BarrElChapo:
Hahaha..You definitely own the best of chanel though I think no5 is the best among them and I like chance too but you tell me.. No woman who knows her onions won't wear Chanel..

midnighter:


Of course I get it, nobody would tag their own daughter as loose but I find it a naive thing to say when somebody is pregnant already. Ok if they get the dna test and the man is not even the father, what would the mum say again? virginity is not the be-all and end all of raising a morally upright and responsible daughter, even though remaining chaste has a spiritual advantage.

AntiBrutus:


Did Davido impregnate his niece?

Oga use your head na.

Africa is a patriarchal society, until another patriarchal man knacks your wife toto.

lebienconnu:

Now, the deed is done. Abortion is murder and a sin against the almighty God. Do not allow your selfish interest to push you to commit and unforgivable sin.

calgaryFriend:

You don't sound like someone in a proper frame of mind, when you learn proper manners on how to address people then we may talk.

fykes:

I have no respect for people who trivialize deep things like adultery with common arguments like gender biases.
y'all women are too often too personal in thinking about the hurts of a cheating partner whether male or female.
Forgetting that aside from the couple, this while thing affects and maybe even more so, the kids, the couples parents and siblings, and in this case extended in laws families.
So tell me of what good is ur supposed defence or excuse of d gender of the offender in any case?

calgaryFriend:


You sound very bitter and emotional.
You have to learn to differentiate between realities and fantasies.

The reality is what I have painted for you, regardless of what you think, thats the way Africa works.

And yes, our ancestors were not always wise, but they had a much more stable and satisfying family life than we have today , so much for our emancipation and egalitarianism.

Its just like you waking up and saying , why do women have to go through menstruation every month and men dont, or why do women have to be the one to carry pregnancy.

Do you see how stupid that would be ? Is that fair no ? But still if you asked that question that would be very stupid of you.

Thats exactly how you sound now, again. Men and women in Africa operates with different rules.

Let me give you an example, if your sister brought home a guy now as a partner, the first question you would ask her is what kind of job does he do.
In your mind you already believe he will be the one to provide for the home, your sister may not even have a job, that does not matter.

Do men come out and scream blue murder ? It is just the way it is... I hope you get my point. .

calgaryFriend:

You see what I was saying, you put too much emotion and bitterness into everything.
I have raised valid points that you could have chosen to provide an intelligent rebuttal, but you chose to be disrespectful with your response.

You damn know deep down I am right, I understand you dont like that things work that way.

Look at Davido, after impregnating 3 ladies, I hope you know there are plenty ladies on this platform that would not hesitate to join his harem.

Thats simply the reality, Africa is a patriarchal society .

Agneseze:
I can’t sleep , i am so depressed right now . I am writing this with tears in my eyes

I have been married for 13 years , and my husband and I have 4 children together. Everything was going well in my family until my niece came to live with us. She is 19 years old

She became close to my husband, but I never thought they were having an affair. I didn’t see anything going on between them to make suspect them. She was respectful to him.then I observed that she was not looking right and complaining that she was ill. I asked her what the problem was, she said nothing. Then a few days later after she was not feeling well, I told her i should take her to the doctor but my husband offered to take her. I still didn’t take that to mean anything.

My husband took her to the doctor. When she came back , she told me that the doctor said nothing was wrong with her. Then a few days after when I was at work , she packed her bags and went back to her mother. She told her mother that the doctor said she is pregnant. It was my husband who got her pregnant and he wanted her to do an abortion, but she was afraid. Her mother said when she came to live with us she was a virgin, but my husband took her virginity.

My husband calls her a liar. He said that he never had sex with her. I can't look at him, I have nothing to say to him and all he wants to do is hold my hand and kiss me, and try to manipulate me into bed. But I am worried , because my husband is respectable man and is well known. I don’t know what to believe. What should I do please

theButterfly:
OP, to find out the truth

use your own intuition
-Look back on their closeness and recall: anything you might've noticed but dismissed, anything you noticed after getting home from work or during times you were away from the house, changes in interaction w/ you, etc.

Utter Balderdash

Ask him to take a lie detector test
-If he's innocent and has nothing to hide, he would accept this in order to clear himself. If he's guilty, he's going to refuse.
This doesn't even make sense

Get a DNA paternity test
-This is likely what you and the girl's family would have to wait for, so that would mean waiting until the baby is born. At least he cannot stop you people from doing a DNA test on the baby, so the truth will eventually come out then.
So for 9 months the cloud should be hanging over the family with no possible solution?

midnighter:


You can get his hair or his toothbrush for a dna sample, he does not need to agree first.

nkwuocha1:


Every mother's gave their own yardstick expected of their daughter.My sister's are imbibed with same yardstick as the woman,it's now left for them to uphold it by remaining chaste before marriage or not.

When they get the DNA test,it will definitely show he is the father.If it smells like rat,it's a rat!A man who isn't guilty won't be trying so much to put up a innocent face and actions.All this trying to be romantic, denying etc points to that fact.

The best way to bring out the truth is for the wife to seclude herself from both the husband and the girl's family.She should ONLY create a space for the ladies family to come over to the house and address this issue with the alleged culprit.

No point trying to find out the truth from the husband,it can only bring more pain from his denial.Be in solitude and watch as her husband and her paternal family take out on eachother.Even if they try dragging her in it,I suggest she remains silent and focused on her kids.Whrn the husband realize the wife ain't buying no body's bullshiit,he will find away to involve the family when the heat is much.Maybe at that point the truth will finally be out.

Lexusgs430:


True... If he moves out of his family house nko ........

How do you get the DNA samples, in this situation?.....

cococandy:
Is there anyone who doesn’t agree with you that isn’t emotional?
Probably beyond your capacity to understand but being emotional isn’t always bad. However, that’s talk for another day. Don’t want to exhaust your already tired brain.

That you think you’re making sense and even expect me to debate you shows how far from reality you are.

Because some women would love to use Davido for his money means what exactly?

Please go away with your moot points. I’m officially over it now

Bigcowhorn:


DNA test

mrsfavour:
Men sef, that's how mine went to touch my house girl,I just caught them , they were about to, hahahahhhahah.i could not believe my eyes. I sent her away and since then my spirit left my husband. We just stay together as house mates not as husband and wife. I invited his elder sister and mother to hear me out. He promised to change but trust gone �%. So pathetic.

MrBrownJay1:
Ask to know which doctor they went to and get the truth from doc.... if she is really pregnant then it's obvious your hubby did it. EOD!

alphaNomega:


All of you shouting DNA test, who would pay for it?

mrsfavour:
Men sef, that's how mine went to touch my house girl,I just caught them , they were about to, hahahahhhahah.i could not believe my eyes. I sent her away and since then my spirit left my husband. We just stay together as house mates not as husband and wife. I invited his elder sister and mother to hear me out. He promised to change but trust gone �%. So pathetic.

AntiBrutus:


Better than divorcing yo?

Bigcowhorn:


Well she can use a prophet or native doctor. It's not my problem.

olabrinks:
I get what you’re saying and to a certain degree, I agree with you. Men and women are not the same. We operate in different capacities in a marriage and we also have different ways of thinking. However, they’re certain things that do not discriminate regardless of gender. One of those things being mental trauma and psychological damage that can occur in a marriage. It results to a slow and untimely death, no gender immune. It is not unwise or ‘emotional’ for any gender to leave a marriage if they are experiencing such. It’s no more just a ‘feeling’ but a state of being.

midnighter:


yeah if he refuses to come back and provide then we still know he is guilty

alphaNomega:


All of you shouting DNA test, who would pay for it?