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Hakeem12:
I once sat beside a girl for a whole semester without saying more than "hi". She probably thought I was proud or something. When I got into university, I skipped classes from year one to three. Would always be in my hostel, on my phone or system. I didn't go to my departmental and faculty party. So it was like I didn't exist in my department till exam time. I always made excellent grades though.

I started going to classes from part 4 since attendance was then for exam. Then we had to start giving presentations. We were paired into groups and each group had to pick a leader. We had a meeting that day after class, these guys were talkatives and they fought over who would lead it. Someone pointed at me, and the rest laughed. They said I don't even talk in class and I would piss my pants in front of class. I wanted to say something but I played it over in my head and kept quiet. I have no problem talking to anyone, or even in front or any crowd, no matter how large. But keeping to myself give people wrong impression.

Presentation day came, and our group was first up. We all went to stand in front of class and the leader had the mic. Our class was huge, about 270. Guy just stood there and froze, we were presenting a paper on substance related disorder, something I knew cold. The lecturer told us we would all score zero if no one spoke since our group leader wasn't talking. I took the mic from him and said I would talk. The class was dead silent. Everyone wanted to hear me speak. They were stunned when I finished, and I got a standing ovation.

[color=#F5A215]I wouldn't trade what I am for anything. I focus on tasks better, study people better and tend to notice the bullshiit in people who even try to hide it.[/color]

JacksonMS:
My introversion is a mental illness

Danhumprey:
Amazing! I'm impressed and inspired. I'm an introvert myself and it's quite the struggle in school, especially in class, trying to keep to myself and people thinking I'm a snub.

Hakeem12:
You should try to interact with people though, especially the ones you sit beside in class, you can work it up from there. For me it more has to do with keeping the people I meet as casual acquaintances. I don't mind being friendly with people, but I really value my alone time and being quiet in general.

Usually when people want to get to know you and you open up, it will lead to longer conversations with them in the future, basically more time spent talking which drains your battery. Especially nowadays where I don't have as much time alone as I used to. I feel more of a need to withdraw and keep to myself. It's a bit tiring passing through the street and kicking off a conversation with X amount of people you happen to bump into. I try to save my social energy for people I really want to engage with and where it doesn't feel like a drain to talk to them. Unfortunately, people might take that the wrong way, but I have to think about myself too and I know that if I don't get time to myself, I'll be in a really bad way.

Specialbaby:
As an introvert, I fear I will end up single for life and it scares me. A lot actually!!! I seldom/don''t go out hence meeting a guy I like has been difficult. My life revolves around going to classes,church then straight back to my hostel. some of my Coursemate don't even know me. I am just tired and confused. I am always in a hurry to leave any social gathering..


Really, I am not enjoying this introvert lifestyle a bit and I blame my upbringing. I don't know what to do as I am just too shy for my liking.

Hakeem12:
I once sat beside a girl for a whole semester without saying more than "hi". She probably thought I was proud or something. When I got into university, I skipped classes from year one to three. Would always be in my hostel, on my phone or system. I didn't go to my departmental and faculty party. So it was like I didn't exist in my department till exam time. I always made excellent grades though.

I started going to classes from part 4 since attendance was then for exam. Then we had to start giving presentations. We were paired into groups and each group had to pick a leader. We had a meeting that day after class, these guys were talkatives and they fought over who would lead it. Someone pointed at me, and the rest laughed. They said I don't even talk in class and I would piss my pants in front of class. I wanted to say something but I played it over in my head and kept quiet. I have no problem talking to anyone, or even in front or any crowd, no matter how large. But keeping to myself give people wrong impression.

Presentation day came, and our group was first up. We all went to stand in front of class and the leader had the mic. Our class was huge, about 270. Guy just stood there and froze, we were presenting a paper on substance related disorder, something I knew cold. The lecturer told us we would all score zero if no one spoke since our group leader wasn't talking. I took the mic from him and said I would talk. The class was dead silent. Everyone wanted to hear me speak. They were stunned when I finished, and I got a standing ovation.

[color=#F5A215]I wouldn't trade what I am for anything. I focus on tasks better, study people better and tend to notice the bullshiit in people who even try to hide it.[/color]

WINNERMENTALITY:
Most of you here are suffering from unmedicated Attention disorder or maladictive daydreaming....

One way or the other something is shrinking you inside and it's more psychological.

Rubbiish:
Lol
This guy again

Hakeem12:
You should try to interact with people though, especially the ones you sit beside in class, you can work it up from there. For me it more has to do with keeping the people I meet as casual acquaintances. I don't mind being friendly with people, but I really value my alone time and being quiet in general.

Usually when people want to get to know you and you open up, it will lead to longer conversations with them in the future, basically more time spent talking which drains your battery. Especially nowadays where I don't have as much time alone as I used to. I feel more of a need to withdraw and keep to myself. It's a bit tiring passing through the street and kicking off a conversation with X amount of people you happen to bump into. I try to save my social energy for people I really want to engage with and where it doesn't feel like a drain to talk to them. Unfortunately, people might take that the wrong way, but I have to think about myself too and I know that if I don't get time to myself, I'll be in a really bad way.

JacksonMS:
i m experiencing this, there is a different world in my mind where I m bold and not an introvert

Ajoboss:
wow!
Dis has made my day......can I send u a pm sir

WINNERMENTALITY:
It's mere daydream.. If it's not impacting your life and u spend so much time daydreaming.. U should start getting busy more often.. And stop shying inside

JacksonMS:
wow, congratulations, I wish I will be like you one day

Meedon:
From time to time coming here to look at my fellow introverts drop comment make me feel joy

LeiderJa:
Alcohol unlocks me

Victornezzar:
Mine is something else

I always loose interest in a girl so quickly

I've never had a long lasting relationship.......I just broke up with one on Sunday

Geofavor:
You are not ready for commitment.

Victornezzar:
Not that Bro.....We just started dating as at June

She started asking for money for hair......She needs a new phone.......She wanna sub.....She wants a vacation

Babe even insulted my Dad.....She's too toxic

I just couldn't deal

Geofavor:
You said you quickly lose interest in girls. I was referring to that statement, not your last relationship.

Victornezzar:
Mine is something else

I always loose interest in a girl so quickly

I've never had a long lasting relationship.......I just broke up with one on Sunday

Victornezzar:
Not that Bro.....We just started dating as at June

She started asking for money for hair......She needs a new phone.......She wanna sub.....She wants a vacation

Babe even insulted my Dad.....She's too toxic

I just couldn't deal

Danhumprey:
@bolded, this is an instant deal-breaker for me. I simply can't deal.