kallmemrB:
maybe I need psych Eval or not ain't the issue but you need... Without communicating with him about your challenges how do you wanna stop that issue

dierich:



Amen. thank u so much

veekid:
Go and marry

dierich:


if not that u need a psych evaluation, u should understand what I'm saying here. did I tell u I can't communicate with him about it?

kallmemrB:
bro the fact that you know what to do but don't wanna do it is nauseating

dierich:

thanks.. I think you understand me more
this is the text I'm planning to send to him now


Sorry if dis offend u. I just want u 2 stop dis 4 nw. Even Queen wanna come, I've 2 stop her myself. I knw wat I'm facing & Hw much I've spent on my health. Who knows where it's coming frm, so 4 now I wanna keep tins around me holy.

How about the above message?

PrimadonnaO:


Na really holy! Too subtle for my liking. How about this?

"You might not particularly like this, but I just need you to stop bringing those girls to my house. Queen is even asking to come around and I have to personally stop her. I'm far from comfortable about accommodating strange girls in my house and I can't suck it up anymore. I know what I'm facing at the moment and how much I've spent on my health. Who knows where it's coming from? You're my G, but please, respect this boundary."

Still subtle, yeah?

frank317:


He needs to have a good explanation for the sake if tomorrow. That's his best friend we are talking about and I am sure there is a reason why the other guy feels comfortable bringing his chicks to the house.

This is a man's thing, he must act with his brain and not heart like most women do.

I remember years back when I was serving. This loving roommate of mine always brought his girl to the room (our beds are close). I liked my roommate but didn't like the fact he brought his girl in most night.

I reacted to this and this had an effect to our relationship. Looking back I wished I had just let things go because I really didn't have reason to be angry but for jealousy (which I even denied to myself)

The Op can't just say he does not like this guy bringing his girl for nothing. Perhaps he wish he was the one having the girls. Perhaps chicks do not fall for him (despite doing better than his friend) like his friend.

If it's washing stains, ask the guy to make effort to keep the bed neat. He is ur friend, don't let woman palavar spoil thinks.

And pls go out a little... U only live young once.

dierich:


I love this.. thanks..

dierich:


I'm not saying my sickness has something to do with it but he know what I'm still facing and thousands I've spent on it. it doesn't really feel it. what concern him most is bringing in his gfs.

kallmemrB:
Sometimes I think some nairalanders need psych Evaluation... What do difficult in "Bro stop bringing ladies to my place am not comfortable with that poo"

What do u think nairaland will do for you?

PrimadonnaO:


He doesn't need to have an explanation extraordinaire for why he doesn't want to continue accommodating the act. Some people just refuse to be sensible.... give them a yard and they went a mile!

Guys who behave like that irritate me! He should go get his own place or keep his meetups with his girlfriends outside the house.

Wtfork:


Well. Different people with different personalities
I really don't have a problem accommodating a friend if I stay in a three bedroom flat and he happens to be a womaniser as long as he doesn't mess up the place and always tidy his space .

That was why I asked if there is a particular reason the act of his friend affects him !

PrimadonnaO:



And I thought girls were the sentimental ones. I've learnt early in life that you've got to define boundaries because most people are opportunists and selfish at it... they won't do right by you if you don't demand it.

I had a friend back then in school who'd come to my house to supposedly gist and she'd stay over... sometimes for days. She began to make a habit of expecting me to treat her like a guest all the time... cook what she wants, when she wants and all that. I had to sit her down and tell her without mincing words... "baby girl, I'm a student like you, too. You're no longer a guest in this house. When you come to the house, you eat whatever is available. Stop asking me to prepare this and that for you. You can't put me under pressure in my house."

She apologised...and tried to guilt-trip me by acting all formal with me whenever we met in class. Lol. But I refused to be guilt-tripped. I'd put my message across to her clearly. Some persons might be comfortable with behaviour like that... but not me, I couldn't suck it up.

Today, we're still very good friends... but she already knows the things I won't tolerate. That's how I live my life. If I'm not comfortable with a thing... I state it unapologetically!

Wtfork:


Well. Different people with different personalities
I really don't have a problem accommodating a friend if I stay in a three bedroom flat and he happens to be a womaniser as long as he doesn't mess up the place and always tidy his space .

That was why I asked if there is a particular reason the act of his friend affects him !

dierich:


Nø 1, he always mess up d place.. check thru page one and see those pictures I uploaded.

Nø 2, he won't even tell me 1 of is girls is coming. same tin last nite. we slept together and before midnight, he brought d girl in.

Nø 3, I'm not a happy man for now coz of my health, that's y I stop my girl from coming for now.

frank317:

My thinking exactly

frank317:

Then he should forking tell him to stop messing up his place.


As a guy, I will tell u this excuse makes no sense. We were all bachelors once and I know how these thongs goes.


I am confused.

dierich:


Nø 1, he always mess up d place.. check thru page one and see those pictures I uploaded.
Nø 2, he won't even tell me 1 of is girls is coming. same tin last nite. we slept together and before midnight, he brought d girl in.
Nø 3, I'm not a happy man for now coz of my health, that's y I stop my girl from coming for now.

Wtfork:



Wow... Just saw the pictures.
What are freaking dirty guy .
My friend dare not try this with me ..
Best or no best friend does he expect you to keep washing his cum for him ? ? Nigga you cause it .
I don't know if he is older than you , but next time call him to the room and show him the mess. Tell him straight to his face that this is what annoys and irritates you the most which is not the first time he is doing it.
State categorically that if he needs to keep crashing at Ur place no more ladies in the house pls.
I hope he doesn't have his own spare of the house key. Abeg lock him outside like 2 or 3 times if he does not desist from bringing dem girls . .
This action would let him know how serious you are , and if he has sense , he knows what that means !
My 2cent!!

dierich:
please ignore my grammatical errors.
I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.
it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.
please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.
I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.
right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.
I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

dierich:
Wtfork, frank317

Let me also tell u something.
There was a time around January ending / early February. I was in a 3 days prayer concerning my health.. I know d kind of guy he is and I told him "bro, I'll be having 3 days prayer/ vigil concerning my health from Wednesday till Saturday.. Please, no gf tins for now. Allow make I finish prayer". He said no problem.
I went to vigil for those days mention. He stay at my place.. On Friday I went to vigil but forgot something so I went back to for it, to my surprise he already brought d lady in. I talk to him dat very moment that didn't I told u about d prayers I was having, he said he's sorry that he don't know d girl will be coming, I didn't mention a word, I went to church, as I came back, to my surprise again, he uses my room, pour his seed d bed sheet.. I was so annoyed that day

dierich:


Now I think u understand what I'm facing wit him..

frank317:


He needs to have a good explanation for the sake if tomorrow. That's his best friend we are talking about and I am sure there is a reason why the other guy feels comfortable bringing his chicks to the house.

This is a man's thing, he must act with his brain and not heart like most women do.

I remember years back when I was serving. This loving roommate of mine always brought his girl to the room (our beds are close). I liked my roommate but didn't like the fact he brought his girl in most night.

I reacted to this and this had an effect to our relationship. Looking back I wished I had just let things go because I really didn't have reason to be angry but for jealousy (which I even denied to myself)

The Op can't just say he does not like this guy bringing his girl for nothing. Perhaps he wish he was the one having the girls. Perhaps chicks do not fall for him (despite doing better than his friend) like his friend.

If it's washing stains, ask the guy to make effort to keep the bed neat. He is ur friend, don't let woman palavar spoil thinks.

And pls go out a little... U only live young once.

dierich:
please ignore my grammatical errors.
I've a friend and he's very close to me. we know each other more than 10years and he has been the only friend close to me right now. I was living alone in a 3 bedroom flat and he always come to sleep at my place. I'm happy coz I won't be the only one sleeping in the house.
it started when he bring 1 of his girlfriends to my house, he uses on of the rooms and I didn't complain, but the issue is he kept bringing them in and I'm tired of it. the most annoying part is the way he's using the bed. stains or shit. it came to a time I've to wash the bed coz I'm tired of seeing stains on my bed, though I'm not really using the bed but it's still my property. I've been ill since December last year, I told him what I'm facing, and even lie to him to show how critical my illness is, but that doesn't stop him from bringing them in.
please can someone advise me on how to stop him totally. he found my place d best for him since he's still living with his parent.
I don't want to offend someone that's why I want the best way to table it to him.
right now he's with his gf at my place. this particular girl use to stay overnight.. same thing last week Wednesday. and he won't even tell me someone is coming. we went to bed together Around 10pm, and by the time I woke around 1 to pee, I found out he's not by my side again, I check around and went to the other room to found him and the girl.
I'm sick of this. please how can I stop him without malice.
thanks

dierich:
he just left with the lady. check thru d picture and see how messed up it looks. I've to wash the bed sheets and bed cover and kept it after he messed up everything.
just check the picture I just took 10mins ago after he left now. this is my T-shirt I've left in that room 4 a while, & he use it to clean up d mess. did I tell him I'm not using d shirt anymore? I just don't want to av problem with anyone that's y I'm looking for a low-key way to tell him.
I've show it emotionally but he don't wanna listen. I've been ill over 3 months ago and he doesn't really care. he'll just tell me not to think of it that I'll be fine.. that's all he kept saying. I told him on Sunday that my girl want to visit me and I stopped her coz for now I'm not happy about my health and I wanna be alone and I wanna keep tins holy, and today after I slept around past 10, that's when he sneak d girl in.

dierich:
he just left with the lady. check thru d picture and see how messed up it looks. I've to wash the bed sheets and bed cover and kept it after he messed up everything.
just check the picture I just took 10mins ago after he left now. this is my T-shirt I've left in that room 4 a while, & he use it to clean up d mess. did I tell him I'm not using d shirt anymore? I just don't want to av problem with anyone that's y I'm looking for a low-key way to tell him.
I've show it emotionally but he don't wanna listen. I've been ill over 3 months ago and he doesn't really care. he'll just tell me not to think of it that I'll be fine.. that's all he kept saying. I told him on Sunday that my girl want to visit me and I stopped her coz for now I'm not happy about my health and I wanna be alone and I wanna keep tins holy, and today after I slept around past 10, that's when he sneak d girl in.