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Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by pansophist(m): 12:39pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Satan66: Why insult her na? You can pass your point without the ad-hominem. I agree with you though. The problem is that most women do not understand the subconscious filtering system they used in eliminating guys they do not want to date. an important part of what women find attractive in men is his social proof/dominance/status, which is judged instantly by your overall sophistication (dressing, car, place of meet up (if you met in a danfo or in a setting that reflects your social status). Partly a reason why women are so obsessed with social media, it gives an instant album of your life, and they could place you in a hierarchy to know if you worth their time. Look closely, even the ones here virtue signalling will ignore Dangote if he dressed commonly. It is after you have passed the social test, then the rule of ''I do not care of about his money'' becomes a thing. And do not ever think it is only Nigerian women, women are the same everywhere. Just expressed in different ways based on their cultural dictations. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by pansophist(m): 12:50pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
phorget: Yes, but only after men have developed society and she can buy comfort with money. In the pre-industrialized era, you will never see a woman saying she doesn't need a man. Because when other villages come to wage war, well, you surely do need men. And if war breaks out today, those women that do not need a man will suddenly disappear. Because men love sacrificially. Civilisation is built, maintained, and sustained by men, for the betterment of all. Known matriarchial civilisation tends to cater to women only, and men seen as an accessory. And feminism even with their lies of equality, it only fights for women interest and turns a blind eye to inequality experienced by men. I have never seen a man that marries a woman because she is a ticket to a better life for him, but the opposite is not the case. Instinctively, men care and sacrifice for women, the opposite is hardly true (unless her children). 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 12:52pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
phorget:If I'm to go by your "saying" then it means a man's importance/value only lies in his financial capability (money) which isn't good enough. It's time men work on themselves and priorities more.Offer more than money, it's fast becoming useless. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by ImaIma1(f): 12:55pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
ubunja: Not necessarily. It is not one size fits all or same medicine for all ailments. You cannot still generalize even if more than 50% is bad. So that you will not use wife to do girlfriend or fling 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by em28: 1:00pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
abdeiz: Bullshit ... girls are bad most times because their parents failed at parenting. It has nothing to do with the economy. Prost.tution is a job like every other job. You engage in it to make money. You could be a waitress and make money but you choose prostitution ... why .. because the ROI is higher and it requires little intelligence. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 1:17pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
PrimadonnaO:That’s not being materialistic by any standard. Evolutionally speaking, famales are ‘gate-keepers’ of offspring. They ensure that the environment is suitable enough for their offspring before breeding hence their natural instinct to search for the most suitable mate ( in terms of ability to provide the basic necessities). Female humans have that natural instinct too but it becomes a problem when materialism is over emphasised to the detriment of other equally viable qualities. The op is referring to the latter kind of female humans 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by DonroxyII: 1:19pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
ednut1:Aswear, name tit 4 tat, As a lady is looking for tushed guy also a gal is looking for tushed lady ..... and Any lady short for wife material for a made guy must surely be a fvcked material ..... They are easily identifiable by a sensible niqqa ! |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by DonroxyII: 1:23pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Omoge87:One of the 1% sensible girl/woman in Nigeria .... I pray you find your better half and If you already have one .... I wish una everlasting bliss ! |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 1:25pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Any woman that is looking for potential is on her own, and I’m dead serious. This is the problem with women, they want to give give and give. They want to prove themselves and show their qualities of ‘wife’ material. Nigerian women are probably the smartest women in the world. Most women in the U.K., Europe and america end up being baby mamas, used and abused because they want to please a man by force. Giving him money, driving him around and emasculating him in the process, when he’s done with you he’ll leave you for a woman he can impress. The only thing I can criticise about Nigerian women is that they are too needy. As a woman, it’s a must to have your own. You must have some form of independency. However, if you must date a man, the first criteria should be money and yes you should look for a man who has the ability to provide for you. There’s nothing wrong with it, stop trying to condition women’s minds to settle for potential or struggling guys. A struggling guy doesn’t even love himself, yet I should be the one to love him, when I’m not his mother. Men always look for the full package when looking for a wife, yet women have to manage and endure, for what Biko? Every single human being has the potiential to be something great, but only a few use it to their advantage. So please stop guilt tripping women, love and potential doesn’t pay bills. Wake up and stop being delusional. Men are extremely selfish when choosing their spouse, they look for traits that will benefit them in the long run. Women should start being selfish too, or you’ll end up bitter, miserable and used. I’ve said my own. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Paxie55: 1:32pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
The way poor and lazy guys always make it sound as if asking and having a monetary standard should be abolished. A woman will offer to give birth, house chores, cook and all that, then contribute at least 40% financial assistant in the relationship. Then, what is now the work of the said man of the relationship if money is the only thing you can offer. Ladies, have a job but you see, never lower your standard. At op, after giving him your all and all to prove that you careless about his money, did he or did he not dump You? If a guy likes you and wanna get married to You, nothing financially will stop that, that's if he has the money. So, I'm never listening to the rants of nl lazy broke men. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Oluwaseydex(m): 1:36pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Rahyberg:I met one recently she started with she's broke.I should send her money,sent her then she told me she's out of sub,I knew where she was going subbed for her then she was using style to tell me her charger spoilt blab bla bla.Using scope to tell me that not she's Materialistic,lol I kept laughing within me |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 1:39pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
And to the lady on the first page @ omoge87 that was busy driving her boyfriends around and declining their help when they offered, did any of them marry you? The men here are busy hailing you, but deep inside they would never choose/marry a babe like you in real life. It’s good to be independent, but when you are unable to receive help due to this miss independent attitude, it’s gross and it only drives men away from you in the long run. It’s also very masculine. Ahbeg any rich/stable man who wants to sponsor my life, I will open my hands with a welcoming heart, despite me having my own. Life is too short to be forming strong head 11 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by phorget(m): 1:41pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
MariaLavina: Seems you are contracting yourself, men working on themselves(to what ends please)? Man's value will always lie on his dreams and aspirations, on his spiritual and as well as his physical being. Alas! all what I've mentioned would always have a man's financial capability as an under tone. A man priority would be to see him give his dream a life and that is what I call successful. Even when you choose to work on yourself as a man then what would be your ultimate goal? Every man would be capable of offering more than money but the argument here is that most ladies ultimate aim is what they will be able to gain from that same man without them contributing anything meaningful into the man's life except their kpekus. The fact that a man looks fresh doesn't mean he has come to buy you the world, he only worked on himself so as to look presentable to you as a lady. Unfortunately, most ladies uses this as a yardstick to determine how successful that man is. |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Raalsalghul: 1:41pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
SyberKate:Let me camp here. Shit's soon gonna hit the fan on this thread. Meanwhile at Op, 50 per cent is an understatement, try 89 percent. |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Guys, never lower your standards. marry the best and use the gold digger for your sexual fun. if she is a gold digger, She will always be. you cant change or convinced a gold digger Any girl that cant marry potential will be single for life and married to a vibrator. most young guys from 18-35 years are potentials, it is either you take or leave for single ladies that want already made, go and marry you made guys.20 ladies are already fighting for his money, lets see if he will give you a chance some Black women are never realistic. guys make do away with those unrealistic single ones, let them go and marry in another planet 12 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Raalsalghul: 1:44pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
DanDeeBoss: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Raalsalghul: 1:49pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
pacifik:I know I might be wrong, but e be like say u be yahoo boy. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Paxie55: 1:51pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Guys are free to say they love firm boobs, big ass, straight legs, light/dark skinned ladies, tall, brilliant and all that, but when a woman tries to set up a standard for herself, this same menist and I wanna please man wanna be(eg: op) will be on our head and try to cower women into having a lower standard as they have chosen for themselves. Op, since giving your bfs money and all what not is your own choice and standard, allow me make mine in peace. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by pryme(m): 1:57pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
SyberKate: I think, most men are stuck with a dilemma. They want women but at the same they want a woman that acts like a man. Maybe he left because you were now a man, as in you could take care of yourself, you are independent, you don't need his approval, these are what makes a man. Maybe he could not deal with it. Well I could be wrong though. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by DanDeeBoss(m): 1:57pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Paxie55: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by habaabj: 2:11pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
MariaLavina:tell us more about this so we can learn and be better ..... offer more like? |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 2:14pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Most Nigerian women are living in a world of fantasy, they go to youtube and watch videos of women in america and uk giving advices on how to date like it is world view. funny enough, they live in Nigeria , where the reality is different. for your information Every man once was or is a BOB the builder, simple as abc. take it or leave it, if you dont like it, go and marry jesus christ, i dont care. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Eberechi24(f): 2:16pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
MariaLavina:Maria, you dey find trouble. Truth be told there is no statue quo to gett things right. Don't be surprised those girls who are looking for big car and always begging for money are getting married happily òr in happy relationships You are a wife material online, what happens offline? Are they men no offline? Interestingly, she may not lower her standard for some kind of men to approach her.. Living is Gambling 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 2:20pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Out of the 7 billion people in the world, and the 185 million people in Nigeria, if a woman purposely puts herself in the dating world, does the right things she will find a man who can at least provide for her substantially. It’s just women do not understand this, but we thank God for social media and we thank God women are starting to wake up. Even if she ends up single, is that not more advisable than to become a saviour to a dirty church rat? Dey there and comfort yourself, broke boys get no love at all! wetdick: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by faithfull18(f): 2:24pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Hmmn, at the end of the day, economists say 'humans are insatiable'. Everybody is free to go for what they want. |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 2:31pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Saffi: you forgot to write that out of the 7 bilion people in the world and 185 million people in Nigeria, 60 % are women. there are more women than men. if woman ends up single, she will be miserable forever, when she is old, nobody to look up to or help her, what a sad life. if a woman cannot be realistic in finding a man then i wish her good luck in finding what she wants. anyway, she can go to social media and continue enjoying her likes in the virtual world. the dating world is brutal, we guys want the best and we go for the best, we are selective, we want to know your past and present and if you fail the test with all the acting and doing the right things, off we go. No man is a dirty church rat except he wants to be one, as for me i can't marry a woman that is a dirty church rat and a leech. sorry. 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by habaabj: 2:34pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
MariaLavina:tell us more about this so we can learn and be better ..... offer more like?... |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by ubunja(m): 2:36pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
ImaIma1:it's the majority of women doing this. And women have a weakness for group think. Where a good number goes, the majority will follow. No wonder in the West the divorce rate is almost 50%. Marriage as a majority woman's thing is fast fading. Any man dumb to marry in this age deserves the ruthless divorce he will get. Pump and dump 5 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by PrimadonnaO(f): 2:38pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
DanXplore: The way the discourse goes these days is not proper. Men and deluded women alike make it seem like a woman is wrong for caring about the financial ability of a man she may likely end up with. They've made it seem abhorrent to not want to be with a broke man. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 2:39pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
a woman who ends up single is miserable? A woman who ends up marrying a dirty church rat will be the happiest woman alive abi? What happened to friends, family, her work life and if she has children even better. I’ve realised that woman who are single have less wrinkles, they age better and look much younger compared to their colleagues who look like expired milk catering to their good for nothing husbands. Biko, if you as a man cannot bring substantial money to the table you are practically useless. Will your watery sperm producing penis take care of the bills? If you guys can select the best, women should be able to do so, and I just hope they can wake up and smell the coffee. Life is too short biko. wetdick: |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by Nobody: 2:43pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
Majority of lazy,fastidious ladies ve dat kind of mentality...u dnt need to blame dem... |
Re: Ladies Please Who Did This To Us by ifex370(m): 2:49pm On Jan 26, 2019 |
pacifik: If lawlessness is what works for you.. Then so be it.. I chose a different path 1 Like |
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