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BrownCarton:
Update.

The space didn't last long as we sort of got talking after a couple of days. However, she did something I will say.. No man with balls will ever take. Someguy she used to confide in started talking stuff about me, which I got to know about through a friend. Long story short, I, she nd the guy found ourselves in a confrontation, where she sided the guy, and eventually left in his car. Tbh. it was quite humiliating. Broke up there and then.. However she reached out to me, and in a small conversation, an argument ensued again, as certain family issues were around it all.
Now, I gave myself a proper break. Went quiet, hit the gym and bought myself a Mercedes c200 as I ve always wanted to get one. Yeah.. Shez seen my couple of uploads, and yeah.. She has called, which I ve refused to pick.
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At this point, I am all about either revenge or just cutting off totally. I know cutting off is the best, but I like her to feel some pain either way at the end.

OH... Move on. Life's too short to be going on revenge missions.

You know before I got to the end my response was going to be ‘she’s toying with you and keeping you at arms length so she can pick and choose when to have you, she wants to have her cake and eat it too’ buuuut I got to the end where you said you now just want to have sex with her so now I’m just like You’re both terrible My advice is to move on.

BrownCarton:
Hi guys,

I will make this as short as possible.
I started seeing this girl for about a year and 3 months now, where it started all good. At the start, she always respected me, always was loyal, sex was great, she always wanted to see me. etc. At one point, we had a big first fight which put a dent on the initial trust I used to have when she ended up getting drunk and sleeping over in a friend's place and lying about it. However, I forgave that incident.
Let me add in here that I eventually realized she had low self esteem and was often seeking attention, and doing certain things which made her vulnerable.

A lot of issues followed periodically after that, with some ranging around her behaviour with other guys. In all of these, I often maintained my frame and wasn't jealous.

It then got to a point, however, that I seemed to not really trust her, so I was in between trying to figure out what was going on, without looking insecure. At some point, she met some guys who they started talking together till a point they got to hang out, which made me jealous. Honestly, I wouldn't mind her hanging out and all, but the first incident we ever had always made me feel she is very vulnerable around guys. I started being suspicious of her moves, trying to let her know that lots of these guys do not really care about her, except to bed her.

However, I messed up with my reaction at a point where she lied she was going out with her family, meanwhile, she went out with some guys. I found out in a creepy way, which followed with her acting manipulative, defensive, disrespectful and avoiding.

Honestly, I should have handled it differently by giving her her space there and then, but because we have had some significant experience together(had abortions etc), I tried to make it work which looking back, I know was the biggest mistake which totally plunged the respect.
So every move from me followed with a defensive response, which ultimately led me to plead and beg her, which plunged the respect further (Biggest red mark)
A lot of the story is quite complicated because, at this point, things got really serious where her stepfamily(who she lives with) began getting annoyed with her. Sitting her down and talking to her, which she didn't like.

We hungout recently, where I got her something very unique, but I realized the love is gone, or not really there as she has been avoiding sex/romance.. etc. She asked for space to clear herself away from everyone for a week and that she will call me in a week. I asked if we are okay to meet new people or I can move on, she said no, it is not a final breakup, just a no contact space for a week and "we will know how it goes after a week" I asked again if she wants a breakup and maybe can't say it, she insisted it is just space from family and friends as she feels people misunderstand her. Though she said she still loves me, "but it is going down" lol

In my head at the moment, I ve gotten over the "fantasies" and I m meeting new people too. I just want to know what you guys think of this. She gave me a call the next day, but I didn't pick up as in my head, I want to give her her space.
The common sense part of me tells me it is over, however, there is no guarantee the next person I meet wouldn't be the same as women are not to be trusted. However, I am thinking how to reignite the sex back from her, because the sex was quite good. I left her a fake proposal for a vacation "to clear our heads" but tbh, I just want to get back the nacks, though it is not a do or die. That's all. What do you guys think about the "1 week space thing"

Possibilities:

1. Space to clear her head
2. Time to cheat with someone
3. Preemptive breakup

It could be one of those 3, ironically it could be all 3 especially in that order. I guess all those options are mutually exclusive. Bad sign

iPrevail:
I know you won't listen. That's why these days, no need to advice people... You just mind your own damn business.
I typed all that shii from a not-savourable experience. You can't change people.. Only God can (if he gives a sh!t).. And trust me, once "love" is gone... It's fvckin dead.
Clinging to what used and hoping for what may be never be will result to either one of you becoming a monster. I don't wanna read here you murdered that girl or she set you on fire.
Dude.. I know you still want her. But just give and the space she needs.. When she comes back, if she does, then you'll know she's yours. Peace!

Man was right to the point

BrownCarton:
Update.

The space didn't last long as we sort of got talking after a couple of days. However, she did something I will say.. No man with balls will ever take. Someguy she used to confide in started talking stuff about me, which I got to know about through a friend. Long story short, I, she nd the guy found ourselves in a confrontation, where she sided the guy, and eventually left in his car. Tbh. it was quite humiliating. Broke up there and then.. However she reached out to me, and in a small conversation, an argument ensued again, as certain family issues were around it all.
Now, I gave myself a proper break. Went quiet, hit the gym and bought myself a Mercedes c200 as I ve always wanted to get one. Yeah.. Shez seen my couple of uploads, and yeah.. She has called, which I ve refused to pick.
.
At this point, I am all about either revenge or just cutting off totally. I know cutting off is the best, but I like her to feel some pain either way at the end.

Dude what's the motivation of joining the gym and are you consistent ? Damn paid for gym 3 times but always too busy to go. That's a good idea

BrownCarton:
Update.

The space didn't last long as we sort of got talking after a couple of days. However, she did something I will say.. No man with balls will ever take. Someguy she used to confide in started talking stuff about me, which I got to know about through a friend. Long story short, I, she nd the guy found ourselves in a confrontation, where she sided the guy, and eventually left in his car. Tbh. it was quite humiliating. Broke up there and then.. However she reached out to me, and in a small conversation, an argument ensued again, as certain family issues were around it all.
Now, I gave myself a proper break. Went quiet, hit the gym and bought myself a Mercedes c200 as I ve always wanted to get one. Yeah.. Shez seen my couple of uploads, and yeah.. She has called, which I ve refused to pick.
.
At this point, I am all about either revenge or just cutting off totally. I know cutting off is the best, but I like her to feel some pain either way at the end.

Well let me play devil's advocate, the guy could be her good friend who has reserved opinion about you, and if they've been closer for years, chances are she will side with me.

But from the boyfriends perspective, you dont know if they are sexual or not, so yes I can understand why it will be humiliating and also that looks suspicious too.

BrownCarton:
Update.

The space didn't last long as we sort of got talking after a couple of days. However, she did something I will say.. No man with balls will ever take. Someguy she used to confide in started talking stuff about me, which I got to know about through a friend. Long story short, I, she nd the guy found ourselves in a confrontation, where she sided the guy, and eventually left in his car. Tbh. it was quite humiliating. Broke up there and then.. However she reached out to me, and in a small conversation, an argument ensued again, as certain family issues were around it all.
Now, I gave myself a proper break. Went quiet, hit the gym and bought myself a Mercedes c200 as I ve always wanted to get one. Yeah.. Shez seen my couple of uploads, and yeah.. She has called, which I ve refused to pick.
.
At this point, I am all about either revenge or just cutting off totally. I know cutting off is the best, but I like her to feel some pain either way at the end.

the bolded is the best replacement for any woman.
Just can't wait to get my C63.I won't even look no woman twice.
Why C200 though?with the m111
Sounds slow to me.well,you might not be a lover of speed like me

nwanneni:
the bolded is the best replacement for any woman.
Just can't wait to get my C63.I won't even look no woman twice.
Why C200 though?with the m111
Sounds slow to me.well,you might not be a lover of speed like me

The c200 has this in between corporate/luxury look I admire. Also, mine has a protruding head unit with navigation which not a lot of similar models have

BrownCarton:
The c200 has this in between corporate/luxury look I admire. Also, mine has a protruding head unit with navigation not a lot of similar models have

I didn't get this though.
What do you mean by that?
Is yours the w203 C200 or higher?

pcguru1:
Well let me play devil's advocate, the guy could be her good friend who has reserved opinion about you, and if they've been closer for years, chances are she will side with me.

But from the boyfriends perspective, you dont know if they are sexual or not, so yes I can understand why it will be humiliating and also that looks suspicious too.

Is suspect that as well.. However, too many crazies happened not even relating to the guy that I feel that once respect is lost, the relationship is dead

nwanneni:
I didn't get this though.
What do you mean by that?
Is yours the w203 C200 or higher?

It's the w204. Some have the standard head unit dash with the small screen after it slides and curves open.
While some have the standing screen with inbuilt navigation.

pcguru1:
Dude what's the motivation of joining the gym and are you consistent ? Damn paid for gym 3 times but always too busy to go. That's a good idea

I m not bruh.. Haha.. Joined to try get that woman off my mind. Ended up not going further when she came back. But will go again this time fully

BrownCarton:
It's the w204. Some have the standard head unit dash with the small screen after it slides and curves open.
While some have the standing screen with inbuilt navigation.

no doubt!
That's a good car though....I love it.
Can't wait to upgrade to a C63 men.
Anyways,you can't be going after a smallie now that you've got that na.
You can always get better,mature women who at this point can make up their minds.
Not some kid who is still carried away by meaningless things

@op...I just quickly glanced thru d post, didn’t read d comments and ur updates but let me quickly drop this...it is emotionally draining dating a lady with low self esteem, they are potential cheats. If she doesn’t work on it, she definitely will cheat on u, take it from someone who has been there. She loved me so much but she still did. Love is work, love is commitment, love is dedication...not just some mushy mushy feeling, if u love her, den stay and help her work on it but be prepared cos it won’t be easy, if u don’t love her dat much or u don’t see urself marrying her, save urself the stress and move on with ur life. Everything I just said is from personal experience...all d best brah

BrownCarton:
I m not bruh.. Haha.. Joined to try get that woman off my mind. Ended up not going further when she came back. But will go again this time fully

The means justifies the end, thanks now looking for a woman to give me headache so I can join too

@BrownCarton Move on please....... Lady are lovers in nature...... Once a lady is not all over you she's done.... It doesn't mean that she won't marry you if you ask her to but be guaranteed that she isn't all that in love with you again. ...you're just in relationship for relationship sake. And please have some degree of self worth. Move on.... If she comes back then she probably tried some other person and as long as she's not sure that the other guy loves her, she won't leave you yet. And she seems to enjoy other guys company than yours. Be fun to be with but please be yourself. Your target is not getting married it should be getting married to the one that loves you. Put that in mind and say it to yourself everyday. Women can marry who's available not neccessary who they are in love with. A woman who lies is a potentially great cheat. Quote me anywhere.

mayim:
@op...I just quickly glanced thru d post, didn’t read d comments and ur updates but let me quickly drop this...it is emotionally draining dating a lady with low self esteem, they are potential cheats. If she doesn’t work on it, she definitely will cheat on u, take it from someone who has been there. She loved me so much but she still did. Love is work, love is commitment, love is dedication...not just some mushy mushy feeling, if u love her, den stay and help her work on it but be prepared cos it won’t be easy, if u don’t love her dat much or u don’t see urself marrying her, save urself the stress and move on with ur life. Everything I just said is from personal experience...all d best brah

Fact.. I ve moved on.. But not without a crazy ending

AwkaetitiBabe:
So giving one space means no communication? You should be the mature one here. Do you know if she had a very important information to pass across to you?

Relationships these days break down due to impatience. Ordinary one week, you already talking to another woman.

I never expected a sensible advice from a fellow female because I realise how you people support each other in the coven of wickedness.

BrownCarton:
Fact.. I ve moved on.. But not without a crazy ending

And what is the ending....... Care to share

Raydans:
And what is the ending....... Care to share

I did.. Check my new thread