ubunja:
If you stop approaching women and look around you'll see there are already women who have been giving you green lights all along but you've been too busy to notice.




Also, go get a prostitute and end that virginity thing. You can't master women if you've never even fvcked a woman. Get a hooker and get it over with.

this advice is the perfect best,, worked for me 100%,,you cannot catch a monkey with bare hands without knowing how to jump

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

“22 years old and in your final year....”

You should be thanking God that girls have rejected you. Why don’t you forget about girls and focus on your studies? Graduate with a First Class. Get a decent job or attempt a scholarship + Masters abroad. Get into a decent job.

Ladies will be at your beck and call. Ignore them, bro. They are not worth it. Not at your age and level.

SingleGuy9999:
Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

I was mentioned twice on this post. When I opened it, it was too long, so I closed and didn't read. I came across the post again and wanted to reply and give you the FINAL AND ONLY solution you'll ever need, but ignored again.


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meobizy:
I’m glad to see OP is finally a man. It’s still like yesterday I was a twenty two year old man chasing women. The surest way to a psych ward is chasing a Nigerian woman. Many years later I still haven’t perfected the craft. One thing I learned though: improve on yourself and they’ll come. They won’t flood your inbox but will trickle in one by one like a broken tap.

Hmmmmm

SingleGuy9999:
Thanks guys for all these replies...
Una don restore my lost confidence...
So there's one I wanted to ask out... I decided to wait and play her a little after getting advice from you guys...
Also I have gotten 6 new numbers today I want to start running again...

Okay,but you will fail again.

Also, you can check out Joe Clef's books on Apple book, Google book, Amazon, etc.

https://books.apple.com/us/author/joe-clef/id1406072621

These books have Nigerian versions (which can be found here https://shop.wetclef.com ) and international version which are all over stores and libraries in the US, UK, etc.

The Naija versions have more pages and higher price tag because they have more details and down to earth delivery than the foreign versions. Both written by the same author.

All the best — choose the ones you prefer.

BeLookingIDIOT:

Okay,but you will fail again.

Yes, he will fail again, but after reading one or two of the books above, he won't fail again.

My brother never allow your your present situation change the good person in you.
Period.

TemmyT002:
Dude, I feel your pain bro
Shebi you are 22. I am almost 30 and still a virgin.
After a breakup with my ex whom I dated for five years (I never wooed her; we just dated), I tried to 'toast' three different girls.
One said she can only be a sister to me. Another said she is in a relationship and the third told me ladies don't say yes at the first attempt.
I wanted to give up because I was very shy. I got advice from male and female friends but nothing worked.
I prayed for guidance and finally met a beautiful lady. All I had to do is tell her my intention and she agreed.
My advice is, for now, just face your studies or work, whichever one you have.
Ask yourself why you want to date. Is it just for experimenting or do you have future plans. The answers to these will help you choose the right girl.
When you find the girl you really like-that is after studying her o, tell her your intentions and make sure she is not single. That's all
However, if you no pray, na you go tire. It doesn't matter what anyone says.

Make sure she's not single? Na mistake abi make op dey pursue married women?

Youngman, you don't need harem of women to feel less lonely, Make yourself soooo happy to green envy of the ladies that they will wanna be part of what gives you so much joy. Dress very well and stylishly, walk shoulder high, use very good perfumes, read books that will help you to speak eloquently. Ladies love men who are happy with themselves first. Don't be boring around them, don't be always available to loose your value. choose your ladies, don't let them choose or fall for just any lady. Be confident, grow some beards and go out more often.

Just do u make money and be a complete a$$ hole they will fall for you. Believe me I experienced what u are experiencing now.

Someone has said every thing already.99% of girl/woman problems balls down to MONEY,even in MARRIAGES.
Do You Have MONEY?!

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

I disagree with some contributions here.
Some are saying dude is too young to have sex, When most girl even in nairaland started enjoying sex from the age of 14. If a small girl of 14 is enjoying sex why won't op enjoy too. Some guys that started having sex late started at age 18 . 4 years down the line and you are telling me op is too young .

Some are telling the guy to make money first. So if he doesn't make money he should not have sex ?
I have a younger brother even when he was jobless he was sleeping with so many girls I was even the one feeding him at that time. So lets leave money aside

Some said he should focus on his studies, this dude is in school and this opportunity may never come again and you want him to waste it. If he passes through school and school did not pass through him wetin em gain ?

Bro I feel your pain , one nairalander once said, the worst thing life can do to you, is to deny you money and sex at that the same time. And I agree with him.

Dude want to have sex so as to feel like a man, he want to be loved and cared for, like every other man. so any contribution you make should be channeled to that.

Now to my contribution, Sometimes you can't say why ladies fall for people they do. Till now I can't explain why a girl will fall for an average married man and say No to a single guy ( no matter how poor he may be ) but that's life mystery.

Now to the main advice.
Let me ask you have you fought with a girl for one hour just to make her give in to sex ? The pride of a girl lays in her waist and that is the last thing she would want to give you. Sometimes you need not take no for an answer.

let me stop here before I get a barn from nairaland..

I really feel sorry for you. I wish I was a lady I will just take your number. pls let's keep our comment on point..

pansophist:
OP, what you are passing through is exactly what most men will surely pass through, its encoded in the sand of time that what makes a man attractive and desired by the opposite sex is about being valuable. Being a man is not valuable, loving her is not valuable, but being a valuable man yourself.

Your value as a man is resource based (social status, wealth, intellects etc), it is the transformation for a boy to a man, that will make men respect you, and women attracted to you. other posters have said it all, and even though it is hard for me to believe that true love doesnt exist, as in, being loved just for being a man, all evidence points towards that direction. The mistake I see men generally do is expecting a woman to love him for who he is. No woman will love you for who you are (just being a man), because unlike men, women's value to men is physical (beauty, youthfulness, femininity), something she is born with and doesnt have to work for, yours as a man is the opposite.

When women say "real men", "man up", "be a man", it is a testament to this fact that being they separate the boy from a man, but have you ever heard men say "woman up", "real woman", ba a woman"?. Look at it this way, when you tell your friends that you met a new girl, their question will be something like, "is she beautiful", "she get yansh", "how does she look"? What all these implies is that women are valued for just being women. I remember when my sister told my parents about her boyfriend and that they wanna get married, what my parents wanna know was, "what does he do", "where does he work", how old is he", questions that reveal if he is not a boy, but a man, with a sense of responsibility, financial capability and able to lead a family.

Another example, most men usually move out from their fathers house to their own apartment, but women move from their father house to their husband house, our culture is deeply buried in this thoughts. Or male musicians showing cars and houses, to signify success (resource base), but female almost getting naked, displaying their curves (beauty/physical base value). Examples abound to prove this dynamics, but you should get the point now. Women are born, men are made. You should "made" yourself, and women will come.

So my young bro, I tell you from a place of experience, that you should focus on building yourself, and the women will come. Forget about all those nollywood true love shit, only women usually fall for it, because they operate in their own frame of being rewarded for being women, and project it on men, thinking they fell in love with you because you are you, not knowing their primal base and evolutionary hardwiring that made them skip others to be with a real man.

Goodluck

E.O.D!

The discussion continues after the commercial break.

So this is your problem in life single guy?
Lol ok oh

TemmyT002:
Dude, I feel your pain bro
Shebi you are 22. I am almost 30 and still a virgin.
After a breakup with my ex whom I dated for five years (I never wooed her; we just dated), I tried to 'toast' three different girls.
One said she can only be a sister to me. Another said she is in a relationship and the third told me ladies don't say yes at the first attempt.
I wanted to give up because I was very shy. I got advice from male and female friends but nothing worked.
I prayed for guidance and finally met a beautiful lady. All I had to do is tell her my intention and she agreed.
My advice is, for now, just face your studies or work, whichever one you have.
Ask yourself why you want to date. Is it just for experimenting or do you have future plans. The answers to these will help you choose the right girl.
When you find the girl you really like-that is after studying her o, tell her your intentions and make sure she is not single. That's all
However, if you no pray, na you go tire. It doesn't matter what anyone says.

There we go! Our brother here has approached the subject matter from the theological point of view.. Hehehe.
This thread is really funny, starting from the way the op was lamenting bitterly, followed by some crazily funny comments.
Judging solely on how the hope lamented up there, your attitude reeks DESPERATION; which is a huge turn off from ladies. You're desperate to get a gf, you are desperate to get laid, girl gave you number; you've started calling as if you got her the sim, a girl replies you with one word chats and you're responding with epistle. etc.
These attitudes above are what you potrayed in dealing with them, and you expect them not to avoid you.
My only advice for you is relax, and see ladies as freestyle. Don't take it too serious and don't imagine things. Just keep an open mind, call them only once, if they missed it, there's another day (we have 365days a year).
Because you really need to know how to deal with the opposite sex; without money of course (remember even girls have sex with animals because of the money involved and not for affection) so money will bring them for sex, but probability of them loving you is so tiny.
So those telling you money is everything are not helping you, rich dudes also get dumped!
Just bone the school parol and brace up for NYSC, girls are cheaper to get there if only you've learnt your lesson in how to deal with the ladies. All the best bro.

Have being there too, that's i made a promise nt to talk to gals, due to this most of my guys percieves me to gay but i don't care.

SingleGuy9999:
bro I've thought of lowering my standards already but it's not like they are high before...I find it hard to relate well with these high class girls so normally I tend to vibe more with normal average girls, tho I noticed Im more attracted to fair girls but I've liked like 2 dark girls before...
I don't see how I wanna lower my standards again except u mean I should purposely go for girls I'm not into...and that's not what I want, I want someone I care about
And as for confidence, I can't build it up when I keep getting rejected, no matter how much I try when I think of asking a girl out I always get the feeling that it'll end same way...
Seems only way to genuinely build up that confidence towards girls is to be accepted at least once

bro, it may be ur behaviour, ur altitudes, try and work on urself pls. From my secondary to university, I never stayed without girls, infact, girls fall over heels to be with me, they r d ones chasen after me, they spend on me, check on me, do the calls and always want to please me, as for Bleep, na me they run... Many of my friends even blvd I was using charms on girls. Mind u, am just a poor broke guy from a very poor family, though I do appear like someone from a well to do family and am smart and presentable, many guys that have money end up loosing girls for me. Yet I dnt give them shishi, they beg to visit and give em conditions. So try and up ur games cos I dnt see anything difficult on getting a girl u like.

MrWTF:
Don't change a thing on your socialization with girls. The only thing you need to change is your Availability.

Never show a girl you are desperate. Always make her feel she's an option.

Never laugh like a jackal where a girl is, she's gonna take you like a pet, which means Best friend.

Always learn to Say No to a girl.

The most of all, flirt with her friends. Let's say you meet her with her friend in a library, say hello to her, then complement her friend's beauty or her hair, trust me, girls can go crazy for this.

Trust me, you don't need a 7 figure bank statement before you could rip her pant and insert your long dick from behind, thrusting her, till she reaches her peak of pleasure.

SingleGuy9999 trust me you will never get a good girl like this, if my man did any of this he'll still be single and would probably be making a post like this. If I knew you I might have been able to help.

First you need to know that this is normal, and there is nothing wrong with you plus you're 22, not everybody finds love early but going with the flow makes it easier than trying to follow other people's rules or doing what works for others when y'all are not the same or chyking dsame woman.

SingleGuy9999 make you no waste ur time woh, all these small small girls no ready for real relationship, unless of course you are just looking for sex and fun.

Personally am just like you, but with a difference, am actually NOT INTERESTED in wasting time on a relationship, So i don't approach just any girl but when I do, I make myself, clear, am looking for a wife not a sex friend. D m ok moment she starts misbehaving, I just move on. But to be honest, what I observed, most girls below 25 ain't ready for any serious relationship, they always think they are young, wanna flex & try different guys.


In summary, grow a bit older & avoid small small girls way no sabi what they want in life

go and make money is the ultimate solution ...

OmoAlata1:
You probably have body or mouth odor. Ask someone that you trust to tell you the truth

Your comment just describes your type of person. Saucy and ......

Omega30:
Op,I feel for ya. I started having a real relationship much later in life.I tried getting babes, omo na wahala o. I was handsome, course rep in school, stylish in dressing, slim and talk, intelligent and I have some cash, omo still no gf. Maybe partly because I was too serious or religious that is why I couldn't get one. I went for service, then I began reading all kinds of books, sites, blogs etc on dating. Then I improved a bit, but I will always face last minute resistance.
I was like a ghost, fine yet no gf. After some time babes will enter house, I no go fit kpansh. Resistance upon resistance. To cut a long story sha. I changed my inner game. I started visualising for three weeks a beautiful light skinned girl. Before now I can trek along town for weeks, rejections or girls will come, never to see them again. It was as if I was destined to be lonely.
After changing my belief through imagination, I told myself I am never wooing girls again. One day, I saw this light beautiful girl, I didn't even believe she would listen to me. Collected her number in less than 30seconds, visited me two days after and that's how we started dating. And we dated for long.
So, it could be your mindset or programming affecting you. Having said that still work on your openings, flirting, dressing and ALWAYS SHOW INTENT, let them know through your body language that you can make them sing : do re mi fa so la ti do, in the bedroom and they are yours.
Cheers.

Dated for long? You no dey wit the girl again be that

chronique:
With all the problems in this country, this is what is doing you right now?

Make e carry country problems for head? Every mallam with e kettle o

uchechefaith:
To be sincere at 22yrs u don't need a girlfriend, focus on your career, dreams, visions, u are not even ready for marriage not even in the next five years I wonder why u are so concerned about a girlfriend .

You made a valid point bt were i don't agree with u is when u said he is not ready for marriage probably bcoz of his age u mentioned

I just see that u have a minor issue, (1) minimize the way u mingle with girls, (2) always keep ur standard high b4 girls (3) Don't toast any ladie close to u and (4) Don't be desperate. after all these and it continue then contact ur right hand guy that knows wat up to help u out or call 08161......... ? towing van

Who asks girls out nowadays? Girls are wired to say No. So just go with the flow and when things get heated, bam! Enter the place and claim territory.

No fork dey hungry you?adamu go and find money.



quote author=SingleGuy9999 post=80980928]Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help[/quote]

Reading through it, I felt your pain... I understand how that can actually take a swipe on your self esteem.... So I'll drop a little more point to what you've seen here


Don't be predictable.. No woman will take a man serious if he's easy to read

Be fun... Be spontaneous... Act more on body languages than actually the wooing itself... She gives the light.. Go hard, fast.. Tease... Leave.. Let her always guess your moods...

Throw compliments to other girls in her presence... The more you make it about you and less about em.. The more they find you attractive.... Reason why bad guys or flirts are always with the great girls....

Lastly... Build your confidence... Desperation is a no no.. And it shows without you even being aware.....


Good luck

Fear catch me! I never knew that two different people can be so alike. Everything you wrote there is what am passing through. In my own case am 27.
I have never had 100% failure in anything before except this relationship matter.
Surprisingly I haven't given up on love. So I will be looking at this thread to see reasonable advices cause we are practically the same.

"No girl is out of your league. it's the guys chasing her that are not your mate" - moyodre 2013

if you want a girl, all you have to do is be the highest value/status male on her radar currently and pay her no mind. Humans are naturally greedy and want what they cant have, because scarcity creates value. a Lamborghini is not begging to be sold, rather people beg to buy it. So demonstrate high value by not bothering with asking out. get money, Bleep your targets friend and remain detached. your target will chase you instead. then you'll get bored. it's not abt looks, though that's important. learn life chess