Mayour11:
I think this debate is relative. You need to understand your wife and the role of your mother in one's life. I as a person must definitely ensure my wife knows what my mum did in my life. No matter what that woman gets from me, I still believe it's not enough to compensate her.
Once my wife knows that the woman is too great to be ignored, she will even encourage me to do more.
More so, we'll have our children as well, does she wants to be treated that way?

You sir are the WISEST

As a woman I will say hell no. Don't even Consult me before given your younger ones or elder ones money Biko. I send mother in law Recharge card on my own because that's what I can afford for now.

NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

It depends, it depends on the type of wife and her attitude towards your mum

Consultation is a very wrong word to use here. You don't have to consult and also don't have to hide or secretly send money to anyone either. Secretly sending money actually signifies greater weakness.

If you have to secretly send money to your parents out of fear of wifey's reaction, then you're a WEAK man lacking all form of respect and value.

The dream is to get to a level where your wife can send money to your parents using your/ her mobile banking app and vice versa. Doing things respectfully without secrets is the goal.

NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

In my opinion, you don't need her permission BUT you need to atleast let her know.

She's your wife. You guys are supposed to be one.

CreepyBlackpool:
Yes!

A man must consult his wife before giving money to his mother!

In fact he must always screenshot his salary alert and send to his wife immediately he gets it!

He must ask for his wife's permission for any and every monetary transaction he wants to do, even if its to buy clothes or drinks for himself.


Onye iberibe


you must be a weak, feeble minded, spineless, lily-livered pussy worshipper to ask such a question!

you disgust me!

Well said, good sir...well said.

Some Men have really lost their Manhood...
You owe your woman love and that love is physically shown in your words and works. And not by giving her report of everything thing you do. [/b]God created Man in His image and for His glory, and created the woman for the glory of the Man.[b]

Capital NO

I owe no body explanation on what to do with my money, my wife inclusive

missyblissy:
@op if your family put finaces together at the end of every month and decides what is been spent in a month, then you have to let your wife know and vise versa.

But if you are a traditional Nigerian man that believes in providing for his family irrespective of what the wife earns, by all means you owe her no explanation as long as you carter for your family.

My 2 cents

Reasonable answer.

Some people are just emotionally myopic!!

I think the word "consulate" is the problem,it sounds somehow authoritative to some people..

What is bad for me as a husband to inform my wife that am sending money to my mum?, I may not know the kind of home most people come from, but my own mother would advice me to let my wife know, in fact she would call my wife to thank her behind me..

The only time I will dare do that without my wife's consent is if she isn't in good terms with my mum..

We seem to have a lot of men who don't know who they are, yes God made you the head but it comes with sacrifice not force, trying to stamp authority makes you look weak. A leader treats everyone including his wife with love and respect. Of course he should tell his wife before he sends money to his mum, what's there to hide. As he's sending to his mum, he should also think of his mother in law too. Marriage is not for kids, to enjoy it, there's need for maturity and wisdom

NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

If it's from a joint account, Yes if not, no need telling her bt only u here knws d kind of marriage u r operating

Philak1:
Some people are just emotionally myopic!!

I think the word "consulate" is the problem,it sounds somehow authoritative to some people..

What is bad for me as a husband to inform my wife that am sending money to my mum?, I may not know the kind of home most people come from, but my own mother would advice me to let my wife know, in fact she would call my wife to thank her behind me..

The only time I will dare do that without my wife's consent is if she isn't in good terms with my mum..

I think there are 90% of below 18 age group on nairaland, that's the reason for the childish responses, they're still struggling to pass JAMB talkless of giving mature advice on marriage

Never!

NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

unless the man is a slowpoke suffering from the chronic effect of EFO riro.

The only true love that exist in this life is between a man and his mother. All other love are secondary . Though there is exception but on a very few cases.

If they are rich, they don't need to notify anyone before giving out money. Do you notify your husband or wife before you give alms to the destitute you meet on the road. Its when you both have peanut in your account that you will argue or need permission to give money to people.

deltateam:


What's wrong in that? Is it a crime for a woman to be a full time house wife abi feminism don enter your head.

yes it is wrong. This is not about feminism

Budex40:
This is NOT negotiable, PARENTS COME FIRST (Even if Father and Mother are confirmed Witches).........No woman in this life can take my Parent's place in my heart.

Thank you.

It's part of what the couples would have discussed during courtship.

He does not need to consult her but he should tell her after he has sent it.

NaijaTushboy:
Your Opinion please

Even her own mother will I not consult how much more my own mum. Let us have sense na

lomprico:
He does not need to consult her but he should tell her after he has sent it.

Whatever ur right hand does, keep it from ur left.

Go and ask you fada foolish child...

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I think this solely depends on the type of relationship you have with your spouse and in-laws. I have an aunt whose husband gladly let her know if he wants to send money to his family. Will she object? No!! Instead she will add more to it and tell him that his mum might have other needs to meet. Atimes, she even ends up sending extra to the mum after her hsuband has sent. When I asked the reason why she does this, all she could say is that her mother in-law is also her mum. I've also seen situations where the in-laws feel comfortable calling their son's wife for help because their son is difficult to get across to. As for me, this solely depends on your spouse and the laid down relationship with your family. Some spouses are not to be told about financial obligation as they will flare up and turn it into marital issues of putting ur mum above them. In conclusion, know your spouse and observe their love and commitment to your family

vaxx1:
unless the man is a slowpoke suffering from the chronic effect of EFO riro.

The only true love that exist in this life is between a man and his mother. All other love are secondary . Though there is exception but on a very few cases.

Baba, I'm a very constructive person. There is notin like d only true love. If that be d case, then don't marry. A man must love his wife even more than his kids as she is one with me. But I don't support behaving like a Sisi to give out to people. As I said earlier, even her own mum will I not tell her. Shikina

owowa145:

Whatever ur right hand does, keep it from ur left.

I don't get! Is your mother a church?

Olufela30:
Na !! only vice versa cos the husband is the head !!
The wife's work is only in the kitchen n other wifely duties...
When she's nat the one managing the husbands account...
She won't even know I'm giving her anything and if she knows and she wanna fight over it, I'd just ignore her till she understands that "Mama get her own level for my heart" !!

I SUPPORTED U BUT WIFE WORK IS NOT ONLY KITCHEN SIR

SINCE AM NOT HAVE JOINT ACCOUNT WITH MY WIFE EVEN THOUGH I DID JOINT ACCOUNT SHE CAN'T NEVER STOP ME OF GIVING MY MUM MONEY, WHO IS SHE?

OP you just need hot slap this morning for writing this rubbish... If you were asked this particular question, what will be your answer... I swear if you're close to me I will poure you hot water or acid... Shebi you've stayed for long without having anything upstairs to write about, and you now came up with this trash question... Nonsense and ingredients.... Asked this kind of question next time, I swear I will do you "Okwu achi" ... You wan take permission from your wife before you give your Moyer money or anything. You don't deserve to be called a man then. What made you a man then? Anu mpama

no, d man should not , abraham never consult sarah b 4 taking isaac 4 sacrifice. secondly , ur wife will never consult u b 4 sending money to her own mother, instead she does it secretly, it's rear b4 any woman would tell her husband b4 sending money to hear mother or pple. so y should u? nd lastly b bold b 4 ur wife u are d head% .