joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome... She's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people.

Our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threaten me.

My dad doesn't live with us but he is worst (I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore.

She is always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that she has seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them.

are you guys from niger delta?

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Ishilove:

Puhleeze! Not everything is medical o jare. Nastiness, trouble making and verbal abusiveness is a character flaw, not a medical condition.

Maybe, maybe not. It is not every antisocial behaviour is character flaws. The behaviours she is exhibiting maybe to mask some deep seated psychological issues. She may be having serious mental health challenges that quarreling with neighbours gives her succour.

I believe a professional help can ameliorate her problems. It may not completely solve it but can reduce her level of aggression. I will not rule out oppositional defiant behaviour as the foundation of her adulthood problems.

Ishilove:

Puhleeze! Not everything is medical o jare. Nastiness, trouble making and verbal abusiveness is a character flaw, not a medical condition.

Long time, Ishilove.

You are still here.

Love

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sotall:


Haba! Which kain advise be this?

Please pay no attention to him. He is not alright.

If you are sure it not a psychiatric issue and she is just troublesome......park your load and leave her if you not she use her character to smear you negatively ....be wise..... however before you move out....get her account number so that as a good child you can support her .....,......... but as I said if you are sure it is a character flaw... move don't let her use her bad behaviour smear you. .......you have your life to live

Pls just be calm with her. She might be going through a lot.

Nne this,one has passed physical things,ooh
It has entered the spiritual warfare
Prayer and deliverance is need for your family.
This is not peace mediation anything na. Serious prayer ur family need. And since u can see the problem then tackle the problem through the spiritual realm.
I didn't say u should go to people to those that will prophesy to u or ur family or all those seers that will come and add to ur problem.
A beg go to any catholic priest (especially ministerial priests) or any bible believing Pentecostal church

OP, your mum might be suffering from personality disorder, probably borderline PD. Some might even classify it as anti-social personality disorder, since no self-harm is involved. But only an expert can determine that after appropriate consultations. Even at that, because several mental health conditions co-exist (mood disorders are common in personality disorder patients for example) and the person in question might not readily manifest some of the symptoms to match the diagnostic criteria, a seasoned expert might still struggle to get it right sometimes.

Basically, your mum is not doing it on purpose. It's an illness. And she needs help.

Mental health conditions are VERY common in Nigeria. The vast majority are not diagnosed as only very few seek help. Especially because of the stigma attached to it. It's costing us heavily in terms of family & societal cohesion, crime and economic loss.

If you have other siblings or trusted close relatives, enlist their help. She will resist and raise dust but persevere.

Madness is only a tiny part of mental health issues. Explain that to her. She's NOT MAD. You can just tell her she needs help to cope with emotional issues. That it's not her fault. Abandoning her will cause more problems. And you might come to regret it seriously for running away.

Before that, try to catch her in a happy mood and respectfully find out about her childhood. Most personality disorder sufferers had a very harsh, difficult or even traumatic experience earlier in life. The high number of inmates with personality disorder is no coincidence.

Good luck!

joystarts:



that's exactly what she does .....I don't support her and am the one that makes people not to respect her

Try and get ur own apartment.
Your family will always be ur family. But u can save them. Nne this,one has passed physical things,ooh
It has entered the spiritual warfare
Prayer and deliverance is need for your family.
This is not a peace mediation anything at all. Na Serious prayer ur family need. And since u can see the problem then tackle the problem through the spiritual realm.
I didn't say u should go to people to those that will prophesy to u or ur family or all those seers that will come and add to ur problem.
A beg go to any catholic priest (especially ministerial priests) or a pastor at any bible believing Pentecostal church. Explain to them ur problem. Pray

Your mum needs love , you people should show her love,

Be careful so her troublesome act won't affect your marriage

This your case is genetical n hereditary.It will take the grace of God to settle it.

joystarts:


I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome.

Find a place to.stay.... farrr away. The next time she tells you to move out.... do so. Drop off the map... no trace... no communication.... for a month... then a brief phone call. Let her remain locked up.... no bail.... see how quick she'll straighten herself.

MissRaine69:
Education does not make one’s personality.If your own mother threatens with you a knife, it’s time you put your own life first. Life is hard but if you are adult. Save and move out. It might be hard at first but life is not meant to be easy.

na you get that lap on your profile?

Shibaraba:
Talk to her,and find out what's wrong with her. Even if youre afraid of doing so from what ive deduced.

Besides when the grow older they always calm down. So be patient.

Grow older? When she already has a son that can reason through things as this one!

She has mental disorder.she needs help but she may b too proud to follow u to see a psych.just hire a consultant to see her privately if u can afford it

joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome... She's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people.

Our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threaten me.

My dad doesn't live with us but he is worst (I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore.

She is always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that she has seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them.

But am tired of always getting her out of trouble.. Pease help me...I really need the help

Ishilove:

Are character flaws spiritual? Can a nasty temperament be 'cured' by science?

Madam you are a bit ignorant there. You believe this woman doesn’t have health issues? It’s not every health problem that is characterised by wounds, infections and traumas.
This woman from her daughters narrations shows several signs. You believe all those unwarranted outbursts, aggressions whether verbal or near physical and consistent hostilities are simple character flaws and have nothing to do with mental health??

Even people with less similar cases would be in anger management classes getting their conditions sorted.
Don’t forget her daughter had been threatened with a knife. That’s how serious cases are either ignored or misdiagnosed till something very unpleasant happens.

That woman needs professional help. Her issues are deeper than what you’ve been told.

Put her in prayers...it's not normal

sacx:


I recommend you take this advice. But increase the number of days by five and make it seven. You can thank Ishilove later and give me a bottle of red wine

you are troublesome than Op's mother, I'm very sure.

Empiree:
Deal with it bro. She's your mom. Mama can not be exchanged.

Do you have idea how much trouble you caused as a child when you knew nothing?. She most likely got into trouble countless times bcus of you too.

You can always move out and rent your own place but you can't do away with her behavior. Deal with this mess with maturity.

She's your mama and she remains so in your life ..... FOREVER. You understand?.

Stop complaining about your mother in public. Grow up

Just thank God for your own,some parents ehn.......
I sense love and a little bit of frustration in the write up, not necessarily to demonize the mum.
Just wanting other peoples opinion,probably she has exhausted every diplomatic way of handling the issue.

Ishilove:

Puhleeze! Not everything is medical o jare. Nastiness, trouble making and verbal abusiveness is a character flaw, not a medical condition.

Likely a mental issue. She always ready to fight. She is violent. There 70 percent probability that it is mental based on experience

Ishilove:

From the OP's narration, Mama is cantekerous and verbally abusive, but not violent so there's no chance of her commiting murder. Perhaps she can push someone into suicide with her bad mouth but she won't take a weapon to wreak havoc.
Fact is the woman cannot change so it is left for daughter to make her own way in life, in the opposite direction.

She has attacked the op with knife, threatening her on countless occasions.
She might not commit murder, but anyone who can loosely charge at another with a weapon, could one day end up with manslaughter on their hands.

joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome... She's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people.

Our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threaten me.

My dad doesn't live with us but he is worst (I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore.

She is always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that she has seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them.

But am tired of always getting her out of trouble.. Pease help me...I really need the help

Tjis one na spirit of anger....take am go TB Joshua for deliverance.

Is that Kemi Olunloyo

joystarts:



that's exactly what she does .....I don't support her and am the one that makes people not to respect her

You have to move out quickly to a place far from her. Give her no hint before you leave please. This is the only way to help her to start calming down gradually. Continue to cater for her, but visit her less often.

Your mom is mentally ill.

joystarts:
Hi guys, I really need some advice

My mom is so troublesome... She's always looking for people trouble, always ready for a fight. In the area in which we live in she has quarrel with all the people.

Our Tenants always move out after their rent has expired, i have tried to talk to her but she doesn't listen. Each time I try to she calls me a bastard and all sort of horrible names and tell me she is going to kill me, countless of times she has used a knife to threaten me.

My dad doesn't live with us but he is worst (I had a rough childhood). My mom has countless of times told me to leave her house which i plan on doing by next year but I can't take this anymore.

She is always being arrested and the worst part is the fact that she is educated. Am pretty sure that she has seen the police station than most policemen, I don't associate with people so not to attract problems to myself because she insults them.

But am tired of always getting her out of trouble.. Pease help me...I really need the help

. dear did u see ur maternal grandparents ? ask them what is wrong with their daughter, because they are the ones that knows her very much .

maybe this might be a curse someone laid on her . not trying to sound irritating, but think curse is one thing that changes ones life without the person knowing how to change it .

do u still have other Siblings around ? she still need someone close by but must not be in the same building to check on her always. u said she is troublesome ,and might fall into danger without anyone knowing . nor matter anything mama na mama.


don't wait until next year do pack out, BT don't forget to be paying her visits and while visiting be careful .
PRAYER IS THE ULTIMATE KEY DEAR
DONT FORGET TO TELL GOD TO CHANGE MUM FOR U.
It will be alright one day

Ur Mum need deliverance. Evil spirit is tormenting her.... believe it or not, that is the fact...