pansophist:


No, like seriously no. You watched too much nollywood movies, to assume that rich dude are blind to the financial status of their potential partner. Mohammed dangote equally married a Malaysian billionaire, not some poor lady, you ladies dream too much and completely unrealistic.

The farthest a wealthy guy will usually do is to date broke girls in their prime, enjoy an unrestricted access to her honeypot, while she is drunk in the feeling that she is the best thing ever, until when it's time for him to move on. In other word, pump and dump. It is then women like you think wealthy men are into broke ladies that by your very nature, are a liability than an asset.

Do not fool yourself. In the real world, most people, especially the wealthy that knows the value of money will never marry women in an unequal financial level to them, to avoid leeches who will transfer all their personal and family problems to them, all in the name of love. Personally, you wont catch me with a broke woman, never, because I understand that being broke is a disease of the mind, not the temporary absence of cash. Be realistic.

Saffi:
[s] I’m so sorry this is an ultimate lie. You used one example to justify your point which makes no sense. Beauty/youth=wealth. Most men of means look for beautiful young women possibly in their 20s to settle down with. They’re not looking for a woman who will financially compete with them, a woman who is extremely successful on their level, it’s actually very masculine and most successful men dislike this. They’re rare occasions where a man might marry his equal but most likely will cheat severely. Once a man has reached the peak of career, he normally looks for a beauty queen which symbolises the height of his success. The best thing a woman can do to is to have something going on for herself at least, to occupy her time. I’m sorry but that is just the harsh truth.[/s]

DamonSalvatore:
how does this your crap of bullshiiit stops barca from carrying Ucl?

be sorry for your bitchy ass

Saffi:
The truth is painful sorry. Broke men are unwanted in society and that’s the truth.

CruellaDeVil:
You didn’t read my post properly, I really don’t care about who men decide to settle with but if a rich woman is your spec, please go for it! I support 100%! Everybody likes good things
And while I’d advocate a woman should be with a rich man, I’d also advise that if he doesn’t have sense or if he’s a total jerk, she shouldn’t ditch him and find a nice rich man

CruellaDeVil:
*Trigger alert*

If you know you get offended whenever you see the term *broke men* or you begin to convulse and foam at the mouth like a rabid dog when we table your matter, abeg leave! Because I can assure you, you will HATE this post and would probably have a heart attack!

That said, my question is: WHY do Broke men get sooooo upset and in their feelings when they hear a girl say she wants to marry a rich man? I mean, is it such a bad thing to aspire for? I believe all girls should aspire to "marry up", marry a man that can take good care of you! Nobody would want to be shackled to a man that is living in abject poverty na. You don't have a right to criticize us for our preferences after all, nobody says anything to you when you say you want girls with big breasts or yansh! same way you like a thick girl is the same we we prefer loaded pockets

And the funny thing is that it's usually you broke men that get upset when a girl says she wants a wealthy man. You don't ever see an actually rich man getting a seizure when a girl says this. It's just the fact that money or lack of it has shamed you and relegated you to the background once again and you cant do anything about it. Your ego is hurt beyond words when you see your fellow man getting all the respect, nice chicks ad attention because of hs money while you are spited and looked down upon

Even you sef, as you are broke, do you like yourself? Will you advise your sister to marry a broke man like you? Would you want your daughters to marry a broke man? If a rich woman and a poor woman should come and ask you out and note they are equally beautiful, intelligent and talented, won't you pick the rich woman?

I'm sure some of you retárds will come here and say only broke girls want rich guys, girls should work for their own money yen yen yen but the truth is, the desire for rich men is not just for material gains, it's also a class thing (at least in some cases). Girls from poor and those from well off backgrounds would rather be with a rich guy, even Linda Ikeji with all her wealth found a rich man to impregnate her and I highly doubt you'd ever catch her dead with a broke ass. So, it's a universal thing. ALL girls would prefer a rich guy, even the most hardworking and independent ones
In my own case, my reason is you did not see me suffering in my father's house so you cannot come and push me into a life of wretchedness

On a final note, when you hear a girl say she wants only wealthy guys, don't be offended. Nobody likes suffer head life. Instead, it should motivate you to make money so you can be a girl's desire

Lastly, to all niggas out there that'd definitely be in severe pains by my post and would come to say nonsense, I have only one advise for you :
Nwanne jee cho ba ego

Saffi:
I’m so sorry this is an ultimate lie. You used one example to justify your point which makes no sense. Beauty/youth=wealth. Most men of means look for beautiful young women possibly in their 20s to settle down with. They’re not looking for a woman who will financially compete with them, a woman who is extremely successful on their level, it’s actually very masculine and most successful men dislike this. They’re rare occasions where a man might marry his equal but most likely will cheat severely. Once a man has reached the peak of career, he normally looks for a beauty queen which symbolises the height of his success. The best thing a woman can do to is to have something going on for herself at least, to occupy her time. I’m sorry but that is just the harsh truth.

Airtimex:



My dear I don't normally comment on such threads. assuming you are a very busy lady, you won't sit down to compose this, you won't even bother what men says about women.

I think you should put more effort in making your own money. If you see what is happening in marriages these days, you will understand with me that depending on your husband for money is even dangerous.

For most men, their money can never be your own despite being his wife. You will only see money but can't enjoy it. Please I need a change of mentality from our ladies...

With the way our girls are going about Things, very soon they will be relegated back to the kitchen alone and some will be seen as only sex object in the society...

Is not a crime for woman to be rich and watch men run around her for marriage too...be careful plz

CruellaDeVil:
You clearly did not read my post well
Even the most independent and wealthy woman would want a rich man
Point is, Rich men are highly preferred and requested and being broke in today’s world won’t benefit you anything
I’m not preaching about depending on men, I’m just saying the harsh truth

SageMK:
Yes ladies. Forget us broke guys.


You'd be doing us a big favour because we don't want to date ugly gold diggers also. So do run off into the arms of your ancestors with private jets and give that space to true queens that'll aid our growth. Now don't worry about us, we'll find some place else to release our semen.

But just so you know, while you jump from one rich guy to another, that boobs and ass that you count on will sag one day. Your beauty will fade & your assets depreciate.

And when that happens... No FOOL will take you.

pansophist:


Your approach lies on the extreme of black and white, disregarding grey areas, which made you not to understand my point at all.

First of all, a financially independent woman doesn't mean men interpret that as a potential competitor, I dont know where you get that from. If anything, men prefer independent women, but only if her independence will not get through her head, refusing to be submissive. It's not a news that when women have money in the household, they typically disrespect the man. Find me an independent woman that is cool headed, and I'll show you a man that loves her deeply.

Secondly, men do prefer beauty and youthfulness, we are hardwired to find such trait attractive, but if she thinks her beauty gives her a pass to be a leach, then no, she is the wrong one. Men dont want leeches, regardless if she is 20 or 40, just as women dont want fucc.kk boys. Seem uncomplicated to me.

MariaLavina:
Go and make money!

DamonSalvatore:
how does this your crap of bullshiiit stops barca from carrying Ucl?

be sorry for your bitchy ass

Martinez39:
You made an argument and Saffi correctly countered your point. What's wrong in that? There was no need to insult her. How does your initial point stops barca from carrying the UCL?

DamonSalvatore:
you quoted the wrong person..
go for ey3 check ups

Saffi:
You’ve justified my point. Independence comes in all forms. A woman with a regular job who is managing is still independent. What I’m trying to say is that rich men do not look for their equal as you implied. They essentially look for beauty and youth as their top criteria’s. Most rich men would rather take a beautiful young girl with no money to her name, than an average looking a successful woman who is their equal financially. And yes, subconsciously a rich woman is competition for any rich man and that’s the truth. I just need you to wake up and stop being delusional. No a rich man is not going to go to the village and pick up an illiterate to marry, of course not, no matter how beautiful she is they just don’t fit into the same class at all. But if the woman is well spoken and presentable, with something minor going on for herself, with beauty and youth, she can find a rich man to marry if that's what she desires and she puts herself in the right places. That is just to break it down to you.

pansophist:


I'm not justifying your point, your point has been my initial stance from the initial post. Sure I used the example of dangote and the Malaysian billionaire, but it doesn't mean thats the only example that abounds. If you reread my initial post, I made it clear that men do not want liabilities. Of course a man would like to spend on his lady, most men would. It's just how men are hardwired. But it should not be interpreted under the light that it is permissible for her to be solely dependent on him. Temporary dependent is understandable, but it should not be her state of being. And no, a woman richer is a catch, but that's only if she is submissive, not otherwise.

It is possible for two people of opposite financial status to coexist harmoniously in a relationship, because to be broke and a leech is a state of mind. A woman that sees relationship as an escape route for her to be independent is exactly the kind of woman men will avoid.

nnamanirr:
is that u @ ur profile??

Saffi:
I can have my own money and still expect you to do all of not most of the spending. Is that a leech? I have my own money but I still expect you to pay for my presence in your life, is that a leech? I’m tired of arguing about this topic please, in the end a man must come together with a woman and he must spend. That is the end of the story.

TimiRume:
Your mama no fine, your sisters dem wowor but you no dey date ugly girls, fat or skinny girls. Na posch babes you want. If na like so, make women with poor fathers and wretched brothers no pursue millionaire or billionaire?

Everybody has standards, if you have standards that you want in a companion why do you demonize others for theirs. I know, it's called sexism and it's a foolish thing to suffer from because it takes away ever form of sensitiviy in you for the opp sex and makes you a narcissist prick.

This same nairaland, where men waste no time calling women ugly. Do you know what it means for a woman to bear being called ugly? That's the most demeaning word you can ever call a woman. It is very depressing and takes a toll on her self esteem. But then it's okay right because they are ''mere women'' or maybe ''animals'' or ''objects'' and they are not supposed to feel insulted. Wow you guys need help, serious help.

fahvourite:
yea

Airtimex:



My dear I don't normally comment on such threads. assuming you are a very busy lady, you won't sit down to compose this, you won't even bother what men says about women.

I think you should put more effort in making your own money. If you see what is happening in marriages these days, you will understand with me that depending on your husband for money is even dangerous.

For most men, their money can never be your own despite being his wife. You will only see money but can't enjoy it. Please I need a change of mentality from our ladies...

With the way our girls are going about Things, very soon they will be relegated back to the kitchen alone and some will be seen as only sex object in the society...

Is not a crime for woman to be rich and watch men run around her for marriage too...be careful plz

ImaIma1:


The ones that get triggered or hurt are the ones that plan to remain broke. The ones talking like it is their fate to never succeed. They see rich people as a threat and always believe that the money is not clean

Saffi:
The truth is painful sorry. Broke men are unwanted in society and that’s the truth.

ThothHermes:
I asked the cretin that created this thread a question and she has sidestepped it.

Maybe you'd help since you are clearheaded.

How exactly would marrying a broke man make you suffer if you were not already suffering in your father's house?

CruellaDeVil:
NF