Hi dear, I don't think you should let this worry you one bit cos I also love to eat buka rice just because of the beans and peppery stew! If I had a mama put close to me that I loved the texture and consistency of their beans, I would do the very same thing anytime I want to eat rice. It just makes the rice so satisfying!
I won't bother myself trying to learn how to cook it cos it's way easier to just buy it. It has nothing to do with your cooking dear cos I'm a woman, I cook well yet I still crave it..
If it ticks you off so much, you can limit the number of times you make rice meals and when you do, it won't take anything away from you to just buy it and add to his rice for him..he loves it that way, you love him and he loves you right back!
Hope this helps..

It's a simple sturvs.
Oversaturate his existence with the ewa.
Start cooking rice daily. Make sure he eats the beans daily, plus or minus rice, plantain etc, but large quantity of the beans.
Let that go on for 1-2 months.
I'm sure by the time beans wants to grow on his head, he will see beans and run

Charleys:
You are married to a Yoruba man.

They just can't eat rice alone. It's just this weird belief that eating rice alone is bad except you add EWas to make it balance diet. (Which isn't true).

Just the same way I can't eat rice alone without banana sliced in.

So what you'll do is cook EWA anytime you cook rice.

Though, I don't believe that eating rice alone is bad... But I can't eat rice alone... Only on rare occasions. Rice and Beans... Yes, I am Yoruba.

with no apology to anyone, most Nigerian women that I have met, most and I mean most, like eight out of ten, don't know how to cook!!! most good cooks that I know are men!


they can only paint their faces, fix hair, fix nails, cook indomie, boil hot water, ask you to take them to fast food restaurants, that's all!!! ask them to cook ordinary rice for you, you go here ween!!!!!

Teaveapoet:
Have you ever called him to discuss this with him?
I feel you should inform him about it.

And if it's persist your husband might fall sick if he doesn't stop eating from mama put because he is addicted. So please stop it now while you can.

fine gal..
GM..

Teaveapoet:
Have you ever called him to discuss this with him?
I feel you should inform him about it.

And if it's persist your husband might fall sick if he doesn't stop eating from mama put because he is addicted. So please stop it now while you can.

fine gal..
GM..

sassysure:

It's not only Yoruba o.
Lagos born and brought up are guilty too

U no lie, before I could eat rice alone, it took me almost 4 years, my wife no like beans at all and me as an hustler na bread and beans. Anything rice without beans na nothing. But now I don adjust

thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

People, people make una come oo
Iya Basira wan kill me eeeehhh

Your man doesn't really like the way you cook it.
He prefers the one you buy outside for him.
Have you thought about the difference between your own and that of the woman he always ask you to buy her food for him?

Your colleagues maybe enjoying your food, maybe because you give it to them free or the friendship involved.
The fact remains that we all have different ways of understanding taste.
What I mean is that, you should try to understand how your husband understand the taste of your food, what you don't use that the woman outside is using.
He may decide not to tell you so you will not feel embarrassed or inferior to him.

Make findings to know what makes him prefer the mama put ewa than the one you cook.

Sweettwenty8:


There was a day i bought the beans, he did not ask, he didn't eat it, he ate the rice like that, asked me if there was still some i said yes he asked me to serve him again ..they say he does this even in the office as well he buys rice and seperate beans so NwaAmaikpe is only talking trash for likes i dont get it

Even in the office qwa


Please ask him.

Im surprised you have not asked him first before coming here to ask us.

This is part of communication in marriage.

Sweettwenty8:


Thanks alot, do you buy Ewa for every rice dish? Even if you tell my husband that they don't have Ewa, he'll ask you to find another roadside canteen and if you find one and lets say it's beeing cooked currently he'll ask me to wait in the car till it's ready

Is your hubby a foodie?


Sometimes us foodies have weird tastes.


I remember while in University, my friends used to laugh at my different food combos. That time I would eat every meal drinking milk and milo.


They found it hilarious but truth is I have a sweet tooth.

So, just endure your hubby for now.

It is still better than craving another woman.

mejai:
Pour sand into the ewa and he will.be.shocked and speechless

..ahhhh

sassysure:
My Yoruba and Lagos people, over to u
I no fit put mouth for this.

It's not only smokers and drinkers that can be addicts.
We have ewa addicts too
But i really don't understand the love for water water beans o.
I have seen lines formed somewhere at oyinbo just for this ewa.

You don't know?

You too carriying plate and going to buy the beans sef is adding to the problem.

I can't cook and then he would send me to go buy food. If he can't eat what I cook or tell me what is wrong with it, he should either cook his food or go and buy the roadside food himself.

metroid:


That's why it's good to travel so you can experience other people's cooking style. Beans with crayfish is super delicious with enough onions, pepper and tomatoes all fried with palm oil

Gbam!!

I wonder why it sounded weird to his ears that people use crayfish to cook beans. In my house we can't cook beans without crayfish, that is the best way i can eat it but i noticed that here in lagos, people don't really use crayfish to cook beans.

sassysure:

So crayfish isn't sea food again?
The way u cook your beans and eat with fried ice fish, meat etc.
Instead of fried fish( more oil) u put crayfish cos of the sea food benefits not just protein.
Now, considering this protein u are talking about.
We have two types of protein;plant and animal.
Beans and crayfish are different types of protein and has different compositions.
Do u know that ur body convert protein to carbohydrates? So that beans is most of the time converted to carbohydrate.
Pls don't let me start about nutrition as u are discussing with nutritional expert.
Sea food like Cray fish gives u the best form of protein.
I don't joke with crayfish and funny enough crayfish is very very expensive.
I will rather forget about meat than not use crayfish
We cook banga soup with crayfish( ofe akwù). Preferable in my side than stew. We use crayfish to cook lots of things.
Ur preference. But don't look down on what others eat even if u don't like it.
That not good.
Take care.

Nwanne mmadu. U really cracked me up with "ofe akwu" . We're on the same terrain as i can't do without crayfish.

WildChild00:



Crayfish in beans demn is that not ridiculous? Pray your husband does not find fault in it ooo, I have never seen it B4 are you cooking soup? Egwhoooo

Yup! Igbo cuisine, they add crayfish to everything, even Jollof rice.

lagosminded:



Yup! Igbo cuisine, they add crayfish to everything, even Jollof rice.

Demn

egojeny1:

Gbam!!

I wonder why it sounded weird to his ears that people use crayfish to cook beans. In my house we can't cook beans without crayfish, that is the best way i can eat it but i noticed that here in lagos, people don't really use crayfish to cook beans.

Me too

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

There is no issue here, he lives eating ewa agoyin, because of its local taste and even if you try to cook it that same way, it won't work because of the smoke flavour that adds it up

So pls give him that freedom of eating his favourite ewa agoyin, he can only stop it when he feels he has had enough

Don't be surprise he was trained with it

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

There is no issue here, he lives eating ewa agoyin, because of its local taste and even if you try to cook it that same way, it won't work because of the smoke flavour that adds it up

So pls give him that freedom of eating his favourite ewa agoyin, he can only stop it when he feels he has had enough

Don't be surprise he was trained with it

WildChild00:


Demn

With crayfish alone, if you know how to cook, you will enjoy the taste

Am average igbo woman can't do without crayfish at home

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

There is no issue here, he lives eating ewa agoyin, because of its local taste and even if you try to cook it that same way, it won't work because of the smoke flavour that adds it up

So pls give him that freedom of eating his favourite ewa agoyin, he can only stop it when he feels he has had enough

Don't be surprise he was trained with it

WildChild00:


Demn

With crayfish alone, if you know how to cook, you will enjoy the taste

Am average igbo woman can't do without crayfish at home

ImaIma1:
You too carriying plate and going to buy the beans sef is adding to the problem.

I can't cook and then he would send me to go buy food. If he can't eat what I cook or tell me what is wrong with it, he should either cook his food or go and buy the roadside food himself.

That's a wrong approach, you don't have to detect his taste or choice of food for him

If he likes a particular food from the bukar, that doesn't mean he doesn't like your cooking

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

There is no issue here, he lives eating ewa agoyin, because of its local taste and even if you try to cook it that same way, it won't work because of the smoke flavour that adds it up

So pls give him that freedom of eating his favourite ewa agoyin, he can only stop it when he feels he has had enough

Don't be surprise he was trained with it

WildChild00:


Demn

With crayfish alone, if you know how to cook, you will enjoy the taste

Am average igbo woman can't do without crayfish at home

ImaIma1:
You too carriying plate and going to buy the beans sef is adding to the problem.

I can't cook and then he would send me to go buy food. If he can't eat what I cook or tell me what is wrong with it, he should either cook his food or go and buy the roadside food himself.

That's a wrong approach, you don't have to detect his taste or choice of food for him

If he likes a particular food from the bukar, that doesn't mean he doesn't like your cooking

lukui:
with no apology to anyone, most Nigerian women that I have met, most and I mean most, like eight out of ten, don't know how to cook!!! most good cooks that I know are men!


they can only paint their faces, fix hair, fix nails, cook indomie, boil hot water, ask you to take them to fast food restaurants, that's all!!! ask them to cook ordinary rice for you, you go here ween!!!!!

You have started deceiving yourself at this stage, since you realise men cooks better, why not improve on your cooking skills, it will add to your cv as a future husband and wife will appreciate it

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

There is no issue here, he lives eating ewa agoyin, because of its local taste and even if you try to cook it that same way, it won't work because of the smoke flavour that adds it up

So pls give him that freedom of eating his favourite ewa agoyin, he can only stop it when he feels he has had enough

Don't be surprise he was trained with it

WildChild00:


Demn

With crayfish alone, if you know how to cook, you will enjoy the taste

Am average igbo woman can't do without crayfish at home

ImaIma1:
You too carriying plate and going to buy the beans sef is adding to the problem.

I can't cook and then he would send me to go buy food. If he can't eat what I cook or tell me what is wrong with it, he should either cook his food or go and buy the roadside food himself.

That's a wrong approach, you don't have to detect his taste or choice of food for him

If he likes a particular food from the bukar, that doesn't mean he doesn't like your cooking

lukui:
with no apology to anyone, most Nigerian women that I have met, most and I mean most, like eight out of ten, don't know how to cook!!! most good cooks that I know are men!


they can only paint their faces, fix hair, fix nails, cook indomie, boil hot water, ask you to take them to fast food restaurants, that's all!!! ask them to cook ordinary rice for you, you go here ween!!!!!

You have started deceiving yourself at this stage, since you realise men cooks better, why not improve on your cooking skills, it will add to your cv as a future husband and wife will appreciate it

sisisioge:


Biko ask him what it is about the ewa he loves so much? Maybe you should use pressure pot to cook it next time to match the consistency of the mama put's . Boys are just weirdos

It's not about the pressure pot, it's about the local spices combination

If you have really eaten ewa agoyin, we'll prepared one with freshly baked soft bread, you will stick with it

frozen70:



That's a wrong approach, you don't have to detect his taste or choice of food for him

If he likes a particular food from the bukar, that doesn't mean he doesn't like your cooking

He would have to go buy it himself then. Because I won't indulge him. There's a thin line between being submissive and being a doormat

ImaIma1:


He would have to go buy it himself then. Because I won't indulge him. There's a thin line between being submissive and being a doormat

Hmmm, just take it calm there is no big deal about buying it for him

If you are reacting like this for a mere food in buka, how will you react if you discover he has another woman outside you ❓

Will you push him out or pin him down to you ❓

frozen70:


Hmmm, just take it calm there is no big deal about buying it for him

If you are reacting like this for a mere food in buka, how will you react if you discover he has another woman outside you ❓

Will you push him out or pin him down to you ❓

Let me put into perspective. I come back from work, prepare rice and stew for dinner, bath and feed our child and then he says "go and buy beans for me from iya sikira"? :DHow? In which area?

People should drop some funny baggage before they get married. Not all wives will take such nonsense. Let him call family meeting and report me

ImaIma1:


Let me put into perspective. I come back from work, prepare rice and stew for dinner, bath and feed our child and then he says "go and buy beans for me from iya sikira"? :DHow? In which area?

People should drop some funny baggage before they get married. Not all wives will take such nonsense. Let him call family meeting and report me

OK, I get you now.

Just tell him politely that you don't like going there to buy that beans for him

It is now left for him to go himself, send someone or stop combining the food with it

You have a case, but your presentation will determine the outcome

frozen70:


OK, I get you now.

Just tell him politely that you don't like going there to buy that beans for him

It is now left for him to go himself, send someone or stop combining the food with it

You have a case, but your presentation will determine the outcome

Naah! I will tell him plain and simply that he's a "long throat" and is not satisfied with food cooked at home that he has to keep buying beans outside.

I will tell him that I pray it purges him and gives him food poisoning so that he will control his hunger for outside food.

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Anytime he asks you to go and buy ewa, tell him to go by himself.

Babe, even though I don't classify all weird things as being spiritual, why not try prayer. Cos from what I deduce from your write up, it's really really bothering you. Use Numbers 23:23 to pray for your husband. IT REALLY WORKS!

thesicilian:
Who remembers this song Iya Basira by Styl Plus?

I haven’t stopped laughing

Sweettwenty8:
Finaly i decided to create an account

What's up Nairaland, Please Pardon my English.

So me and my man been married for a year now but here's the thing he does that pisses me OFF!!! TOTALLY!!!! ehn, every time I cook rice and stew (fried stew/fish/meat) he'd ask me to go outside the estate to go and buy Ewa(beans) (I'm using Ewa because that's how he pronounces it. So I noticed this earlier and I started Cooking beans anytime I cook rice. He'll still request for 'Ewa' the Mama put beans made and sold by the roadside

While we dated he'd even ask me to cook for himself and his friends and if my cooking was bad, I'd have gotten feedback somehow.. how can I serve food and he'll ask me to go get 'Ewa' at Shangisha Outside Magodo Gra to mix his rice even when we have visitors he will send me a whatsapp message to still go get Ewa most times he'll even book uber if i tell him I'm too tired to drive I'm tired of going to buy Ewa!!

How do i get to know what the problem is, because it's definitely not my cooking, 2 of my office buddies they don't buy lunch because i bring enough food for 3 of us everyday and they'd have stopped eating it if it was bad

Just go to Mama and learn how she cooks that special beans..............