Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome... She's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people.

Our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threaten me.

My dad doesn't live with us but he is worst (I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore.

She is always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that she has seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them.

But am tired of always getting her out of trouble.. Pease help me...I really need the help

Omo.......This one strong ooooooooo

joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome...she's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people,our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tired to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threat me .my dad doesn't live with us but he is worst( I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore. she always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that have seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them. but am tired of always getting her out of trouble..please help me...I really need the help

I was once in a similar situation but Bros I moved out then,to go and live in a cheap area, cuz the Shame was just too much for me to bear. so I will just advice you to move out cuz people go dey take the same eye dey look una and sooner or later, consciously or unconsciously it will start affecting your pysche.

Talk to her,and find out what's wrong with her. Even if youre afraid of doing so from what ive deduced.

Besides when the grow older they always calm down. So be patient.

What kind of help do u need?.. That's how your mum gets her groove

She has chosen her own path... you can't change it..if your dad couldn't all these years.....All u need is to work hard..get ur own apartment.. make money.. and keep money aside for bailing purposes... Some cross that family bears..

The earlier you move out, the better as your mum's personality kind of feeds on your presence. Then when you go visit her, help her seek psychotherapy as she has so much to exhale.

Shibaraba:
Talk to her,and find out what's wrong with her. Even if youre afraid of doing so from what ive deduced.

Besides when the grow older they always calm down. So be patient.

Have done that countless of times she usually starts raining curses on me and wishing me a doom future

You can't do nothing but move out. You can't change her And it is a 100% true.

You can't hate her, she's your mother unfortunately for life. Except she ends up dead, that is your lot.

You trying to change her will be met with resistance at always.

Eminem said " I guess we are who we are ".
There are some people you can never change, She is what she is.

xteve:

I've been there, she'll cry that I don't support her some times. You have to get your own place and she'll change as she ages

that's exactly what she does .....I don't support her and am the one that makes people not to respect her

a child praying for good parent the prayer is late that is mum endure you should be a good child and a good parent to your unborn children.

There's nothing you can do. Move out and leave her to her devices. When she enters trouble again, leave her to stew in her juices for two days before bailing her. When next she sees trouble she will think hard before pursuing it.

Ishilove:
There's nothing you can do. Move out and leave her to her devices. When she enters trouble again, leave her to stew in her juices for two days before bailing her. When next she sees trouble she will think hard before pursuing it.

I recommend you take this advice. But increase the number of days by five and make it seven. You can thank Ishilove later and give me a bottle of red wine

Get her help. It's a mental case and should be handled by a professional. She's a danger to the society already. Is it until she commits murder before you get her help?

Ishilove:
There's nothing you can do. Move out and leave her to her devices. When she enters trouble again, leave her to stew in her juices for two days before bailing her. When next she sees trouble she will think hard before pursuing it.

What if she commits murder in the process? There's something she can do to forestall greater harm to innocent people around.

Ginaz:
You can't do nothing but move out. You can't change her And it is a 100% true.

You can't hate her, she's your mother unfortunately for life. Except she ends up dead, that is your lot.

You trying to change her will be met with resistance at always.

Eminem said " I guess we are who we are ".
There are some people you can never change, She is what she is.

She's not qualified to change the mother. But, she can help get her into a proven process that can change her for the good of society.

My grandma (grew up with her) was like this too. She quarreled with one of her neighbor three days straight. Will leave to school in the morning and still come back to meet her throwin jabs at the woman. Worse part is, when I begin Dey happy say she don Dey calm down after about two to three hours silence from both sides. Granny will hurriedly leave what she was doing and go throw one deadly punchline the other woman go vex retaliate. They don resume quarrel be that.


She once called me(while in JSS3) to stand in front of my dad and uncle and told them to ask me why my penls is bigger than my age. That I have started doing things. Lol


I got home from school one day met her beating another woman’s son, “mama what did he do Na” she replied; he’s too ugly, I told him never to pass my front yard again, with em mouth like person wey match shit”


She’ll tell you some of her firewood is missing, that you aided one of her neighbors (sworn enemy) in stealing them, then she will go knock on that neighbors gate and warn her to stop using her son ( me ) to steal her firewood. Asin I was tired mehn.


Las las when she died, I didn’t know if I should be crying or start jubilating.

She was a definition of trouble.

Go and find a place to stay, then pray for her. I believe that she will change

joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome...she's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people,our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tired to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threat me .my dad doesn't live with us but he is worst( I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore. she always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that have seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them. but am tired of always getting her out of trouble..please help me...I really need the help

It could be she has bipolar or some mental health issues. Have you guys ever thought of that? I will advice she gets help as soon as possible along that line.

sacx:


I recommend you take this advice. But increase the number of days by five and make it seven. You can thank Ishilove later and give me a bottle of red wine

Let's pity mama and meet in the middle- 3days

Chubhie:

What if she commits murder in the process? There's something she can do to forestall greater harm to innocent people around.

From the OP's narration, Mama is cantekerous and verbally abusive, but not violent so there's no chance of her commiting murder. Perhaps she can push someone into suicide with her bad mouth but she won't take a weapon to wreak havoc.

Fact is the woman cannot change so it is left for daughter to make her own way in life, in the opposite direction.

Ishilove:

From the OP's narration, Mama is cantekerous and verbally abusive, but not violent so there's no chance of her commiting murder. Perhaps she can push someone into suicide with her bad mouth but she won't take a weapon to wreak havoc.

Fact is the woman cannot change so it is left for daughter to make her own way in life, in the opposite direction.

Not until all clinical procedures are conducted should her case be a closed chapter. Problems are never solved by running in the opposite direction.

Chubhie:

Not until all clinical procedures are conducted should her case be a closed chapter. Problems are never solved by running in the opposite direction.

Puhleeze! Not everything is medical o jare. Nastiness, trouble making and verbal abusiveness is a character flaw, not a medical condition.

Ishilove:

Puhleeze! Not everything is medical o jare. Nastiness, trouble making and verbal abusiveness is a character flaw, not a medical condition.

Should we then term it spiritual condition since this is "beyond" science?

Move out asap! That's all!

But where is lalasticlala sef

Constantly pray for her. If JESUS could make Paul have a change of heart, HE is capable of making your mother have a change of mind.

But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”--Matthew 19:26

Chubhie:

Should we then term it spiritual condition since this is "beyond" science?

People with personality disorders that don't want your help can't be forced to receive it. It's her choice to be fighting about, and I'm sure she will vehemently resist any offer of help from any quarters.
She doesn't sound bipolar, not like someone with depression either. She's also never physically hurt anyone for you to section her, and such people love life too much to hurt themselves. She's a hopeless case unfortunately

Really sad, maybe she entertains herself with being in everyone's face, cos I don't know what to call it, some people just like being troublesome.

All women are trouble maker

Sadly, your brother will marry and bring your mother to his house, despite knowing how troublesome she is.

When the innocent woman reacts, people will say she is a bad wife. Chai!