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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by xaggar(m): 9:00am On Sep 15, 2019 |
dacool1: I like what you wrote here...the only thing I don't agree with is the not invii a third party . Don't get me wrong. I don't mean one should invite a third party at every whimsy problem; but there are some very threatening and serious misunderstandings that both couple have to seek the advice of a matured and well experienced person who could proffer solutions to the marital predicament. This trend of not inviting a third party have done more harm than good. Most coupled have gone neck deep into their arguments and discord by refusing to call for assistance thereby making a turn back/salvage attempt almost impossible by a mediator. Let's stop that not inviting a third party advice it's not too proper. This is why we have marriage counselors and church elders. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Modernist: 9:03am On Sep 15, 2019 |
missjo:Even doctors can't figure it out. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by iPrevail(m): 9:05am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Kingbarbie01: Our greatest happiness is usually gained through pain. I didn't say she has no right to be angry, but this could be a turning point in that marriage.. continue with that act and live miserably in a marriage or use this as an opportunity to strengthen their union. Apparently, she's choosing the wrong option. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by elipheleh(m): 9:05am On Sep 15, 2019 |
24kmagic: See the foolish spinster you quoted up there rejoicing over downfall of a fellow human. Very selfish and insensitive at core. I Dont blame her. That's the nature of women. Very selfish. I had one last week mocking and blaming the slain xenophobia victims. I had to rebuke her seriously. This is someone, a stranger, I housed for free, without strings. Evil. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by DissTroy(m): 9:11am On Sep 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Biologically, 31 isn't just "only" in a woman's life. I have nothing against females who are even 37 but 31 isn't just "only". If such a woman balances it out by being homely and enterprising, many men might ignore her age. They might not broach the topic but it's still an issue. Besides, many women fake their age with affidavits and all as 'proofs'. The 25-year-old lady you are dating might just turn out to be 29. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by 24kmagic: 9:13am On Sep 15, 2019 |
cococandy: Actually, reverse is the case. I wouldn't want to be with any old (mature) woman. I like them young. For goodness sake what will I be doing with a lady in her late twenties and thirties? I won't be the one to pay for expired goods. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by DissTroy(m): 9:15am On Sep 15, 2019 |
24kmagic: They still don't get it - 31 isn't just "only". I'm guessing you are also in your 20's? |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Austino6091: 9:15am On Sep 15, 2019 |
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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Sunny042(m): 9:17am On Sep 15, 2019 |
women and age are like rat and cat. The best friend is Jesus. instead of asking for advise from nairalanders who will poison tour heart , run to Jesus, He will see you through. At 31,she isn't that old but ripe and matured than those under 20s chewing gum ladies you fantasize. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by elipheleh(m): 9:17am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888: Run from unforgivness. They are simply wicked and evil. Op your situation is a lesson to other men. Men should never marry old women. That your woman is really a bad person, very vengeful and manipulative. I am sure she has said worst things to you or any of her past boyfriends before ad even friends. Was she crucified for it? No. An unforgiven person is worst than a witch. OP I pity you for falling victim to such vindictive person. They are evening newspaper for a reason: their behaviours were bad and untolerable all their life , icluding their youth days. I am sure God was warning you in your heart then about not marrying her, you think it was just a double mind. You ignored God notching you to desist from her then because you felt desperate to inherit abi acquire something with marriage certificate. Now see your situation. Tell that you wife to grow up and stop being a manipulative child. If she insists, leave her and marry whoever you wants. Nonsense, weak men everywhere. None had wisdom at all. How can a supposedly adult be under broad day light manipulation like this. Who no get hot temper on their own? Who no dey sensitive for this world? Every day women think of ways of subjugation and manipulating their neighbour and partner. Their thoughts are evil continually. Don't listen to any female or unwise man here. Their advice will at the end make you feel more guilty and vulnerable to continue in that downward manipulated state. Women will always support and conspire with any woman (albeit unconsciuosly) to cage men. The only woman that can help and support you during manipulation is a man's mum. Ask only your mum for all your relationship advices . |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by rflamz230(m): 9:19am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Bros you messed up. Big time. Nobody will be happy to realize she got into a marriage by chance and not because of love, especially coming from someone they genuinely feel for. I will advise you involve a third party, someone she respects and keep apologizing, keep talking to her, write to her, cook for her at your leisure, try going funny attimes just so she can smile. In a nutshell, try every means possible cos am sure you don't want to keep living that way. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Rubbiish(m): 9:20am On Sep 15, 2019 |
[quote author=izzou post=82219023][/quote] Women say similar thing to men everyday and we get over it. A woman will insult you today, tell you hurtful things but after a while, you get a yes. Some even go to the extreme by giving you a thousand reasons they won't date you. We have seen women who told us they can never date us in this life but turned out as wives (some as one night stand). Some women never thought they could date a short man but las las, they married short men. Your wife needs to come out of that euphoria and embrace the hard reality Why did u stroke the bolded post made by Acidosis? Everything stated there is nothing but the truth, unless u are just being delusional Even your own parents or siblings will say more hurtful things to u, than what op said to his wife. The wife is just emotional, reason she is taking it to far. Do u know what unemployed graduates are going through in the hands of their parents? Do u know the hurtful things being said to them? You think if they land a big job tomorrow they will forget their parents? Women have said worse things to men, especially the excerpt bolded part from Acidosis post "A woman will insult you today, tell you hurtful things but after a while, you get a yes." Just recently approaching women is becoming simple, couple of years back, a woman will insult the hell out of a man and make mockery of him before saying yes. Women are just too emotional, reason for all these. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by elipheleh(m): 9:23am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Rubbiish: Bro women are not emotional. That's a cover up. They are simply too manipulative. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 9:24am On Sep 15, 2019 |
24kmagic: The young woman will never grow again abi? What will you do when she is in her thirties? Divorce and move on to the next one. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Rubbiish(m): 9:25am On Sep 15, 2019 |
omotola224:Stop posting nonsense How many women love unconditionally? Apart from mothers, every other woman in a man's life is there for something |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by DissTroy(m): 9:28am On Sep 15, 2019 |
BetWinners: You've obviously never been in a serious relationship, much more one which is leading or led to marriage. All those assumptions go out the window. A woman can 'blackmail' you into feeling sorry and being remorseful without saying much. "Okay', "I'm fine", "Go ahead, don't worry about me"... Ever heard those words? While the world sees your woman as beautiful and confident, only you realize she constantly seeks validation from you. She wants reassurance that even the faint spot on the underside of her breast is fine by you. There are things you never say. Sometimes lie to her for her own sake. You won't die. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 9:29am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Rubbiish: What of mothers that abandon their kids? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 9:31am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Newbreed2018: Stop giving yourselves too much credit. Men have married undercover oloshos, they have married women that kill them...they have married serial cheats. So shut the fck up. Men will keep marrying the best pretender. Deal wirrit 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by elipheleh(m): 9:34am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Tela101: Plus shes not even his mother. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 9:37am On Sep 15, 2019 |
You married her cos she was the only one available. And in the heat of anger, you told her the raw truth. You deserve what you're getting. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by don4real18(m): 9:40am On Sep 15, 2019 |
You need to ignite that aspect of your lives by doing things that you both love. Your shared interests. Take her out, blah blah blah. Sneak behind her and lift her off her feet. Hug her while she's cooking and tell her you wouldn't leave until she feeds you with her mouth So many things bro. You are welcome |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by YouareaBITCH(f): 9:41am On Sep 15, 2019 |
You looked her in the face and told her she was a mistake and u were merely managing her. Dude you broke her heart. Broken hearts are not easy to mend, make her fall inlove with you all over again. How u do that, only u can say cuz u know the lady u married better. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by authenticman(m): 9:42am On Sep 15, 2019 |
usernamepass: Guy take it easy on him, dude is really broken |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by cococandy(f): 9:43am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Spoken Like a true child 24kmagic: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by cococandy(f): 9:44am On Sep 15, 2019 |
That one is a slow poke: don’t bother with him Tela101: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by 2busy: 9:49am On Sep 15, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: Excellent |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Biglittlelois(f): 9:59am On Sep 15, 2019 |
franchasng: Wow, nothing more to add to your write up cos it's just the plain truth. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by DesChyko: 10:00am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Do not underestimate the power of sex. Please continue doing it. Little by little, things will calm down. Constantly apologizing is a fail, so I'll ask you to stop that strategy. It's not like that will be the last quarrel you'll have. Is that how every single one of them will be? You must disagree to agree sometimes. Just take it in stride and move on. There's more to achieve in the marriage. One thing I will commend you for is that you didn't mention the evil things she said to you. If she didn't say that, then bro you have to work seriously to revive her attention. But if she did and you decided it's not worth public knowledge, then you are on the right track. Carry on. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by wolverine1987: 10:02am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Well it will take time but she will eventually come around.... show remorse n commitment to her it will take time |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 10:02am On Sep 15, 2019 |
APPLY REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY ON HER Beg Her deeply Once more and if she doesn't come around tell her you want out. You want out because you cant continue in such punishment as it was killing you softly and slowly. Also make sure you place every blame on yourself, that you're so wishing you could turn back the hands of time to unsay that and go back to the way things used to be, to the days your love was so strong. Tell her you're commencing the divorce processes the next week and will move out once you do. Say all these in the most soberly ways as possible.......That's the last trump card that will turn your game around. Na only she go now begin to judge the extremity of her vindictive actions and when she weighs her options she will RE-BOOTH SHARPALI 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by josite: 10:02am On Sep 15, 2019 |
It is a cross you will carry for as long as she won't let go. U marry a vindictive person. And your life will not be safe with a woman you don't know her innermost thoughts.. Look for a separate place physically as you are indeed alone in this marriage. It is who she is, your statement just brings out who she is actually,just like her own action simply brings out your reservation about her age. Reframe the narrative, . Stop the begging. It is meant to make you into a perpetually guilty person who will have to beg her for a lifetime for forgiveness. Now adopt the " and so what " attitude letting her know, if what she want is the end of the marriage, the marriage can freely end. Every hubby must have a rod and a stick, to comfort the wife and to discipline the wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by MrFly(m): 10:06am On Sep 15, 2019 |
the best way to resolve marital issues is to remain silent and d matter dies on its own, its ma method and it works perfectly well. Dnt knw about urz |
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