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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by zealblinks(m): 6:46am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

Give her some time to study her. Anyway I see nothing bad in giving your key
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by jeff1607(m): 6:47am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??


if you ain't ready for commitment , please don't waste her time, I'm certain you have gotten what you want.

if she can cook, clean and do other chores ,now she is making it look as if she has known you for years.
what more do you want Bros?

when you go into a relationship you risk it all not one leg in and one leg out.

what more can a MAN ask for?

if you ain't ready , please let her go and if she can manage with you please do the right thing.

nuffsaid

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Ikem11(m): 6:48am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I don't like the idea of living with her,or her coming to my place anytime she likes.

If u don't like it why asking us here? Is she forcing you to do something u don't like?

Be wise young man. If to live with a woman they hungry u better marry if not, hold your keys and chase your dreams

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by GAZZUZZ(m): 6:53am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

There is no nice way to put things like this. Sit her down be blunt and tell her you would prefer to take things slow after that you can add all the sugar and honey coated parts like my feelings for you have not changed, still love you etc just to reassure her that it's not a break up mission.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by goat22: 6:57am On Jan 21, 2019
NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol. She's just rushing like that cos she's squatting with a friend. If your mind ain't in it, tell her No nicely.

Besides what stops u from telling her not to do home chores for u?

How belle Na? abeg e get one goat wey resemble goat for ikeja under mushin bypass beside where mama apruka dey sell ekuke meat na goat?
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Wande22(m): 7:00am On Jan 21, 2019
optimusprime2:
As *coughs* is part of the matter, it gets complicated...
All the *coughs* for the past one month especially during the festive periods certainly deserve the house key...
Perhaps it was 4 *coughs* a day, 50 *coughs* a week? Who knows, some people *coughs* like animals ... and one has to eat well to sustain the *coughs* and she was certainly the one cooking for before and after *coughs* I think she deserves the key...
You may be an introvert as you described, but all that talk that you keep inside, most definitely could have been unleashed during *coughs* who knows how you dealt with her during *coughs* guy, maybe you may have slackened her mechanism, fractured her gondola or pulverized her anatomy because of the psychotic blasts of introverted energy she has to deal with during *coughs* and she needs a place to recuperate-even Footballers rest after injuries...
Guy You deserve a crate of cold Gulder and 2plates of isi ewu

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by cococandy(f): 7:02am On Jan 21, 2019
Next thing he will get her pregnant and then he will come here to cry to us about entrapment. as if he’s a two year old baby that has no control or contribution over his own life.



Olatara:
Thank you sis, he wants the girl to-do the wifey things, but he can't give her a spare key. See his mouth like 'only a month.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 7:02am On Jan 21, 2019
Be a man and tell her how you feel about it. Let her know that it's too early for you to give her your spare key and secondly, you are an introvert and need some space sometimes. I don't know why some guys think that being dishonest in a relationship is the best. Dude, man up and express your feelings. It's either she accepts it or not, either way the sun will not stop shining! Period.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by boxypane(m): 7:05am On Jan 21, 2019
No
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Boyooosa(m): 7:08am On Jan 21, 2019
BigIyanga:

Good idea... but you gonna keep apologising and begging to be understood and considred when you have not done any wrong. NO is ok!!

The emboldened is one of the essentials of existence, managing humans among others.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Snrtimekeeper: 7:09am On Jan 21, 2019
Don't be confused man,you are not comfortable with giving out the key that's fine.

Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by showafrica(m): 7:10am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I don't like the idea of living with her,or her coming to my place anytime she likes.

So what is difficult in telling her na... Simple, tel her you need your space that when the relationship is matured enough you will give her a spare or are you afraid you will lose the free Kpekus. Selfishness no good oo

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Wande22(m): 7:15am On Jan 21, 2019
WHITEWOLF after eating the cookie jar you wan withdraw ba? you neva chichumchin

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Wande22(m): 7:17am On Jan 21, 2019
WHITEWOLF after eating the cookie jar you wan withdraw ba? you neva chichumchin i pray mek the girl no come be ogbanje or mami water. you go hear ween

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by toprealman: 7:18am On Jan 21, 2019
As an "introvert", when you were reducing her "mileage", how come you never sought for technical advice? Now it has been demanded you submit the keys so as to park the "car" you've been driving, all of a sudden the whole world is being consulted. Laye......you must complete this journey!

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by ashawopikin(m): 7:21am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:





most times my busy work schedule don't allow me to do chores..so I appreciate the help n I can't turn it down
bro Na there the problem dey, she is using that to get to u, no gree o
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by rOsy247(f): 7:22am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I don't like the idea of living with her,or her coming to my place anytime she likes.

Tell her in clear terms what you really want, so she won't spend her life hoping on something that may not happen. She's clearly into you already

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by suco01(m): 7:26am On Jan 21, 2019
Don't drop ya key with her, those cooking, cleaning is eye service. I smell cohabitation at the end. Be wise guy

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by deebrownneymar: 7:38am On Jan 21, 2019
No try am ooo.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Shugargal(f): 7:51am On Jan 21, 2019
Areaboyfriend:
Bro never you give what you cannot collect back, unless it is an offering.. grin grin
Chop knuckles bro...

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Daeylar(f): 7:55am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Did you make this thread just to bash women? undecided
You didn't remember that you've known each other barely month when you let her cook and clean for you,

It didn't bother you that she has been acting like you guys are about getting married when she kept her acting to cleaning and cooking for you.

Now it's time to give her keys to make her work, (cooking and cleaning) easier
Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...
you suddenly remember that you've know her for barely a month.

Mtcheeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

She is acting like you guys are about getting married because you have made her feel very comfortable to be able to think and act that way. Actions also speaks. So even if you feel you don't use words. She can still hear you.. Your actions are giving her free rein to feel that way.

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

Why is this reading to me as.
How do I decline her request without Making her stop cooking and cleaning for me? grin

Lol, don't give her, you don't want her to have the keys so don't. Lol I don't trust you op.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by radautoworks: 7:55am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:
We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??

From a woman, tell her the truth. Tell her "you like her and are just getting to know her to see if there is a foundation for the future. To do that, you each need your own space so when you do give her a key, she'll know you are in for the long haul." Also tell her "you don't want her doing so much for you like cleaning your apartment as it should be a mutual thing and you'd like to court her some more". That will make her HAPPY to stop cleaning and invading your space wink


Notice I said tell her "when" not "if". When may never come but it conveys an open mindedness that "if" doesn't.

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Oracle55: 8:05am On Jan 21, 2019
Jayslicky:
Abort mission!!! I repeat it again abort mission!!!, to avoid story of how all my properties was sold by my girlfriend.
Jack Bauer

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Shugargal(f): 8:08am On Jan 21, 2019
Bros do that at your own risk, sometimes I query the activities of my fellow women just cuz of what I don't know sef, personal me won't even come to your home when you are not in except you sent me there on special demand, sleeping in your house is even a no, instead I am supposed to have a sweet sleep at night, maybe na vigil night you go engage person into wey nobi me, then next day I go de staga de go office. me as a woman have actually helped my fellow woman with my key, me on outside assignment, oboy come see how she turn my apartment to party house bringing different kinds of human far and near, Just cuz say I no de ground. from all your replies here, you already know you ain't giving that girl your key, Just be blunt and say, baby there is still more to our relationship and not the key. gwagam!

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by ArticleBeast: 8:19am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I wish I can be this Mean. lol
Most of them saying all these things online are weakling in real life. We don't post our weakness online
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Butoneday2(m): 8:23am On Jan 21, 2019
No, it is not wise @all? Cos of all these slay queen of nowadays. My mind though lipsrsealed tongue
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Nobody: 8:35am On Jan 21, 2019
Daeylar:


Did you make this thread just to bash women? undecided
You didn't remember that you've known each other barely month when you let her cook and clean for you,

It didn't bother you that she has been acting like you guys are about getting married when she kept her acting to cleaning and cooking for you.

Now it's time to give her keys to make her work, (cooking and cleaning) easier

you suddenly remember that you've know her for barely a month.

Mtcheeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

She is acting like you guys are about getting married because you have made her feel very comfortable to be able to think and act that way. Actions also speaks. So even if you feel you don't use words. She can still hear you.. Your actions are giving her free reign to feel that way.



Why is this reading to me as.
How do I decline her request without Making her stop cooking and cleaning for me? grin

Lol, don't give her, you don't want her to have the keys so don't. Lol I don't trust you op.

We are in the 21st century, people have one night stand alot with strangers, how does that automatically equate with giving keys to an apartment? I don't know why u ladies like to have sense of entitlement after sex... I contributed my body as well ....it's a two way transaction....

Dude sounds like a nice guy that doesn't wanna hurt the lady's feeling....I mean, nobody can trust anyone within a month of meeting. No amount of sex or style can bring such an automatic trust.... Some level of trust is needed to surrender the place u live to a stranger.. washing of plate, cooking and sex doesn't cut it abegg...
Whitewolf8 ......abeg ditch the bitxh..Una too dey carry sex matter for head like say na food.....a girl washing and cleaning and wants to move in in just a few weeks is too desperate for my liking...
It's either she's pretending or she's pretending....

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Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Iykenuwa(m): 8:37am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




squats with a room mate.

Then she wants to move in with you.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by IamPlato(m): 8:38am On Jan 21, 2019
Whitewolf8:




I'm not interested in her moving in at all.
From What You Are Saying, You Dont Even Love This Girl, you Are Not Bonded To Her because If You Were Bonded You Wouldnt Bring This Question Here... Anyway, she Is Not Suppose To Request For A Key because Trust Is Earned and Not Bought.
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Galaticos444: 8:44am On Jan 21, 2019
cococandy:
You don’t joke with your space but you joke with your peniis. undecided

One month and you’re already having sex. What did you tell her that got her so relaxed to have sex with you in less than a month. To the point of doing your other chores for you. Some of you guys think you’re smart. You want a wife without the responsibilities and also want the freedom to sleep around. I’ll bet my shoes that’s why you don’t want her having the keys. So she won’t walk in on you with someone else.

Why not be a responsible human being and tell her the truth about how you feel concerning the relationship.
And keep your peniis in your pant if you’re so concerned about not getting serious.

Hypocrite.
a woman has every right to decline from premarital sex so she wasn't forced to sleep with him and d man has every right to decide wot he does in his house.rilly don't know why u ar laying emphasis on d sex aspect like she sold her body 4accommodation,that's prostitution u know
Re: Guys!! Is It Wise To Give Her The Spare Key To My Apartment? by Lizilicious(f): 8:51am On Jan 21, 2019
Mtcheew..

I don't know why people enjoy bringing their relationship rubbish to cyber space

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