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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Simplecity(m): 11:25pm On Jan 20, 2019
Jayslicky:
Abort mission!!! I repeat it again abort mission!!!, to avoid story of how all my properties was sold by my girlfriend.
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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Shola2009(m): 12:24am On Jan 21, 2019
Brother, at this stage it seems you're not that into this girl. Sort of like its nice to have sex 'on demand' and come home to a clean house, but its no skin off your back if she's not around. If you're really into her and she "checks" all your boxes, then you won't hesitate to make her a permanent fixture in your life. Do not give her the key, until you're very sure of her and your relationship with her.

Also, i'm not sure what girl with a stable job and her own hobbies and such, will be spending her limited time carrying out other people's chores and what not.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Dreamer19: 12:39am On Jan 21, 2019
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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by MagicPie: 12:40am On Jan 21, 2019
Have u knack her? If yes, she deserve the key. If no, to early to have the spare key.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by bukatyne(f): 12:42am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

See this bobo o!

When she cooks, you eat.

When she cleans, you accept it and the less than a month does not matter.

Now she wants spare key which is phase 2, you suddenly remembered that you've only being together a month and you did not make any 'committment' to her.

Bros, not every man will propose 'will you marry me' before they live together.

Also note that eating her food cooked in your kitchen is already a sign of acceptance of commitment.

I don't understand the 'introvert' ish. Won't your wife live full time with you after marriage or pregnancy?

How old are you both? What stage of life are you in?

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Yankee101: 12:44am On Jan 21, 2019
30 days?

Definitely don't
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Fitz22(f): 12:46am On Jan 21, 2019
It is not WISE..Tell her its too early and you re not so comfortable with it, simple. I won't give my key to any guy or gal.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Slynation(m): 12:52am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

from all indication she's a nice girl but u'r the one feeling insecure, if you love her, build ur relationship together,duration of rapport shouldn't be an issue at all, Key shouldn't be an issue also
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Hotfreezer: 12:55am On Jan 21, 2019
Give her the key jare. Your house has turned to Police station that anyone can enter.

At least, others would use your story to get sense.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Hotfreezer: 12:56am On Jan 21, 2019
Slynation:


from all indication she's a nice girl but u'r the one feeling insecure, if you love her, build ur relationship together,duration of rapport shouldn't be an issue at all, Key shouldn't be an issue

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Hotfreezer: 12:57am On Jan 21, 2019
bukatyne:


See this bobo o!

When she cooks, you eat.

When she cleans, you accept it and the less than a month does not matter.

Now she wants spare key which is phase 2, you suddenly remembered that you've only being together a month and you did not make any 'committment' to her.

Bros, not every man will propose 'will you marry me' before they live together.

Also note that eating her food cooked in your kitchen is already a sign of acceptance of commitment.

I don't understand the 'introvert' ish. Won't your wife live full time with you after marriage or pregnancy?

How old are you both? What stage of life are you in?

When he says he's not doing again you ladies would say men are scum.

Look at how she's throwing herself at him like okrika cloth.

Instead of her to allow him make his intentions clear, you're setting her up for heartbreak.

Assumption is the very root of heartbreak.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 12:58am On Jan 21, 2019
So because they've had sexxx, she's entitled to a spare key, right? Doesn't sound intelligent. They both enjoyed it so what again.
MagicPie:
Have u knack her? If yes, she deserve the key. If no, to early to have the spare key.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by mmadu5(m): 1:01am On Jan 21, 2019
the way women are rushing into a guys life these days my fellow guys make una dey careful most of these girls are devil

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Jewingle(m): 1:01am On Jan 21, 2019
Slynation:


from all indication she's a nice girl but u'r the one feeling insecure, if you love her, build ur relationship together,duration of rapport shouldn't be an issue at all, Key shouldn't be an issue
like I don’t even understand why the girl in the first place would ask for his spare keys just after one month of whatever they are doing? Like don’t women think sometimes?? This is an unnecessary pressure on the guy and some people are just nice in nature. Not that they really want to give you but they just don’t want to hurt your feelings and really don’t know how to go about it.It’s sad a girl will just demand for keys like chill girl!! It makes you look desperate and you don’t want us to start thinking you are because you can do anything.. women try to use your senses abeg. I take God beg ona!!

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by kenlinzo(m): 1:03am On Jan 21, 2019
If she is the only one in ur life rite now "YES" but if she is not "NO"
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Omoapena(m): 1:03am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??


Bro,
It's too early,

Let her understand it's too early for that & both of you need more time to know each other before she start living in with you...

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by optimusprime2(m): 1:06am On Jan 21, 2019
As *coughs* is part of the matter, it gets complicated...
All the *coughs* for the past one month especially during the festive periods certainly deserve the house key...

Perhaps it was 4 *coughs* a day, 50 *coughs* a week? Who knows, some people *coughs* like animals ... and one has to eat well to sustain the *coughs* and she was certainly the one cooking for before and after *coughs* I think she deserves the key...

You may be an introvert as you described, but all that talk that you keep inside, most definitely could have been unleashed during *coughs* who knows how you dealt with her during *coughs* guy, maybe you may have slackened her mechanism, fractured her gondola or pulverized her anatomy because of the psychotic blasts of introverted energy she has to deal with during *coughs* and she needs a place to recuperate-even Footballers rest after injuries... I think she deserves the key.

With the high rate at which pant thefts are on the rise, maybe due to savage ninjitsu techniques during *coughs* she forgets them at your place and she needs to start monitoring her pants, who knows? Maybe some techniques fling her pants right out the window, bros you never know?there has to be pant supervision during *coughs*... so once again, she needs to start monitoring her pants, with your place being a reference point... brov, her safety is a priority too, so for her pants sakes, I think she deserves the key.

Then again due to the fact that she may have become addicted to *coughs* because you may have a good schlong, I think she deserves the key, after all, you showed her your schlong. Nobody sent you to show her the schlong, so now she needs unlimited access please brov, don't deny her... She deserves the key.

With the following points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you to give her the key for *coughs* sake.

After all no body knows how you have been enjoying *coughs* and other *coughs* benefits... imagine must of us during the cold periods drink hot water and sleep, but you no, you had hot *coughs* ...
it's when you now see she is setting a strategy to ensure *coughs* ain't free no more, you came for help... Guy take time o.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by naturefellow(m): 1:08am On Jan 21, 2019
Not wise! Too early in the relationship.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Omoapena(m): 1:08am On Jan 21, 2019
MagicPie:
Have u knack her? If yes, she deserve the key. If no, to early to have the spare key.



More like a girl statement...

Using sex to get everything outta guys

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Boyooosa(m): 1:13am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

This is a No No!
Just tell her No! Whichever way. If she has house, so what's the need for quick ejaculation familiarity?
But in a cool n respectful manner, like:
I understand how much u want things to move faster BTW us and that I appreciate so much. I also wish we work things out as soon as now (mW, u r still not committing yourself) but I think we need to take it slowly, as in, a step at a time.
And about the key stuff(if there is need to chip in that again), I will hand it over to you at the appropriate time. Shikena!
No allow one desperate girl come use her disco scatter you reggae

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by tyup(m): 1:16am On Jan 21, 2019
Newboss:


Don't be nice with girls. If the case comes up again, just tell her no that you won't do that. If she ask why, tell her you don't want that. She'd respect you more for not being a doormat.

how would he just say no haba bros undecided

and to Whitewolf8 you're on a long thing here o even me dont even know the advise to give you

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by lordkoko1: 1:16am On Jan 21, 2019
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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Osinachiadinma: 1:24am On Jan 21, 2019
So what do you want us to tell you?
Whitewolf8:




I'm not interested in her moving in at all.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Adesouth(m): 1:26am On Jan 21, 2019
these hoes ain't loyal
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 1:29am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I'm not interested in her moving in at all.

Tell her not yet but b4 you do, tell her to stop cleaning and cooking and acting like she's your wife.

You are not entitled to those luxury yet if she can't have a spare key to your apartment yet.

I believe you are an adult so approach her like one. Clear her assumptions to avoid lengthy stories nd damages in the near future.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by 22brains(m): 1:44am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??
u be male ashawo. we know our self.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 1:45am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:



its not telling me anything...that's why I'm sharing it
get to knw her better...dnt give her any key yet...dnt say i didnt tell uu
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by BigIyanga: 2:01am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??
Magas/mugus are born not made... lol
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by BigIyanga: 2:07am On Jan 21, 2019
Boyooosa:


This is a No No!
Just tell her No! Whichever way. If she has house, so what's the need for quick ejaculation familiarity?
But in a cool n respectful manner, like:
I understand how much u want things to move faster BTW us and that I appreciate so much. I also wish we work things out as soon as now (mW, u r still not committing yourself) but I think we need to take it slowly, as in, a step at a time.
And about the key stuff(if there is need to chip in that again), I will hand it over to you at the appropriate time. Shikena!
No allow one desperate girl come use her disco scatter you reggae
Good idea... but you gonna keep apologising and begging to be understood and considred when you have not done any wrong. NO is ok!!
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Bamz(m): 2:27am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8

Don't leave your she-wolf out in the woods. Wolves live and stay together. sad embarassed

Now for the humanly advice, I'm a semi introvert and communication is the least of my problems. You have no obligation to take her in and she has no right to demand it, but you see my friend, love changes a lot of things.

If I were in shoes (which is very unlikely lol), I'd invite her over and explain in a nice way why she can't move in just yet. It's your job to find out those reasons. It's a matter of when and not if she'll move in, at this rate. I really can't think of it, I'm seeing someone and we're into each other and her place isn't quite comfortable but mine is, sooner or later, she'd move in.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Juliearth(f): 2:34am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??


Do not give her your spare key. I don't have an issue with her being domesticated, but asking for spare key is just too low. I think you should also define boundaries now.

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