Austineva:
lolz u re indeed funny! Then, u guys no break up nah. Its call relationship break

we did. she's a very compassionate lady. we are still good friends though.

SIR0:
I just had a breakup and now I am having some pretty nasty heartache. This lady & I stay on the same campus and we see many times. Though I have been trying to overcome the pain, but my heart still strikes whenever we cross paths or I see her. I have about three months to finish and probably leave for NYSC this year, still, I wonder how to survive seeing her within the limited time left. It gives me sleepless nights. And this is the period I need to be more concentrated on my studies and final year project. She's not likely to come back as she seems to be in love with another guy already. I really need some relief.

Would I be able to forget about her soon after leaving because the love I have for her is too much?

N.B: I never put the blame for leaving me on her. She is not to blame at all.

Please advise a brother.
Thanks in anticipation.

You have no stated the reason she left or the reason she is leaving

How could you just allow something you treasure to sleep out of your hand

Where do you want the advice you are expecting from is to come from

Anyway talk to yourself and move on
Better one's are ahead of you and nothing is permanent in this life

You have no stated the reason she left or the reason she is leaving

How could you just allow something you treasure to sleep out of your hand

Where do you want the advice you are expecting from us to come from

Anyway talk to yourself and move on
Better one's are ahead of you and nothing is permanent in this life

dreamwords:

your papa balls

Fool

Think on death that is eventually coming to get you, her, every commentator on this thread, me, Buhari, Trump, Regina Daniels, Wizkid, the iya alakara u patronise on the corner of your street, Davido, Nigerian men of God, the American ones, The ones the world over...like basically, everyone

Remember that very death. Remember it comes to get us all in time. ..then make the most of your time while you have it. I am not sure that obsessing and whimpering about that girl , who is already make the most of her own time with some other dude(s) can be considered effective time management, my son, the dude.

Wheezy123:


Fool

your papa balls ,
Your mother is a harlot

united442:


dude if ur mind,heart,brain,memory,infact if you are not mentally focus after a breakup,just forget about book..
it will take the grace of God to be focus with book especially when its close to exam period..that shit hurts like hell..

even while in hustle,you may not be able to concentrate..

Wrong.. It takes a second to understand ur the most important entity you have, not friends, family and most Def not her.. Lodge urself with 2 cute girls for like 3 days.. The moment u let dis shit get 2 u.. Uve disappointed urself, she's a girl, there will always be better offer.

Focusmind:
Kids everywhere. Face your studies and graduate with a good grade and come and face the world.

when you are successful, all these issues becomes irrelevant. I am telling you from example. I had similar experience but decided to make my studies a priority, graduated, secured oversea scholarship, came back and was doing relatively well.

When she saw me years somewhere in Jakande bus stop, Lekki, where I dropped off someone and behold she was at that Jakande bus stop waiting for Danfo. I horned and she was hesitant to come but I had to alight to go and meet her. She shouted, entered my car and we discussed at length. She came for a call center interview near by. She told me she has been job hunting years after our graduation without success. I could see the stress and hustle of Lagos life - No porn intended.

When she got to know where I was working then, see disturbances every where and I was like "see the babe that some how "dealt" with me", now falling over herself to get my attention. After visiting me like four times, she said that the person she is staying with in Abule-Egba, wants her to leave and if I should allow her to stay till she secure accommodation. I said no, that I will prefer to lend her money to find a small room apartment around Ajah, which I did, but she did not bother to pay for the accommodation but continued staying with the friend she claimed wanted to chase her out. I knew the friend did not want to chase her out. She just wanted to come and take position in my house.

So I tell young men, focus on success first and ladies will surely come.

you are a fool ,so you lent her money after she shenked you in the past .nigga you are even weaker than the op.

Nofavorss:
I can bet you’re a teenager or little above 20

Bro you are not wrong at all he may be X age biologically but mentally he is a big baby. I wonder why they think sex has any gain. Anyway sex is what most teens look for as a reason for friendship with opposite sex majorly based on peer pressure.

bigpriik:


you are a fool ,so you lent her money after she shenked you in the past .nigga you are even weaker than the op.

Oga must you burn bridges with everyone you have a problem with in past? Is break up a crime? Don't people help strangers they don't know before?
Better grow up and learn to speak politely.

wheezyoung:
speaking from experience,it takes exactly 1 year for a guy to forget abt a girl he genuinely loved,things i can recommend you to do are to avoid communication with her for now,if you keep talking to her,you may have a breakdown,make new friends, talk to girls you’ve never spoken to, meet guys,develop a new hobby,try not to think about what you did wrong or time spent with her makes things worse,if you see her along the road just wave and keep moving..don’t go for a rebound,you go hate life.

MOST IMPORTANTLY DONT ASK HER ABT HER NEW RELATIONSHIP,DEY YR DEY!!!avoid her text and callls for a while,delete her number join sef

a year? Bleh, nah, it took me a months to stop loving her, I cried for this girl, but got over it and forgot her.

sircrabo:


That's the most painful part about breakups. The thought of seeing another guy in between her thighs. Imagining her moaning too, you'll be wondering if the guy will be better than you in bed. The thought of him banging her wet pussy while she makes sound she never made for you and she sucking his D. Chaiiii.

stop killing this dude

King44:
I and my girlfriend just broke up, she wants us to be friends but I can't be friends with her because I might not be able to overcome my feelings for her, last week after playing with her I left and sent her a message that we can't be friend and we should pretend as if we never met but today we saw I looked at her like a stranger and the look on her face was that of anger and dislike, guys I need advice should I yield to what she wants or not ( beside a friend of mine doesn't agree with my decision)

stay away from her even if it takes months until you completely get over your feelings for her.

use this and thank me later

stanliwise:
Bro you are not wrong at all he may be X age biologically but mentally he is a big baby. I wonder why they think sex has any gain. Anyway sex is what most teens look for as a reason for friendship with opposite sex majorly based on peer pressure.

Exactly why I felt he’s a teen. We’ve all been there. That age where we all thought sex was Win Win. But when age set us free, we realised there’s more to life than sex

dreamwords:

your papa balls ,
Your mother is a harlot

That's all u know how to say best.. illiterate

XYZo:


Nope u can go back to your spit to clean it off the road with your shoes so it doesn't constitute nuisance for others

I'd rather leave it where it belongs.. there're better n fresher spittle where dt came from. Moreover, what will become of the bottom feeders, if I (the predator) shares from the crumbs meant for em.

Just ignore her and roll with her friends....
She will come begging at your knees

Gf leave you, you say how can U survive

That's the list disappointment you should expect from a non related person

Every finish line is the beginning of a new race.

Bruno Mars sang a song - nothing on you

Download it and listen

vicfy:
I'd rather leave it where it belongs.. there're better n fresher spittle where dt came from. Moreover, what will become of the bottom feeders, if I (the predator) shares from the crumbs meant for em.

so just because you broke up with someone now, the person has become your vomit, spit, crumbs. Na human being we all be last last, from vanity we came from, vanity we shall return.

I see so many guys encouraging those facing heartache to get over it and stop being sissies. Or even bragging about how quickly they got over an ex, but honestly the truth is there's no one size fits all approach to dealing with heartbreak. We all were not present with you during the relationship, we didn't share your emotions and feelings, we don't know how great and deep your loss is so we can't fully empathize. What I know is, just like every other hardship in life you have to be brave and face it head on, it is okay to feel hurt, don't try to pretend like it isn't happening because that's only a temporary fix until someone else breaks your heart again. It is all part of the healing process , and learning to accept and deal with heartbreak will save you in future because the more it happens, and trust me it will continuously happen cause we are all human, the less likely it is to hurt like the first time and the better you will be at handling it.

it won't always be like this dear and one day you'll wake up and you'll be okay again.

I know you loved your ex and kudos for opening your heart up to feel, in this world where we are encouraged not to care or feel that was a brave thing to do, but now choose to love yourself , take care of yourself and build yourself up to be a person anyone would be crazy to risk losing by any standard whatsoever . In the end it's their loss.

KINDEST REGARDS!

united442:
o.p am currently facing what you are facing now,we broke up 4months ago, school in the same campus and live close off camp..

o.p listen, its not going to be an easy task, so have that at the back of ur mind.,it requires a lot of work about you to be done to avoid and get over her..she wont or she isn't going to be affected cux she has moved on..

op i really dnt knw how to advise you or things to do cux am still trying to work my way out too bt i will tell u the little i can and how have been managing mine..

op if you are an introvert, then its going to be a double wahala cus it will affect you alot..your confidence,self-esteem, emotions, feelings, everything about you both mentally and physically will drastically reduce, you will be painedddd! angry, short of breath, stomach arch, at a time you wont feel like eating anything (especially if the breakup is fresh), infact o.p, you will loose ur self, imaging the pain and feelings you get wen you see her with another guy,imaging that same guy bleeping ur formal hole..abt that,o.p there is nothing you can do again to stop that..

this is where you will need to work on yourself, whatever advise you receive, apply them but know providing this is/must be costant;

*TIME!!...give yourself time...even in nysc camp, u may not see urself getting over her in first 2-3months..
*deleting every single inch about her,
*accept the pain,regret,grieve and whatever is happing to you,its all normal,they happened to me too..
*try and eat well and stay healthy.
*no matter how introverted you are,am sorry o.p cux you will have to break that chain and go out to mingle with females ONLY!..if you must mingle with guys, associate yourself with guys that sleep with girls alot or guys that are very funny lyk comedian..those 2 set of guys can make you forget ur pain.
*o.p you have to improve urself, like dress well, exercise, woo girls,even if they are ugly or even if they dnt accept u, just do it for fun sake, it build ur confidence..
*always smile and be happy when u see her,even if ur mind fly,form or forge the smile

and lastly,please do ur best to ignore her, dnt go seeking for her knowing fully well u will see her at a particular road,store or place jst to get her attention,it wont help u...

@bolded, Na ordinary woman dey give you those plenty plenty symptoms?
Anyways, your advice make sense die.

Focusmind:
Kids everywhere. Face your studies and graduate with a good grade and come and face the world.

when you are successful, all these issues becomes irrelevant. I am telling you from example. I had similar experience but decided to make my studies a priority, graduated, secured oversea scholarship, came back and was doing relatively well.

When she saw me years somewhere in Jakande bus stop, Lekki, where I dropped off someone and behold she was at that Jakande bus stop waiting for Danfo. I horned and she was hesitant to come but I had to alight to go and meet her. She shouted, entered my car and we discussed at length. She came for a call center interview near by. She told me she has been job hunting years after our graduation without success. I could see the stress and hustle of Lagos life - No porn intended.

When she got to know where I was working then, see disturbances every where and I was like "see the babe that some how "dealt" with me", now falling over herself to get my attention. After visiting me like four times, she said that the person she is staying with in Abule-Egba, wants her to leave and if I should allow her to stay till she secure accommodation. I said no, that I will prefer to lend her money to find a small room apartment around Ajah, which I did, but she did not bother to pay for the accommodation but continued staying with the friend she claimed wanted to chase her out. I knew the friend did not want to chase her out. She just wanted to come and take position in my house.

So I tell young men, focus on success first and ladies will surely come.

Fine boy!

Wheezy123:


That's all u know how to say best.. illiterate

You are useless

issylarry:


Come,must you insult me?i said my own view of d mata..den say urs.A man is bn broken down by a lady he fell in love with,she ended up loving some1 else..if d lady truly loves him she will stay wih him no matter wat..
And for d ladies,na u know ya sef..Speak for ur sef..and the change might start from u.

Tell me,what else do u want him to think of if its not money for a better life.A man been hrt broken[not even men alone,anyone who is depressed] is capable of doing anything silly.
The only hope now is to think of how he can be strong financially,work on him sef to be a better man and a better woman will come his way..


So dont ever in ur life quote me again to insult me

But you were so quick to insult the lady.. and again DIDN'T YOU READ UP THE PORTION WHERE HE SAID THE BREAK UP WASN'T THE FAULT OF THE LADY? Pls do your advise and leave her out of it.

united442:


lolxx...hahahah

dude nothing to advise you nah..you already gat ya self a new babe,but if you got this current babe 'the same' month or year you broke up with ur ex,then you might be in a rebound relationship,meaning you are using your current girlfriend to bypass the pains and memory of your ex of which is not fare to your current babe..because if you still feel like losing appetite while thinking of you ex,then you still love her and you probably haven't gotten over her..

if she comes back begging,then you current babe is in a deep shit..

just channel everything you have for you ex to you current babe and you will completely get over her with 'time'.

bro exactly... You Don finish me like seriously... She came back begging me to forgive her on February, I felt pity for her, she said she wants me back, I said to her upon all you did and said to me? She said she was sorry, I wanted to accept her back but, I'm already in deep love with my current girlfriend now so I can't .. Then she said thought she's faraway Lagos, I said so? I'm in a long distance how's that your business? She pleaded to me oooo sotey I got bored with her pleading. So I should leave my Gf and accept you back are you okay? Even if I accept her back, I can never trust her. Imagine telling me that my Gf is faraway, that means if I accept her back and travel She'll cheat as usual.. Though I still love her, but I can never accept her back. That's what is killing me anytime I remembered it. I've tried to get it off my head but it proves abortive. Though I'm getting rid of it small small shaaa .... I got this mg current girlfriend during Xmas last year, while I broke up with my ex on May/June

Emma1Oj:
C them.

See yourself....Pls learn to read and comprehend a write up before making comments

fowlyansh181:
a year? Bleh, nah, it took me a months to stop loving her, I cried for this girl, but got over it and forgot her.

mine took a year tho,it was my first serious relationship after the breakup she started dating the next month

Evercurious:



But you were so quick to insult the lady.. and again DIDN'T YOU READ UP THE PORTION WHERE HE SAID THE BREAK UP WASN'T THE FAULT OF THE LADY? Pls do your advise and leave her out of it.

I know you will always b in support of ladies because you are one.. U might b diff buh most ladies are absurd.The lady was too harsh in all ramification.u sef put ya sef in d guy's shoes..How best do u want to stay focus in dz situation o..

Ellaheart1:
I see so many guys encouraging those facing heartache to get over it and stop being sissies. Or even bragging about how quickly they got over an ex, but honestly the truth is there's no one size fits all approach to dealing with heartbreak. We all were not present with you during the relationship, we didn't share your emotions and feelings, we don't know how great and deep your loss is so we can't fully empathize. What I know is, just like every other hardship in life you have to be brave and face it head on, it is okay to feel hurt, don't try to pretend like it isn't happening because that's only a temporary fix until someone else breaks your heart again. It is all part of the healing process , and learning to accept and deal with heartbreak will save you in future because the more it happens, and trust me it will continuously happen cause we are all human, the less likely it is to hurt like the first time and the better you will be at handling it.

it won't always be like this dear and one day you'll wake up and you'll be okay again.

I know you loved your ex and kudos for opening your heart up to feel, in this world where we are encouraged not to care or feel that was a brave thing to do, but now choose to love yourself , take care of yourself and build yourself up to be a person anyone would be crazy to risk losing by any standard whatsoever . In the end it's their loss.

KINDEST REGARDS!

You sound like an agony aunt you know?

issylarry:


I know you will always b in support of ladies because you are one.. U might b diff buh most ladies are absurd.The lady was too harsh in all ramification.u sef put ya sef in d guy's shoes..How best do u want to stay focus in dz situation o..

oga abeg leave the lady, the OP advised us so.

daddyfreeman1:
Then she said thought she's faraway Lagos, I said so? I'm in a long distance how's that your business? She pleaded to me oooo sotey I got bored with her pleading. So I should leave my Gf and accept you back are you okay?

wow! that's very wise and thoughtful of you..this is what i call 'TRUST'..the trust you and your current babe both build,cause it's not easy saying that to someone you once love,someone you still have feelings for..

if itwas some other guys,they did easily forgive her and start bleeping her knowing fully well they are in a relationship,probably taken advantage on the long distance relation...

how i wish you current babe can see the love you have for her,what you did to your ex for her and why she should love and trust you more.

anyway

i did say your ex made a fool of herself,just see how you were able to easily decode what she melt knowing fully well that you are in a relationship ..she s has brought her self down to you,she should know by now that she lost a diamond why picking stones.

if you current babe love and trust you,please for the sake that,you need to let bygones be bygones and stick with her.
if possible let her know what happened btw you and your ex,if she's the type that dnt take thing too personal provided the 'trust' is there.

but dude,being in a long distance is among the cause of not yet getting over your ex yet cause that feelings is still there and she's more close to you than your current babe..