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Defenderalert:
I have breezed through Ubunja miseducations and i know for sure he is no Alpha male. After males get involved in more serious issues. This one is not a serious minded person at all. Pvssy left right and center. Best is to.ignore a pathetic loser without a job.

I mean how can anyone have the time to write thos.nonsense that doesn't even hold water.

Common! How can you say this not a serious issue? Researching, studying and learning how to approach the wonderfully mysterious creations of God.

Ubunja needs to keep up the good work and take out more time to write more manuals and educate guys on how to access us.

Please give him credit

catwalq:
Whoever you are,you don't wanna go down this road with me. Trust me

You sorry excuse of a misfired sperm. The person concerned isn't even talking, y you pained on his behalf? Because he got balls,and you don't. Simping him and following him around like the puppy you are won't help your non existent sense of self.

I've never seen OP insulting someone, y not emulate that? Oh I forgot, dumb f**ks like you can't dialogue constructively without insults because you have nothing where your brain should have been.. Be guarded dude

yen yen yen....... Same old........ Same old fvcking bullcrap........ Y'all are geheen boring by the day.......

ImaIma1:
Common! How can you say this not a serious issue? Researching, studying and learning how to approach the wonderfully mysterious creations of God.

Ubunja needs to keep up the good work and take out more time to write more manuals and educate guys on how to access us.

Please give him credit

I will give him the address of my Pastors house.

ubunja:
you're not being social anymore

yh....... Yh she's been a douchy fvcktard

Defenderalert:
Reported for what? For stating the truth? i laugh in Swahili. Who are you? Are you him? Are you it? Who is you?

I'm just a pained guy
Who chop ban

STRENGTHesq:
I'm just a pained guy
Who chop ban

Sorry bro. Lol

Wao! finally read it! I must confess it isn't a waste of time and it is 90% true. Kudos Ubunja!

However, I will advice guys reading this to be cautious in applying this write up, Please before you apply this know who you are dealing with. Does that lady fit all the description up there? What is her love language? what if her's is words of affirmation and you are busy following your 'I don't say I love you' principle. Please be wise and ensure balance in your reasoning, Nothing hurt more than losing a loved one by your mistakes.

That said, How does one love who loves him/her? I want to know because by experience that's like mission impossible.




BTW Pansophist, you will like this.

Newguyhere:
you are a bastard!!! Probably some old cargo who can't land a man. Oil go finish for your pussy... b*tch

why this anger loser..i guess you the one that needed a smart girl but still didnt get after posting his fake salary online..you claim to be a developer that freelance..so what are your expertise..you are 21 years and already lying to get woman...you live with your parent..now where do you expect the lady to stay..i guess in your room.

MariaLavina:
Wao! finally read it! I must confess it isn't a waste of time and it is 90% true. Kudos Ubunja!

However, I will advice guys reading this to be cautious in applying this write up, Please before you apply this know who you are dealing with. Does that lady fit all the description up there? What is her love language? what if her's is words of affirmation and you are busy following your 'I don't say I love you' principle. Please be wise and ensure balance in your reasoning, Nothing hurt more than losing a loved one by your mistakes.

That said, How does one love who loves him/her? I want to know because by experience that's like mission impossible.




BTW Pansophist, you will like this.

you did not read it from the post not to say "I love you".

because I didn't have time write and explain it.

but guys must let the woman lead. only say "I love you" AFTER the girl has. such things.

ubunja:
you did not read it from the post not to say "I love you".

because I didn't have time write and explain it.

but guys must let the woman lead. only say "I love you" AFTER the girl has. such things.

Lol that wasn't for you, I read that among the comments.

Fair Enough.


You didn't answer my question though, how do you love those who love you? (romantic love )

MariaLavina:
Lol that wasn't for you, I read that among the comments.

Fair Enough.


You didn't answer my question though, how do you love those who love you? (romantic love )

you focus on her and love her. it's not even a question to ask.

you ladies been doing it since forever. you know it's easy.

you think Regina loves that 60something old man with real true love? it can be learned.

Hey Ubunja this was indeed a great write up I must confess, you indeed hit the nail on the head...nice one bro

That said, there is one thing about Ubunja's write up if you smart and intelligent, as you are reading you start to relate it to your everyday life, you begin to see were you got it all wrong from your past relationships or a girl that would have been yours easily if you actually followed the rules, it also helps you to evaluate your present relationship if you are doing the right thing and also for future cases. It unravels the practicality in the dating world. I have indeed learnt alot and applied so many and it just work with relative ease ..


For the individuals who share otherwise views especially guyz well I would tell you to take your minds of his private life & throw the hate away, sit down and put your mind into these writings ( the ones that suits you ) and put them to work ( cos there lies the result ) and see if it will work for you instead of hating, if you don't want them stop opening the thread simple . Even certain ladies seems to agree to some extent with what this genius is saying ...imagine a lady and a guy is just hating ...I personally feel is becos of Jealousy, a renowned singer Ednar Ogoli once said that "Jealousy is the root of hatred".

These things work I personally demanded for the PDF copy of the Bang rule as well as Advanced bang rule by Charles Ineji and I must confess it worked like magic when applied .

Keep up with the nice work ubunja, am a FAN.

ubunja:
you focus on her and love her. it's not even a question to ask.

you ladies been doing it since forever. you know it's easy.

you think Regina loves that 60something old man with real true love? it can be learned.

You have a point, but our perception of love differs. You are talking about the superficial love, I meant the natural unconditional love. And my question remain how can one suddenly start loving a person because he or she is the available one (the one that loves you). No matter how much I've read or heard about that, I can't seem to understand or even try it. The one I love is whom I love not whom I learn to love. Focusing on a person will only allow you get to know the person more but does not automatically make you love him or her.


Now , This is why I sounded a note of warning the other time. You lots make a mistake of generalizing your ideas, opinions and views. You think all women are the same and so should be handled same way. In your minds, what works for Stella will definitely work for Sandra and that's where you get it all wrong. Some women can not learn to love.

ubunja:
How To Choose A Girl.


BUILDING ON SAND.
If you see a girl that you like and you make up your mind to approach her for a relationship because she's exactly what you want in a woman; you've already lost the game before the game even started.

Going up to her, telling her how beautiful she is and how you'd be honored if she accepted you. Its the epitome of weakness.

That's not how you get and keep a girl.

Already you're chasing. Already she's the Prize. Already she has more power than you and should you date, the power difference will only increase.

BUILDING ON A ROCK.
The only way you start at the top with women, having all the advantage, holding all the cards, from the word go, is to do things the opposite way. The way that appears wrong but is actually the right way: instead of searching for a woman who fits your ideal, You should be a man who fits the woman's ideal. You should be what a woman wants. it must be about fulfilling the woman's expectation not yours. Desire must flow from the girl to you. It must not flow from you to the girl. Attraction must start in the heart of the female, not in your heart.

That's the secret to happiness. That's how you build a relationship on a foundation of rock: You make sure the woman loves you more than you love her. You must be the guy she feels she "can't live without". But She must not be the girl you feel you "cant live without". Be her fantasy don't Iet her be your fantasy. Let her chase the fantasy, but keep your feet firmly in reality.

That female who's "everything you ever dreamed of in a woman", that chick who's the "girl of your dreams", that one must be dealt with only on a lust level. As a short term fantasy. A pump and dump. Dick her, don't Heart her. Ejaculate and evacuate. Don't invest any emotion in her. No matter how beautiful. No matter how delicious.

You can not afford to love the girl that you want. You dare not chase the fantasy. Loving the girl your heart chooses is a luxury you just can't afford. Not if you value your happiness and peace of mind. If your goal is romantic success, your woman must be more invested in the romance than you. She must be the biggest shareholder in the company. She must be the one in love with you, not the other way round.

POWER DYNAMICS.
For the one who loves less is actually the one with all the power, holding all the cards and having all the advantage. The one who loves more, the one more committed, holds less of everything.

If a house is burning, the one who bought the most property cries the most. And so they're the one most concerned about preventing fires. In other words, the party most invested, most loving and most committed in the romance is the party that begs the most, compromises the most and sacrifices the most to make sure the romance stays on course.

The one who invests less of everything holds all the power for the simple reason that they can walk away any time. Never be involved in something you can't walk away from without losing gallons of tears. Women have been loving the right way since forever. When was the last time you saw a girl cry tears over a boy? Between men and women who commits suicide more over breakups? Of course the men. Because they don't know how to love properly.

HOW GIRLS LOVE.
Guys need to learn to love the way girls love.

When a girl enters into a relationship with you she's happy when you're the one that loves her not the other way around. That way she has more power in the relationship. But if it happens that she's the one that falls harder and deeper for you, she'll do the next best thing to retain some measure of power: she'll HIDE THE INTENSITY of her love for you.

A girl will love you with all her heart and be crazy for you, BUT SHE'LL NEVER SHOW IT. The girl you love never shows you the full height, depth and breadth of her love. She never lets you know the maximum temperature of her passion.

You give her your photo, she goes home and goes crazy OVER THAT PHOTO. She sleeps with it next to her heart, kisses it, even shed tears of love over the image of you. She keeps it safe and spends hours on end just looking at it, lost in adoration.

But when you come in person to see her she puts the photo away and she wears her "game face". The face you see is not going to be the face your photo saw. Gone is the dreamy look of complete total love. Gone are the tears of love. She looks at you like one who never missed you one second. Like you were not even on her mind.

A girl shows you less of the love she has for you as a strategy: TO PROTECT HERSELF. If she was truthful and did show you how deep her love for you is YOU WILL TAKE ADVANTAGE. You'll use it against her. You'll demand crazy things from her. You'll cheat on her. And because her love for you runs deep, she will find it hard to leave and easy to forgive.

So to stop you from having that power over her, she hides the true extent of her love. And because you have no idea how crazy she is for you, you never fully exploit her.

That's why girls have DIARIES. They pour their heart, soul and mind on the pages of that little book. They confess their loves, hopes and fears on it's pages. Not to the BF. And when a girl loses her diary or when another person reads it, she freaks out. Because she feels exposed.

Many a girlfriend that plays it cool before her guy is mad crazy for him in his absence. Why do you think when guys screwup, girls always say, "If only you knew how much I loved you".? It's because the girl knows the love she's been expressing is not the complete love she's been feeling. She loved the guy more than he knew and because he's leaving he'll never really know he's lost a diamond.

Men need to learn that lesson: Be crazy and drunk in love all you want, worship the very ground your woman walks on if you wish, be batshit mad for her - but whatever you choose to do DO NOT DO IT IN FRONT OF HER. When you meet her, put your "game face" on. Your poker face. Conceal your desperation. Let her be forever guessing how deep your love for her runs. Do not worship her to her face. You give her too much power over you, power she'll unfailingly use against you.

LOVE AND HAPPINESS.
The key to love and happiness is to Learn to love the one who loves you. Never try to make someone who doesn't love you love you.

That's how you lose.

That's how you spend 12 months chasing a girl who has her own eye on another dude all the while your stupid self thinking she's playing hard to get. That's how you buy a girl shoes and phones that she'll proceed to use to impress the guy her own eye is on. That's how a girl, during sex, ends up whispering another dude's name to your ear, because it's him her mind is on. Why? Because you're forcing yourself into her heart. But her heart is already occupied by another guy.

Now here is the girl you must occupy yourself with:

That girl who's crazy for you for no reason and blushes everytime she sees you. That girl who always makes excuses to hang around you. That girl always offering to do stuff for you. That girl always eager to be part of whatever you're part of. LOVE THAT ONE. She's CHASING you. You're on her mind and in her heart as we speak. She likes you already.

The women you yourself like, just pump and dump them. They're as useless as chaff. And will be as troublesome as the weeds.

Keep the women you like for LUST, but the women who like you, keep them for LOVE. A girl who likes you is a precious stone that you take and polish and adorn yourself with. But a girl you like is a common stone, one of thousands you lust after day in day out:

You take a corner you see a girl you like. You open your window you see a girl you like pass by. You enter the bus, there, sitting in the front seat, is a girl you like. You go to town you see 20 girls you like. At your school there must be 50 of these girls. At work almost every department has a girl you like. The girl you like is EVERYWHERE and what's everywhere HAS NO VALUE.

But that girl out of hundreds, who looks at you the way you have been looking at hundreds of girls, that one chick who becomes as stupid and as dumb infront of you as you become infront of the girls that you like, that girl is THE ONE for you.

You can never go wrong learning to love that one. Don't trouble yourself with the girl you like. Why? Because already HER HEART IS SET ON ANOTHER MAN. look for the one who likes you, for her heart is set on you. Such a girl's heart you don't have to win, because already its yours.

Girls are choosy as hell. But a girl who has already chosen you is a Free Kick you've been given, without the goalkeeper, without even the goal posts. You can't miss even if your eyes were closed.

And NO, a girl who chooses you is not cheap. A girl who's cheap is the girl you fvck for the price of a loaf of bread. That is a cheap girl. You can fvck her for a penny, even for free. But guess what? So will the next guy. And the next. And the next. On the other hand, A girl who chooses you will be easy BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be cheap BUT ONLY FOR YOU. She'll be willing BUT ONLY FOR YOU. You see the difference? It's all about YOU sir.


If a girl doesn't look at you twice, there's no reason to look at her twice. Attraction is zero. The spark failed. A female knows with one look if she'll sleep with you or not. If she doesn't double check you, if her eyes don't linger, if her gaze doesn't keep coming back to you; KEEP IT MOVING. Forget her.

BUT REAL MEN DO THE CHASING??
When females chase you does it make you less manly? Less Alpha?

It does not. Don't you get jealous when women throw their panties and bras at celebs during concerts? I know you do. Do you want a girl to throw you her panties to show you she wants you? Yes? But then you'll call her a Slut! That's why she'll settle for throwing you a smile.

OK! BUT ONLY LOW QUALITY GIRLS SEEM INTERESTED IN ME!!!
If the girls whose eyes linger and whose smiles you keep getting are not of the class you want, that's an honest indicator of where you are in the Sexual Market. That's your level. You attract your class.

To get better, better yourself. To see an improvement improve yourself. To see an upgrade in the quality of girls that give you "the look", upgrade yourself. The women you attract are the women at your level. Go up a level, and the quality of females you attract will also go up a level. Simple as that.

And how do you do that?

Dress better. Walk better. Speak better.

Do everything better than you've been doing.

To top it, go get a better body. Look, You can't change your face or your height but you can very well change your body. Which is all good, for when it comes to sex, your body IS your face. Women don't lust after a handsome face. It's that 6pack and those biceps that make the vagina tingle. Why do you think women love watching Wrestling on TV?

So, hit the gym.

LET HER CHOOSE.
Letting a girl choose is how you choose a girl.

That way girls chase You. You don't chase girls. That way You play hard to get. You don't have girls playing hard to get to you. Players are Players because every girl who chooses them they accept even though they've a girl already. And girls who date Players can't easily walk away from the fvckery of it all because they fell in love first. They're invested.

That's the blueprint of dealing with women. Play the game this way and you'll be surprised how far you can go with women WITHOUT spending money. Love is free. If you do it right.

When you let girls choose you become the Prize. The Chosen. And a girl who chooses you will make it EASY for you because she wants you to win. She'll test you Yes, because she needs to assess your masculinity, but she'll root for you. She'll be lenient and give you more opportunities than you deserve. And that's very important for your chances with her.

So how do you choose a girl? By letting a girl choose you. Ignore the ones who ignore you. Pay attention only to those who pay you attention. Remember every girl wants your attention, but not every girl will give you attention. So save your attention for the girls who are prepared to give you theirs.

Your attention is free but it means a lot to women. The compliments you give willy-nilly are oxygen to their self-esteem. Your drooling looks are the validation they can't breathe without. So make sure you don't give them out freely. Be stingy with.

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This writeup lays the groundwork for the longer and more indepth "Approaching Girls With Minimum Risk Of Rejection"

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Ubunja please put more energy in starting a blog. You have rare talent that will be an injustice to the world if you dont get stinking rich. Start a blog first other sources will open up. and from there the sky will be your limit.

Interesting!
So I see a girl I like, but because of fear of rejection, I shouldn't shoot my shot?
Hmmm...

On the other hand...
I'd live a life devoid of any meaningful relationship just because I'm waiting for that mysery girl, that will surface from out of the blues & likes me first, gives me the green light, before I shoot my shot & start developing feelings for her, irrespective of if she's my spec or not?

Thinking out loud: so how did I manage to get all these girls over the years?
Did I wait for them to give me the green light first, or did I just walk up to them and did my thing?
Hmmm...

@MariaLavina My little opinion Yes everybody can learn to love, its a choice we consciously make even though love is also a feeling but it's more of a choice we make ( a decision ). You can choose to love . To me love is not a gift but a fruit of the spirit that can be cultivated and nortured to grow. For example there is nothing like that man/woman love God so much and was just born and gifted to love God...No No he/she choose to love God, he/she made a choice to love God.


Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
Rev 3:20

You can choose not to open the door ..it's a choice, and any choice made can be improved upon during this process your learning .

@MariaLavina there is no such thing as unconditional love!

Defenderalert:
As the saying goes "Its what you have most on your mind that you tend to talk about all the time"

You love women but cant get them to dance to your ugly tunes obviously. How can anyone who calls himself a man have this much time to write all these trash when men keep loving women daily. Cant you see you are just wasting your time with your senseless essays? You must be very idle thats why you are unable to make anything meaningful of your life.

Please leave women alone and continue having sex with men. Gist has it that you are a homosexual. I hear..

You should be ashamed of yourself. You that have something important to do, why are you here shaming him? Cant, you see that it clearly doesn't work? Can you point out one sentence in his post that is not correct? Do you still have any cell in your brain that is capable of processing logic instead of ad-hominem?

Next time, move on, don't write rubbish. No one is interested in your shaming tactics. It is possible for someone to have an amazing life offline, and enjoying writing online, helping and engaging people. In the end, no statue or appreciation is ever awarded to a critic, but to heroes.

Kingsteve:
Interesting!
So I see a girl I like, but because of fear of rejection, I shouldn't shoot my shot?
Hmmm...

On the other hand...
I'd live a life devoid of any meaningful relationship just because I'm waiting for that mysery girl, that will surface from out of the blues & likes me first, gives me the green light, before I shoot my shot & start developing feelings for her, irrespective of if she's my spec or not?

Thinking out loud: so how did I manage to get all these girls over the years?
Did I wait for them to give me the green light first, or did I just walk up to them and did my thing?
Hmmm...

Lol this isn't about fear of rejection but fear of slavery ( mental and financial slavery) And no one is telling you to wait for a lady,you are just being advised to take a chill break and allow your brain reason for you other than your dii.ck. The problem with you guys is you are always in a haste, always in rush to shoot your shoots.Unfortunately when your shots catches a money /emotions draining monster, you lots come here to vent your frustrations and anger wailing all women are hoes. Broda shooter of shots calm down and learn.


Let's see , all the girls you got over the years where are they now? Your first mistake is not realising that this thread isn't about getting a Pussy but getting a Woman. Until you realize the difference between the two , you may never understand the purpose of this thread. I'd advice you take a deep breathe, read through the thread again , understand, meditate then form your opinion again.

Kingsteve:
Interesting!
So I see a girl I like, but because of fear of rejection, I shouldn't shoot my shot?
Hmmm...

On the other hand...
I'd live a life devoid of any meaningful relationship just because I'm waiting for that mysery girl, that will surface from out of the blues & likes me first, gives me the green light, before I shoot my shot & start developing feelings for her, irrespective of if she's my spec or not?

Thinking out loud: so how did I manage to get all these girls over the years?
Did I wait for them to give me the green light first, or did I just walk up to them and did my thing?
Hmmm...

if you think carefully they gave you green lights. those smiles. the looks. the space. the chance.

MariaLavina:
Lol this isn't about fear of rejection but fear of slavery ( mental and financial slavery) And no one is telling you to wait for a lady,you are just being advised to take a chill break and allow your brain reason for you other than your dii.ck. The problem with you guys is you are always in a haste, always in rush to shoot your shoots.Unfortunately when your shots catches a money /emotions draining monster, you lots come here to vent your frustrations and anger wailing all women are hoes. Broda shooter of shots calm down and learn.


Let's see , all the girls you got over the years where are they now? Your first mistake is not realising that this thread isn't about getting a Pussy but getting a Woman. Until you realize the difference between the two , you may never understand the purpose of this thread. I'd advice you take a deep breathe, read through the thread again , understand, meditate then form your opinion again.

true true. this isn't about sex at all. but about romantic relationships.

MariaLavina:
Lol this isn't about fear of rejection but fear of slavery ( mental and financial slavery) And no one is telling you to wait for a lady,you are just being advised to take a chill break and allow your brain reason for you other than your dii.ck. The problem with you guys is you are always in a haste, always in rush to shoot your shoots.Unfortunately when your shots catches a money /emotions draining monster, you lots come here to vent your frustrations and anger wailing all women are hoes. Broda shooter of shots calm down and learn.


Let's see , all the girls you got over the years where are they now? Your first mistake is not realising that this thread isn't about getting a Pussy but getting a Woman. Until you realize the difference between the two , you may never understand the purpose of this thread. I'd advice you take a deep breathe, read through the thread again , understand, meditate then form your opinion again.

Oh, I forgot to mention, cos it wasn't necessary, but since you asked...

I'm married with 2 handsome boys.
When I met my wife, she never gave me any green light, or like me first.
I made the bold move without fear of rejection and whatnot you guys preach on here.

The rest, like they say...is history!
And guess what?


When I'm in my predatory mode...I still shoot my shots!

ubunja:
if you think carefully they gave you green lights. those smiles. the looks. the space. the chance.

Not all.
Most successful hits were due to my predatory instincts.
The last conquest...I stalked her like a predator at night, got her talking before getting her number.

Well, like most girls, she gave me a difficult time, but she was later conquered!
Green light?
Nah...

UniQue84:
@MariaLavina My little opinion Yes everybody can learn to love, its a choice we consciously make even though love is also a feeling but it's more of a choice we make ( a decision ). You can choose to love . To me love is not a gift but a fruit of the spirit that can be cultivated and nortured to grow. For example there is nothing like that man/woman love God so much and was just born and gifted to love God...No No he/she choose to love God, he/she made a choice to love God.


Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
Rev 3:20

You can choose not to open the door ..it's a choice, and any choice made can be improved upon during this process your learning .

Until the question 'How do one love a person he or she doesn't love? (I mean the process on how to do it ) is answered I'm sorry I may not be convinced. Why I'm adamant is I really want to know. Like I've you ever been in a situation where you let go of a perfect one simply because the attraction isn't there? Have you?
Lol, yes staying in love is a decision but falling in love isn't, there's a difference, and please do not compare Agape love( God's love) with The human love ( I've forgotten it's name but I remember It was taught in a Sunday school class ) And yes there is Woman-Man love although in Christianity, it is expected that the Agape love should exist between the husband and Wife.

Now talking about the Fruit of the Spirit, That is God's divine love given through the holy spirit believers who have received holy ghost baptism. Once an individual has received the outpour of the holy ghost, he or she receives and begins to manifest the gifts of the spirit. This process isn't superficial and can not be learned. Yes you grow in the spirit but you can't learn to be in the spirit. You have to be in the spirit through the power of the Holy ghost which can not be controlled by Man.

Your last paragraph is the choice to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour which is the first step to receiving all written above.

Bottom line, whether we like it or not,
rejections and whatnot are all part of the game.
Getting a female is a 50/50 chance.
You either win or lose.

The sooner you all get that into your skulls, the better and less complaints!

I get it though...
Most Naija girls are case studies!
Smh

ubunja:
true true. this isn't about sex at all. but about romantic relationships.

And that's the reason I've been here this long.

MariaLavina:
Wao! finally read it! I must confess it isn't a waste of time and it is 90% true. Kudos Ubunja!

[s]However, I will advice guys reading this to be cautious in applying this write up, Please before you apply this know who you are dealing with. Does that lady fit all the description up there? What is her love language? what if her's is words of affirmation and you are busy following your 'I don't say I love you' principle. Please be wise and ensure balance in your reasoning, Nothing hurt more than losing a loved one by your mistakes[/s]

That said, How does one love who loves him/her? I want to know because by experience that's like mission impossible.




BTW Pansophist, you will like this.

Yinmu.Comot for this thread with your manipulation

Ubunja, am I permitted to say this is the best stuff from you I've read?

maybe not but this is exceptional... God bless you

MariaLavina:
And that's the reason I've been here this long.

you girls are stingy with sex that's why you stay away from sex threads

OP, I don't mean to rain on your parade, but no amount of miseducation will change the dating status quo.
It is what it is!
Yes...there might be improvements when the miseducation is applied on the right candidate, but it will never change the status quo.

Some things never change...ever!

henryobinna:
Ubunja, am I permitted to say this is the best stuff from you I've read?

maybe not but this is exceptional... God bless you

thanks bro. I try

but "Game of Emotions" is a much better thread, I think?

BLUEJAYY:
And now my age-long, reliable and successful strategy is exposed.

I figured out quite early during my teenage years that it was a lot easier when the girls do the loving and chasing stuff. I realized that I got a ton of the attraction from girls in my school due to my academic success and charisma and ever since, I've grown up with that mentality and expertise of getting women attracted to me and it's been so successful.

I still see women I'd like to have but they are no different from the ones at my beck and call, so I don't really see the need to chase. Also, I'm not used to chasing so it seems like a lot of work and stupidity for me, trying to get a girl to love me.

I've got a lot of good women who love me genuinely and would do anything in the world for my happiness. I really like these women and we're great friends and I have the utmost respect for them all but unfortunately I'm non-committal. But no matter how much I fvcked up so badly they'd still stick around and pray for me to change.

It made me so sad for them that I couldn't be the committed person that they've always wanted. I feel bad for them but I always wish they get to find a good man who'd reciprocate their love and be true to them.

Recently, one got a new fiance and told me about him and I'm really happy for her.

Dude please!...

You're just scared of rejection and maybe a lack of confidence in some areas too...


Simply because some women show interest in you does not mean you cannot go for other women that you are interested in... It's like you're consoling yourself with the women who are interested in you.

Whoever you are or however you look they'll still be people that'd warm up to you. And the number increases with looks and other attributes and/or virtues.

Toast woman or no toast woman, women dey wey go draw near you. No come use as excuse not to toast woman or come dey feel super because news flash, it happens to everyone!