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Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by kkins25(m): 12:23am On Apr 06, 2019 |
rickyboss333:exactly what im trying to say... Theres one silly statement made by one fhemmy about making kids work for the food nd education they get... Thats the most stupid comment(by fhemmy) i read today. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 12:23am On Apr 06, 2019 |
sisisioge: Or just kuku impregnate the Girl fa, then turn her to second wife That would really make her happy. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 12:25am On Apr 06, 2019 |
angelamina: Send her back ke? Let OP marry the girl as second wife na. Shebi she is 18 years? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by kkins25(m): 12:27am On Apr 06, 2019 |
LUCKIE2014: Beautiful, beautiful... Help me ask her if it were her own daughter, would she have taken that drastic step? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by fusionnest: 12:33am On Apr 06, 2019 |
UjuJoan2: Much better |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by kkins25(m): 12:33am On Apr 06, 2019 |
PaulAris:[quote au masseratti:thor=MaNyEsq post=77301184]I am not one to give anyone a piece of advice because I am not a "shrink" and do not play one on TV. However, I would add my two cents to the conversation. Your maid is almost a grown woman at the age that she's is now. In a civilized society, when a child turns 18, she's an adult under the law, she can vote, can enter into a legal contract and can leave her parents home. If she decides to still stay home with her parents, she has to pay her own fair share of the household bills. I alluded to all these to say that your maid is no longer the 12-year old child (minor) that you took in and therefore, you MUST start seeing and treating her as an adult. For a start, you need to have a serious talk with her and explain to her that any choices that she makes in life have either good or bad consequences. Let her know that if she wants something out of life, then she needs to make good choices and that you would be there to encourage and support her every step of the way. But if on the other hand, she decides to go in the opposite direction, that too has consequences that she ALONE would have to suffer. Teach her about birth control and safe sex practices and NEVER to have unprotected sex if she decides to engage in it. And please, do not whip a 17-year-old woman, you can accomplish more by having serious discussions with her and setting expectations and boundaries than humiliating her. A word is enough for the wise![/quote] OP this are the advices you should be taking. I am now beginning to wonder about the workload you have assigned to the girl coupled with school activities.. How do we know she is not a maid you turned into a slave? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by advocate666: 12:35am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: You flogged a 17 year old girl? To slap you just dey hungry me. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by sweetilicious(f): 12:41am On Apr 06, 2019 |
ireneidiva:I agree. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Ezyp(m): 12:44am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:Simple solution is be friendly with her and tell her to invite her boyfriend home and you would like to meet and formally accept him into the family. By the time the guy show your house, beat the hell out of him and warn him never to come near her even in his dream. I bet you na the guy go help discourage any boy that wants to date your maid. (This approach always work) 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by numen(m): 12:47am On Apr 06, 2019 |
My neighbour has a wife and kids with his junior female-cousin staying with them to help out in house chores. The cousin was a nice girl until the day she met a guy while she was pursuing university admission and she grew unimaginable wings. Started disobeying the man and wife until the man sent him packing. She later came back begging(most likely after the guy confusing her has used and dumped her) but it was too late cos she has been replaced by another nice and hardworking cousin. My advice: Send her back to her parents now unless you want to deal with a pregnant house maid. She might even be carrying contagious disease and be spreading it around your home like santa claus. Send her home now to her parents! Yes it will be stressful for you guys to fill in for the things she does at home but the stress of the problem brewing is worse. lacapine: |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by banio: 12:53am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: If na your pikin, U go send am back. You expect her to be a virgin. Just keep advising her. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by samydo(m): 12:53am On Apr 06, 2019 |
ireneidiva: Idiot did she say she floged her? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by IsiahRashad(m): 1:03am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: You're a good woman |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by tommy589(m): 1:07am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: Don't waste your time by advising or beating her,she is not going to change.I have something similar happening here and i am only keeping her because of her good father. We resorted to beating after counselling failed,when we realised we may run foul of the law we decided to give her a free rein.She leaves home for her school in the next street by 6.30 am and returns by 7-8pm.There is no fear or attempt to hide if we see her unexpectedly with boys/men Girls like that can only bend to the rules of naturally harsh guardians not the forming we do and call it beating/punishment.The only period she behaved a bit was when my no nonsense sister-inlaw was staying with us before she relocated.For her every daring act of disobedience she had a ready punishment for her,the most efficient was not giving her the next meal after she misbehaved. We are tolerating her due to pleading from her principal and the soft spot we have for her dad.From our observation,she is never in later life going to appreciate our efforts on her since the age of 2 when she was brought to us after the death of her mother 15 years ago.We have resolved to continue supporting her education untill she passes out of secondary. Focus on your children and tolerate her till she completes her school cert |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by King44(m): 1:10am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:since she no one wise, you have to caution her on your stand on it, let her know if she fails to listen and it gets out of hands you are so done helping her academically etc in fact she is on her own and she would have herself to blame not you, If her school authority is a woman report her to the woman, give her close marking at home and school as well you must know the time she closes and when she is expected to get back if she fails to get home at the proper time without genuine reason give her punishment (like ika obo, sitting on the wall, okada) etc don't beat her, though you can't curb it totally (she is a girl and exposed to it already) but you can discourage her with a lil bit of sex edu (tell her it would eventually lead to s3x and she could have unwanted pregnancy or worst HIV) the sex edu thing should be meant for her university when she is no more under your wing and when necessary, in fact what is stopping you from knowing those her friends at school and boyfriends as well, know them chase them off her back before they corrupt her totally threaten to arrest them and their parents like my pman would do. I can sense she is like a daughter to u sis don't send her back, if you do you are only helping her life to get worse, what if na ur pikin would u disown her? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by deltateam: 1:11am On Apr 06, 2019 |
fastseo: Fine with pregnancy. Shes naive and stupid too. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by bassette(m): 1:19am On Apr 06, 2019 |
UjuJoan2:Oh I love your comment. Should OP take to your counsel here she would be better for it. This is clear enough |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by vioment: 1:22am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Am sure say if your pikin dey her position (same age and circumstance), your reaction for dey different. Am not disregarding your help, but i bet say you go dun harden the girl since 12. I can also bet say at 12, your pikin no fit do more than half of the task as this girl, including the times wey you go dun wake am at odd hours to do some hard/easy tasks. And if you are a man, i wonder why you wan dey always verify say she dey sexually active, even as a woman. 2 Likes |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Rumobaba: 1:30am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Your hubby is a suspect. Watch him |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by ireneidiva(f): 1:40am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine:Once again, do not flog anybody's child. You can even strangle your child if you want. If she is too much to handle, send her back. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by King44(m): 1:45am On Apr 06, 2019 |
that girl is going tru a stage, some people have failed to realize that one day their daughter would get to that stage (17,18 plus) when they would likely misbehave as well and I wonder if they would eventually disown their own child or just let her go ahead and get pregnant then send her to their grandmother in the village but I already knew the answer NO they won't. For the fact that that little girl your house help is less privileged doesn't mean you should make her life more miserable she is also human like you, do ur best. Op help girl navigate tru that stage |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nathayas: 1:45am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Don't be hard on her, she may elope with her boyfriend. just sit down with her like your daughter and discuss and pray with her. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Orangina(m): 1:48am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Those gals can be very stubborn ,aunty, i have heard you , for where, and they end up Getting pregnant, watch out. I mean this kind of gals end up getting Pregnant. they think they are sharp. and wise, but they are wayward. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by adanny01(m): 1:52am On Apr 06, 2019 |
lacapine: A man who was my father's campaign DG for LG chairmanship elections but the ambition ditched begged my father on his knees to take as a responsibility one if his daughter's. My dad oblige him taking his 2nd daughter who was in primary 6 thinking we would groom that one instead of the older secondary School 1st daughter. The girl we took was demoted 2 classes to get her to read properly, by JSS 2, her breast were just forming but have not reached full size, had her 1st period the previous month, she was pregnant for an SS1 boy. The end. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by lekonso: 2:02am On Apr 06, 2019 |
From your explanation i think you have done your best to manage this maid. If she is not ready to take correction send her back to her parents before she becomes pregnant. |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by King44(m): 2:03am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Goddyj:what if she is your female child and she starts developing this attitude and ur flogging and advice doesn't matter to her lol... you would loose hope? or at least she is ur child? lol |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 2:06am On Apr 06, 2019 |
andyanders: Pls tell me she wasn't a maid at 6? |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by Nobody: 2:08am On Apr 06, 2019 |
TheGiftedOne: Mrs lacapine this is the best thing you can do, she will definitely get pregnant that's for sure, d problem is, she might try to abort it( that's worst). Am speaking from experience woh, return her d village ASAP!!!! |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by lekonso: 2:13am On Apr 06, 2019 |
advocate666: What is wrong in flogging a 17yr old girl that is not ready to take to correction? is age determinant of maturity? Children of this generation are wayward because of lack of discipline. 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 2:32am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Ezyp: Is there anything wrong in a teenager having a boyfriend? What were you doing at 18? Her behaviour is perfectly normal. Girls like boys and vice versa. Hypocrite 1 Like |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 2:45am On Apr 06, 2019 |
Orangina: As they long as they use protection she should be fine. There is nothing wrong with a teenager liking boys. It's natural oh yes |
Re: My 18-Year-Old Maid And Her Boyfriends by 1Sharon(f): 2:47am On Apr 06, 2019 |
adanny01: Who are you to the young girl? Why do you know she had her first period? That should be woman to woman Lord knows...you probably watched her take a shower under the guise of making sure she washes well |
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