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Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Tonysmith4sure(m): 11:16am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Cutehector:. You are right bro. Such words are really difficult to forget cox they re deep. Show that u are remorseful everyday and pray to God to heal her pains if not, OP you haff finished work. Chai! 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Conceptman: 11:16am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Things might take time to get back to normal but with time you will both be back, here are few things to do..since your sex life is still intact, while doing the do please tell her how sorry you are about the statements, wake up in the morning before work assist her with few things, help her with her things in the house when u are home, make sure all these things are done without u asking her if she wants u to help because she might insist u don't disturb yourself, u will be surprised that her heart will be healing gradually. Make sure u don't hurt during these period. I will give u more ideas later, just start with dis Charles1888: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Charles1888: 11:23am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Thank you Sirs, Ma, for the advices, suggestions, as well as solutions, and also the insults and castigations lol, I will definitely make use of most comments, you all have really helped, God bless you all, happy Sunday. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by SonsOfLiverpool(m): 11:27am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888:OP you have really done badly here I must say. OP, 99.9% of marriages are based on deceit, we humans are deceitful in nature but for you to say it out? You have killed her and put her on a defensive state. Yes you have begged and begged now that’s enough. Don’t beg to a point where you lose yourself or be at her mercy, don’t beg to a point where you give her your power as a man. If you do that, you are a goner. Take a stand, risk losing her and everything. Stop talking about the issue and act like it never happened. Adjust and never expect the kind of love she once showed you. You have said the reality of things and you can not undo it, you can only live with it. Man up and stop begging like a pauper. You have two options: 1. Keep begging till she makes you useless and powerless (she probably knew why you married her before you even said that don’t be deceived. She is also torturing you deliberately as a tactic for a better marriage bargaining power) 2. man up and own up to what you said she will come around when she perceives you are less bothered (having pleaded for forgiveness) What is done, is done 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Ellaelite(f): 11:30am On Sep 15, 2019 |
usernamepass: You dey ashoooo na advise him need abeg it seems crus. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 11:30am On Sep 15, 2019 |
franchasng:is it not kuku better not to marry them |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by SonsOfLiverpool(m): 11:32am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Fitz22:Obviously he doesn’t love her. Forget the begging. What he has to do now is win her back for the sake of his marriage. He has unleashed a defensive mechanism in his wife, he’d be deceiving himself if he thinks she will ever forget. Those words have made his wife weak, all he needs to do is hold on to that and build from there. But thinking he can undo it? That’s a fantasy 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 11:35am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888:Go crazy in the bedroom and do to her what you haven't done before, take her to cloud nine and afterwards tell her not to take your rants to heart.Also tell her you would have been shattered with a more younger lady with this your sharp mouth silly habits,tell her you had those taughts but God brought her to you to help shapen your life and that you love her endlessly.Women are quick to forgive after a mind-blowing sex.Silly them |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Rutherford2019: 11:39am On Sep 15, 2019 |
90% of marriages have had such a scenario.. She has forgiven you but she needs time to adjust.. You can approach a senior person you know she respect.. We are all human and sometimes we err in word or deed 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Rashman578(m): 11:39am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888:U married a smart and intelligent woman... It is only such women that exhibits this typa traits. And I think she's prolly faithful too, other women will show u pepper, disregard u and cheat on u. Hell, she still regards u and love u that's why the wifey duties are still intact, but however to get ur love back, u need to take her back in time when you first met, how u do pet, care and treat her well, this time even more better. Get home before her sometimes to cook her favorite meal, tidy the place, let her wake up to some nice breakfast prepared by u. Take her on dates. Do these things with pure and honest intentions. She'll come around in the end. Cos even the hardest and most strong headed of women melted for this. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Gloriouspa(m): 11:40am On Sep 15, 2019 |
You've offended your wife because of your insensitivity and lack of experience. In marriage, it is not everything you see you talk about and not everything you heard you'll respond to. I have married for about 16 years now, there's ups and downs, you need to exercise patience. You'll need to be cautious and recite that words before you say it out so you won't be blame for it at the end of the day. I will implore you to keep apologizing to her daily (morning and night) till she finally forgets about it. I pray she changes soon. You may as well wake her at the middle of the night and be remorseful for what you have done, you may knee down to beg her to show you've truly repented. May God bless your home. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 11:49am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Saintmary: Really |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Fidelismaria: 11:55am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Op Stop begging It's lame She'll eventually come around Time heal all wounds |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 11:58am On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888 You simply told her the truth on how you felt, you don't love her. You only miss the communication. She has come to terms with it. So manage the sex, food and little communication. At least no more unnecessary nagging. Congrats on graduating from a marriage to a domestic partnership. That was really fast. Idiot. Even between siblings, there are fights and quarrels that makes them dread each other for life. You chose to open your dirty mouth to try that with your wife. Now, she knows you will eventually cheat on her and treat her like trash very soon since you have pedophile tendencies. So she has prepared her mind on not being emotionally invested in you. That part is dead. If you died tomorrow, she will move on faster. Read this slowly, nothing I mean absolutely nothing will change the mental state of your wife. Nothing! I should know because I am like her. You may as well start screwing around and die early. May the likes of 23 year old tacha (from bbn) locate you. They are young and fresh but will give the top graded treatment you deserve. Air head. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by WINNERMENTALITY: 12:02pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
BetWinners:if there are options A-Z.. YOUR might be Z but u can't tell it might be the only solution. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by executioner(m): 12:05pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
What you said to her was horrible to say the very least. But now that the damage has been done she simply has to forgive you, or does she intend to spend the rest of her life keeping aloof of you? Do not beg her again. Don't sympathise with her again because the more you do that the more you feed her ego and the more she shrinks away from you. The more you sympathise with her the more you remind her of your statement and the more she grieves and withdraws from you. Ignore her without making it seem like a revenge. Act busy when you are with her like your mind is on something else but provide all her needs still and make love to her but make it to her like you need her for sex only and nothing else -- in other words start acting aloof yourself. Believe me she will come out of her shell and cry into your arms. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Iceman2017(m): 12:08pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Don't just tell her you love her, make her feel it. Show her you love her. Take her to a Trip and make her feel loved. What you want will gradually come out of her. Spend some weekend outside your home with her. Treat her like a queen and you will see the best of her |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by mrsheddy(m): 12:10pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Op, My friend was in your shoe. It will take times but it will be OK. Write a letter and place it beside the bed. Pour your heart ♥ to her. Buy a special gift to accompany it. Thank me later. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Gidah: 12:11pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
I must say my own the guy should think twice if truly he you have begged and you know it's real begging and she can't forgive you, run or else she will kill u one day, what u said is much but still yet did you take her life Bro learn to love yourself first you said it out of anger yes and you've realized you are very sorry if she won't agree then she should go back home, why would she keep her pregnancy away from you, she wants out |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 12:13pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
franchasng: So you get sense like this? |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by executive12: 12:16pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Fool. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by johnad3(m): 12:22pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
You Bleep up big time bcus, when you pray for rain, you gonna deal with mud. Dont say a word again just free your mind from sadness and dont force her to tell you anything cus when you do,the anger will popup from her. Just stay calm and dont look her into her eye. Just free your mind totally, Let your gesture show you re sorry and it will be seeing by her and thing will start has norm again. BUT note this, she will express her feelings on the word you ve said to her but dont say anything, Let your gesture show you re very sorry. She will not forget the day you said those word to her. We all make such mistakes in life, but our reactions afterall shows if we mean it or not. I don't know how the gravity was i can only give advice, You are the man of your home, Don't bow down, Take control. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by KingLennon(m): 12:23pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:C'mon....we have said things we are not supposed to say when we are angry. He made a terrible mistake and he has admitted it. If the lady truly loves him she'll forgive him |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Maggieoflife: 12:24pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
So impressed by almost all the advice given here. It's now up to you to make proper use of them all! Good luck. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Baffupdrizz(m): 12:25pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Bro, Deep down you know you told her the truth. The truth that she already knows. Never regret being real. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nwaohafia1: 12:26pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Charles1888: Until I hear from her own side of the story, I reserve my comments |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by victorian(f): 12:27pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
So painful. I pray the man I will end up marrying will never say such to me, if not that marriage is dead on arrival. Honestly it's over. Na just to manage ourselves for the house remain. Op u messed big time. How old is 31? Me, that I'm even.more than 31 years. I still look young and frosh. No man can say such to me sha. You can now see why women lie about their age? Cause men like you will use it against her in quarrel. Men don't like truth when it comes to age matters. Na WA o. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Nobody: 12:31pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
usernamepass:I can't believe people liked this piece of crap. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Centeehis1: 12:34pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
You have said what would be almost impossible to forget to this woman and begging wont solve it. Let's take a different approach to this; buy her gifts, take her out frequently, if she keeps distance close up that distance. Woo her all over again like you did the first time but with style. Try to make her laugh, only that way she will be open to you. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by folks4luv(f): 12:43pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
iPrevail:You definitely don't know the implication of what the guy said to his wife, or maybe you don't understand it. Imagine a woman telling her husband she actually didn't plan to marry him cause he is too short and broke. Such statement doesn't cause hurt alone, it leads to insecurity and break trusts. Now, anytime the guy warm up to a younger woman, that woman will feel insecure, she will assume the gůy is wishing he didn't marry her but that younger girl. Her self esteem is on the low no matter how confident she was before. Aside that, nothing breaks a woman than knowing she is not enough for the one she loves. Some words can be forgiven but not forgotten 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by boxypane(m): 12:47pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Pls sir, do not involve anyone. You know how she ticks, it is up to you to make this work. Experienced same, but found a way around it. Would never involve third party. |
Re: My Wife Is Slowly Distancing Herself From Me..... by Medley02(m): 12:56pm On Sep 15, 2019 |
Op... I know you've realised your mistakes and you are ready to make things right as they were before. Your wife is the gentle soul type. One thing about this set of people is that they don't get angry like every other persons, but when you offend em beyond what they can take, it will take God's intervention before you will find your true nd right places in their heart again. So, what l will suggest you should do is to keep begging her nd also keep praying to God. Don't forget that as she's now, she doesn't want to be hurt again nd before she will accept you she must have had every reason to trust you nd that such thing will never happen again. So, go to your wife nd beg her till she accepts you from her heart. Peace I pray for ya marriage! 1 Like |
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