Xisnin:


Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.

Lleigh:
I just want to understand why she can't call her husband by name. This is a genuine question

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

KomonSense:


So women are liking you post and replies and you think you're making a point abi...?? I pity you


Women think they run the world especially now feminism sh*t is rampant thanks to a wasted Sperm like Chimamanda Adichie

If you show a woman any slightest of weakness , your story will future on instablog naija..

Be wise and I'm not saying you should maltreat any woman ooo but don't give a chance

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Lleigh:
I just want to understand why she can't call her husband by name. This is a genuine question

kevin25:
Are u married? Wat did u call ur husband? Let say his name is peter den u call him peter right even infront of his frds? Not inside huz u and him alone ? Even at dat? And u have kids? Who wil learn from u nd start calling dia father by his name cos u dos dat.. Why wil a woman cal her husband by his name even when the man is not happy about? it and has warn her? D man in question has never called the wife by her name is dis not lack of respect let call a spade a spade..

Buckubuck:

In Yoruba culture, you can't even call ur husband's siblings by name. You have to add a prefix. So calling your husband by name among yorubas is a no no. Though I guess the whole thing is wearing off steadily sha.

Xisnin:


Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.

Lleigh:


But imagine you call each other name all the time courting, then marry and what? Uncle Peter?

Lleigh:


My husband's name will be the same he was born with. So what are women meant to call their husband's? Children know to call their parents mama, papa. I just don't understand why you can't call the man who sleeps with you his name?

gragragra:
African man lol...

Calling him by his name is not disrespectful depending on their level of friendship or intimacy.

Two, everyone gets tired at some point when you're putting effort to helping someone and it seems they're unmotivated or unchanging, it's draining and frustrating.

Three, again if they were intimate I don't see what's really wrong with helping yourself fix a plate, like na you dey hungry oh not the woman, so if she traveled for a month you'll wait for her to come before you dish your meal? Her tone may have been wrong maybe , but it's not as baaad as deemed.

I'm my relationships I do most of the cooking because I'm a better cook or I love cooking. My gf is a foreign trained medical doctor I'm an IT and business development consultant. I mostly work from home, I make sure food is ready before she comes home, I bought the house we live in, she drives the only car I have.

We have our names saved as our names, we call each other sweet names but also call each other by our real names. She cooks when she's free or feels to, we have a cleaner that cleans the house twice weekly and the compound.

When I'm hungry I go and fix my plate, if she feels we eat together.

African men just want unnecessary oppression, domination and control. He should be happy he has a woman that's making effort to improve his broke timid ass.

Tueh

Buckubuck:

From your post, you think single people have no business being friends with married people. You need to realise that the married ones have the responsibility to be positive models to the single ones. If the wife is rejecting her husband's request based on mood, what makes her behaviour different from that of a gf?

Xisnin:

Who cares about likes?

When you search Google, what type of men complains?
It is your type who wants slaves as wives and when she aims for freedom, they
either resort to violence, start attacking women on the net or cry out that their
wife lacks respect.

I have never seen an enlightened man complain about their wives.

I already provided a solution for your type.

Go to the village and buy an illiterate girl for marriage, she will obey all your orders.

But if you refused, you are the one who will come here to cry.

kevin25:
I have been to a family where the wife calls her husband honey behold all her children calls dia dad honey even up til now imgain if the wife is calling d man solomon then the children wil join and start calling d man solomon even infront of visitors? My dear stop defending dis my fiancee as it stands now calls me daddy and it didnt start today...

Buckubuck:

Lol. They have names like baale, oko, olowoori. Modern wives call their husbands by nicknames or add daddy to the kid's name when calling him. However, the whole thing is wearing off. Culture is subject to change without notice

Lleigh:

Daddy?

Xisnin:

From the bold, it is obvious you are nor married.
Everybody, married or single rejects their partners request based on mood.
Perhaps, you have convinced yourself that wives are to obey your commands but
reality is different.
Even rich men with many wives will tell you the same thing that married life is not black and wife.

Lleigh:


Daddy?

ibekwe97:
Through thought my brother, it just happened to recently.The girl I dated for years, no respect, she can't wash my cloth, she can't sweep my house. The worst part of it is that she always do what she likes. Thank we are no longer together. We guys should be careful seriously

Lleigh:


But imagine you call each other name all the time courting, then marry and what? Uncle Peter?

Buckubuck:

I'm not married. That's not a problem. Or is it?
I've been to many marriages and the advice usually given to couple is to treat each other with respect and do ur duties to the spouse regardless of how you're feeling. Nobody gives a relationship that kind of advice. So there's expected to be a difference between marriage and relationship.
You don't know me so you don't know my mindset. Don't put me in a box.

kevin25:
I have been to a family where the wife calls her husband honey behold all her children calls dia dad honey even up til now imgain if the wife is calling d man solomon then the children wil join and start calling d man solomon even infront of visitors? My dear stop defending dis my fiancee as it stands now calls me daddy and it didnt start today...

UjuJoan2:


I agree that a man should not marry up . . . women can marry up, but not men.

How will a woman respect a man who doesn't show intelligence and direction, and expect him to lead the family; when he has not finished leading himself into riches.

Water seeks it's own level.

Even if a woman will marry a man who is not as wealthy as she is at that point, she should show prospects of being better in the future.

As for your friend, he is a big mumu. So he want to order a woman around like a slave when he could not even make it in life without her? Give honor to whom honor is due. If she didn't marry him he would have still been struggling and feeding from hand to mouth. He should worship her all the days of his life, and never ever take the things she did for him for granted!

KomonSense:



Kevin my guy... Kudos to you... You get strength to dey teach all these children wey full Nairaland ooo..

Some of them know the truth and are pretending so that you keep teaching them...

if they want to learn they should pay and consult on MC (marriage course) 101

Buckubuck:

You work from home
Do most of the cooking
Hardly go out
Bros, you're a domestic husband

Xisnin:


Not being married is not a problem but expecting marriage to be like
a military parade is.

Those advisers are destroying marriages by setting wrong expectations.
Even machines cannot be expected to always deliver, yet some people want a wife that delivers 100% every time
or hell breaks loose.

Have you considered that respect means different things to different people?
Well, many assume it isn't to their own peril.

I expect more wailing stories from married men who will be shocked that they married a human after all who can
neither give perfection or remain the same forever.

KomonSense:


Your point is dead on arrival


So you knew he was not intelligent and lacks direction and you stupidly went ahead and married him out of what Pity?? Desperation to escape spinsterhood ??

Children!! Children children!!

I'm tired of teaching

gragragra:
Domestic husband that has 3 staff on his payroll? Owns his own registered company, owns a 2 bedroom bungalow, a car and reaches out to the needy regularly?

You think productivity is by being sitting in traffic, jumping around town, wearing suit? I live in Ikorodu, I can conduct 80% of my business over the phone and email if there's need to meet in person I come to the office or ask a staff to attend.

Open your mind, don't be naive.

kevin25:
Are u married? Wat did u call ur husband? Let say his name is peter den u call him peter right even infront of his frds? Not inside huz u and him alone ? Even at dat? And u have kids? Who wil learn from u nd start calling dia father by his name cos u dos dat.. Why wil a woman cal her husband by his name even when the man is not happy about? it and has warn her? D man in question has never called the wife by her name is dis not lack of respect let call a spade a spade..

Iwanttoto1:


See this mumu. Ya boy boy husband fit buy yasht? I get yasht wey I dey use furck silly gerls likes u. If ya husband fit buy yasht, den I witdruw my commentasion. But if na only canoue he fits buy, den me and una no fits deys d same levul. Makes u comes lekki, makes I use money drives u come out from ya boy boy husband hause. Yeye dey smells