₦airaland Forum

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Is that what you think?. Guy,fear that lady o. She can destroy the guys life if care is not taken. Two things are involved here. Is either he goes ahead and marry her or she gives her back her stuffs. Or do you think the lady will allow him to take those investment's and go just like that? If you re the lady,what will you do?

Earthquake1:
He can start by making himself useless to the lady, make the sex useless, make their discussions useless abscond as much as possible

The lady go tire for am

victorian:
To be sincere , if my 23 years old son impregnated a 35 years old lady . He will marry her and I will support their marriage . But if he didn't impregnate her and he says he loves her so much and I interview the lady , then go into prayers . If God says in my spirit , she's the one for my son. Why not ? I will support and advice both of them.

My step brother , he impregnated a 36 years old lady during his Nysc . He thought it was just fun, and only one night of unprotected sex , she got pregnant, viam!
As soon as she noticed she was pregnant , she told him . but he denied it . She's a delta lady. She traced him to Lagos , where we all live together with our parents . She went straight to our dad and told him everything in the midst of tears . Our dad was perplexed . He called my step bro, that one denied it completely. The lady said , shes not looking for money to take care of the baby cause she's a high placed official in the government house , but she wants my step bro to be a good father to her kid , that's all.

My dad replied her and said look , give birth to this baby and if he looks like my son ? Then he MUST marry you! I don't train irresponsible children and none of my kids will bring down my name . So she left , after nine months she brought a son that looks exactly like my step bro! I mean carbon copy! The resemblance is just too much! My dad said Son! Get ready for your wedding ! You are marrying this woman , whether u have a job noe or not ! I will sponsor it myself ! None of my grand children will be labelled a bastard. That's how my step bro got married .
Its 20years now, they've been married with children , two boys and two girls .

He's so wealthy ehn? With properties here and there . I say this my step bro rich no be small. He got a chief tancy title in his wife village. Everyone knows she issues his company government contracts , that's how he made it to the top!

So it depends o!

Akious2k2:
Well, better said than done... Word is cheap... Your dad may be a man of principle though

victorian:
I'm a lady of my words .

Sighs my dad was a man of principle . May his soul rest in peace. He hates it when men don't fulfil their responsibility or when men dodge from what they are suppose to do. That's just who he is . He has 17 children and trained all to university level .

Reiko:
This is exactly what is holding me back..all the hopes and expectation of my family will just crash....

Naughtysite:
Do not live according to the standards other people set for you. Otherwise you will get lost. Do you know that if you miss that opportunity, you may not get married till 40years old under this Nigerian economy?

Or are you more educated than other graduates without jobs for ten years now ? No.

Your family has given you education but they cannot give you a job.

They cannot give you a wife.

There are real life decisions you have to make for yourself without paying attention to other peoples expectations from you.

Marrying this woman has given you a stable financial life on a platter of gold and a wife at ZERO expense. Can you beat that on record time No.

In real life good things come in disguise. I am saying this so that you won't look back in ten years time in regret by that time you are already 33, jobless and broke.

If you can actually sleep with this woman and spend her money, courtesy demands that you can marry her.

I am out.

wetdick:
just because it worked for your stepbrother doesnt mean it will work for him, your story infact seems lke those Nollywood stories, happy ending stories, heard similar stories a thousand time

wetdick:
just because it worked for your stepbrother doesnt mean it will work for him, your story infact seems lke those Nollywood stories, happy ending stories, heard similar stories a thousand time

Reiko:
She insists we have sex without condom for almost 6months now which I agreed...im thinking she's trying to get pregnant since menopause is not far away from her.....im crying now...i feel like I'm ruining my life....

oboy81:
Which Kind Fvcking Nigga Be this? FVCK!
see wetin niggas dey find. And i sure say you no fine 1kobo

See this Ungrateful fool!
I swear to God I know your Shop, i will tell your Shuga mummy this Rubbish and see to it she abandons you ode! Theif!

Earthquake1:
He can start by making himself useless to the lady, make the sex useless, make their discussions useless abscond as much as possible

The lady go tire for am

Reiko:
She insists we have sex without condom for almost 6months now which I agreed...im thinking she's trying to get pregnant since menopause is not far away from her.....im crying now...i feel like I'm ruining my life....

wetdick:
i want to ask, what is the function of man, is he not his job to be a provider, see the more we create men that depend on women because of economical problem the more we make men look like women. as time goes on she will lose atrraction and interest in that young lad and start seeing him as a younger brother.

Naughtysite:
Do not live according to the standards other people set for you. Otherwise you will get lost. Do you know that if you miss that opportunity, you may not get married till 40years old under this Nigerian economy?

Or are you more educated than other graduates without jobs for ten years now ? No.

Your family has given you education but they cannot give you a job.

They cannot give you a wife.

There are real life decisions you have to make for yourself without paying attention to other peoples expectations from you.

Marrying this woman has given you a stable financial life on a platter of gold and a wife at ZERO expense. Can you beat that on record time No.

In real life good things come in disguise. I am saying this so that you won't look back in ten years time in regret by that time you are already 33, jobless and broke.

If you can actually sleep with this woman and spend her money, courtesy demands that you can marry her.

I am out.

Salex007:
I was once in your shoe dude. The first mistake u did was having sex with her. Every gift comes with a price

pocohantas:
Why you create new moniker na, are you one of our resident hardworking alpha-male?

Anyway, the mistake you made was accepting those gifts. Very few people are capable of giving without expecting anything in return, she wants commitment from you. A woman of that age could be desperate and employ every trick in her arsenal to hook an unsuspecting naive man.

I think you should slowly start withdrawing. Since it is NYSC, you would be done in record time. She knew what she was up to all along, I am sure you knew too. You thought you could eat her tangible & intangible assets, then run away. For some reasons, maybe her actions and utterances, you have seen it would come with consequences, that is why you decided to tell us. Don't allow your love for freebies block your senses in future.

victorian:
Well its real and true life story .

The wife beared a lot of his excesses and still stood firm by him. If it were other ladies they would have divorced him, cos he loves carrying university smallish girls , all the time . He even has a house built where he takes his gfs to. But the wife is calm and has been calm all through their marriage . Hes now close to 50 but they are still married with a good front . Even with all his cheating she loves him to pieces.
I also feels they are more concerned about the well being and emotional psychology of their kids , than their own happiness . Although they are happy but they've grown to be like brother and sister , while the children are happy . I think that's all they care about .
Its working for them.

wetdick:
in my opinion this what will happen to that 23 year old boy when they are married

1-Tons of baggage from past relationship from her
2-she will lock down his ability to be a provider
3-Low self esteem and depression(will constantly askhim why he is with her, why he isnt with someone younger )
4-when she gives birth to that kid she wants, the kid will come first, herself second and that guy third.

i have dated older women before, I am yet to meet one who has her sh**t together and is the strong-independent-woman as she claims to be.

victorian:
To be sincere , if my 23 years old son impregnated a 35 years old lady . He will marry her and I will support their marriage . But if he didn't impregnate her and he says he loves her so much and I interview the lady , then go into prayers . If God says in my spirit , she's the one for my son. Why not ? I will support and advice both of them.

My step brother , he impregnated a 36 years old lady during his Nysc . He thought it was just fun, and only one night of unprotected sex , she got pregnant, viam!
As soon as she noticed she was pregnant , she told him . but he denied it . She's a delta lady. She traced him to Lagos , where we all live together with our parents . She went straight to our dad and told him everything in the midst of tears . Our dad was perplexed . He called my step bro, that one denied it completely. The lady said , shes not looking for money to take care of the baby cause she's a high placed official in the government house , but she wants my step bro to be a good father to her kid , that's all.

My dad replied her and said look , give birth to this baby and if he looks like my son ? Then he MUST marry you! I don't train irresponsible children and none of my kids will bring down my name . So she left , after nine months she brought a son that looks exactly like my step bro! I mean carbon copy! The resemblance is just too much! My dad said Son! Get ready for your wedding ! You are marrying this woman , whether u have a job noe or not ! I will sponsor it myself ! None of my grand children will be labelled a bastard. That's how my step bro got married .
Its 20years now, they've been married with children , two boys and two girls .

He's so wealthy ehn? With properties here and there . I say this my step bro rich no be small. He got a chief tancy title in his wife village. Everyone knows she issues his company government contracts , that's how he made it to the top!

So it depends o!

wetdick:
i want to ask, what is the function of man, is he not his job to be a provider, see the more we create men that depend on women because of economical problem the more we make men look like women. as time goes on she will lose atrraction and interest in that young lad and start seeing him as a younger brother.

lefulefu:
but this ur step bro hope he is happy in the marriage oo? i am asking cos money is not everything.d woman fit dey stinkinly rich and ur bro dey chop money yanfu yanfu but if im heart no dey wit d woman and cos of ur dad im come marry dis woman he might not be happy oo.anyway for me i cant end up with a lady i dont like even if she is richer than bill gates.omo i love my happiness .

victorian:
If he's not happy , he could easily have divorced her after our dads death.

At least she no tie am rope or chain for leg .

He's unarguably the richest amongst my elder siblings . He can divorce if he wants , nobody is stopping him but he chose to stay with her and I see nothing wrong in it .
People with younger wives are divorcing here and there , breaking each others head wit bottle and hammer in marriage but his own is not like that . Nobody has heard their voice outside .

Have u ever seen an older woman beaten black blue in her marriage and thrown out before ? Have you?

Or say an older woman in marriage wan commit suicide ? Have u?

So if he likes he can divorce his peaceful home and bring in a young 16. Its his choice . Na look we go just dey look am.

Abi?

victorian:
If he's not happy , he could easily have divorced her after our dads death.

At least she no tie am rope or chain for leg .

He's unarguably the richest amongst my elder siblings . He can divorce if he wants , nobody is stopping him but he chose to stay with her and I see nothing wrong in it .
People with younger wives are divorcing here and there , breaking each others head wit bottle and hammer in marriage but his own is not like that . Nobody has heard their voice outside .

Have u ever seen an older woman beaten black blue in her marriage and thrown out before ? Have you?

Or say an older woman in marriage wan commit suicide ? Have u?

So if he likes he can divorce his peaceful home and bring in a young 16. Its his choice . Na look we go just dey look am.

Abi?

Reiko:
Okay...I created this moniker just because of this..I really need your advice..
I was posted to ughelli,Delta State during my service and since then i have been here even after my service ended..Along the line I meet this lady in her mid-30s, a beautiful one in a supermarket(bestway supermarket) and from there we became friends. At about a week later I met her same location and we just greeted each other. Luckily again we met there in about a month later and it was then we exchanged contacts and we began chatting..Eventually we became close friends,I visited her(since I really had no friends here) she stays alone..from there feelings started and one day when I visited her,she insisted I sleep over..That night we had unprotected sex..I was scared and she told me i shouldn't worry that she's disease free..She later asked me out and i agreed...She's has opened a shop for me (bet9ja shop, well furnished) and she's says we should get married that she will sponsor the wedding..Shes very beautiful, rich and good in bed...Please nairalanders I need ur advice, she loves me and i love her also but I'm scared of what my family and friends would say..i might be ridiculed...I have secretly done hiv and other screening test twice and it showed am negative. I'm 23 years old

victorian:
To be sincere , if my 23 years old son impregnated a 35 years old lady . He will marry her and I will support their marriage . But if he didn't impregnate her and he says he loves her so much and I interview the lady , then go into prayers . If God says in my spirit , she's the one for my son. Why not ? I will support and advice both of them.

My step brother , he impregnated a 36 years old lady during his Nysc . He thought it was just fun, and only one night of unprotected sex , she got pregnant, viam!
As soon as she noticed she was pregnant , she told him . but he denied it . She's a delta lady. She traced him to Lagos , where we all live together with our parents . She went straight to our dad and told him everything in the midst of tears . Our dad was perplexed . He called my step bro, that one denied it completely. The lady said , shes not looking for money to take care of the baby cause she's a high placed official in the government house , but she wants my step bro to be a good father to her kid , that's all.

My dad replied her and said look , give birth to this baby and if he looks like my son ? Then he MUST marry you! I don't train irresponsible children and none of my kids will bring down my name . So she left , after nine months she brought a son that looks exactly like my step bro! I mean carbon copy! The resemblance is just too much! My dad said Son! Get ready for your wedding ! You are marrying this woman , whether u have a job noe or not ! I will sponsor it myself ! None of my grand children will be labelled a bastard. That's how my step bro got married .
Its 20years now, they've been married with children , two boys and two girls .

He's so wealthy ehn? With properties here and there . I say this my step bro rich no be small. He got a chief tancy title in his wife village. Everyone knows she issues his company government contracts , that's how he made it to the top!

So it depends o!

lefulefu:
how many young guys dese days want to work. their greatest ambition na to marry one old mama wey go dey provide for dem.the old mama go buy car for dem and go dey pump their account while wen d old mama no dey around dem go dey use d car carry young girls go nack for hotel.

victorian:
If he's not happy , he could easily have divorced her after our dads death.

At least she no tie am rope or chain for leg .

He's unarguably the richest amongst my elder siblings . He can divorce if he wants , nobody is stopping him but he chose to stay with her and I see nothing wrong in it .
People with younger wives are divorcing here and there , breaking each others head wit bottle and hammer in marriage but his own is not like that . Nobody has heard their voice outside .

Have u ever seen an older woman beaten black blue in her marriage and thrown out before ? Have you?

Or say an older woman in marriage wan commit suicide ? Have u?

So if he likes he can divorce his peaceful home and bring in a young 16. Its his choice . Na look we go just dey look am.

Abi?

victorian:
If he's not happy , he could easily have divorced her after our dads death.

At least she no tie am rope or chain for leg .

He's unarguably the richest amongst my elder siblings . He can divorce if he wants , nobody is stopping him but he chose to stay with her and I see nothing wrong in it .
People with younger wives are divorcing here and there , breaking each others head wit bottle and hammer in marriage but his own is not like that . Nobody has heard their voice outside .

Have u ever seen an older woman beaten black blue in her marriage and thrown out before ? Have you?

Or say an older woman in marriage wan commit suicide ? Have u?

So if he likes he can divorce his peaceful home and bring in a young 16. Its his choice . Na look we go just dey look am.

Abi?

victorian:
Well maybe you are reading what I typed upside down

She made him the provider in the home

She didn't come with lots of baggage , infact she had to deal with his baggages and he has a whole lot of baggages .

Infact she over try , with her calm nature in the marriage . She has never been bossy towards him , cos have put up in their house for a two months . she's over meek in my own understanding when I was with them.

My step brother is not a saint . She had to mellow down for him to be the boss .
So don't get it twisted . I can defend her anywhere because she's a good calm and dutiful wife . If my step brother had married a younger lady , I doubt if he wont be divorced wit kids by now, cos he's proud, arrogant and loves women.

If not for her input at the background in his company, I doubtif he will have the type of choice buildings and properties sprawled around delta today .

He's the man of the house , not she . she simply assisted him in becoming rich and successful. Such woman I will never talk down on because she's God sent .

If he didnt want her anymore. He could have easily divorced her as soon as our dad died but he didn't.

So biko talk bad of other women but not my step brothers wife!

princfred:
What later happened to the shoe or your legs in it?

Glycolysis:
Having sex without condom
Don't you ejaculate inside her ?
Maybe she takes pills...
But sex without condom to a woman you barely know her sexual life
Man,you got insane courage !