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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by schumastic(m): 6:51am On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: If you are really serious about leaving the relationship and your only worry is the nudes and videos, it's very easy. First of all get the police or a military personnel involve, let the dude sign an undertaking not to release such and he must delete everything. If he does otherwise, they will come pick him up. For the one of your family, he can say what he likes. Who cares, it will only be for a while and that's it. the most important thing is the nudes and once that is settled, just leave his sorry ass. Guys who hit ladies are cowards. Signed. Vice President, Bachelors Club, Ikeja, Lagos Branch. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by ebonyggurl(f): 7:11am On May 27, 2019 |
badadvice: Breaking his phone will be easier on her conscience than killing him though 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by schumastic(m): 7:20am On May 27, 2019 |
ebonyggurl: With the way he hits her I don't think that will be good for her. He might end up beating her to death. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by babyfaceafrica: 7:23am On May 27, 2019 |
Tomoyayi:foolishness |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 7:27am On May 27, 2019 |
badadvice:I know what Choleric means and no offence I think you're a dumb person trying to sound smart. You must be a very narrow minded individual if you think people with other temperaments are not capable of wicked acts like this. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 7:30am On May 27, 2019 |
ebonyggurl: it will. But what if he already made copies stacked up somewhere. She'd just sign her death warrant by breaking his phone. I say to hell with the dude. Slow painless death. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 7:32am On May 27, 2019 |
Admin401: K |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by kullozone(m): 7:37am On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: You don't want people to see your Towtow? Why |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 8:10am On May 27, 2019 |
schumastic:lol....thanks a lot |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 8:13am On May 27, 2019 |
SweetBuns:i don't even have the heart to do that and moreover this secret is like to cause divorce between my parent and also tarnish my father reputation because he's a respectable priest and oversees our church headquarter |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Kendumazy(m): 8:44am On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: Chai! You fvcked up. Such secrets aren't what you share with people. Forget love next time. Whatever happens within your family, let it stay within your family. May God help you out of this one. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by ebonyggurl(f): 9:15am On May 27, 2019 |
badadvice: Lolz...can death be slow and painless at the same time? |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 9:29am On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: In his next life he won't dare make threats to release your nudes&tapes. He'll be dealt with severely prior to it. Its high time you involve a third party for you to have peace of Mind. Pls give detailed infos in my dm if you don't mind. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Savage200(m): 10:24am On May 27, 2019 |
When he’s shouting and hitting you justbtry to make a video or a voice not of him doing that...go to the station and report you have evidence.so simple I’m sure they will deal with him rightfully |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 11:33am On May 27, 2019 |
I think it is wrong to stay in a relationship that is base on deceit as for the nude pictures well just report him to the police, but for the family secret just tell him it was all lies.But na wa o you aren't even loyal to your family. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:09pm On May 27, 2019 |
SweetBuns: Don't make the girl look more stupid than necessary. A man who his not your husband records sex videos of you and you let him? @OP: weigh the risk of staying or leaving and shoot your shot. You can also explore telling your family so they threaten him and you can leave. However, I am curious: why doesn't he want to let you go? Why is he using all the weapons in his arsenal to ensure he keeps you? Cc: Missperplexity0 |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:11pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: Omo, someone shouldn't have a child like you. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by ThothHermes: 12:25pm On May 27, 2019 |
SweetBuns:You no just get any sense at all sha. Haba. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 12:40pm On May 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:thats what am baffled about too because he's always like if I don't have you, nobody will and this we've come a long way than to end it here, lemme set some things straight, I only made a clip that doesn't show my face, all the pictures and videos he showed me were either taken while I was asleep naked or coming out of the shower..... they are clips am not aware of |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by bukatyne(f): 12:46pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: So the pictures are without your permission. Ask him what he gains from the relationship. Or has he invested a lot? His 'we have come a long way to end this' suggests that. Are you above his social status that he sees you as an achievement? Dies he see you as a conquest? I would assume that he is beating you because you do things he finds offensive. Please note I am not holding brief for him. I am trying to get you to understand why he is holding on to the relationship. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Dudeladude(m): 12:51pm On May 27, 2019 |
Ur nude pix or u both nude pix.. |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Nobody: 1:22pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0:are you for real. you better cat walk from that relationship. a lot of people have died due to abusive relationship. in essence, what you are trying to say is that you value what the society says more than your own life |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by galadima77(m): 2:54pm On May 27, 2019 |
OP go to the nearest police station and report him...beg them and tell them everything...or push it further to CID and pray u find someone that listens. When they're done with him, he'd pray your paths never cross. I trust my Naija police |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Biglittlelois(f): 2:54pm On May 27, 2019 |
I always tell ladies, if you want to have nudes or sex tapes, do not show your face, I repeat, do not show your face, but they won't listen, see one of the end result. 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Biglittlelois(f): 2:58pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: And when he showed you what was your next reaction? Did you change it for him and delete the pictures and videos yourself? Obviously you didn't, pretty sure you were smiling when you saw yourself looking sexy and all, smh!!! Well follow some good advice here though..... 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by ImaIma1(f): 3:10pm On May 27, 2019 |
SweetBuns: She didn't take the pictures herself but she allowed it. I believe that when a person allows intimate pictures to be taken, nudes transferred, etc, they should be ready for the eventuality if things go sour. Not everyone understands that sex should be secret. So it rests on us to take precautions and protect ourselves from future headache |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 3:11pm On May 27, 2019 |
bukatyne:is it a crime to go visit a male friend in his house with my two female siblings? is it a crime to have a male friend come visit me in my house with everyone around? is it a crime to discuss business proposition with a male friend in an open restaurant which I told him about myself before going? |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Missperplexity0(f): 3:13pm On May 27, 2019 |
Biglittlelois:i deleted them but he has them backed up and even renamed some of the files so I wouldn't code it...... |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Deepfeel(m): 3:16pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0: In other words he made you his personal slave cause he has your nudes and sextapes , but a family secret is a family secret why review it the someone who's not family You f*ck up big time girl, the only way out is to set him up and hold on to it, for a 50/50 negotiation |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by Bush2013: 3:19pm On May 27, 2019 |
Missperplexity0:Are you a Dr or a medical students |
Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by badadvice(f): 3:51pm On May 27, 2019 |
ebonyggurl:i'm not sure. But G.O.T says it can.
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Re: How Do I Leave This Abusive Relationship by luvyaself95(m): 4:14pm On May 27, 2019 |
When you were doing all this you didn't think things might backfired Oponu omo ode.. |
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