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XhosaNostra:
It's really not that difficult. After every break up I usually lose interest in sex for years at a time. I don't know why but it takes a certain type of man to spark up that side of me. If I don't meet someone that feels right, I remain celibate for however long it takes, without feeling like l'm missing out on anything. Instead I feel pure physically & spiritually, that can be addictive. Sex does take something out of you, I'm beginning to suspect. Because when I'm in one of my dry spells, I'm almost psychic

Okoroawusa:
Taaaa!


Carry ur Jesus n shove it where the sun doesn't shine

Abcruz:
There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.--proverbs 14:12

Listen, my son, accept what I say, and you will have a long, good life.--proverbs 4:10

XhosaNostra:
It's really not that difficult. After every break up I usually lose interest in sex for years at a time. I don't know why but it takes a certain type of man to spark up that side of me. If I don't meet someone that feels right, I remain celibate for however long it takes, without feeling like l'm missing out on anything. Instead I feel pure physically & spiritually, that can be addictive. Sex does take something out of you, I'm beginning to suspect. Because when I'm in one of my dry spells, I'm almost psychic

donvoice:
Thank you sir

WORLDPEACE:
Maybe you should enter a convent. Lol

Toluensdollars:
No one can deny d fact that they gets turned on some times, buh these is what i do and its been helping me in d last 4 years since have been single and no actual date yet when am gonna get anyone for myself again. Each time i get turned on, i sit down somewhere, avoid having any communication with any lady, kip calm and remain silent. and if it isn't working like maybe d heat if it is getting to me, i just go to bed and sleep

ike007:
Get busy trying to make money and overwork as toget tired at the end of the day or, get a video game and look for good game genre and play.

optimusprime2:
I trek from Antwerpen to St-Truiden...

XhosaNostra:
With my borehole?

Toks2008:
◄ 1 Corinthians 7:9 ►
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.


Now if you marry and you still have issues with your sex life then it is a problem you may have to fix with your spouse.

litaninja:
Simple. By having sex.
Its a natural law, you're supposed to have sex to keep the species alive. Leave all that religious mumbo jumbo biko...

Randy100:
There are class of drugs ( antidepressant SSRIs) that lowers libido. They are setraline(zoloft), fluoxetine(prozac). It will help you.

Bamz:
Bobo yi sha

It's only an idle mind that gives space to all kinds of frivolous thoughts. This isn't about religion.

While the feeling is natural, I doubt if one would yield to sexual urges if they don't have ample time for such in their lives.

Get busy with your life mate.

franklingud:
Ask God?
What is this one talking about?

That's when you will see temptations.

God cannot give you self control rather you control yourself.



Best advice is to CHASE MONEY

Tundexxy:
Can this be true?

Freehuman:
The reality is that in Africa we actually live our lives to please people that do not matter and in most cases entities that may not exist. We believe what we are told and disregard empiricism( looking around our society and understanding what works for us and how life works in general). The Op in a developed society would ask "How do I control my libido?" or " How do I live a healthy sexual life devoid of over indulgence in sex?"

Biology is actually older than religion . The former dates back to more than a million years and the latter is just 6000 years old. The point I'm trying to make here is that your body is older than religion because living things produce their kind and your first kind predates religion . Apart from the above, you are not born with religion but you are born into religion and therefore your religion is a product of the background of your upbringing. That is why a christian baby adopted by Moslem couples will grow up a Moslem no matter what Church claimed that the Christian God made the biological mother of the Child pregnant . These scenarios may buttress my point.

1. Humans are born with hair on their heads but Deeper Life Church prevents men from keeping long hair because it is evil.
If a god did not want men to keep long hair why did he give them long hair?
2. A Male Human is born with foreskin on his penis but if he circumcises he becomes God's own.
If a god did not want a man to keep his penis foreskin why give the man the foreskin?

3. If Jehovah Witnesses do not marry outside their faith because Jehovah isn't pleased why does Jehovah not prevent their women from getting pregnant when they have sexual intercourse outside wedlock?

4.Man was born with libido and sexual urge but if he exercises it out of marriage he is doomed.
Why does the doom not come instantly ? Why is the man not dead, mad or the issue gotten from such intercourse disabled or still at birth?

There is only one answer to the above questions and it is that no God ever made those rules, those rules were made by men to mentally enslave people. A religiously dogmatic person will prefer " You will rot in hell if you keep long hair" to "long hair will make you look like a female" or " long hair without regular care is not hygienic". A religious extremist will prefer " you will rot in hell if you have sex without getting married" to " you may have problem with paternal identity, sexually transmitted diseases and problems of raising a family if pregnancy occurs when you do not have a regulated partner." Inter faith marriage and circumcision are just to preserve identity like the Yoruba tribal marks but to enforce strict compliance it must be labelled "God's will".

Now let's do this. I'll name 2 greatest of all times who are currently in the top 5 of their respective professions who had sex without being married.

Tech CEOs(Billionaires)
1. Jeff Bezos- Surprisingly he surpassed Bill Gates to become the richest man in the world during the period he engaged in extra marital affairs with a married Journalist.
2. Mark Zukerberg- He rented an apartment in Silicon valley, Carlifornia and Chan, whom he met at a college night party and would later become his wife, moved into the apartment for the purpose of cohabitation. He owns Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp where religious fanatics broadcast that sex before marriage brings damnation.

Footballers:
1.Lionel Messi- Had 2 kids before getting married.
2. Christiano Ronaldo- I don't need to talk about him.

Boxers:
1.Floyd Mayweather- Has a lot of children out of wedlock.
2.Anthony Joshua- Has a son with a Yoga trainer.

Most Powerful women in the world:
1.Oprah Winfrey- Had sexual relationships and even a child as an under 18. Once richest black woman and currently mentioned as the most powerful black woman in the world .
2. Meghan Merkel - I do not need to talk about the past of the most talked about royal family member in the United Kingdom.

Presidents of the United States of America:
1. Bill Clinton: Had a sexual relationship a staff in the oval office.
2. Donald Trump - I do not need to talk about him. He has even been linked to a porn actress.

Nigerian Musicians:
1. Davido
2. Wizkid.

I do not need to mention " The Clergy" because they will always hide their lifestyles to prove what they preach.
I mixed this reply with religion and society because the only reason a person can ask this question is if he is afraid of some kind of misery that may come as a result of sex.

Food , water , sleep and sex are needs that every human being and animal craves for. Even lower animals find a way to get Food , water , sleep and sex when they have urge to get those. But for higher animals, human beings ,it goes this way:

(All humans)Urge for food - Get something healthy to eat.

(All humans) Urge for water - Get something (liquid) clean and healthy to drink.

(All humans) Urge for Sleep - Find somewhere calm , peaceful and less noisy to sleep.

(All humans) Urge for sex - Different opinions

(Rational humans) Urge for Sex - Relieve yourself from stress and enjoy protected sex (including safe masturbation) with medically accepted practices.

(Irrational Humans) Urge for sex - Read an ancient book, don't look at women again, go and make money, think about what others have achieved.

Singing hymns , bible reading and fasting can also make one avoid food (fasting) , water (dry fasting) and sleep(vigil/ tarry night) for even a week if one is willing but never cures the urge to enjoy those naturals. One will still enjoy them later and when he does he will crave those in extreme. Asking how to desist from satisfying a natural urge is a self imposed ignorance and you alone can free yourself.

The only remedy for sexual urge is sex.

Freehuman:
The reality is that in Africa we actually live our lives to please people that do not matter and in most cases entities that may not exist. We believe what we are told and disregard empiricism( looking around our society and understanding what works for us and how life works in general). The Op in a developed society would ask "How do I control my libido?" or " How do I live a healthy sexual life devoid of over indulgence in sex?"

Biology is actually older than religion . The former dates back to more than a million years and the latter is just 6000 years old. The point I'm trying to make here is that your body is older than religion because living things produce their kind and your first kind predates religion . Apart from the above, you are not born with religion but you are born into religion and therefore your religion is a product of the background of your upbringing. That is why a christian baby adopted by Moslem couples will grow up a Moslem no matter what Church claimed that the Christian God made the biological mother of the Child pregnant . These scenarios may buttress my point.

1. Humans are born with hair on their heads but Deeper Life Church prevents men from keeping long hair because it is evil.
If a god did not want men to keep long hair why did he give them long hair?
2. A Male Human is born with foreskin on his penis but if he circumcises he becomes God's own.
If a god did not want a man to keep his penis foreskin why give the man the foreskin?

3. If Jehovah Witnesses do not marry outside their faith because Jehovah isn't pleased why does Jehovah not prevent their women from getting pregnant when they have sexual intercourse outside wedlock?

4.Man was born with libido and sexual urge but if he exercises it out of marriage he is doomed.
Why does the doom not come instantly ? Why is the man not dead, mad or the issue gotten from such intercourse disabled or still at birth?

There is only one answer to the above questions and it is that no God ever made those rules, those rules were made by men to mentally enslave people. A religiously dogmatic person will prefer " You will rot in hell if you keep long hair" to "long hair will make you look like a female" or " long hair without regular care is not hygienic". A religious extremist will prefer " you will rot in hell if you have sex without getting married" to " you may have problem with paternal identity, sexually transmitted diseases and problems of raising a family if pregnancy occurs when you do not have a regulated partner." Inter faith marriage and circumcision are just to preserve identity like the Yoruba tribal marks but to enforce strict compliance it must be labelled "God's will".

Now let's do this. I'll name 2 greatest of all times who are currently in the top 5 of their respective professions who had sex without being married.

Tech CEOs(Billionaires)
1. Jeff Bezos- Surprisingly he surpassed Bill Gates to become the richest man in the world during the period he engaged in extra marital affairs with a married Journalist.
2. Mark Zukerberg- He rented an apartment in Silicon valley, Carlifornia and Chan, whom he met at a college night party and would later become his wife, moved into the apartment for the purpose of cohabitation. He owns Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp where religious fanatics broadcast that sex before marriage brings damnation.

Footballers:
1.Lionel Messi- Had 2 kids before getting married.
2. Christiano Ronaldo- I don't need to talk about him.

Boxers:
1.Floyd Mayweather- Has a lot of children out of wedlock.
2.Anthony Joshua- Has a son with a Yoga trainer.

Most Powerful women in the world:
1.Oprah Winfrey- Had sexual relationships and even a child as an under 18. Once richest black woman and currently mentioned as the most powerful black woman in the world .
2. Meghan Merkel - I do not need to talk about the past of the most talked about royal family member in the United Kingdom.

Presidents of the United States of America:
1. Bill Clinton: Had a sexual relationship a staff in the oval office.
2. Donald Trump - I do not need to talk about him. He has even been linked to a porn actress.

Nigerian Musicians:
1. Davido
2. Wizkid.

I do not need to mention " The Clergy" because they will always hide their lifestyles to prove what they preach.
I mixed this reply with religion and society because the only reason a person can ask this question is if he is afraid of some kind of misery that may come as a result of sex.

Food , water , sleep and sex are needs that every human being and animal craves for. Even lower animals find a way to get Food , water , sleep and sex when they have urge to get those. But for higher animals, human beings ,it goes this way:

(All humans)Urge for food - Get something healthy to eat.

(All humans) Urge for water - Get something (liquid) clean and healthy to drink.

(All humans) Urge for Sleep - Find somewhere calm , peaceful and less noisy to sleep.

(All humans) Urge for sex - Different opinions

(Rational humans) Urge for Sex - Relieve yourself from stress and enjoy protected sex (including safe masturbation) with medically accepted practices.

(Irrational Humans) Urge for sex - Read an ancient book, don't look at women again, go and make money, think about what others have achieved.

Singing hymns , bible reading and fasting can also make one avoid food (fasting) , water (dry fasting) and sleep(vigil/ tarry night) for even a week if one is willing but never cures the urge to enjoy those naturals. One will still enjoy them later and when he does he will crave those in extreme. Asking how to desist from satisfying a natural urge is a self imposed ignorance and you alone can free yourself.

The only remedy for sexual urge is sex.

Tundexxy:
What if you got home early from work & no light?

BlackSpanner:
Please you said getting married does not solve the issue. Kindly shed more light on this issue so that some of us can learn.

Thanks in advance.

CALEB65:
please can you shed more light on this so that most of us that are single will learn?

ademola721gmai:
Pardon me this is coming rather very late.
The greatest impediment towards having a legal, fulfilling sexual life is lack of money in a relationship.
You find out that both of you,sometimes will subconsciously put sex at the back burner cos of piled-up bills to pay and work related stress,hence the saying goes that 'if you want a woman to stop having sex with you ; get married to her.
Pray God provides you guys money to enable you to have lesser things to do worry about in the union, Amen

Ejykesantus:
Truth must be told. Sexual urges are not ordinary, and requires an extra ordinary effort/power to deal with. And the only way to deal with this is through the knowledge of the word of God not in words but in deed. The spirit behind sex is a powerful one indeed, and if not handled with all sense of diligent and discipline, would mar ones destiny instead of make it. A lot of destinies have been shattered because of this act-premarital and post marital sex. It is powerful as a lot of spiritual exchange takes place during the act that resulting in what is called SOUL TIE, which takes only the grace of God to break out from upon serious and sincere repentance of victim

Sex urges can only be completely handled through the power of God. WHY?. God is spirit and it takes spiritual power to fight spiritual battles and nothing more or less.

How can the knowledge of God helps someone in this regard? .

When the urge comes, it can be defeated and comfortably quench by countering every of its evil undertone by the word of God otherwise, the victim is moved to act in that direction, and the aftermath is regret.

So the word of God helps us to discipline our self in every situation so that we are not move by sight but by conviction of the right and wise act.

For more enquiry kindly don't hesitate to contact for you will surely subdue at the end.

zicoraads:
Just masturbate. But don't make it a habit. Once in a while won't do you any harm.

Cantonese:
Once you have tasted sex the bug catches up with you. How you self control depends on the way you take sex. For some sex is everything. For some it does not matter. If you find yourself over sexed than you have a problem. You can find a way to burn the excess energy by engaging in physically exercises. You may have to see a psychologist to teach you how to discipline your mind and your flesh when the thought overwhelms you.

LeonOgu:
I'm 32 and still a virgin. But by God's grace, I will marry this year. I don't masturbate. I'm only a spirit filled young man who is only moved by the things of God. I fast and study my Bible and sing spiritual songs at all time. To overcome sexual urge as a young man is just simple, only if your spirit is high in the things of God, then the flesh doesn't have any option than to surrender.

Read Proverbs 23:26. It says; My son give me your heart and let your eyes observe my ways
Ephesians 5:18. says, Be filled with the Holy Spirit.

Finally brethren, look unto God and you will overcome the flesh and the urge. You'd only have the urge for Holiness and Righteousness. Remain blessed for now!

AkataNYC:
Buddhist methods are the only time tested proven way. It involves segregating Male/Female, and high amounts of discipline instilled by a ritualized lifestyle in nature. Most importantly lack of stimulus and exposure except for the most Senior monks who eventually graduate and can interact with society without temptation. It takes decades of training to achieve this ability. There is no way for the average untrained Man to do this.

It is impossible to expect humans in regular city environments where Sex is everywhere on TV, Ads, Social media, etc. to conform to rules made 2000+ years ago.

So if you want to control the urge, join a buddhist monastery. Otherwise you are out of luck.

Toks2008:
Get a wife.