lefulefu:
either way its like op is about falling anyway cos of d material benefits

I feel if he truly loves her , and can stand up for her . there is nothing wrong in it .
But wit his wailing online, he doesn't love her . he's with her for material gains and she's just in her 30s. Its not like she's 40 or 50s.

Anyways na him sabi.

She should take her the bet Nija biz from him , let him go and hustle and see how it is , to make money and be a man .

Some men in their mid 30s and 40s no get job, they are looking for a saviour like this woman , dem no see.

Shishi them no get ! Ladies are running away from them , cos no money .

If dem see 50years old pretty woman that's rich and ready to sponsor their biz plan , dem Go shout halleluyah! Grab her with both hands and legs . Even marry the next day !

lefulefu:
ehen im don gain from her na by her openin a bet shop for him cos if no be gain to am if for no mention am.op is jus about to be a sugarboy and wen u bcome a sugarboy u lack respect.

its justified to lead women on and dump them for material gains?

lefulefu:
na wao a 23 yr old guy dat is jus beginin life na im u dey suggest make im go for a 35 yr old lady? maybe if op was much older and d lady senior am small dat might be understandable but a 23 yr old boy marrying a 35 yr old lady...hm im go fit cope?

Maybe he's very mature for his age. Take for example nick Jonas married that Indian actress who is far older than him.

Reiko:
Okay...I created this moniker just because of this..I really need your advice..
I was posted to ughelli,Delta State during my service and since then i have been here even after my service ended..Along the line I meet this lady in her mid-30s, a beautiful one in a supermarket(bestway supermarket) and from there we became friends. At about a week later I met her same location and we just greeted each other. Luckily again we met there in about a month later and it was then we exchanged contacts and we began chatting..Eventually we became close friends,I visited her(since I really had no friends here) she stays alone..from there feelings started and one day when I visited her,she insisted I sleep over..That night we had unprotected sex..I was scared and she told me i shouldn't worry that she's disease free..She later asked me out and i agreed...She's has opened a shop for me (bet9ja shop, well furnished) and she's says we should get married that she will sponsor the wedding..Shes very beautiful, rich and good in bed...Please nairalanders I need ur advice, she loves me and i love her also but I'm scared of what my family and friends would say..i might be ridiculed...I have secretly done hiv and other screening test twice and it showed am negative. I'm 23 years old

Bro wsh syd4 Ughelli and were ur bet shop dey.

victorian:







I feel if he truly loves her , and can stand up for her . there is nothing wrong in it .
But wit his wailing online, he doesn't love her . he's with her for material gains and she's just in her 30s. Its not like she's 40 or 50s.

Anyways na him sabi.

She should take her the bet Nija biz from him , let him go and hustle and see how it is , to make money and be a man .

at 23 the op is still quite young.wetin im know about relationship and woman matter. if he was 25 or above then he will be matured enuf to know if he can cope wit an older woman. he's just caught up cos of d material things wey d woman don take pamper am. if he marries the woman now and wen he gets into his 30s it wont be long when he starts desiring younger ladies. if op was my younger brother i will sit him down and talk sense into him.

lefulefu:
at 23 the op is still quite young.wetin im know about relationship and woman matter. if he was 25 or above then he will be matured enuf to know if he can cope wit an older woman. he's just caught up cos of d material things wey d woman don take pamper am. if he marries the woman now and wen he gets into his 30s it wont be long when he starts desiring younger ladies. if op was my younger brother i will sit him down and talk sense into him.

Its truly clear. He cannot cope with the way he's wailing online .

So Baba God , collect this blessing from the guy and give a matured man who deserves such woman . at 35, she's not old .. Am close to 35! And guys are still on my case

Eberechi24:

its justified to lead women on and dump them for material gains?

its not right but both ladies and guys do it to their partners.is it not nigeria again?

jakandeola:
am sori I hope u find love. but a 23yrs old is a man alredy and can take decision on his own

dont be sorry.. Being romantically involved with someone is not a necessity of life... Av got great friends....
And if he could really take desicions on his own, he wouldn't have created this thread in the first place

victorian:






Its truly clear. He cannot cope with the way he's wailing online .

So Baba God , collect this blessing from the guy and give a matured man who deserves such woman . at 35, she's not old .. Am close to 35! And guys are still on my case

35 is not old but a 35 yr old lady planning to get marrried to a 23 yr old guy in nigeria.wich 23 yr old guy parents go agree to such a union . na the guy mama go first dey hala nau.if u want to go for a younger guy for marriage its quite safer to go for a 25 yr old man or above cos at 25 yrs the male is now showing sign of maturity and indenpendency.wetin a 23 yr old guy know about commitment.except u talking about jus having fun wit him in za oza room wit no strings attached.

lefulefu:
35 is not but a 35 yr old lady planning to get marrried to a 23 yr old guy in nigeria.wich 23 yr old guy parents go agree to such a union . na the guy mama go first dey hala nau.if u want to go for a younger guy for marriage its quite safer to go for a 25 yr old man or above cos at 25 yrs the male is now showing sign of maturity and indenpendency.wetin a 23 yr old guy know about commitment.except u talking about jus having fun wit him in za oza room wit no strings attached.

The parents won't agree.

I hope and pray the woman will meet with a guy in his 30s and both fall inlove and marry . She's wasting her precious time and money on this younger guy.

That's why I don't do younger guys , no matter how much they preach! No way! Especially guys in 20s are pure waste of time.
My man is in his 30s , and we are perfectly OK with our age .

victorian:






Its truly clear. He cannot cope with the way he's wailing online .

So Baba God , collect this blessing from the guy and give a matured man who deserves such woman . at 35, she's not old .. Am close to 35! And guys are still on my case

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Maybe he's very mature for his age. Take for example nick Jonas married that Indian actress who is far older than him.

if she is older than him by 12 yrs or more then it could be possible that the nick jonas has a young side chick by the side.how did nick cannon and maria carey union ended up anyway?

where your bets hop dey for ughelli I get code to play

Omoge87:


But the question is why did he not simply decline those gifts? Even at 23 years old - he must know that nothing goes for nothing in this life. He is only 23 he has his life ahead of himself to become financially independent and establish himself.

His situation is similar to the young lady who posted - that she is unsure if she should marry the boyfriend who has sponsored her throughout her education-her question was does she have to- because what if God has said no? Why is it after they have gained from the man or woman that they now start evaluating if they can settle with them. My brain just does not understand it oooo.

Well I guess in this OP’s case they were both desperate- the woman desperate to settle down and he desperate for cash - only everyone looses as a result of their desperation. The woman more so - she will definitely swear of men after this - before she trusts a guy again maybe she will be venturing into her 40s.

Well done ma.

lefulefu:
its not right but both ladies and guys do it to their partners.is it not nigeria again?

My gross here is that if we switch gender in this story, you and some men will be seen jumping all over thread telling who cares to listen how is wrong to invest/establish partner's life and what's not , but we are talking about a man who is consciously leading a woman on and accepting every available gifts and at the verge of dumping the said woman and you are treating it with kid's gloves, almost seeing nothing wrong in it. You even want to talk sense into his head.

You are funny.

victorian:





The parents won't agree.

I hope and pray the woman will meet with a guy in his 30s and both fall inlove and marry . She's wasting her precious time and money on this younger guy.

That's why I don't do younger guys , no matter how much they preach! No way! Especially guys in 20s are pure waste of time.
My man is in his 30s , and we are perfectly OK with our age .

exactly wat i am sayin. she can get a younger dude who is a little older and as u say...a guy in his 30s.now if she dated a guy in his early 30s and they planned to get married then such a guy the parents wont interfere. but a 23 yr old dude...haba dat one jus dey start life. haha about d preachin of guys in their early 20s its jus a fetish for a guy wen he is at dat age to have that of sleeping with s much older woman.

lefulefu:
if she is older than him by 12 yrs or more then it could be possible that the nick jonas has a young side chick by the side.how did nick cannon and maria carey union ended up anyway?

OK. His family won't even agree unless they are money conscious

Eberechi24:


My gross here is that if we switch gender in this story, you and some men will be seen jumping all over thread telling who cares to listen how is wrong to invest/establish partner's life and what's not , but we are talking about a man who is consciously leading a woman on and accepting every available gifts and at the verge of dumping the said woman and you are treating it with kid's gloves. You even want to talk sense into his head.

You are funny.

if he was my younger bro i will advice him to politely refuse her gifts and avoid her.yes some guys will advice him to chop her money and dump her but doing such to a woman.like dat comes with consequences.its not proper to lead another person on but then both genders for naija dey am. young ladies dey use d money dem collect from their sugar daddies to sponsor their boyfriends and some dey dey lodge their boyfriends inside d flat rented for dem by their sugar daddies just as some guys use the money given to them by their sugar mamas to set up their gurlfriends.its just for u and i to be smart so as not to fall for love scams. and yes its not advisable to be investing on a dude or a girl cos cos of marriage so as not to get scammed. me no dey do am oo and i cantt advice my sister if i had one to be thrown money at a dude jus cos he smiled at her and said hello.everytin na sense dem dey use

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
OK. His family won't even agree unless they are money conscious

haha if na dead broke family they might not mind but dem go secretly arrange for a young girl for op to marry .

victorian:






Its truly clear. He cannot cope with the way he's wailing online .

So Baba God , collect this blessing from the guy and give a matured man who deserves such woman . at 35, she's not old .. Am close to 35! And guys are still on my case

not a blessing but a curse my dear.

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victorian:







I feel if he truly loves her , and can stand up for her . there is nothing wrong in it .
But wit his wailing online, he doesn't love her . he's with her for material gains and she's just in her 30s. Its not like she's 40 or 50s.

Anyways na him sabi.

She should take her the bet Nija biz from him , let him go and hustle and see how it is , to make money and be a man .

Some men in their mid 30s and 40s no get job, they are looking for a saviour like this woman , dem no see.

Shishi them no get ! Ladies are running away from them , cos no money .

If dem see 50years old pretty woman that's rich and ready to sponsor their biz plan , dem Go shout halleluyah! Grab her with both hands and legs . Even marry the next day !

Please be sincere... If this guy happens to be your son, would you give him this same piece of advice?

.

summerflame:


Is it not a lady like u that have lost hope in marriage due to her outdated age and menopausal stage that are trying to lure small boys who they are old enough to mother ?...

They will open SHILOH next year, then u can cry God a river.. bloody HYPOCRITE

Bro if only you know the person behind the moniker you quoted is the same old woman on NL wey no dey allow us hear word. This one na her 2019 moniker.

# bolded explains it all! Young boys become their target.

Yet she really may be a very good person with good intentions.

Op,I'm telling you this from experience,majority if not all ladies above 30 unmarried is a lady with an altitude, I have been in your shoe not once but twice,to an extent the lady opened herself for me to bleep her,I told her no,she has her own money,deals with multimillion naira business, she frequent from Abuja to Lagos and Dubai ,she pays her rent,pays the rent of her younger brother, has two sound car,and pays her bills when due,but those things didn't moved me once.we discuss deeply, things she can't share with her immediate brother, she once said,that any man coming close to her is coming for her money,that she no longer believe in love anymore, this lady opened herself for me to bleep her consecutive times,I told her no,though she resented me at first,but later she came back to her senses,
In your case,I can categorically tell you,that your woman friend is lonely and it seems it has been long,she felt the touch of a man in her life,you being available means her desires will be met,but sooner than later,that feelings will wash out,by then she do realized her mistake of investing in you.its your decision to make,this decision might mar you or make you,remember majority ofwomen above 30 are desperate for marriage not because they want to get married but because of societal pressures.

You weren't smart enough; you are still young though. You would have done a business that can you could abscond anytime with the cash.
She's obviously manipulating you with her money, but you going to lose everything if you say no to her proposer. You should be prepared because no parents will let their 23 y.o son get married to a 35 y.o woman.

Get enough cash from the bet9ja shop and disappear, text her from an unknown location stating why you took this decision and destroy the sim. Remember where you get the sim(Kano State) should be different from your new location(River State).

Lowkey01:
Op,I'm telling you this from experience,majority if not all ladies above 30 unmarried is a lady with an altitude, I have been in your shoe not once but twice,to an extent the lady opened herself for me to bleep her,I told her no,she has her own money,deals with multimillion naira business, she frequent from Abuja to Lagos and Dubai ,she pays her rent,pays the rent of her younger brother, has two sound car,and pays her bills when due,but those things didn't moved me once.we discuss deeply, things she can't share with her immediate brother, she once said,that any man coming close to her is coming for her money,that she no longer believe in love anymore, this lady opened herself for me to bleep her consecutive times,I told her no,though she resented me at first,but later she came back to her senses,
In your case,I can categorically tell you,that your woman friend is lonely and it seems it has been long,she felt the touch of a man in her life,you being available means her desires will be met,but sooner than later,that feelings will wash out,by then she do realized her mistake of investing in you.its your decision to make,this decision might mar you or make you,remember majority ofwomen above 30 are desperate for marriage not because they want to get married but because of societal pressures.

WORDWORLD:

Omoge87:


But the question is why did he not simply decline those gifts? Even at 23 years old - he must know that nothing goes for nothing in this life. He is only 23 he has his life ahead of himself to become financially independent and establish himself.

His situation is similar to the young lady who posted - that she is unsure if she should marry the boyfriend who has sponsored her throughout her education-her question was does she have to- because what if God has said no? Why is it after they have gained from the man or woman that they now start evaluating if they can settle with them. My brain just does not understand it oooo.

Well I guess in this OP’s case they were both desperate- the woman desperate to settle down and he desperate for cash - only everyone looses as a result of their desperation. The woman more so - she will definitely swear of men after this - before she trusts a guy again maybe she will be venturing into her 40s.

some of these guys are naive, they don't know what they want. he wanted fun but things went side ways. i see nothing in the age difference but she brainwashed this guy but setting him up with what she wanted, that is self-fish on her part, everything seemed planned,if she truly loved the guy, she would have told him her plans and see his reply but she enticed him with gifts and then start telling him what to do.

What are u waiting for? Guy e be like say suffer dey hungry u, Abi Buhari keep work for u for so rock? U dey fear ridicule, who ridicule epp

What difference does it make. Age? If the said lady was 21, would reactions from people change? It's high time we started pursuing personal happiness than people's pleasure.

According to your post, you both love each other. Age is a number for crying out loud. I'm not interested in the money. Forget about people's comments and reactions. People forget about you in a heartbeat and focus on their lives and you alone end up bearing the consequences of your decisions or indecisions. Your life is yours to live.

If you love this lady. If you're compatible with her and if you can live and learn with her, then by all means go ahead and marry her.

Take heed. A large percentage of people here are just teenagers with no knowledge, sense and experience in anything whatsoever.

Work with wisdom and personal convinction.

Thank you

Paxie55:
Wooow. I'm flabbergasted all of our nl menist and hoe shouters have deserted this thread.
None has called him a gold digger, hoe, farm tool, olosho and all type of derogatory names being allotted to ladies here, even when the op vividly call her his sugar mummy. This shows That, these men are only envious of the female folks and lacks the opportunity to turn themselves into feminine gender, if not, they would have been worst or done worst. Look how they are cheering him up.

What do I expect, we are in a generation of bloody hypocrites and emasculated sissies.

jealousy