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Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

Imho
No need involving a third party
Be creative
Be spontaneous
Eg
Pen a heartfelt apology
Organise a surprise romantic dinner for u both
Read the words to her
Reiterate your love for her again
Acknowledge that wat u did was stupid and will never happen again
Buy her a gift of what she likes to boot
All will be well
Thank me later
So help u God


If u say such things again

Na u use ur hand scatter ur marriage
Shikenah

24kmagic:
Madam, 31 years old is not "only" for a woman.
She don old true true.

You are a pedophile!

Go and marry girls of 13yrs, I will be here to give u advice, don't worry, go marry that your young girl first, we will offer you free advice when she start running back to her mates or acting childish.

When she will use the money you gave her for upkeep to buy shawarma and eyelashes and g string pants to seduce her school boyfriend, we will be here to help since 31yr old lady is too old, unless u are below 30yrs anyway

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?

You only wish! Yimu.
Apologies, but no man will marry a crass woman like you.
No be only my husband...

omotola224:
A woman loves unconditionally but when you cross boundaries she can decide to unlove you with the same energy.
Men can often be insensitive through their actions but when you say it to their face then it's a confirmation of what you have been thinking. Never get to this point with a woman who genuinely loves you. That being said
You have to keep trying...
When she leaves you alone in the sitting room go and meet her. Gist with her.
Take her out on dates
Surprise her
You have to do things like you are just asking her out all over again.
Over one of your dates tell her you are sorry and would love to be the love of her life once again. Pls let it show that you are truly remorseful.

She will forgive you only you might have to reassure her over and over again.

Note: watch what you say henceforth .

Goodluck!

women love unconditionally..... really?....lol. Tell us another story jor

daddytime:
Hmmm

Words, particularly hurtful words, when said can never be unsaid.

This is one reason why I try as much as I can to avoid a confrontation or banter of words with my significant other. Most times I just take a walkout.

Those words you uttered are pretty well hurtful and confidence-wrecking.

Keep on doing the best you can to make her see how sorry you truly are, she'd eventually come the corner albeit not entirely forgetting your true opinion of her.

I have noticed in real life actually, its pretty common for a woman or lemme say i have seen many women who will even tell their man to his face sef, i knw i love you more than you love me blah blah even girlfriends and still choose to stay with the guy, every1, even guys like being in love even if the object of love doesnt quite reciprocate the same way. And being realistic here sef, i think its very difficult for 2 pple to feel exactly d same way bout each other at the same time
E.g Its wen she has withdrawn from you now emotionally that you knw you love her.
Like i said i see this all the time.
The good news for you, like i said earlier is women and even some men put up with this a lot.
And this example, i think d woman really loves you and is a good person.
From wat u describe, i am falling in love wif this woman already, she is quarelling wif u and still cooking n fu*king you. Lol.
She'll still forgive you. You jst have to convince her you didnt mean wat u said.
And work on urself, i think what you have is almost perfect in behaviour at least cos i dont knw how she looks.

This is deep. I have being in this shoe before. Thats the reason for one to be very careful about any utterance when you are angry. There are some words that you cant take back. Thanks goodness u kw u have hurt her deeply.
You can still resolve this issue yourself but I doubt if you can use my trick. That is if you dont want to involve a third party! Otherwise, call someone you think you can trust in the family; her mum will be a good choice.

genq:
She needs to move on already!
I'm sure during the said argument, she also said hurtful things to you.
At the end of the day, you were man enough to apologise severally. So, the question now is; does she expect you to beg her for the rest of your life?

They say, it's a woman's world. Everything they do is right. If a woman insult she's right, if a wan insult her he's wrong. Mr if a woman slap u no problem. If a man slaps he it's a problem.
They only situation women are unforgiven is wen de cheat

Na wa o


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Please you can't do it alone except by prayers and fasting. If you need result now, you must involve your spiritual father.

Even if she ends up forgiving you (which is unlikely)
She will always hold does mean words you said against you till she dies.
You should have married who your heart really wanted.

@Charles1888

You are one step ahead of the situation. Forget the past and more forward (I didn't say break the marriage).
.

You killed the love she have for you, you have to start all over again like you just meant a new girl you want to date.

Start everything from scratch since you don't want to involve anybody. Try by all means to go extra in showing her you love her.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

"You will become what you study, so choose your study materials carefully."

You have so immersed yourself in nairaland comments that you took the message of evening newspaper to heart. Now, look where it got you.

Your wife is only preparing her heart for you to cheat because she knows for certain you will. She is already building the walls to guide her from further hurt.

I know for certain you will cheat except you accept Jesus Christ truly; because I know you'll say you're already a Christian but I put it to you that you're not.

It is only when she sees you've truly changed that she will return to her normal way of life. Read James 1:19-20, Galatians 5:22-23

Moreover, have you sat down and conversed with your wife about what you said? It's better you talk about it rather than doing other unnecessary things to please her.

Let her know it was how you felt and it was foolish of you to think that way, but you are now mature. Xpress your love in words and action.

Most comments u see here are from unmarried folks. Don't take them serious. They believe it's nollywood. The truth is if u have apologized for over 4 months and she's yet to get over it let her be. She might be enjoying the attention or she's very vindictive. That's women for you they get u angry and expect u not to be angry and still pat them.
Over time she will get over it. We all make mistakes jare and people saying healing time, well na dem Sabi.
Don't even think of divorcing because u don't know how devilish the new wife will be. Marriage is always like that. So she's expecting you not to say your mind.

Don't invite a third party.


No marriage is without its challenges. Stop begging her. In short when you offend her next time don't apologize beyond once. Trust me. It will save you lots of stress in the future.

Its obvious you care and respect your woman,you are as well committed to making the best of the relationship despite the fact that it isn't what you had wanted back then . It is normal for people to make bad statements when you feel threatened or attacked. I think first thing you need to do is to forgive yourself. You didn't mean it that way and the more you continue to live in that GUILTY CONSCIOUSNESS the more difficult it gets for you to reconnect back to her as you will continue to fuel her own VICTIM CONSCIOUSNESS . Time will heal her gradually and open her eyes to learn how to forgive and move on. You both need to mature into a different level of understanding necessary to keep a home. The universe will naturally send challenges that will force her to see what's best to keep her marriage. Good luck

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

hmmmm this is deep. God has to be involved in this. You said too much though haba why would you say all that? May God heal the fine lady in Jesus’ name.

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

communication is good but when u react to everything yr wife is says den u looking for 'see finish ".if u want yr wife to respect u talkless n act more.During quarrel or heated argument a lot of our men exchange words with their wives.u r just playing into their n given dem opportunity to finish u( u can hardly win an argument with a woman because dey v a peculiar way of thinking)

omotola224:
A woman loves unconditionally but when you cross boundaries she can decide to unlove you with the same energy.
Men can often be insensitive through their actions but when you say it to their face then it's a confirmation of what you have been thinking. Never get to this point with a woman who genuinely loves you. That being said
You have to keep trying...
When she leaves you alone in the sitting room go and meet her. Gist with her.
Take her out on dates
Surprise her
You have to do things like you are just asking her out all over again.
Over one of your dates tell her you are sorry and would love to be the love of her life once again. Pls let it show that you are truly remorseful.

She will forgive you only you might have to reassure her over and over again.

Note: watch what you say henceforth .

Goodluck!

Well said and am sure if he does all these , she will come around

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person.

After saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back.

I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

communication is good but when u react to everything yr wife is says den u looking for 'see finish ".if u want yr wife to respect u talkless n act more.During quarrel or heated argument a lot of our men exchange words with their wives.u r just playing into their hands n given dem opportunity to finish u( u can hardly win an argument with a woman because dey v a peculiar way of thinking)

When you marry a very nice woman try to respectful her is very important, I was once in your shoes the same thing that happened between you and your wife happen to me and my wife, I apologize, begged and later during her birthday the phone she has been asking me to buy since I used the opportunity to buy it for her just for her to forget and forgive me and I thank God later forgive me. So bro as you are begging try and still surprise her with gifts she will still forgive you.

UjuJoan2:
Jeeeez, I need tips from your wife oh, to be able to put these men in check. Chai, she's an expert at passive aggressive behaviour, I Duff my hat for her . . . Much respect.

That being said, you deserve all she is doing to you, and more. You are even lucky she's still allowing you touch her sef (of course she may be doing that just to get pregnant, and then shut you out completely )

THERE ARE SOME THINGS YOU JUST NEVER SAY!

You me need to understand that you are not doing women a favour by marrying them. It is actually the other way round. When you consider the sacrifices a woman has to make in the name of marriage, then every man should wake up every morning and thank his wife for marrying him. And this is no joke

This mumu man married a GOOD woman, and had the guys to insult her over her age, only 31. And I bet you are even even older than her, yet you think you are somehow a catch for her, because she is 31? What foolishness.

Truly, I can't even wrap my head around it.

If my husband ever said something like that to me, I don't even know how I will react. Truly.

Spec ni, specs ko.

I just pray you don't deceive her again into forgiving you and falling for you again. Because for you to have made such a statement, you don't DESERVE her love, at all. And you probably never will.

This so sad!

I hope you're older than this guy you're insulting up and down? And nope, 31 years for a woman is not *only". I personally cannot go beyond 25. Old spinsters are a complete turn off.

You have spoken with maturity and very uncommon common sense unlike many who are just here to talk nonsense.

Temitope009:
Okay, it's been done. What's the way forward?
It's good you're sober now. That's a good start, we can take it from there.
First, you have to be very very patient with her, words alone cannot undo how much those words hurt. You have to show her in action. Try by doing the very little things that matter to us as women. Few tips..

Kiss her on her forehead at least once a day, look into her eyes and tell her how much she means to you.
Buy her gifts.
Try not to get angry at her mistakes or making a graver mistake to say hurtful things to her, it'll undo all these kindness from start again.
Just take it slow and with time, she'll come around. Time heals all wounds.
All the best sir.

popp:
It's very unfortunate that I didn't meet this thread on time. It's in my culture not to comment on a thread that had been trending, especially when it has gone beyond two pages.

I even saw it when it hasn't got to the front page but I didn't know it's a crucial topic like this.

Concisely, my brother you're still a small boy.

It's clystal clear that she is older than you. It tells in your triat and hers to you too.

I just have one word for you, THINK AND GROW WISE

I think your comment ought to come last or not at all!
With your statement of not commenting after a thread must have been 2 or more pages, one would think you have something special or meaningful to say.

Whistling would have been more appropriate for you on this thread.

Op your situation is a lesson to other men.
Men should never marry old women.
That your woman is really a bad person, very vengeful and manipulative.
I am sure she has said worst things to you or any of her past boyfriends before ad even friends. Was she crucified for it? No.
An unforgiven person is worst than a witch. OP I pity you for falling victim to such vindictive person.

They are evening newspaper for a reason: their behaviours were bad and untolerable all their life , icluding their youth days.

I am sure God was warning you in your heart then about not marrying her, you think it was just a double mind. You ignored God notching you to desist from her then because you felt desperate to inherit abi acquire something with marriage certificate.

Now see your situation.

Tell that you wife to grow up and stop being a manipulative child. If she insists, leave her and marry whoever you wants.

Nonsense, weak men everywhere. None had wisdom at all.
How can a supposedly adult be under broad day manipulation like this. Who no get hot temper on their own? Who no dey sensitive for this world?

Every day women think of ways of subjugation and manipulating their neighbour and partner. Their thoughts are evil continually. Don't listen to any female or unwise man here. Their advice will at the end make you feel more guilty and vulnerable to continue in that downward manipulated state.

Women will always support and conspire with any woman (albeit unconsciuosly) to cage men.

The only woman that can help and support you during manipulation is a man's mum. Ask only your mum for all your relationship advices .

I don't know when some people will understand that there something you leave unsaid to your partner no matter what he/she did you.

GrabHisBalls:
There's nothing anyone on Nairalander could help you with. You were actually not ready for marriage before you delved into it. If you've ever attended marriage seminars/relationship talk shows, you would have known that words are very powerful. No matter the provocation, there are things you don't utter. People forgive, but those words live with them. Most times, not consciously 'cause even subconscious keeps to information. There are certain "truth" you don't say if it's going to cause emotional damages even if it's the truth. I laugh when people blab things to hurt people, then tag it "the truth". You're simply being insensitive. It' s not every truth you should say in the open. Maturity has taught me to keep quiet when provoked.

Your wife may have forgiven, but those words can never be erased even though she desires to.

What do you mean by there are certain truths you don't say? It better that way Op told her, she knows how he feels and thinks, that way when Op says that again she won't be moved, these Truths are what make people improve, Infact if you don't tell me how you truely feel about me whether it is bitter or not you're not my friend. Please let's stop living a lie.

Wow this one is strong OP. Sorry for you sha. Hope it works out well for you both.

Go and take your medicine

elipheleh:
Op your situation is a lesson to other men.
Men should never marry old women.
That your woman is really a bad person, very vengeful and manipulative.
I am sure she has said worst things to you or any of her past boyfriends before ad even friends. Was she crucified for it? No.
An unforgiven person is worst than a witch. OP I pity you for falling victim to such vindictive person.

They are evening newspaper for a reason: their behaviours were bad and untolerable all their life , icluding their youth days.

I am sure God was warning you in your heart then about not marrying her, you think it was just a double mind. You ignored God notching you to desist from her then because you felt desperate to inherit abi acquire something with marriage certificate.

Now see your situation.

Tell that you wife to grow up and stop being a manipulative child. If she insists, leave her and marry whoever you wants.

Nonsense, weak men everywhere. None had wisdom at all.
How can a supposedly adult be under broad day manipulation like this. Who no get hot temper on their own? Who no dey sensitive for this world?

Every day women think of ways of subjugation and manipulating their neighbour and partner. Their thoughts are evil continually.

The damage has been done already, no man is above mistake. Shez hurt cos u made her feel old so the way to remedy it is to make her feel young.
Starting from tmoro, compliment her looks, tell her that shez looking more beautiful n younger...
If she distances herself from u, go to her... Bring up chat topics... Call her errytym both at work n at play... And errytym u communicate with her make sure u tell her dat shez looking younger... Call her sweet sixteen... Even wen ua angry with her, tell her "see dis small gal oo..., how do i know u did not even increase ur age just to get into uni"...
In short just tell her anytin dat will make her feel young period!!!

You sound disgusting. No mature woman should want to be with you anyway.

24kmagic:
I hope you're older than this guy you're insulting up and down? And nope, 31 years for a woman is not *only". I personally cannot go beyond 25. Old spinsters are a complete turn off.

iPrevail:
Stop begging. Change tactics. Just tell her everyday that you love her and she means a lot to you.. Say it every single day, no matter what happens.
If she remains that way till the year ends, just know you married a very vindictive person you should actually be wary of.
If you can't forgive a person or look past their flaws, then you don't love them

so after she forgives, d next quarrel he says something worse, no matter what he should not have said such heart breaking statement to her cos he loves her. probably d guy is feeling trapped ND in d mist of d heat he spoke his mind, a man who truly loves his woman will Neva say such to her. d remorse is just an act from d conscience but I think she got d msg wen he said those awful things to her. she's got her own plan trust me.

cococandy:
Go and take your medicine

See one of them . Manipulative thing.

ollyboy009:
This is deep bro, i will still advice that you involve someone she so much respect in helping you apologizing to her, that will show her that you are serious.
You have a rear gem, pls don't lose her to your insensitivity. God bless your home!

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