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Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:44pm On Mar 27, 2019
Women who stick to struggling men until the men grow their financial IQs and become financially stable are usually praised and approved by almost everyone.

While that may be a testament to a woman's praiseworthy character, I am of the opinion that such women still fall short, in the sense that they only stick to a man while he grows his financial IQ, without them growing theirs too.

A poorly resourceful but endearing woman may mean the world to a struggling man. But the moment he mounts financial heights, his once endearing but financially uneducated partner may become a liability.

Mounting financial heights is a function of FINANCIAL EDUCATION, and financial education promotes ASSETS but frowns at LIABILITIES. As you know, assets put money in your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket.

A poorly resourceful woman may be an asset to a struggling man because she supplies his emotional needs despite his low financial state. But when he grows his IQ and gets rich, he'll most likely require more than emotional satisfaction from her.

If she had failed to grow her financial IQ along with him, she will depend on him to supply her financial/material needs just as she supplied and still supplies his emotional needs. At this point, the woman may become less attractive to the man.

Any woman can supply emotional needs. And when it comes to supplying emotional needs, it's a two-way traffic. But if she had grown her financial IQ along with him, she would easily flow in the same frequency with him, both emotionally and financially.

That way, their attraction to each other endures and their love blossoms. Between a financially educated partner and a financially uneducated partner, there will be arguments and fights over money, and most of the time, if not all the time, the root of the problem can be traced to the partner with low or no financial education.

That is why one partner eventually walks away. Even the Bible says; "Can two work together except they be agreed?" In most cases, the partner who walks away is the one with more financial education, which in the context of the write-up, is the man.

We may call him a monster, an ingrate, or Lucifer, as the case may be. But if you take a quick run through history, you'll find that many financially educated women had to dump their financially uneducated male partners when they could no longer agree on certain money-related matters. It is not a GENDER THING. It is a GROWTH THING.

The 21st century ladies have asserted that sticking to a struggling man is one of the most uncalculated risks to take because the man dumps them for another woman the moment he gets rich. But how many men of substance walk away from women of real WORTH and VALUE?

If you supply emotional needs alone, what happens when other needs arise? It takes more than the emotions of love to keep an affair going. And I am not in any way talking down on women who see beyond a man's pocket. As a matter of fact, I ADORE them.

That is why I am writing this piece: to give them heads up on how to keep the RICH VERSION of their partner glued to them, thereby making the years they spent with his POOR VERSION count. Don't just service his emotions while he grows his financial IQ. Grow yours too. That's one important thing that will earn you his affection and respect in the long run.

Emotion and finance have been the key focus of this piece. But they are not the only areas that require growth to keep you BALANCED. Others include spiritual, mental, academic, etc. Whatever the growth, the bottom line is: GROW ALONG WITH YOUR PARTNER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH.

Jezuzboi©

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Harwoyeez(m): 8:54pm On Mar 27, 2019
U are not far from the truth

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by essenceplus: 8:58pm On Mar 27, 2019
Long time Jezuzboi you've taken writing to a higher level. Well done

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by blackpanthar: 9:07pm On Mar 27, 2019
the LONG TIME Girlfriends... did not GROW RICH... they felt love would be enough BUT it never is.

If the girls stopped sabotaging their own progress by waiting for a MAN TO BE RICH before progressing in their own lives in the name of love or in the name of "BEING THERE" for him.... even when the man gets money... he will be humble towards her.

MONEY CHANGES TASTE... both for women and men. RICH girls too dump guys who grew up with them... its called LIFE.

No one should WAIT for anyone... everyone should be moving.


jezuzboi:
Women who stick to struggling men until the men grow their financial IQs and become financially stable are usually praised and approved by almost everyone.

While that may be a testament to a woman's praiseworthy character, I am of the opinion that such women still fall short, in the sense that they only stick to a man while he grows his financial IQ, without them growing theirs too.

A poorly resourceful but endearing woman may mean the world to a struggling man. But the moment he mounts financial heights, his once endearing but financially uneducated partner may become a liability.

Mounting financial heights is a function of FINANCIAL EDUCATION, and financial education promotes ASSETS but frowns at LIABILITIES. As you know, assets put money in your pocket while liabilities take money out of your pocket.

A poorly resourceful woman may be an asset to a struggling man because she supplies his emotional needs despite his low financial state. But when he grows his IQ and gets rich, he'll most likely require more than emotional satisfaction from her.

If she had failed to grow her financial IQ along with him, she will depend on him to supply her financial/material needs just as she supplied and still supplies his emotional needs. At this point, the woman may become less attractive to the man.

Any woman can supply emotional needs. And when it comes to supplying emotional needs, it's a two-way traffic. But if she had grown her financial IQ along with him, she would easily flow in the same frequency with him, both emotionally and financially.

That way, their attraction to each other endures and their love blossoms. Between a financially educated partner and a financially uneducated partner, there will be arguments and fights over money, and most of the time, if not all the time, the root of the problem can be traced to the partner with low or no financial education.

That is why one partner eventually walks away. Even the Bible says; "Can two work together except they be agreed?" In most cases, the partner who walks away is the one with more financial education, which in the context of the write-up, is the man.

We may call him a monster, an ingrate, or Lucifer, as the case may be. But if you take a quick run through history, you'll find that many financially educated women had to dump their financially uneducated male partners when they could no longer agree on certain money-related matters. It is not a GENDER THING. It is a GROWTH THING.

The 21st century ladies have asserted that sticking to a struggling man is one of the most uncalculated risks to take because the man dumps them for another woman the moment he gets rich. But how many men of substance walk away from women of real WORTH and VALUE?

If you supply emotional needs alone, what happens when other needs arise? It takes more than the emotions of love to keep an affair going. And I am not in any way talking down on women who see beyond a man's pocket. As a matter of fact, I ADORE them.

That is why I am writing this piece: to give them heads up on how to keep the RICH VERSION of their partner glued to them, thereby making the years they spent with his POOR VERSION count. Don't just service his emotions while he grows his financial IQ. Grow yours too. That's one important thing that will earn you his affection and respect in the long run.

Emotion and finance have been the key focus of this piece. But they are not the only areas that require growth to keep you BALANCED. Others include spiritual, mental, academic, etc. Whatever the growth, the bottom line is: GROW ALONG WITH YOUR PARTNER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH.

Jezuzboi©

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Headlesschicken(m): 9:17pm On Mar 27, 2019
undecided Life waits for no one,so why wait for anyone...

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ANGELMARVE(m): 9:31pm On Mar 27, 2019
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by babyfaceafrica: 9:44pm On Mar 27, 2019
because they don't have sense

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by lilmax(m): 9:53pm On Mar 27, 2019
there's no excuse

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 10:08pm On Mar 27, 2019
essenceplus:
Long time Jezuzboi you've taken writing to a higher level. Well done
Thanks plenty...

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 10:09pm On Mar 27, 2019
blackpanthar:
the LONG TIME Girlfriends... did not GROW RICH... they felt love would be enough BUT it never is.

If the girls stopped sabotaging their own progress by waiting for a MAN TO BE RICH before progressing in their own lives in the name of love or in the name of "BEING THERE" for him.... even when the man gets money... he will be humble towards her.

MONEY CHANGES TASTE... both for women and men. RICH girls too dump guys who grew up with them... its called LIFE.

No one should WAIT for anyone... everyone should be moving.


Spot on!

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Wayne4uall(m): 10:16pm On Mar 27, 2019
Most of the the long time gf once or more than twice cheated on the poor dude, the guy was only managing her because he was broke....

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 10:38pm On Mar 27, 2019
You are far from the truth.. The only reason a man will drop his long time girl friend is if she is not resourceful ..

Many rich men here in nigeria are marrid to their long time gf that was there from the start.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Nobody: 10:45pm On Mar 27, 2019
As AngelMarve rightly said if broke men who become rich are dumping ladies who started with them then why is oga Goodluck still with Mama Peace? Abi u know goodluck met his wife wen he was dead broke. And wat of E money nko? E money started dating his wife when he had nothing. All those guys u see doing away with ladies wen they make it there must be a reason to it. Understand some of these guys when they were ppor such ladies probably disrespected them and flaunted their cheating ways in his face. Its very common to see some ladies bash their own men as useless cos he couldnt buy her muranocheesy. Some will have different sugar daddies while in a relationship with their guy and u expect d guy not to leave her when he makes itcheesy. Who wants a nemesis in his lifecheesy.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by mumumugu(m): 10:45pm On Mar 27, 2019
Manage the keke for now, when money comes buy your dream jeep

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by IsiahRashad(m): 10:58pm On Mar 27, 2019
How about the woman who struggled with you and supported when there was nothing? What excuse is there to abandon her for another to come and reap where she didn't show.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by NickiSlay(f): 11:07pm On Mar 27, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by lincsnuel: 11:39pm On Mar 27, 2019
OP it's also synonymous to the way ladies dump guys after training her in school!

#Shithappens

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by iRepNaija1: 11:46pm On Mar 27, 2019
I swear, any opportunity to blame a woman. If she stays with rich guy, she's a gold digger, she's an opportunist. If she stays loyal to a guy who comes into his own, she's a liability. Smh.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by damipryce(m): 12:57am On Mar 28, 2019
u r mad, but if she left a broke guy for a rich guy she is a golddigger abi, ko ni da fun e.

I am sure you won't be saying the same if such should happen to your sister or someone close to you.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by sweetilicious(f): 2:52am On Mar 28, 2019
I quite agree with you op.Most of these ladies feel it's an entitlement.If you were dating him while he was poor, work on yourself as he works on himself too.You are supposed to partner with him to build castles.What if he didn't make it or something happened to him, won't be able to to survive still? Build castles together and stop looking for someone to drain.The blessings of God for a man is the same for a woman.He said he will bless the works of our hands.Women should learn how to grab the bag too!

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Modarun(m): 3:04am On Mar 28, 2019
Most times these so called long term girlfriends are not as loyal as they pretend to be. But konji being a bastard, poor boy has no choice, cos i mf he chase her away, no more feeding and pocket money and free pvssy from his girl, so bros will act loyal. the very moment he hits money, he then runs off.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by Modarun(m): 3:05am On Mar 28, 2019
sweetilicious:
I quite agree with you op.Most of these ladies feel it's an entitlement.If you were dating him while he was poor, work on yourself as he works on himself too.You are supposed to partner with him to build castles.What if he didn't make it or something happened to him, won't be able to to survive still? Build castles together and stop looking for someone to drain.The blessings of God for a man is the same for a woman.He said he will bless the works of our hands.Women should learn how to grab the bag too!

come and build castles witb me dear.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by oyatz(m): 5:49am On Mar 28, 2019
You have a valid argument but you know the real differences between GIRLFRIENDS and WIVES?








ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by anochuko01(m): 6:14am On Mar 28, 2019
it happens to everyone. koko is, dont remain at a point for too long.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:29am On Mar 28, 2019
ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?


Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.
It seems you didn't quite get the point in the write-up. If Lalasticlacla were to push this to front-page, you'd see that many women would be in agreement. Bro, things change. People change. It's better for a woman to develop herself and stand secure than just hope that the man will be a "REAL MAN" and do those things you mentioned. Life is too short for trials and errors.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:30am On Mar 28, 2019
lilmax:
there's no excuse
I think you meant to say "there should be no excuse." But you and I know that this thing happens. I'm simply trying to help cut down the rate.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:33am On Mar 28, 2019
Wayne4uall:
Most of the the long time gf once or more than twice cheated on the poor dude, the guy was only managing her because he was broke....
Absolutely right. This another side to it.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:37am On Mar 28, 2019
wetdick:
You are far from the truth.. The only reason a man will drop his long time girl friend is if she is not resourceful ..

Many rich men here in nigeria are marrid to their long time gf that was there from the start.
So what's this difference between the bolded and the point I made?

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:48am On Mar 28, 2019
lefulefu:
As AngelMarve rightly said if broke men who become rich are dumping ladies who started with them then why is oga Goodluck still with Mama Peace? Abi u know goodluck met his wife wen he was dead broke. And wat of E money nko? E money started dating his wife when he had nothing. All those guys u see doing away with ladies wen they make it there must be a reason to it. Understand some of these guys when they were ppor such ladies probably disrespected them and flaunted their cheating ways in his face. Its very common to see some ladies bash their own men as useless cos he couldnt buy her muranocheesy. Some will have different sugar daddies while in a relationship with their guy and u expect d guy not to leave her when he makes itcheesy. Who wants a nemesis in his lifecheesy.
I wouldn't say that Patience Johnathan is an unresourceful woman. At a point, she seemed more proactive than her husband. She could stand the heat of being Nigeria's first lady. She even cried on national TV to drive her point home. Lol.

In fact, left for her, Goodluck would probably not have lost to Buhari in 2015. That's one hell of a woman. I don't know about E-Money's wife though. Maybe we should ask Airforce1.

This write-up centers on women who don't work on boosting their intellectuality while playing Juliet. And yes, the cheating aspect you mentioned is another side to it.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by ANGELMARVE(m): 8:49am On Mar 28, 2019
jezuzboi:

It seems you didn't quite get the point in the write-up. If Lalasticlacla were to push this to front-page, you'd see that many women would be in agreement. Bro, things change. People change. It's better for a woman to develop herself and stand secure than just hope that the man will be a "REAL MAN" and do those things you mentioned. Life is too short for trials and errors.
See bro, Nobody is useless in life.
Even if the woman failed to meet the standard, you can help her make the standard.

If someone is not educated, then the person should develop on his or her talent or have a handwork.

So did the successful man got to the top on his own?
Did people not help him got to the top?

what if people refused to help him when he was poor because he is low class?
would he be at the top today?


This generation has destroyed the concept of love with too many principles of westernization and people are too money, class and material conscious.

When you truly love a woman, it don't matter if she is this or that, You stick with her to the end.

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Re: Why Poor Guys Leave Their Longtime Girlfriends When They Become Rich by jezuzboi(m): 8:55am On Mar 28, 2019
IsiahRashad:
How about the woman who struggled with you and supported when there was nothing? What excuse is there to abandon her for another to come and reap where she didn't show.
Read the article more carefully, slower than you did before, and you will see the answer to this your question.

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