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This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

So are you saying you want a wife who takes care of all the housework while you only help when the mood strikes you? What are you honestly saying? I'm seriously curious.

am here to learn too

iRepNaija1:
So are you saying you want a wife who takes care of all the housework while you only help when the mood strikes you? What are you honestly saying? I'm seriously curious.

You are the reason why a white man said if you wanna hide anything from an african, put it in a book

Or do you have trouble comprehending writeups?

Go get a village girl.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Go get a village girl.

If u noticed my first paragraph, I said they mess up real bad....dem dey open eye pass Lagos girls sef when dem reach..

Lalasticlala

Meeting the right lady needs the help of God. One can be a player slaying ladies as he wishes but still end up with the wrong lady.

TaminaliaCatapa:
You are the reason why a white man said if you wanna hide anything from an african, put it in a book

Or do you have trouble comprehending writeups?

Lol. I'm just asking a question and you have to respond with that? How can I comprehend if you can't write clear writeups?

iRepNaija1:
Lol. I'm just asking a question and you have to respond with that? How can I comprehend if you can't write clear writeups?

It’s clear, if you’d read again, but this time between the lines

TaminaliaCatapa:
It’s clear, if you’d read again, but this time between the lines

You just want a doormat. God willing, you won't get her.

The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your responsibility.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

pansophist:
The kind of wife you are looking for will be hard to find in the US (and the west in general). South America, Eastern Europe, Africa and Asia are places you will find women who uphold traditional female qualities and won't expect domestic input from you. As a corollary, you will be required to fulfil traditional masculine duties, especially understanding that bringing home the bacon is solely your duty.

Furthermore, any country that has undergone mainstream feminism tends to withers traditional women of which you seek, as they are looked down upon as people suffering from internalized misogyny. Women in the west generally are into career building, placing it above family. I am not married (still in my 20's), albeit, my ex-employer, friends and many Dutch people I know (I live in the Netherlands) actually prefer women from the aforementioned countries, solely for the same reasons you espouse.

Thanks bro, have you recorded obvious success from men who married from those countries (Africa Excluding Nigeria)....all awa uncle wey marry naija women, wey bring them here dey sweat for under snow

TaminaliaCatapa:
Thanks bro, have you recorded obvious success from men who married from those countries (Africa Excluding Nigeria) all awa uncle wey marry naija women, wey bring them here dey sweat for under snow

I've seen both. The successful, and the unsuccessful. Ultimately, it all depends on the people in the marriage, and not marrying the wrong person, or for the wrong reason.

I dated a white and she tried to be respectful and do all but their werey is always in them..Asians are the best!! But doesn’t mean you can’t meeg werey Asian too .. just pray for God’s direction bro

Marry a young girl with strong nigerian traditional values that you can groom from nigeria. Submissiveness should be a top priority. You just need to search well and observe her behaviour well.

A second or third generation western born nigerian female is filled with feminist thoughts, they are very unattractive if you want a good and stable marriage

Plenty of gud abroad-born n abroad-raised based Nigerian women. A buddy of mine married one 30years old two years ago in Baltimore U.S, they're happily married with a baby girl now. He was turning 35 n wanted to settle down, no time for play. Raves about how a good wife she is. Am in the U.S n have met nice Naija ladies myself. My elder brother too married a Naija lady Accountant here, two kids now, lovely humble lady, calls me uncle everytime . He's in IT. Both have daily 9-5 jobs. She works longer shifts at times like during tax season. Everyone can't be bad, op, maybe u arethe problem or u better yet change ur circle to find who u looking for

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TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

whatever you do, make sure that you avoid Nigeria home based girls.

Charelsz:
whatever you do, make sure that you avoid Nigeria home based girls.

IKR but Bro you cracked me up...

Find 9ja babe wey just migrate. As for me i go for blacks from other african countries. They seems to hv sense more than 9ja babes

Joromi12:
Find 9ja babe wey just migrate. As for me i go for blacks from other african countries. They seems to hv sense more than 9ja babes

Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home-based girls are hard to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora. They mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence, they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID when you 're already committed

DeRay98:
Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home based girls are to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora, they mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID.

!!! Gbam!!!

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

I don't know how you created this unimaginable ideology in your head about ladies home and abroad. So you chose to believe that there are no good ladies anywhere you reside. Well I want to tell you that you are wrong and can get a good lady if you place yourself in the position to meet a good lady in abroad or here in naija.

Slaves in the 18's and still a slave,why would you get married to a slaver who will sue you for having two balls when you can get married to Amaka,submissive and well-chosen by mommy,who will worship you for having no balls at all,remember mommy knows best!

You'll meet the kind of people you want if you mingle in the right circles. There's a lot of first gen immigrants who still have a strong cultural background. If you're well established professionally and live in the right cities e.g Dallas, Sugarland, many upper-middle-class mums will connect you with their daughters.
Avoid the ones who are Nigerian in name only.
Like the other poster, i've also heard good things about asians and east african women, but you'll say goodbye to naija flavour for life

however sha, na yankee you dey, if sengemenge burst, na police matter o!

TaminaliaCatapa:
If u noticed my first paragraph, I said they mess up real bad....dem dey open eye pass Lagos girls sef when dem reach..

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Take it to God in prayers

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Take it to God in prayers

New you look good I like u

DeRay98:
Black Ladies from other African countries are usually more down to earth, so many of them fancy Nigerian guys as better family men,
Who care for their ladies, strong and protective. Except where our bad boys "don go shit for market" that have earned us bad names. Eg Kenya women.
Naija home based girls are to trust nowadays especially if you live in diaspora, they mostly see you as their key out of poverty rather than partner hence they play along until they find the right moment to reveal their true ID.

our ladies earning bad name back to back

TaminaliaCatapa:
IKR but Bro you cracked me up...

lol

Kazeemakeem:
New you look good I like u

Thanks

Wonderful thread, following.
Walahi, stories of coded slay queens don bring down person prick real bad.

Yuugen:
Plenty of gud abroad-born n abroad-raised based Nigerian women. A buddy of mine married one 30years old two years ago in Baltimore U.S, they're happily married with a baby girl now. He was turning 35 n wanted to settle down, no time for play. Raves about how a good wife she is. Am in the U.S n have met nice Naija ladies myself. My elder brother too married a Naija lady Accountant here, two kids now, lovely humble lady, calls me uncle everytime . He's in IT. Both have daily 9-5 jobs. She works longer shifts at times like during tax season. Everyone can't be bad, op, maybe u arethe problem or u better yet change ur circle to find who u looking for

On the flip side, we have abroad born and raised Nigerian women who have shown their partners hell. This shows that it is the individuals, not the location they were raised that can determine the success of a marriage. This and the grace of God.