SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

Why Don’t Girls Like Me?
I’m really impressing her. I’ve told her all about myself​—the things I own, the places I’ve been, the people I know. She must be dying to date me!
I wish the ground would open and swallow me up! Can’t he take a hint? How can I end this conversation without being rude?
YOU’RE old enough to date. You’d like to find someone who is attractive and who shares your religious beliefs. ( 1 Corinthians 7:39 ) In the past, though, each time you tried to start a relationship, you felt as though you crashed and burned.
If you’d like to get to know a girl better, what factors do you need to consider? And what Bible principles would you do well to remember?
What to Do First
Before you decide to pursue a particular girl, there are some basic skills you need to master, and these will help you to be friends with
anyone. Consider the following.
▪ Cultivate good manners. The Bible says that “love is not ill-mannered.” ( 1 Corinthians 13:5 ,
Today’s English Version ) Good manners show that you respect others and that you’re developing a mature, Christlike personality. However, good manners aren’t like a suit you wear to impress others but take off when you get home. Ask yourself, ‘Do I display good manners when dealing with my family members?’ If not, then it will seem forced when you do so while interacting with others outside your home. Remember, to find out the type of person you really are, a discerning girl will look at the way you treat members of your family.​—
Ephesians 6:1, 2.
What girls say: “I definitely find it attractive if a boy displays good manners both in small things, like opening the door for me, and larger things, like being kind and considerate not only to me but also to my family.”​— Tina, 20 .*
“I am put off when I’ve just met someone but he asks questions that are too personal, such as ‘Are you dating?’ and ‘What are your goals?’ It’s rude and makes me squirm!”​— Kathy, 19.
▪ Maintain your personal hygiene. Good hygiene shows respect not only for others but also for yourself. ( Matthew 7:12 ) If you respect yourself, others are more likely to respect you. On the other hand, if you let your hygiene slide, you’ll sabotage your efforts to impress a girl.
What girls say: “One boy who was interested in me had really bad breath. I just couldn’t get past that.”​—Kelly, 24.
▪ Cultivate conversation skills. The basis of a lasting relationship is good communication. This involves discussing not only your interests but also the interests of your friend.​—Philippians 2:3, 4 .
What girls say: “I’m impressed when a boy can converse with me naturally, when he can remember things I told him and can ask questions that keep the conversation moving.”​— Christine, 20.
“I think that boys are attracted to what they see, but girls are more attracted to what they hear.”​— Laura, 22.
“Gifts are great. But if a boy can hold a good conversation, if he can comfort and encourage you with his words . . . Wow! That’s attractive.”​— Amy, 21.
“I would definitely want to get to know someone better if he had a sense of humor but could also talk about more serious things without sounding fake.”​— Kelly, 24.
Applying the above suggestions will help you to enjoy good friendships. However, once you feel that you are ready to start a serious relationship with a particular girl, what should you do?
The Next Step
▪ Take the initiative. If you think a friend whom you admire might make a good marriage mate, let her know you are interested in her. Be clear and forthright in declaring your feelings. Yes, it can be nerve-racking. You fear rejection. But your being willing to take the initiative is a sign that you have grown up.
What girls say: “I can’t read minds. So if someone wanted to get to know me better, he would have to be honest and straightforward and just tell me.”​— Nina, 23.
“It could be an awkward transition if you’ve been friends for a while. But I’d respect someone if he simply said that he would like to get to know me as more than just a friend.”​—
Helen, 25.
▪ Respect the girl’s decision. What if your friend says that she doesn’t want a more serious relationship with you? Dignify her by believing that she knows her own heart and that her no means no. It betrays a lack of maturity if you make a pest of yourself. Really, if you ignore a girl’s explicit rejection of your attention​—even becoming provoked by her rebuff—​are you really thinking of her interests or your own?​— 1 Corinthians 13:11 .
What girls say: “It irritates me when I say a definite no to a boy but he keeps on trying.”​—
Colleen, 20.
“I explained to one boy that I wasn’t interested in him, but he kept pressuring me for my phone number. I wanted to be nice. After all, it probably wasn’t easy for him to work up the nerve to express his feelings. But eventually I had to be very firm with him.”​— Sarah, 23.
What Not to Do
Some young men feel that they have little trouble getting girls to like them. They may even compete with their peers to show who can grab the attention of the most girls. However, such competition is cruel and will earn you a bad reputation. ( Proverbs 20:11 ) You can avoid that outcome if you do the following.
▪ Don’t flirt. A flirt uses flattering speech and provocative body language. He has no intention of pursuing an honorable romantic relationship. Such actions and attitudes ignore the Bible’s counsel to treat “younger women as sisters with all chasteness.” ( 1 Timothy 5:2 ) Flirts make poor friends and worse marriage mates. Discerning girls know that.
What girls say: “I think it’s very unattractive when someone flatters you but you know that he has said the same things to your friend just last month.”​— Helen, 25.
“This cute boy once started flirting with me, talking mainly about himself. When another girl joined our group, he did the same with her. Then a third girl joined our group, and he used the same lines on her. It was ugly!”​— Tina, 20.
▪ Don’t toy with a girl’s feelings. Don’t expect that friendship with a member of the opposite sex will operate according to the same rules as friendship with a member of the same sex. Why? Consider: If you remarked that a male friend looked good in his new suit or you regularly talked to that friend and confided in him, it is unlikely that he would think that you are romantically attracted to him. But if you compliment a girl on her appearance or you regularly talk to her and confide in her, she may well think that you have a romantic interest in her.
What girls say: “I just don’t think boys understand that they can’t treat girls the same way that they treat their male friends.”​— Sheryl, 26.
“A boy will get my phone number, and then I get a text message from him. So, . . . what does that mean? Sometimes you can have a text-messaging relationship and get emotionally attached, but how much can you say in a text message?”​— Mallory, 19.
“I don’t think a boy realizes how quickly a girl can become emotionally involved, especially if he is caring and easy to talk to. It’s not that she’s desperate. I just think that most girls want to fall in love and that they always have an eye out for ‘Mr. Right.’”​— Alison, 25.
Be Realistic
It’s unrealistic, even egotistical, to think that all
girls will like you. But some will if you remember this: How you look on the outside is less important than what you are on the inside. It’s hardly surprising that the Bible emphasizes the need to cultivate “the new personality.”​—
Ephesians 4:24 .
Kate, 21, sums up the matter this way: “Boys think that to attract girls they have to dress a certain way or have a certain look. While this is true to some degree, I think that many girls are more attracted to positive personality traits.”*


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Dizzyrascal:
hmmm, Cool. From ur username Goalnaldo, does it mean that you are a RONALDO fan? I am his biggest fan actually.

yeah my name is a fusion of goal and Ronaldo.

Are you you are not mistaking sex with dating??

One thing any girl likes his power, it can be in form of money but just show the girl you can protect her and I'm telling you even though she has numerous boy friends you will be the highest shareholder.✌

My Friend go make money and see them rushing you,they see you too young but even at that show ambition to make money step into things that will make you great in the future and trust me they will flock to you in droves.

frozen70:


You have not been patience enough with women and their delay tactics, besides you are already used to hockers and their quick service

Falling in love might not really come easy for you because those hookers are an alternative for you

Everything still boils down on you, restrict yourself and calm down to start a different life style from the hockers

A man without patience can't fall in love or get loved

Miss, if you indeed paid any attention to this post you would see clearly where the Op stated that he has never had sex. So what's all this talk about hookers? Clean up your mindset, please

Goalnaldo:
yeah my name is a fusion of goal and Ronaldo.

it think it is better I follow you now and get it over with. You know why? Because it takes a cool guy to notice another cool guy.

You better go and face your studies, an girls make you dey find up and down.

You better go and face your studies, na girls make you dey find up and down.

proficienc:

Yeah, it could be because what you guys do when she visits.
Maybe she's not comfortable with it just yet and this is may depend on how long y'all being dating.
On the issue of her not wanting to collect stuff from you, I think she's probably not comfortable/sure about you yet. Just so you don't come on here to start ranting about all the things you've done/given her.

Like I said, just have a serious talk with her and address her concern. Do stuff to make her comfortable, maybe go do stuff in public for a while.
Cheers!

Thks bro

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you are like me though, cause i do get lots of turn down from girls, so i decided to change my game, i started asking but the skinny and thicky girls around until i discovered that thick girls always give in to me than ordinary normal girls, so these days i don't disturb myself or weigh myself down again cause those big yanch and big boobies girls are the one that always say yes to me... just change your scope and don't give a Bleep about a girl again.

ubunja:
If you stop approaching women and look around you'll see there are already women who have been giving you green lights all along but you've been too busy to notice.




Also, go get a prostitute and end that virginity thing. You can't master women if you've never even fvcked a woman. Get a hooker and get it over with.

OP, pls ignore this.

Dizzyrascal:
ah hanty Ronke, why are you doing advertisement nah ko da ooo

lol,he seems depressed and most of the comments are just of hate,I said that to light up his mood,but I'm still being sincere

Dizzyrascal:
ah hanty Ronke, why are you doing advertisement nah ko da ooo

lol,no I'm not.the op seems depressed,and most if the comments doesn't make sense to me.I'm being sincere th0

Dizzyrascal:
it think it is better I follow you now and get it over with. You know why? Because it takes a cool guy to notice another cool guy.

and am following back asap.

This one weak me ....not everyone had the opportunity to be in the University. Leave girls matter alone

instead of looking for a girlfriend or you feel you are love starved and ladies dont say yes to you Just face something else build your future,develop yourself at the right time that right will be seen.

Start smacking their asses, don't take them serious and see how they'll start taking you serious. Don't forget that girls love bad boys. Shalom

ALEXANDER51:
instead of looking for a girlfriend or you feel you are love starved and ladies dont say yes to you Just face something else build your future,develop yourself at the right time that right will be seen.

guy shut up. Did he tell you he's not building his life? Dude is talking about girls and you're here writing poo. You're the one who needs to go get a life

Haderonke20:
lol,he seems depressed and most of the comments are just of hate,I said that to light up his mood,but I'm still being sincere

lol, Anty ronke so u are already falling for the guy

Jgoldie:
You wrote all this epistle ontop woman matter.....dude get a life,a job and make money.....love is so over rated.....matters of the heart happens when we don't expect it...shalom

I just found my matter of the heart ❤️.. op stop asking girls out is embarrassing, just get them to ur place try kissing her , the touch her and try to finger her, she will ask u what are u doing , tell her ' u know I like you , I mean like like I'm while still touching her, some will insist on letting u explain , some will ask u after sex , just tell them u like them after 3 times wey una do this nah she go come dey ask u if u wan date her , if u have a gf or not etc. Is not as simple as this oh takes practice. But never read books for naija girls they are from another planet the package u need suppose come from another planet too. Then never verbally ask them to date u especially when u never lamuzia and protozua her womanlies they will tell u they want to be friends.

gentlegenius:

OP, pls ignore this.

he ignores that at his own peril

XhosaNostra:
What is your criteria for picking the girls you have chosen to ask out?

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Perhaps you're going after the wrong girls, who just won't admit that they can't keep up with you. You come across cerebral, very eloquent & verbose. I'm not sure how many girls in your dating pool can match up to that. Their rejection may stem from their own insecurities about not being good enough to be with someone like you, so don't take it personal. Try finding someone who's similar to you in nature or one who shares your interests in reading & other things you're passionate about.

I agree completely with you on this one. I remember the last person that started coming close to me, I had to pull away for similar reasons. Sometimes it better to pull out than to regret everything. TRUE TALK

Nigeria girls Na Mumu I swear. All they know is money money money money

ubunja:
If you stop approaching women and look around you'll see there are already women who have been giving you green lights all along but you've been too busy to notice.




Also, go get a prostitute and end that virginity thing. You can't master women if you've never even fvcked a woman. Get a hooker and get it over with.

*yimu*

SingleGuy9999:
Good day guys, I'm not really too active here, but this is a 2nd account I created for this. I am 22 year old student in my final year. But I've never had a girlfriend, also I have never had sex, but that is not the major problem as I can easily get a hooker and pay. I feel I'm pretty good looking, at least average. This would be a little long, pls try to read through.

My problem is I can't seem to get a girlfriend, I have been rejected by girls like 7 times in a row or more...I don't meet that many girls but I do go out and meet sha and if I like a girl and I feel she's someone I can date I ask her out. If we aren't really vibing I just delete their numbers and forget about them. But I keep getting rejected by all the girls I've asked out, they either see me as a friend and tell me stuff like I'm a good friend or they not ready for a relationship or that they feel I have no feelings for them...like wtf

It's really frustrating so much that it's literally killed every confidence I have to ask girls out. Like the last 3 girls I wanted to ask out I ended up not bothering since I know it'll end same way...planned to ask one out today but I just couldn't stand to get rejected again...cos even tho I think what I'm getting might be green light I'm not sure about girls anymore...in fact now I'm no longer sure if the girls I think liked me before ever did (I wasn't interested in them so I didn't ask them out). Even the one who made me lose all hope was after spending so much time with a girl, I was asking her out for 4 months, I never tot I'd ever ask a girl out that long but I was blinded by love...and we spent so much time together, my friends kept wondering if we were dating but she never said yes even tho she said she liked me too but kept giving excuses...and I pretty much abandoned chasing other girls in for that while...but I still got a no at the end with story changed to she tot she liked me but was just trying to as she could see I was in love with her and didn't wanna break my heart...

That killed my confidence, and I'm not blaming her or anyone...now since then I've only asked 2 girls out, and I still got rejected...

I spend time with the girls, we hang out, flirt, chat etc but they would never date me... I've gotten so lonely as I want to date someone I truly care about and I have even questioned if it's possible for 2 people to fall in love with each other out of the billions of people on earth.

I've heard from someone that I play with girls too much so they won't take me seriously, another was that I'm nice (I don't think I'm that "nice guy" cos I won't go extra mile for any girl just cos I like her, but I'm understanding and I think I tend to make excuses for people when they disappoint). And I'm tired of girls seeing me as a friend, or being taken for granted. In fact my best female friend is one who I asked out before.

When I see people dating I wonder if they from another planet, I can't figure out what's wrong...is it that I have no luck with girls? I have gone online, read books etc. They all keep saying same thing...they talk about confidence but I had that...tho right now I just fake it cos all my confidence is gone with numerous rejections. Then I read about working on yourself, I have done that, I may not be anywhere near the freshest guy but at least I'm sure I'm okay. They talk about creating tension and stuff by making contact and I do that, I hold them around the waist etc....

So far I even read that I shouldn't blame myself or stop trying to figure out what went wrong when I face rejections, that's what I'm doing now...but nothing seems to be changing. I rarely spend time with girls again, except some good friends, and instead I've been focusing more on my hobbies cos I now see it as a waste of time when it only ends in rejection. I think of going out with a girl but I just rather sit at home or spend more time with my guys or even spend the money on them cos I'm fed up. The thought even crossed my mind to give up on girls since it never seems to work...I'm not used to multiple failure as even in other stuff I don't fail as much, but I just can't seem to get it to work with girls. Everything seems fine at first and going smoothly but it all ends with rejection.
I don't wanna give up on girls and I know there's nothing left of my confidence when it comes to girls, tho I fake it...and I will never result to insulting girls just cos of my rejection.

Pls I need real advice on what to do, I have exhausted all my options, and today I resolved to never ask any girl out till I'm 99% sure she'll say yes, but is that even possible? I know every guy gets rejected but it's not easy when u get rejected several times in a row by girls you have serious feelings for.

Should I just cut my losses and give up on girls? For months I spent time on other things and never really cared about any girl any longer but now that feeling is back with this new girl but I can't even ask her out cos I can't say for sure what her reply would be... maybe a no as I usually get...

Pls don't insult me or call me names I just need advice that would help

learn from a former virgin who spent years chasing one particular gal. Go develop urself bro, be a money magnet. Pursue ur dreams in life cos disturbing urself about gals would only make u slow in achieving what matters to you which is a successful life. When u re successful, gals will come and you will choose like you are buying a fine suit from a store. Go and be successful my G.

Ask yourself these simple questions and genuinely provide answers by yourself.

1. If "I" am a lady, would I date a guy like me?

2. If "yes"....why?

3. If " no"....why?

I don't know you, but the answer to your query lies between question 2 or 3. If you can truly imagine yourself as one of those ladies...,then you will be able to answer the above questions.

And hey, don't worry about it. Sometimes, a bit luck may just be all you need.

Haderonke20:
lol,no I'm not.the op seems depressed,and most if the comments doesn't make sense to me.I'm being sincere th0

hmmm! Who knows he might just fall in love with you. Take care of his heart in advance.

OmoAlata1:
You probably have body or mouth odor. Ask someone that you trust to tell you the truth

Kuku kee him na

Promiseval:
Life gives answer in 3 ways. It says Yes & gives u what u want, it says no and gives u something better, it says wait and gives u the Best!

We are all here for some special reason. Stop being a prisoner of you past. Become the architect of your future.

Lovely

Hmmm