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Don’t you have a girlfriend or what about your siblings. Bring your woman into that house.
Thank me later.

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

OPS, your case is a very simple one. You can't continue to displease yourself because you want to please someone else. From the way you talk, I am 100% sure this guy knew you are not comfortable with what he is doing in your house. He is just looking at you as a coward, who can't talk irrespective of what he does.
Guy, don't waste time, tell him point blank that he should stop bringing girls to your house. If he is truly your friend he will understand and stop or reduce it. But, if he is just the parasitic type of friend, you might not see him again in your house. If that happens, pls ignore him and don't ever make mistake of trying to call him back.
Endeavour to take care of your health and look for better friends that will care about you, and don't be too much comfortable with a friend who cares more about sleeping with a girls in your house than your health and feeling.

Bet9ja4048:
[color=#770077][/color]see below

Lalasticlala, come and ban this goat please.

dierich:
sorry bro.. this is not jealousy. I've my own girl too, so that's not d issue.

Say it like this "Guy, I no like the way you dey carry woman come my house sleep with am finish, mess up my bed." Don't say any other thing again, just walk out of the room. Don't even answer any question he might want to throw in defence. If possible, leave the house after saying it so he would see you are angry.

It might not work, but it's worth trying.

Bleep one of them.

Stopping ur friend act can make u save his life for future predicament am seen...but bro,
If u don't stop him, definitely he will stop u....
Its better u call him that he's no more welcome in this house bringing different ladies as such against ur believe..

And note this, the guy take advantage of u, not ur good friend, God forbid, something happen 2u, u won't find such around u, and claiming busy why doing what he knows how to do best....

Pls get a promising friend around u not a pussy bangger with no future ambition..., the motherfucker is trading is destiny....and that may affect every good thing around u....
Act fast not to bite ur finger later

Oga open your mouth and tell him you don't like him bringing in hoes to your apartment. Shikena

dierich:
Thanks bro. you're d 1st person that asked about it.
my illness is dat my urine is always deep yellow and my urine output is very low. I may drink 3 litres of water in a day and pass 40CL in 24hrs.
also sometimes my urine will be more in d night.
I've done series of test which they are all normal.. like scan, kidney test, urinalysis, and lot more

Try changing your diet

Run a liver test.

Mutemenot:
Op, What you need most is on how to tackle your HBP not this guy's issue. If you call him a friend indeed, you must have reasons for that so I advise you not to add up to your illness .
HBP is not a friendly issue, you need to leave you home and mingle outside with people . Free your mind from whatever that led you to that. You may need to listen to other people's problem, u 'll definitely see reasons not to worry over yours . Things 'll get normal ok..

So it's mingling with people that won't cause HPB?

robinsonmfon:
I hate that shit as hell. if I no get apartment, I no go carry woman go inconvenience another person. If you a nymphomaniac, rent an apartment. No go dey inconvenience another person.

why u con dey mention me?

dierich:
I'm not saying my sickness has something to do with it but he know what I'm still facing and thousands I've spent on it. it doesn't really feel it. what concern him most is bringing in his gfs.

I see your point ,if they don't dirty your house ,the girls don't steal your properties and they don't disturb you with noise,I'll advice you ignore them.if they stain your matrass I sugest you get a plastic covering(mackintosh) for your bed.....they can go ahead and stain the bed spread as much as they want..............just give them space and face your room......

Guy, this matter isn't as difficult as you're taking it, there's a Yoruba adage that says "Aa kin kere nibi nkan eni"( you can't be too small to control what's yours) stop this attitudes of you don't want problems with the guy, problems are part of life , friends comes and goes, only the good ones remain irrespective of who or what you are. I think is better you have a problem that will disassociate you from this guy because he's not a good friend, most of the girls he brings might have familiar spirit and polluting your life and your environment. My candid advise is tell him to stop coming to your house whether with girls or not, he's only taking advantage of your softness and I'm sure he can't tolerate such from anyone, let him go rent a place if he needs a mini motel, you're indirectly encouraging the acts by accommodating him and God wouldn't be happy with you. confront him , don't let him have access to your keys, don't open your doors when he knocks ( make sure he's aware you're indoor)
He's not your friend flee from him.

dierich post=7699045
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people do call him my PA in d street coz they know us as 5&6, but I'm not comfortable anymore. imagine I'm treating HBP and I couldn't sleep since I'm awake around past 1am. I can't keep inconveniencing myself coz of him.

But HBP at what age,? When you are not marry, how come you are suffering from Hblood pressure? I don't understand bro. My advice is that you can tell him that ur pastor gace u a spiritual instruction that you suld not allow any strange human.or or accept visitor for now.

wiseword316:
SIMPLE!!!! Just go to bush look for devil Bean's scrape of the pine spread it on your bed, when they use your bed for........ You know what am talking about. When their body makes contact the devils beans it will itch them like mad. They will promise u never to come to your house again

This is the most hilarious comment I have read this year. You deserve an award bro.

Are u not a man, call him and tell him u dont like what he is doing
By bringing girls to ur apartment i believe he wil stop
U have say on your property bro just mount courage

Change all the padlock to the rooms and tell him to relocate if he can't stop this attitude

bros jus go and marry take your wife in and see if he'll still bring his gfs again

kallmemrB:
Sometimes I think some nairalanders need psych Evaluation... What so difficult in "Bro stop bringing ladies to my place am not comfortable with that poo"

What do u think nairaland will do for you?

Lol �
Nairalanders go worsen the matter I swear

dierich:
Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. [s]we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again[/s], I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

Questions:
1. If you have a second bedroom/ second bed, what was this negro sleeping next to you for? Very weird; as you sound like the dude is cheating on you with all these girls.

2. Does this negro have a place of his own?

Advise for you:
If you are not comfortable to break the news to this useless dude, just simply let the him know that your mom, or your sister or your girlfriend (if you have one) will be staying with you for some time, therefore, he has to look for another "cheap motel" to spend quality time with his sweethearts....And never again open your door to rubbish.

You will tell him noni

You are acting like he is cheating on you with girls...if not
"Alaye,no bring oloshos come my house again,I pay the rent here so I decide what gives,if not...stay away from me!!!
How is that difficult for you to say

tell am say ur r a change person dat ur religion does not permit dis kind of behaviour....

[quote author=dierich post=76988618]Please ignore my grammatical errors.

I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.

it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.

please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

right now he's with hi





tell him you don't like it now it's ur house whatever u don't like tell him if he is not OK with it he should go rent his own

dierich:
please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.

I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.

I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

You are like me who consider the feelings of others. Simple Solution is to get a Big picture of Pst W.F. Kumuyi and hang it in your room. Anything he brings a girl to your room start preaching to the girl alone, if you cannot play a sermon that comes down hard on fornication.

Thank me later

Op if u can't talk to him with clear eyes, just take some alcohol because of him and use the opportunity to tell him all ur mind at once even with angry voices

veekid:
Go and marry

you wicked ohhh.... but that's the truth. Best prescription for d guy.
But he should have simply call the guy and hit the nail on the head.
If u don't stand for something, you fall for anything

dierich:
I used to travel with my key sometimes. I've once travel and left my key for him only to got home and see all stuffs he made with my apartment, since den I don't drop my keys. also I'm looking for a very decent and understanding way to table it down without causing quarrel. I know u understand me bro

Rocktation plz to d FP

I couldn't help asking this; with 3 b/rooms,you guys still sleep on the same bed?

as a single guy what are you doing with a 3bedroom flat? that's wastage my friend

Jaa taan my is not motel simple

Guy, if you can not talk to him then you can not solve the problem, your solution to the problem will only come when you free your fear and talk to him like a man. Just set some rules on how you wants the house to be and tell him, if he is willing to comply then he follows, if not he leaves.

dierich:
I used to travel with my key sometimes. I've once travel and left my key for him only to got home and see all stuffs he made with my apartment, since den I don't drop my keys. also I'm looking for a very decent and understanding way to table it down without causing quarrel. I know u understand me bro

Rocktation plz to d FP

alaye decide on wat to do jare...after all advice people dy give