Guest007:


Help me L0OL

I never knew that was pocos stalker, until yesterday *palm-face*

I thought the stalker (ex-bf) was zico

You thought me a stalker on a forum?

Oh come on!

I've got tonnes of things to do, to dedicate my time and energy and be stalking anyone.

Loyalty is rare, so no I won't dump her I don't care about her being a liability as long as I can provide but most def I will train her for any short comings, it just sound cold, dumping someone that has being there for you all because they lack certain skills, loyalty is more key to me oh and if she got my back too

meobizy:

It’s what I’m saying: if he’s hardworking and focused but not rich why would she cheat?
If she’s going to cheat with someone rich, why not make him her guy instead of sticking and enduring with Mr. Hardworking-but-can’t-provide-her-every-need?

my brother even the late british crime writer James Hardley Chase said u never know with women and dat women are funny and complex beings.na so e jus be.

magicminister:



Thrash...

I say is thrash because any man that had a supportive woman in his days of drought and finds her unworthy in his days of success will never last long.

I say this because even if you don’t want to be with her anymore, support her to become somebody.

My first girlfriend supported me when I had nothing. With her little money as teacher, she would buy food, cook and serve me. We lived in a self contain with leaking roof and she still treated me like a real man.

When I hammered, I set her up in ways I don’t wanna mention here but just know she’s very comfortable now and will never lack at least not whist I’m alive and we’re not even together anymore!!

Guys, no use your hand block your own blessing. Always show gratitude to your real soldiers that stood by you and repped you in times of your struggle.

Your mama and papa, your siblings and families and friends that supported.

So you don hammer and you no remember me Abi. Okay ooo ��� I like your post. Grateful heart is rare.

LordKO i think I need to mention that your vocabulary collection is amazing

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

maybe that explains why he lost his second term bid as the president. his first term victory was more like a fluke than a earned victory because Yaradua was the true president that people voted for, it was because of his death that Jonathan came to the picture, and he capitalized on that momentum to campaign for his own presidency for the first term. But his second term really tested his worth as the president, and he failed. mind you, his illiterate first lady (patience) didn't help matters at all.

though some of things that op said might sound unfair to a wife or a man who has stood by his/her partner for a long time through hardship, but the reality of life is bigger than things we expect to happen in a relationship. if your partner is growing in what he does, you too should find something doing that will keep you on par, or at least balanced, in the courtship.

True

blackpanthar:
the LONG TIME Girlfriends... did not GROW RICH... they felt love would be enough BUT it never is.

If the girls stopped sabotaging their own progress by waiting for a MAN TO BE RICH before progressing in their own lives in the name of love or in the name of "BEING THERE" for him.... even when the man gets money... he will be humble towards her.

MONEY CHANGES TASTE... both for women and men. RICH girls too dump guys who grew up with them... its called LIFE.

No one should WAIT for anyone... everyone should be moving.

lefulefu:
ohhh my bad.. No wonder u said God bless his soul.. Was tinkin abi uncle sege don kick...em u know. As for ojb jezreel i dont really know much of his marital life but then maybe there was sumptin brewing between him and his wife before the loss of contact. Man no go jus blow then dump the wife that was dear to him in his broke days. Its either dat woman was giving him issues like cheating on him and insulting him when he was broke then as he starts making it he quickly ditches her.wich man go wan do away wit wetin dey giv am joy.

The wife donated her kidney to him before he died and mind you ojb had a second wife

Oh but when a man is broke, the woman should help build him to the man he should be? Women should be supportive and understanding and stop chasing after rich men. But the minute a man gets rich, the woman is not on his level, but he cannot give the same level of support and understanding that the woman once gave, why? Do you see how stupid you and the op sound. You and your fellow men will do absolutely anything to trample on a woman. Shame on you!

Elder0001:



Understand the post before spilling your usual bullshît.


While the man was busy building himself financially and otherwise ,what was the woman doing ?

While a man is building himself financially,the woman should also do same . That’s the point of the OP

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

God bless you brother

Amhappy:
LordKO i think I need to mention that your vocabulary collection is amazing

Thank you.

lefulefu:
so dat means mama peace is an asset to oga jonathan rather than a liability.i think any reasonable man would want a wife like dat and not an empty headed slayqueen/slaymama.

exactly the point. If Patience wasn't valuable, Jonathan wouldn't even make it to vice president. Mama and Obj are political paddies

Elder0001:



You’re the wisest female on this thread .

Replies devoid of sentiment and emotion, kudos .

This compliment made me blush.

So what if a man who was once rich becomes broke, and the lady decides to leave him, because she’s not on his level anymore, ‘change is constant’. Do we support this 100%? Can we say this woman has a valid reason to leave because he’s not following her pace, or will you men not abuse her and call her all sorts of names?

You only agree with ‘change is constant’ once it benefits the man. If a man is changing for the worst, the woman is expected to ride or die for him like a useless slave, even if she outgrows him financially. But once a man is changing for the better and outgrowing his woman financially, he is entitled to trample and kick his woman’s ass to the curb as if she is disposable rubbish. Do you see how selfish and stupid most of you men are? It’s shameful

meobizy:
A lot of people did not read the write-up and as usual hyperventilated with questions already answered in it.
The article makes sense logically and is easily understandable.
There is a saying which goes ‘in life the only constant thing is change.’.
Change occurs for good or bad, well mostly bad but it happens anyway.
Anyone who doesn’t change with time or make adjustments to meet with changes gets left behind.
If lucky they get picked back up when they learn to adapt.
It is the law of the world, it is not nice but it’s set in stone.

This is something a lot of my fellow women fail to grasp. Instead they become very bitter and fail to see why he ended leaving instead there is this mindset of “ he owes me”.
Excellent write up, bravo!

Shut the Bleep up how many successful women do you know that are poor managers of success? Where is the stats that supports such unfounded claim of yours?

boban007:
ONCE A WOMAN ATTAIN SUCCESS THEY FIND IT DIFFICULT TO LIVE UNDER A MAN OR RESPECT HIM.WOMEN ARE POOR MANAGERS OF SUCCESS.

You are very correct but there is sometimes a twist to it.
Most guys endure what they cannot take ordinarily because of their conditions.
Some girls will capitalize on the fact that they are in charge to misbehave.
The guy must not say a word.
The girl has the liberty to do runs; since she takes care of the relationship from the proceeds.
Most of these guys are just enduring and waiting for a day to break free.
So, when some of them become financially buoyant, they might want to 'fight back' and this will be the beginning of the end of the relationship.
Please, my summation is not absolute and not in all cases!

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What a stupid assertion.

Guest007:


Lol. Here's a takeaway bag: GROW ALONG WITH YOUR PARTNER TO AVOID STORIES THAT TOUCH.


But... these farm tools ain't loyal, follow the above to avoid the above

If you think men cheat due to the "smelly
personality" of their women then you are on a very long thing.

Men cheat simply because they want to and it has nothing to do with their partners.

prince3009:


Tell that to Lilian Esoro whose rich husband impregnated a member of his staff!

It is not being with a rich man or broke man...

If you have a smelly personality, a man whether rich or broke will definitely kick your a*se to the curb when he feels your time is up!

Thanks.I just don't like the way some Nigerian ladies lazy about.We were supposed to help a man in building.From my research,76% of African men die so young because of stress.The expectations on African men is too much.When they die,life becomes so hard for their widows because they weren't prepared both financially,emotionally,and physically to take up the challenges.They weren't used to that.Now as a result,the children will be affected so much by the challenges.This is not good if we want to breed a society devoid of avoidable crimes.If Nigeria wants to get it right,it will have to start from the family.What do you teach your children.Do you just tell your daughters that the most important thing is for her to rally around and look for a rich man to marry that it would be the best security for her? Do you just teach your sons that as a man,he should bear all the burden? He is not supposed to ask for help nor cry? So many LADIES that are graduates don't even know what or why they had to study the course they did.All they want to learn is how to make up and sell clothes,weavon,bags and sandals.They won't learn how to make all this. I want a change.Let everyone help each other to build.The stress in this life is so much to be borne by one party. An Igbo adage says"Anyuko Mamiri onu,ogbaa ufufu".

centboy123456:



wow is this coming from a woman that really nice keep it up girl may God bless the work of ur hand

If she was more appealing why didn't he stick with her?

prince3009:


You would rather be with a man like Ubi Franklin who realized a member of his staff was more appealing than his wife right?

Can a woman also leave a man behind if he is not following her pace financially? Can a woman leave a broke man for a richer man without being labelled a goldigger, all because she’s elevating and her man is not? Are women not expected to be understanding and supportive, help their men along the way? But we only support this notion when it benefits a man, and it’s quite sad

blackpanthar:
the LONG TIME Girlfriends... did not GROW RICH... they felt love would be enough BUT it never is.

If the girls stopped sabotaging their own progress by waiting for a MAN TO BE RICH before progressing in their own lives in the name of love or in the name of "BEING THERE" for him.... even when the man gets money... he will be humble towards her.

MONEY CHANGES TASTE... both for women and men. RICH girls too dump guys who grew up with them... its called LIFE.

No one should WAIT for anyone... everyone should be moving.

Elder0001:



You’re the wisest female on this thread .

Replies devoid of sentiment and emotion, kudos .

A mentally parochial entity like you isn't in the best position to quantify others... I neither invalidate nor validate the IQ of the lady you quoted though, but she'll be doing herself a great disservice if she takes you serious.

It's very unfortunate that some men look for excuses to discard women who suffered with them when they had nothing but will not hesitate to call a woman who did the exact thing to a man an in grate and a gold digger.

Evercurious:

And that it keeps happening doesn't make it right? Does it?

Yeah. The average happening rate is high. That makes it right.

bolafez:


Yeah. The average happening rate is high. That makes it right.

Not at all cos what's wrong is wrong.

True talk

Jephyard:
From what the OP wrote up there is total thrash. If you want to know a man true character gives him power. So if the op blows tomorrow he will leave his loving uneducated/educated wife to one that meet his taste. No love, no loyalty. Wawu, pure greed, he want a sophisticated wife that will add more to him. He always want to take, take and not give. My advice for the OP is change your circle including your church you are heading to a wrong path. No man will leave a loyal girl because he has upgrade, and if he does they almost end up regretting their actions. I have friends and even one currently still regretting his actions for leaving his loyal girlfriend (just girlfriend o, not wife yet) to a more classy one. He is still begging her till today.

Wetin do that big fish classy one wey your guy follow go? Is she no more good to him?

JONNYSPUTE:
It's very unfortunate that some men look for excuses to discard women who suffered with them when they had nothing but will not hesitate to call a woman who did the exact thing to a man an in grate and a gold digger.

In that broke and needy state of that man, one can still see signs of ungratefulness if vigilant. I have been in situations like this and trust I don't hesitate to back out

LordKO:
@OP

A long-time girlfriend, not just a girlfriend of convenience, is obviously someone you must have found worthy morally, physically, emotionally and intellectually, so discarding her after you emancipate financially simply means that you're evil personification. Money in particular and material things in general never/should never be the hallmark of a sane person or defined a person.

@LordKO:I have been a member here since 2006.Mostly a silent onlooker,the quality of submissions has declined over the years,abysmally.The truth inherent in your post though(woke AF) approaches the divine,speaking volumes of your moral depth.Permit me to applaud your intellectual sagacity and flawless insight regarding what is simply a question of character.What maketh a man?The kind of degenerate reprobate that would repay back a woman's faith,love and belief with such contempt because of a few coins is a man to be kept at arms length,thats some next level 12 pieces of silver sh**.,Kendrick Lamar said it best "See, you's a, you's a,you's a—Bitch, your hormones prolly switch inside your DNA,Problem is,all that sucker shit inside your DNA Daddy prolly snitched, heritage inside your DNA". Such betrayal as the type described here is,as you rightly said,evil personafied.Thanks for pointing this out.Celestial realms and "real men" from Gidi to the North Pole agree with you,heck even Charlie Sheen agrees and dude is higher than space cadets half the time .Seriously though.Thank you for speaking for "us".(Ghost mode reactivated)

Jephyard:
From what the OP wrote up there is total thrash. If you want to know a man true character gives him power. So if the op blows tomorrow he will leave his loving uneducated/educated wife to one that meet his taste. No love, no loyalty. Wawu, pure greed, he want a sophisticated wife that will add more to him. He always want to take, take and not give. My advice for the OP is change your circle including your church you are heading to a wrong path. No man will leave a loyal girl because he has upgrade, and if he does they almost end up regretting their actions. I have friends and even one currently still regretting his actions for leaving his loyal girlfriend (just girlfriend o, not wife yet) to a more classy one. He is still begging her till today.

Thanks for being truthful and as I said earlier, I still friends(married men) regretting their actions till date... Let them keep looking for classy, olojukokoro guys.. I don't pity them. Same way I fling them across the fence when I sense signs of ungratefulness..