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grandstar:
Enchantaurl

How was the girl at fault? She was 17 at the time.

The mum is strictly to blame.

Elderly single women are desperate for love and can give their 2 eyes for it. They are the prime target for these Yahoo boys. The same maga or is it magess can fall multiple times. A 51 year old Australian lady who had lost $90,000 to a Malaysian based Yahoo boy was after the incident gisting with another dupe. She was advised that if it is not a man she has met in flesh and can take her out, she should forget it.

They are easy game. The man knew that and exploited it

Imagine you're a 52 year old single or divorced mother of four and a man says you're the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. That he just loves you and he can't stop thinking of you. He says "you're his dream" and he'll like to one day marry you and he keeps stringing you on.

Again, I say, they are easy game

BlueAir:
boohoo .. flat his points not wail victim. I bet people just agree with u just to avoid u offline

bizza45:
c I know d man ur mum dated was an ass-hole but disrespecting ur late dad on nairaland is d most stupid tin I have read today...

u can hate all men and become a feminist, but that will not pay back d loan ur mum took.. I will simply tell u to forgive d man and pretend that he don't exits anymore,
2, this might b difficult but u need to start hustling with any little amount u have, start something right now or get a job, ur mum can start her poultry in little scale ... I know its capital intensive but she can start with 5- 10 birds and sell dem when they are a a month or 2 months old

lastly d hate in ur heart is like an acid and if care is not taken it will eat u up... this is going to b difficult but learn how to get over it

cococandy:
I feel like she was too desperate for love

Here’s your answer. When women are raised to believe their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given, things like this happen. And they will keep happening because many women will fight those who try to talk sense into them.

If she manages to rise up again, she is still vulnerable to disastrous failure once another disrespectful man comes along.

By all means love love. I for one love love. But it MUST be reciprocal and the respect for the WOMAN must be non-negotiable.

dochenaj:
The only fictitious thing about this story is how your mom could be credit worthy to get such huge amount of loan without collateral since you don't have any properties.

It doesn't add up.

Sinavaramini:
My dear, pardon me to use the word "dear", I want to touch you, so you can have a rethink, about men. Anyway, your mum wasn't charmed but fell in love with a fraudster, you see, there is what you forget to consider, let me tell you, all your elder ones allowed you to be responsible for running the family, I tell you this, you mum saw that but won't tell you, all she tried to do was work towards making you all comfortable and happy but made the wrong choice. She was not charmed to answer your question, she was in a state of confusions considering her situation, lonely and had the devil come in as that low-life man.

Please love your mum, don't resent, hate or feel bad, God is in control

InvertedHammer:
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He wanted to learn about poultry farming while your mother wanted to learn about oil bunkering?

Your mother is a jaguda!

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kingjrofficial:
For calling all men Assholes...

You're an Asshole too

Enchantaurl:
Good morning, elders.

I, 17 being the eldest at home then and a jambite, elder ones are in school.

seunmohmoh:
She was charmed.. Forgive her.

But how are you guys gonna pay the loan back?

Acidosis:
I'm not defining responsibility by the fatness of a man's bank account or the geography of the creeks. I'm defining responsibility by the context and content of a man's moral uprightness which, to a large extent, includes the legality and the nature of his trade or source of income. A wealthy oil criminal by and large is still a criminal in the eye of the law and is liable to the same treatment that befalls criminals.

A woman hoping to date or marry a decent man of value, good morals and character will not look in the direction of oil criminals or yahoo boys, rich or poor.

Enchantaurl:
Everyone keep saying it was charm.

Enchantaurl:
She took loan from Bank of 1million and invested in the business , he bought a bus with it and the bus has just his name.
She kept borrowing and ended up borrowing 5m from the bank for this business and whenever they make profit he takes it all and gives her crumbs, things were so hard for us and she kept saying he loves her whilst complaining to us.

She took 2m from a contribution, gave it to him again and it sinked. Lapo and accion bank too she's owing them.

As if that wasn't enough he tried to break my family by calling my elder sister a witch and my mum supported him, my family almost divided.

Note: I didn't know of all this debts until recently a pastor saw her on the road she was walking like some one that was suicidal according to him, and he asked her what the problem was and she narrated things, he called for a meeting with the man and everything was revealed.


The banker who helped with the loan was in the meeting and when they asked my mum how she wanted the debt to be paid she said she was going to pay all that he should just give her the bus. The pastor said she was charmed but I don't believe she was, I feel like she was too desperate for love. This guy even beats her but she denies it, he talks to her anyhow.



I'm happy she's left him but right now to eat is a problem, the money I saved before entering school 60k I gave it to her and there's no hope of getting it back. He's destroyed everything. We've relocated to the village and I feel depressed and I've developed a hatred for men as I've never had a good male figure in my life, they are all assholes (my latedad inclusive).

I believe women should deal with men without their emotions. Be mean to them and they will adore you. After reading why men love bitches I realized a lot of things.

Enchantaurl:
She took loan from Bank of 1million and invested in the business , he bought a bus with it and the bus has just his name.
She kept borrowing and ended up borrowing 5m from the bank for this business and whenever they make profit he takes it all and gives her crumbs, things were so hard for us and she kept saying he loves her whilst complaining to us.

She took 2m from a contribution, gave it to him again and it sinked. Lapo and accion bank too she's owing them.

As if that wasn't enough he tried to break my family by calling my elder sister a witch and my mum supported him, my family almost divided.

Note: I didn't know of all this debts until recently a pastor saw her on the road she was walking like some one that was suicidal according to him, and he asked her what the problem was and she narrated things, he called for a meeting with the man and everything was revealed.


The banker who helped with the loan was in the meeting and when they asked my mum how she wanted the debt to be paid she said she was going to pay all that he should just give her the bus. The pastor said she was charmed but I don't believe she was, I feel like she was too desperate for love. This guy even beats her but she denies it, he talks to her anyhow.



I'm happy she's left him but right now to eat is a problem, the money I saved before entering school 60k I gave it to her and there's no hope of getting it back. He's destroyed everything. We've relocated to the village and I feel depressed and I've developed a hatred for men as I've never had a good male figure in my life, they are all assholes (my latedad inclusive).

I believe women should deal with men without their emotions. Be mean to them and they will adore you. After reading why men love bitches I realized a lot of things.

Martinez39:
This is a very stupid opinion . So because an adult cannot reason properly, a child should not go to school?

dochenaj:
I was thinking it was a strategy to beg online, but then she didn't get right to it immediately. Maybe she is playing the long game.

While all she narrated could be true, I just couldn't get to believe that the banks are that naive to give a private businesswoman with no collateral a loan.

I could be wrong but I don't think I am.

Martinez39:
I have problems believing Enchantaurl. A woman, as far as money is concerned, can't be this stupid?

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

Enchantaurl:
. I was doing something small in school, which I was able to use in feeding and buying materials but now we are on break. I'm in Port Harcourt tho job hunting before we resume, left the village I'm staying with a course mate at her parent's.

Enchantaurl:
Good morning,nlders.

This is going to be a very lengthy post but please read to the end.

Sometime last year my widowed mother met this man who's into oil bunkering who said he was interested in learning about poultry farming and she in turn will learn his. As at then she was doing well she had a poultry business, mobile banking business, and she supplies things to companies.

Now this man is a divorcee with 3boys from his ex-wife and 3kids from two different women, all this children he doesn't train them.

In the guise of learning each other's business they both started dating and somehow he stopped her from staying with we her kids that were at home ( I,17 being the eldest at home then and a jambite, elder ones are in school)
She started living with him, hardly attends to her business because he always wants her home when he returns. He controlled every aspect of her life.

safarigirl:
exactly

And people are here saying she shouldn't feel some level of resentment. The woman is the reason a teenager is staying away from home and hustling jobs, when she should be under the care of a responsible parent.

I don't care how much you need love as an adult, it you have kids, they should be your priority and your selfishness should not come above their well-being.

If OP was not a decent girl that understands the importance of hard work, it is very easy for a girl to be lured into all sorts of things at that age, especially in 100 level in the average Nigerian University. The mother didn't even realize all the dangers she put her own child in because she was looking for love in all the wrong places.

I'm sorry, but I have no regard for parents that are too consumed with their own shitttt to see their children. Having kids means you don't get to be selfish anymore.

jnoz23:
Lies from the pit of hell
5m loan FM bank? 2m lapo?
U were staying in a rented house!
WHY ?

Enchantaurl:
She took loan from Bank of 1million and invested in the business , he bought a bus with it and the bus has just his name.
She kept borrowing and ended up borrowing 5m from the bank for this business and whenever they make profit he takes it all and gives her crumbs, things were so hard for us and she kept saying he loves her whilst complaining to us.

She took 2m from a contribution, gave it to him again and it sinked. Lapo and accion bank too she's owing them.

As if that wasn't enough he tried to break my family by calling my elder sister a witch and my mum supported him, my family almost divided.

Note: I didn't know of all this debts until recently a pastor saw her on the road she was walking like some one that was suicidal according to him, and he asked her what the problem was and she narrated things, he called for a meeting with the man and everything was revealed.


The banker who helped with the loan was in the meeting and when they asked my mum how she wanted the debt to be paid she said she was going to pay all that he should just give her the bus. The pastor said she was charmed but I don't believe she was, I feel like she was too desperate for love. This guy even beats her but she denies it, he talks to her anyhow.



I'm happy she's left him but right now to eat is a problem, the money I saved before entering school 60k I gave it to her and there's no hope of getting it back. He's destroyed everything. We've relocated to the village and I feel depressed and I've developed a hatred for men as I've never had a good male figure in my life, they are all assholes (my latedad inclusive).

I believe women should deal with men without their emotions. Be mean to them and they will adore you. After reading why men love bitches I realized a lot of things.

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.