Iogobenz:
or have some cash to pay for tuition in their schools,accommodation,upkeep and rest once and for all.
It worked for us and we now have more than a PR

naxoo. Eyin omo baba olowo

calgaryFriend:

Brotherly everything is not always the way you see it, until I got here before I realised that marrying a white/foreign raised woman is a lot of work.

We are totally different from this people, I mean the African way of thinking about marriage is different from the way Caucasians and those raised in the west think.

Our values as Africans if followed are the best for a family, people here dont respect marriage, a divorcee lady but close to me was telling me about her own friend whom her husband left her and went to marry another guy, you can just marry someone for 10 years and they wake up one day and say they are lesbians.

The west is turning to something else and except for a very small percentage of people most people here dont respect marriage and do not see a problem with divorce so as a focused and family oriented guy it is best to come back home and marry someone that has the same outlook as you.

In addition most Nigerian single ladies here are very old, most are over 30 years, and for me anybody over 25years old is a no no....

There are good and bad girls in every tribe or race.Love is in every country, so u can get it wherever u are.

Zielle:
From the Diary of one your other 4 monikers on Nairaland ( Guitarlife, Guitarlife2, etc ) you have got two girlfriends in Calgary, not to add the others you're chatting with . To attract a loyal person, try practicing it yaself.

One friend of mine married a 24-yo white chick, their marriage lasted only 1year. He hyped her before the marriage... she was perfect, young, this n that. After the marriage he now admitted she was disrespectful, talked back, never listened, had a bf . He is now happily married, this time to a 31yo. Fyi, some 30-somethings yo women look younger than 20-somethings.

Forget Tori, haven't u seen a Nigerian marriage that lasted for 6 months? The nitty-gritty of the matter is that Find a person who love the Lord and obey his word.Find a person who loves you and fit your purpose in life.Others are supplementary list

calgaryFriend:

hi Zielle
This is the second time people are linking me guitarlife , I am not that guy... damn...
Now to address your other issues that you raised. I am not considering a white chick especially for these reasons that you raised, I am here and know exactly how they behave and whatsup with them.

My choice of wanting a lady less than 25years is personal, someone less than 25years and raised and bred in Nigeria thats my standard, the reason why men are encouraged to work hard is so that they can be in control of their own life.

Trust me most ladies that meet me throw themselves at me (apologies if this sounds like pride) but a man will choose how he wants his home to look like, and it starts from the kind of spouse he chooses for himself.

I hope you get ....

Are u a Christian? do you go to church?

Omega30:
Are u a Christian? do you go to church?

Yeah I attend a predominantly caucasian church. It is only old people that attend church here.
Infact I am the only black person in my church.

There are black/Nigerian churches though, but the noise is too much. You know the way Nigerian churches dey operate na..

Your obsession with early 20 something year olds is why you’re r single and I’m telling you this as a 24 year old. You can’t find a 22/23year old that is ready for marriage mentally and physically in this generation, it is hard. This is not the 19th century, most women under 25 are still finding themselves and living their life, dating multiple guys. I understand you want a young lady who is still fertile. Fertility doesn’t decline rapid until 35 plus. If you are looking for a serious, mature minded lady who is ready to settle down, go for 26-30. These set of ladies are still young and fertile and are also ready for something serious. But hey, that’s just my opinion.

calgaryFriend:

Hey brotherly , thank you for your response. I have attended a few cultural events but I stopped attending cos most ladies I see are over 30 years old.
I can tell you I am yet to see a <30year old single Nigerian lady , not that they dont exist but I have yet to meet them.
I am sure even you may not know too many, so I just got tired and decided to give up on the option of finding my category of people here, cos truly before a lady will be able to be set for express entry and stuff they will either me more than 30 years or very close.

So it is quite complicated....

calgaryFriend:

Yeah I attend a predominantly caucasian church. It is only old people that attend church here.
Infact I am the only black person in my church.

There are black/Nigerian churches though, but the noise is too much. You know the way Nigerian churches dey operate na..

Which part of the country are u based?

damzy88:
naxoo. Eyin omo baba olowo

N.a. so.
Capitalist

AntiBrutus:


Yea, you are right. Some people are in relationships because they don't want to be lonely/single. However, I think one needs to be good enough on his/her own, before seeking someone to share all that loving with.

I guess I am really lucky right now...

hmmm I guess u got a happy relationship I think if u are old enuf and ur guy has money is better u married soon. cos we humans are Neva satisfied. if he see someone finer than u is a problem. if u meet a guy richer than him is a problem. heart brake is not funny oh.I dont think u need to be DAT good.nobody is perfect dear DAT bad thing in u ur hubby will change to good and vice versal. no matter how good or bad we all need to love and be loved

Mtcheeeeewwww nonsense thread!

Very very difficult ooooo

Bossjakande:
u have a point dear is not easy even if one is despirate to get married if I rush marry ugly person or a girl DAT is an illitrate dont u think it will lead to regret later in life. I still think u can still get DAT perfect person just shine ur eyes and be serious.know wat u want in a woman or man and be prayerful. if I see a girl I love DAT is not married but got a boyfriwnd and I like her I tried to snatch her.if she aint got a ring shes still single as far as am concerned

Lols. You are a very matured and sincere person. I hope this is the same way you're compose in reality?. Will you like to to mingle one of these days? I base in Lagos tho

jackals:


Lols. You are a very matured and sincere person. I hope this is the same way you're compose in reality?. Will you like to to mingle one of these days? I base in Lagos tho

am not gay pls

gift3d:
Finding a life partner can be so tasking. I pray we don't make mistakes

Amen o. I hate to imagine ending up with a nonentity as a man, a man that beat women witout a second thought

Bossjakande:
am not gay pls

I don't understand. I am not a guy

Iogobenz:
N.a. so.
Capitalist

Where are you based in Canny?

jackals:


I don't understand. I am not a guy

guy. am older and smarter Dan u. u be learner

Safitu:
Your obsession with early 20 something year olds is why you’re r single and I’m telling you this as a 24 year old. You can’t find a 22/23year old that is ready for marriage mentally and physically in this generation, it is hard. This is not the 19th century, most women under 25 are still finding themselves and living their life, dating multiple guys. I understand you want a young lady who is still fertile. Fertility doesn’t decline rapid until 35 plus. If you are looking for a serious, mature minded lady who is ready to settle down, go for 26-30. These set of ladies are still young and fertile and are also ready for something serious. But hey, that’s just my opinion.

Your point is so valid. I am also on this table. They are mostly emotionally unstable. Not all tho

MariaLavina:
Mtcheeeeewwww nonsense thread!

How?

damzy88:
Where are you based in Canny?

I dey port harcourt o.
N.a. my sister dey Canada
She's a doc and a CANADIAN

But what do you expect when you’re dating 22 and 23 year olds? You can’t expect someone that young to be devoted to one man who is ready for marriage. Baby girl still wants to live her life and have fun. I’m not saying you need to date your grandmother, but sometimes when we are too strict on standards, especially things like age, which we can’t control, we find ourselves getting older by the year and still remaining single. It’s not until reality really sinks in, that we start modifying certain things, and sometimes it’s too late. I believe men should use their time wisely because it’s better to grow with your children. You want to be active with your kids whilst they’re young. When I was 10/11 my dad was in his late 30s, and I will forever be grateful for that.

calgaryFriend:


I did not cancel her out immidiately, I spoke to her gently and let her know it is disrespectful to the other person. I have asked her out and I have even gone as far as letting her know I really would love to start a serious relationship with her, the fact she still continued after I let her know I dont like that shows 2 things.

1. She does not understand the word respect. My time is also precious and I have many people to chat but I show respect to her by not chattin g multiple people at the same time. HOW can you be discussing with someone about how you guys want your future to look like and she is typing away while still on the call ? You may justify of trivialise that but it is a red flag. Mutual respect is important in any relationship.

2. She may have another relationship or several other relationships.

Lol, bros op, the truth is, you have not truly made up your mind to settle down or you are not yet financially settled or you have a lot of pretty ladies around u and u are so confused not to pick one and lose the other hottie ones because once a man is financially buoyant and emotionally determined to get married, he will marry the day he wishes regardless, so re-examine yourself well.


Most guys will claim they can't find a lady to marry but deep down their hearts it is financial pressure that's withholding them, while others its confusion of who to pick among their numerous hot chicks that tick almost all their quality checks

Aside Nigerian guys living abroad wishing to marry Nigerian ladies living in Nigeria, any guy that's doing well financially and determined to marry will marry.

How can u be financially buoyant as a guy and u don't have any physical challenge or u are not impaired and u are telling me that u aren't having more than enough option of classy ladies to pick and settle with

Forget all these talks we talk online eh, we have a lot of qualified classy Nigerian ladies that will make a wonderful wife.

Me I won't lie, I see a lot of them, I know a lot of them, I am single not because there are no qualified classy ladies to settle with, I am single because I am just nervous and wondering how I will now become a full property of one lady when I am not even used to dating ladies like that cos I am kinda of a perfectionist, and I love space a lot, and I know from the few ladies I have known, if any Lady gets close to me, she marks me closely and always wanna be around me and all these scares me but soonest I am taking the bulls by the horns cos man isn't getting younger anymore and momsi and popsi and relatives aren't making things easy again, so guy examine yourself well, the issue is with u if u tell yourself the truth.

Safitu:
But what do you expect when you’re dating 22 and 23 year olds? You can’t expect someone that young to be devoted to one man who is ready for marriage. Baby girl still wants to live her life and have fun. I’m not saying you need to date your grandmother, but sometimes when we are too strict on standards, especially things like age, which we can’t control, we find ourselves getting older by the year and still remaining single. It’s not until reality really sinks in, that we start modifying certain things, and sometimes it’s too late. I believe men should use their time wisely because it’s better to grow with your children. You want to be active with your kids whilst they’re young. When I was 10/11 my dad was in his late 30s, and I will forever be grateful for that.

Shut up! What do you know about these things? Cow

Not sorry to say this but this is also a foolish comment. We all must not reduce every standard of being both moral or otherwise to celebrate foolish people. Human should strive to have a minimum level of foolishness they exhibit on line.
Imagine being married to an idiot that type e nu gbe as WhatsApp status ?!

Isn’t that a confirmation she a career olosho in disguise ?! I once met a pretty lady “complete stranger, we ain’t even friends” proffering she was broke on instangram, ask her for her account n sent her 15K. I ended sleeping with her few weeks later cos her interest in me grew but like every long throat I knew she was not to be kept.

Kwinesther:
Hmmm, if you are this conclusive and impatient then finding a partner might be difficult. If everybody is always picking minor mistakes from their partner same way you are doing nobody will settle down oo. What if what she posted on her WhatsApp status was just a mere post that has no serious thing attached to it? We are different though, but a times what we post on social media does not truly reflect the type of person we are, just that one post shouldn't make her materialistic. I think you should have taken your time to study her more.

The other one, what if those chats are important chats too? To me it doesn't matter if she was also chatting them so far she was replying you well. There maybe other things about her that are good but you couldn't even notice out of impatience and hasty conclusion, please try to be calm next time. Choosing a partner isnt what can be done in a hurry. Shalom!

because he listed rubbish he chose not to tolerate. You expect him to reduce his standard to date fools that lack self worth or respect to themselves n others ba ?

Ishilove:

It seems you are a very difficult, rigid and impatient person.

calgaryFriend

Bossjakande:
guy just be patient d time will come.see don jazzy with all his money is not married.when dbanj marry? 2017 and 18 I was so depress and insult I get from family and friends.I even think of pregnanting a girl like if no wife at least I have a son. but I just realise life is more Dan DAT. I know am doing d right things so marriage will come when it will come.don't lkill ur self over nothing. my personal happiness over marriage anytime.

OK...I am far from being disturbed let alone depressed, I am just thinking about it cos I never knew it will take this long without having a headway

Fucck of jack pls

0KNM:
Shut up! What do you know about these things? Cow

AntiBrutus:


I am no bro, I am a sis.

The ones you want that are always taken, have you ever considered the fact that someone contributed in building/moulding them?

They were most likely not born that way. They learned from experiences and people (sometimes their exes).

Why can't we be a little more accomodating?

All this self-love that everyone is forming on social media, it leads to loneliness o.

you sound like a guy...some poleople are good at grooming people and I respect them, but I am not wired for it. I am accomodating and fun to be with, trust me

kemicalreaction:
She's a feminist

ahaa antibrutus

Ighoga898:

Stop finding and let your partner locate you themselves

No partner will locate me, unless I want to deceive myself. "Man know thyself"- I know myself..

Filmewell:


About 10 years now.
How I wish I can just close my eyes and sleep.
Good morning and have a good week.

10 years? Pls consult a physician. How do you cope at work? ...must really be tough I guess

MariaLavina:
Mtcheeeeewwww nonsense thread!

Now you all can see why I said " guys only"...smh

Safitu:
Fucck of jack pls

yenyenyen