwards, write out the things you would like to change based on the former paragraph.

By the way, getting girls is one of the easiest things ever, LOL, but getting the ones with commonsense however. Don't sweat on it.

I just feel you need to talk to someone (uncle, cousin etc) who has more experience than you constantly. The Internet would confuse you trust me.

undefeateds:
'm a guy in my mid 20s,and am bored about how things are going for me,why am I always rejected,nobody want to listen to me,no one give a damn Bleep about how I feel,even those that am sure am better than,they always want to make fun of me,they now turn me to joking subject.

For instance,if we are given a group work to do in class,and I try to raise a suggestion, no one will listen, but if everything goes wrong,and I bring an idea and perhaps it works, they will see it as ordinary,but if it works through another guy,the person will be like god.
And this thing has now advance from my academic life to real life,all the girls ve ever asked out in my life do turn me down and d most painful one is d one wey I approach d last time, she is my best friend and she is d one I do confide in,she bluntly told me without feeling any remorse that 'I don't need u,I know wat I want'. That is the most brutal response ve ever heard in my life,since that time am just depressed.

i don't know if i always appear stupid or not,but naturally am an introvert and whenever am doing that they see me as a proud guy,but d more I try to get familiar with people,the more they take me for granted, how do I get out from this,cos right now,everything just tire me.

Do u talk too much when you are among your peer? And do you contribute to issues when you are not to do so? If you do both of the aforementioned points then work on them ,look for a Bible believing chruch miss up with men who are older than u in age and not the ones that will current ur good manners . I asssure u this will work .follow the guidelines

The root of your problem is self confident.

You lack confidence in self and as a result, you look for external validation.

You try to go the extra mile for others, in other to get that external validation.

People around you knows this and they take advantage of it.

Rule No. 1. Fvck everyone.
Rule No. 2. Fvck everyone.
Rule No. 3. Fvck everyone.

Thank me later.

Don't be needy

Don't ask a girl out directly

Don't give a bleep

Reduce the frequency of jokes you make

Keep a straight face always, avoid smiling too much

Get angry and react immediately when you are offended

Don't be too available: Absence creates value

Talk less and only when necessary

Ignore anyone who ignores you

Realise that people who get to talk to you are privileged


Be assertive, learn to reject and say NO(without explanation*) to unreasonable demand and request made by guys and girls


Finally, think big, start seeing yourself as someone who is too important. and stop texting that girl.


Infact, Block her on WhatsApp ,when you see her next time, bone your face and ignore her and watch her feel the way you are feeling now.


Reply this post, I want to ask a question.

undefeateds:
'm a guy in my mid 20s,and am bored about how things are going for me,why am I always rejected,nobody want to listen to me,no one give a damn Bleep about how I feel,even those that am sure am better than,they always want to make fun of me,they now turn me to joking subject.

For instance,if we are given a group work to do in class,and I try to raise a suggestion, no one will listen, but if everything goes wrong,and I bring an idea and perhaps it works, they will see it as ordinary,but if it works through another guy,the person will be like god.
And this thing has now advance from my academic life to real life,all the girls ve ever asked out in my life do turn me down and d most painful one is d one wey I approach d last time, she is my best friend and she is d one I do confide in,she bluntly told me without feeling any remorse that 'I don't need u,I know wat I want'. That is the most brutal response ve ever heard in my life,since that time am just depressed.

i don't know if i always appear stupid or not,but naturally am an introvert and whenever am doing that they see me as a proud guy,but d more I try to get familiar with people,the more they take me for granted, how do I get out from this,cos right now,everything just tire me.

The ultimate rule is what you are lacking.

Love yourself, show yourself love and it ll build your self esteem.

Improve your knowledge
Improve your skills
Improve your dress sense
Eat well and sleep well
Believe in yourself

Do all these and be independent and watch people rushing you like pure water

Toto no be poor man food.
Cc Hungryboy
OP, Be confident and increase your self esteem.

nobody puts food on your table, so dont give a hoot what anybody say or feel about you. Be proud of your personality.

undefeateds:

Through out my 100level,i maintain my distance with everybody,but they do say it behind me and even to my face that i always form,and am proud,and during my 200,i try to associate myself with everybody on and off-k,but right now,both left and right,everything is humiliation for me,i can't even retrace my step,am in locked zone,but thanks to everyone that have been commenting

the averrage Nigerian is an hypocrite. Dont try to please anybody and displease yourself.

vladhillz:
you are pathetic..and they definitely see you that way...get your shi*t together..stop feeling bothered ..walk either like you are special or you don't give a fu*k about who else is special..and dia you have it..you will glow..and they will want to tap in..but you are still pathetic though..sigh#

What's it with the pathetic song you are singing?

JESUSBOIY:
Don't be needy

Don't ask a girl out directly

Don't give a bleep

Reduce the frequency of jokes you make

Keep a straight face always, avoid smiling too much

Get angry and react immediately when you are offended

Don't be too available: Absence creates value

Talk less and only when necessary

Ignore anyone who ignores you

Realise that people who get to talk to you are privileged


Be assertive, learn to reject and say NO(without explanation*) to unreasonable demand and request made by guys and girls


Finally, think big, start seeing yourself as someone who is too important. and stop texting that girl.


Infact, Block her on WhatsApp ,when you see her next time, bone your face and ignore her and watch her feel the way you are feeling now.


Reply this post, I want to ask a question.

You hit the nail on the head boy!

vladhillz:
you are pathetic..and they definitely see you that way...get your shi*t together..stop feeling bothered ..walk either like you are special or you don't give a fu*k about who else is special..and dia you have it..you will glow..and they will want to tap in..but you are still pathetic though..sigh#

Be singing "pathetic pathetic" like a canary.

undefeateds:

sometimes, to get familiar with people

a girl once told me I'm not in her class when I asked her for relationship. it was brutal then but it's nothing... I reminded her many years later and she said she didn't remember saying that. And she begged me for recharge card.
Life is crazy, don't take anything too serious

op

we are on the same shoes o


I still pass through this; But what keeps me going is I don't give a fvck about other people's opinion about me

it doesn't matter in as much as you don't add any value to my life

EasternDamsel4:
Hope you don't have zero self esteem sha

Get ur acts together and focus.

If you have not been dressing properly, begin to do that. In fact, how's your personal hygiene like? Hope you brush your mouth thoroughly? Always comb your hair...cream your body, get a sweet perfume or body spray, roll on.. .smell good. I don't mean you should break a bank to look good.

Talk with confidence when in a group and less jokes...if really you want pple to take you seriously. Learn to stay in your lane and always avoid trouble.

Atimes lend a helping hand to your classmates if you can.

Always be cool, calm and collected...smile often. Don't be insultive too...get serious with your academic. Stop skipping class.
Ladies like to flock around guys like these.

Above all pls never you feel bad or look down on yourself....I love the fact you shared your problem here. You will be fine, OK. Warm hug to you

LOL... I've seen guys with that qualities and yet no one gives a jack!

DUDE should get money as fast as possible

Suicide... Only solution, because people are not even taking you seriously here as well

Mariangeles:
If you need someone to talk to, you can send me an email

The best solution so far

undefeateds:

I don't have any tight friend apart from d one I mention over there,and since dat time i don't have any real friend cos am just downgraded, whenever I sent her message, she don't reply anymore

Well, delete her number and her from you life. Act like you don't give a fvck about her. Live your life and most importantly live it happily.
Let happiness ooze from your personality.
Stay fresh.
Eat well
Dress well
Don't force any borrowed personality on yourself.
Search inwards for what gives you happiness most and do it.
Do Not rely on people's comment for approval

Work on you confidence....
read self help book ...
Mingle with confident people
..

Tombrown3:

LOL... I've seen guys with that qualities and yet no one gives a jack!

DUDE should get money as fast as possible

"....money as fast as possible? ?" Lol

Some of us don't have money but we exude charm, confidence and great influence.

I don master d art...no b today. Lol

EasternDamsel4:


Be singing "pathetic pathetic" like a canary.

I understand you would rather have him acting weak..I understand..

Artistree:

What's it with the pathetic song you are singing?

wow..I must be really good for you to think that's a song..damn..

Curvinus:
op maybe you're ugly, skinny, not manly or look a little boy that didn't pass through puberty. looks really matter in life and the blame should go to whoever bestowed you with such shitty genetics.
however, you must learn to accept yourself the way you are and hopefully, over time something may change or you may discover what works for you.

but for now, you should concentrate on your studies and strive to become gainfully employed when you leave school to give you some leverage.

Thunder fire your life!

Redoil:
Work on ur self

Shut up he need money .. Just face money for the next 5 years .. And you will control your social life easily

EasternDamsel4:

"....money as fast as possible? ?" Lol

Some of us don't have money but we exude charm, confidence and great influence.

I don master d art...no b today. Lol

You go dey miserable when yahoo boy collect your GF no go hustle tight

vladhillz:
wow..I must be really good for you to think that's a song..damn..

LMAO

Four40:

Y and what makes him pathetic?

He is living his life to please others, he is not happy with who he is. If he Cant love and accept himself who will?

Mizk:
Work hard and make money, upgrade your looks, stop giving cheap unsolicited attention to people and you'll suddenly become expensive, there's a way I'll ignore you ehn you'll start doubting your existence, it works like magic, you sound like a needy and paranoid people pleaser though, learn to say fvck you sometimes.

spot on.. Especially giving unsolicited attention to people