sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

CorperKola:

I could say the opposite. Find the person that has what you want . Simple!
The Western mentality is detrimental to africam women and is ruining lots of relationships!

ibkayee:

Lool I was screaming because I found it funny

It actually dawned on me that you weren’t asking for a thesis but then I’d already written it and couldn’t be bothered to change it

jaxxy:


Actually I appreciate ur thesis cos it shows ur mindset to sm extent and ur capabilities also and Its interesting u found that funny, It seems like a classic nollywood movie scene. Lol

Dshocker:


If you marry,please and please,don't bother dishing food to your husband,let him do that and the cooking as well

ornicus:
Submission / subservience is earned.

You want to be the big dog, madam serving you, kneeling to greet you.. Fine.

Put in work get Ned nwoko money then marry a small girl who 20 years your junior. You can pull all the alpha male you want.

If you want to live by so called old traditions, then you better meet up and be the super ultra provider. It is not by having a prick.

Jmk9292:
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..

nwanneni:
Go check now na 2m you go see for that her account
Any woman with 200k monthly income then a small car plus 2m naira savings turns to a feminist overnight.these women no go kill person.

SageMK:


From what you posted, he wanted her to serve him his food in the presence of a stranger (you). And while she declined, he tried forcing her. (Bear in mind she did the cooking with her own money).

From this it clearly depicts —

1. He felt entitled to her caring and wasn't appreciative.
2. He had no respect for her by trying to emasculate.

Note that I am not saying she isn't disrespectful.
But her husband gave her a reason to disrespect him.

And it's not because of financial status but his behavior.

AHCB:
Bla bla bla. It's almost the same for men who marry women they're financially and educationally better than. They still brag and more often than not, talk to the woman anyhow. Some will even say 'all what I've done for you can your father do it for you?". While some will even use it as an excuse to cheat profusely. So don't make this a woman's thing alone.

nwanneni:
get a woman to feed you for a week then come back and gist me

ibkayee:

Hio hio nollywood also came to mind

runwaymodel:
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

franchasng:
Because I am politically not inclined to your side, maybe you are a Buharist, and APC apologist, most definitely

2019news:
Misleading Topic: Never marry a woman who is financially and academically ahead of you.

My Questions:
(1 ) Why are your daughters in SCHOOL?

(2) Are YOU advising men not to MARRY your daughters because they are Educated and Rich?

(3) Are YOU advising your SON to MARRY an ILLITERATE from the village?

Please, I need answers.

dominique:
Why can't he dish food by himself? Is he an amputee?

WeRblessed:


You are so low in IQ. That you are educated does not mean you are learned. You went to schoo but school did not go through you. Such a low life scum bag.

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

cococandy:
This is just a moronic thread and I’m not surprised at the responses on it.
The OP and anyone who shares his views are simply idiots. Nothing more nothing less.

MRKLA123:

@kevin25 Why are you taking paracetamol for other peoples headache? Is it your marriage? why are you crying more than the bereaved?