deltateam:


You are wise. They are willing to make op responsible. Does op think its easy to marry. Some guys work for 5 years before they can marry. Now op is getting everything on a platter of gold. Anyway his village people are strong.

lol no be lie, na real platter of gold.

MJBOLT:

take the job and fvck the girl,it's a win for you on both sides

Do this and be cursed. Let the curse follow you wherever you go. It’ll remain a win win for you for life as a cursed man.

Rubbish advice

did the woman specifically tell you that she's getting the job for you so that you will marry her daughter?

or maybe, you are just trying to be faster than your own shadow?

Please, tell us more. Are you already going with the girl?

If you don't love her,don't take the job or else laslas as you take enter the job na so you go take comot am shamefully.

If u can't marry her, plz reject the offer. To avoid stories that touches the heart.

U take the job and gradually withdraw your closeness to the family. Don't be too attached to her daughter.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Ee wo lo kan mi nibe!!!

GraGra247:
Refuse the job if you have an alternative.

If you don't, take the job if it's a well paying one. Save money and buy the girl a car or something valuable to compensate her family.

Cut ties with her and her family few months afterwards. Don't touch the girl throughout.

LOL...POLITICS WITH ETHICS!!!! AT LEAST ON THE SURFACE.....NOT TOO SHABBY....THAT BEEN SAID, WITH THIS ADVICE, THE NEXT QUESTION WOULD BE THIS.....WOULD I BE OK IF SOMEONE DID THIS TO ME?

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

did her mother by chance tell you, she giving the job so u can marry her daughter? I'm just asking because it's not good for us to just conclude on a particular thing

You all are getting it wrong, what we need to ask first and foremost is that is there any form of relationship between them in the first place. Have you been seeing the daughter before the offer of job came? If your answer to the question above is NO, then go ahead with the job, you don't have to be afraid of anything except if the mother is helping you with the job on a condition of marrying the daughter, then you can let the job go.

Marriage is based on a genuine love. If you go ahead and marry her based on the issue above, you have just enslaved yourself. Love in marriage should be reciprocal, it should be a two-way thing and not one sided

Thank you.

Poanan:


If you are not going to marry her then reject the job. Do you think the mum will be nice to help a random person? If you break up with her, that same connection that got you in, in the first place, will be the one that will be used to disgrace you out.

All the people that he has helped before nko? He too should go and collect his help back because they are not friends again? Have you not read about ladies dumping men who sponsored their education from secondary school to masters level?

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Take the job and and leave her.

Dear Op.

Don't use emotions on this kind of issues. If it's a good paying job, OGA COLLECT THE JOB. DID YOU HEAR ME WELL. COLLECT THAT JOB. Infact, inside you, you should have a plan B in motion on your mind. Get d job, save and indulge in other little investment. When the girl get tired she will leave. Why can't the girl's mom give you the job with something attached. Even God said he will collect wealth from sinner and give to the righteous. Oga collect the job. What will happen will happen. #peace

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Take the job, raise capital for a business or while on that job, begin searching for another.
All through this try to pacify the girl and her family

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Simple things. Communicate and discuss your stand with her that the current relationship will not lead to marriage because of A and B and C. If she is sober enough to change, then go ahead and marry her because there is no perfect human being on earth.

On the job, don't reject it accept it but make sure you communicate and discuss your stand with her immediately. If her mother did not frustrate your chances of getting the job, be good to the family and appreciate them. But if they frustrated your chances you will either lose the job or get the job, either way, you would not be indebted to them.

But first, discuss your dislike with her with the intention to build and transform her to the person you want. Her reaction will determine your next step but remember that change and transformation happens over time and can take months and years. One behavior at a time, don't expect her to change or drop all the noticed negative behaviors once.

Good luck to you.

Dillusionist:
Why waste her time dating her when you know you wouldn't marry her? Very wicked things.

So u must marry anybody u date

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Don’t take a Greek gift if you don’t want to be part of them.

Op, have you ever promised her marriage?
How long have u been dating her?
If its just freestyle dating and you have never promised her marriage, take the job. The mum may just be someone that loves helping people.
But.....
If you have ever promised her marriage, make it clear you can't marry her and see if they will use the job as a bait. If so, then leave d job. God will provide you with another job.

Don't deceive her to get the job, karma is real.

TELL US THE FULL STORY.

madridguy:
My brother made such mistake and till date he's still biting his fingers in silent. OP use your brain otherwise you may end up like my brother.

Which mistake did your brother make?
Did he take the job or not?

princejayy:

Port Harcourt boy

Abobi! weeda you na? How your side

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Bro can you connect me with the mother? i will marry her without the job self.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Direct d girl and d job to me. Man with 1st class, still looking for job. Oga behave

Ramanto:
Lalasticlala, what advice do you have for a bother?

I got to know her under an unclear circumstance. I saw her just once at an event, we exchanged contacts and that was all. There is distance involved that's why I didn't get to know she's not what I want on time

If you collect the job a dump her the family and herself go curse you o. Borrow yourself brain and run for your life

Dillusionist:
Why waste her time dating her when you know you wouldn't marry her? Very wicked things.

Oga is it every relationship that should end in marriage?

Untill you tell us why you don't want to marry her...I won't be able to advice you...if na me I go pursue you spiritually if you fail to marry my daughter after fucking her pussy...but you need my job

What is her crime that made u think you can't marry her,let's start from there If ur reason is genuine fine and if it's lame oyo is ur name.

What is her crime that made u think you can't marry her,let's start from there If ur reason is genuine fine and if it's lame oyo is ur name.

Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

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Take the job.

Worry about the marriage later.

But don't make promises you don't intend to fulfill.

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Ramanto:
I'm not convinced I can marry her but her mum is getting me a job now. Should I decline the offer please? I seriously need your contributions. I need the job, but I don't want to be indebted to the family

Your perception that the job is tied to marrying the daughter is a perception; unless there are hard facts to back it, it is what it is. A perception.

However, the offer of a job is a hard fact. It is available.
So take the job and start your career.
Do NOT touch their daughter.

If she sacks you/ influence your sack, at least you will have had some months experience under your belt. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.

Do not marry someone based on temporary issues like joblessness. Marriage is supposed to be a permanent contract.

it's a pity that poverty is making a lot of guys lose their manliness and turning them to pussies