franchasng:
In as much as we will all try to attack and condemn the lady for saying such, there is lot of truth in what she wrote, and I will explain:

Back in the days of our fathers, there was no GSM, no internet, no cable TV, so it was never necessary for a man or woman to own a mobile phone, buy internet data, buy airtime, pay for cable TV like DsTV or GoTV or Star Times, etc. In fact there was no need to have a fridge/freezer before you get married because there were electricity only in few parts of Nigeria, mostly the cities, and only less than 20% of Nigerians then lived in the cities, and maybe less than 5% of those city dwellers owned a TV set, a fridge/freezer.

There was no need to own a washing machine, only the elites did....there was no need for electric or gas cooker, no need to talk about owning a car to think of maintaining and fueling the car, only few elites owned cars.

Back then, all schools were government owned, private schools were seen as useless schools for dull people, and most government schools then were free, the ones that needed to be paid for were peanuts...so you don't need to stress to send your children to school, all they needed was school uniform and books.

Back then, there were very few private hospitals, all existing reputable hospitals were all government owned and well equipped and competent, today is different....to take care of your wife's delivery and children health, you must pay through your nose if they must get adequate healthcare.

All the reputable schools now are owned by private individuals, and their tuition is on the high side that, someone earning that amount she mentioned can never be able to send his children to any good school, sadly that's the reality not what we wished was the reality


Before you can get married today and have a relatively happy home, you may need to rent a 1 bedroom flat at least, you will pay for electricity bill monthly, buy gas for cooking, pay for refuse collectors, pay estate or community security which was free in our father's time, you may need TV, GoTV which also requires monthly subscription, you must own a mobile phone, including your wife, and who will be buying the airtime, the internet data, maybe Buhari

Honestly, to live a decent life in Nigeria or run a decent, modest home in Nigeria now as a married man, you will need around 200,000naira monthly income, which is why every Nigerian lady now should make it a priority to have a job or a business or a trade or something earning her legal money of at least 50,000naira monthly before she accepts to marry any man.


Gone are the days ladies bring only their body to marriage, ladies your body is no longer enough, you must bring some money too....a monthly income!!!


That guy that replied her and saying he is earning 57,000 and he is married with 2 kids, he should also tell people about other ways he earns money to augment his 50k monthly salary; or he thinks we don't know how corrupt majority of Nigerian civil servants are, collecting kickbacks, bribes, and engaging in all forms of office corruption to makeup their low pay

He should also tell us if he doesn't get one or two financial help from one of his big brothers or uncles living somewhere else either abroad or in another city, so let him STFU that income is not enough to run a family in today Nigeria!!

If you are not earning enough income to raise a decent home, pls stay single, its not a crime to remain single, it is a crime to give birth to kids u can't train or give decent life, they will grow up to become societal problem and easy tools for crime/violence which is why Northern Nigeria and in fact Nigeria is so messed right now!


Stop giving birth to kids u can't train or hoping for your uncle or brother or sister or aunt or friend to train them for u, the world has changed, this is not 1980!!

Amarabae:
If the man is earning 50k monthly, the girl should have something doing that should be earning her atleast 25k monthly.
Both of them combined will be 75k and can be OK in starting a middle class family

MrBrownJay1:
If this man's babe has a JOB, instead of being an "online preacher" on marital affairs, then that man can easily get married with even 30K

realestniggah:
Look at people up there criticising her.. But is she wrong though.. What kind of life do you have planned for your family if you not earning more than 50k honestly?

macklef:

Im a guy, and this is the truth. Atleast a guy must earn 120 while the wife brings in 30 anything outside this is poverty except they live outside places like lagos

Gforce2015:



O ni kuure

ornicus:


depends on what you call living. we have a security maiguard we pay 30k the guy lives in a 5m x 5m room. he uses a public toilet and bathroom. he does have wife in his village up north though. so if your home is in the village, maybe. but 50k will not give you quality of life. feeding, rent, transport entertainment -

MrBrownJay1:


Clap for yourself....now, are you saying that the millions of single people living on minimum salary all over Nigeria have no quality of life?!

As much as you are entitled to your opinion, HERE IS MINE: A single person can definitely make it on 30k per month in Nigeria, therefore 2 single people bringing 30k+30k= 60k can make it NO DOUBT! The simple fact that living together will have them pay half of the rent each, proves that it will be better for each of them financially.

Jmk9292:
And what's the average a girl should earn before contemplating marriage?

ecolime:
What of those earning N50,001?



Maddd!!!






















Foolish gal

franchasng:
In as much as we will all try to attack and condemn the lady for saying such, there is lot of truth in what she wrote, and I will explain:

Back in the days of our fathers, there was no GSM, no internet, no cable TV, so it was never necessary for a man or woman to own a mobile phone, buy internet data, buy airtime, pay for cable TV like DsTV or GoTV or Star Times, etc. In fact there was no need to have a fridge/freezer before you get married because there were electricity only in few parts of Nigeria, mostly the cities, and only less than 20% of Nigerians then lived in the cities, and maybe less than 5% of those city dwellers owned a TV set, a fridge/freezer.

There was no need to own a washing machine, only the elites did....there was no need for electric or gas cooker, no need to talk about owning a car to think of maintaining and fueling the car, only few elites owned cars.

Back then, all schools were government owned, private schools were seen as useless schools for dull people, and most government schools then were free, the ones that needed to be paid for were peanuts...so you don't need to stress to send your children to school, all they needed was school uniform and books.

Back then, there were very few private hospitals, all existing reputable hospitals were all government owned and well equipped and competent, today is different....to take care of your wife's delivery and children health, you must pay through your nose if they must get adequate healthcare.

All the reputable schools now are owned by private individuals, and their tuition is on the high side that, someone earning that amount she mentioned can never be able to send his children to any good school, sadly that's the reality not what we wished was the reality


Before you can get married today and have a relatively happy home, you may need to rent a 1 bedroom flat at least, you will pay for electricity bill monthly, buy gas for cooking, pay for refuse collectors, pay estate or community security which was free in our father's time, you may need TV, GoTV which also requires monthly subscription, you must own a mobile phone, including your wife, and who will be buying the airtime, the internet data, maybe Buhari

Honestly, to live a decent life in Nigeria or run a decent, modest home in Nigeria now as a married man, you will need around 200,000naira monthly income, which is why every Nigerian lady now should make it a priority to have a job or a business or a trade or something earning her legal money of at least 50,000naira monthly before she accepts to marry any man.


Gone are the days ladies bring only their body to marriage, ladies your body is no longer enough, you must bring some money too....a monthly income!!!


That guy that replied her and saying he is earning 57,000 and he is married with 2 kids, he should also tell people about other ways he earns money to augment his 50k monthly salary; or he thinks we don't know how corrupt majority of Nigerian civil servants are, collecting kickbacks, bribes, and engaging in all forms of office corruption to makeup their low pay

He should also tell us if he doesn't get one or two financial help from one of his big brothers or uncles living somewhere else either abroad or in another city, so let him STFU that income is not enough to run a family in today Nigeria!!

If you are not earning enough income to raise a decent home, pls stay single, its not a crime to remain single, it is a crime to give birth to kids u can't train or give decent life, they will grow up to become societal problem and easy tools for crime/violence which is why Northern Nigeria and in fact Nigeria is so messed right now!


Stop giving birth to kids u can't train or hoping for your uncle or brother or sister or aunt or friend to train them for u, the world has changed, this is not 1980!!

ornicus:


That is EXACTLY what I am saying. Maybe if you are living in a village. Nepa bill, transport, feeding, rent, etal, . Now add school fees.

You have not seen how some of these people live. Single family in one bedroom in a face me I face you.
It is not living. It is just existing

fados4sure:

My brother with the way the country is going now, girls this days eyes dey chuke.
I told a girl that I'm a teacher & she asked what is my pay? I said #35k, she said I'm not hardworking that she can't date a lady guy

franchasng:
In as much as we will all try to attack and condemn the lady for saying such, there is lot of truth in what she wrote, and I will explain:

Back in the days of our fathers, there was no GSM, no internet, no cable TV, so it was never necessary for a man or woman to own a mobile phone, buy internet data, buy airtime, pay for cable TV like DsTV or GoTV or Star Times, etc. In fact there was no need to have a fridge/freezer before you get married because there were electricity only in few parts of Nigeria, mostly the cities, and only less than 20% of Nigerians then lived in the cities, and maybe less than 5% of those city dwellers owned a TV set, a fridge/freezer.

There was no need to own a washing machine, only the elites did....there was no need for electric or gas cooker, no need to talk about owning a car to think of maintaining and fueling the car, only few elites owned cars.

Back then, all schools were government owned, private schools were seen as useless schools for dull people, and most government schools then were free, the ones that needed to be paid for were peanuts...so you don't need to stress to send your children to school, all they needed was school uniform and books.

Back then, there were very few private hospitals, all existing reputable hospitals were all government owned and well equipped and competent, today is different....to take care of your wife's delivery and children health, you must pay through your nose if they must get adequate healthcare.

All the reputable schools now are owned by private individuals, and their tuition is on the high side that, someone earning that amount she mentioned can never be able to send his children to any good school, sadly that's the reality not what we wished was the reality


Before you can get married today and have a relatively happy home, you may need to rent a 1 bedroom flat at least, you will pay for electricity bill monthly, buy gas for cooking, pay for refuse collectors, pay estate or community security which was free in our father's time, you may need TV, GoTV which also requires monthly subscription, you must own a mobile phone, including your wife, and who will be buying the airtime, the internet data, maybe Buhari

Honestly, to live a decent life in Nigeria or run a decent, modest home in Nigeria now as a married man, you will need around 200,000naira monthly income, which is why every Nigerian lady now should make it a priority to have a job or a business or a trade or something earning her legal money of at least 50,000naira monthly before she accepts to marry any man.


Gone are the days ladies bring only their body to marriage, ladies your body is no longer enough, you must bring some money too....a monthly income!!!


That guy that replied her and saying he is earning 57,000 and he is married with 2 kids, he should also tell people about other ways he earns money to augment his 50k monthly salary; or he thinks we don't know how corrupt majority of Nigerian civil servants are, collecting kickbacks, bribes, and engaging in all forms of office corruption to makeup their low pay

He should also tell us if he doesn't get one or two financial help from one of his big brothers or uncles living somewhere else either abroad or in another city, so let him STFU that income is not enough to run a family in today Nigeria!!

If you are not earning enough income to raise a decent home, pls stay single, its not a crime to remain single, it is a crime to give birth to kids u can't train or give decent life, they will grow up to become societal problem and easy tools for crime/violence which is why Northern Nigeria and in fact Nigeria is so messed right now!


Stop giving birth to kids u can't train or hoping for your uncle or brother or sister or aunt or friend to train them for u, the world has changed, this is not 1980!!

DNSPro:


] A girl I met from here told me this yesterday lol. She did not know I had long gotten another girl.

In her words "I can't date guy that is not financially ready" lol.

She does not have even 50k in her bank account. While I who she is telling that has spent as much as 2M for different causes...

You might wonder why should tell me such.. Here is why? I didn't succumb to her major financial request and I told her I can't cos I have some issues to resolve. Making request when she is still telling me she need to think about the relationship.

So she felt I am I can't meet her needs.

I am typing this while at a park to make delivery. Woke up as early as 4a.m

My only problem is I give people too much and barely have any left for myself.

By God's grace I know how much make this month from my hustle and now determined to keep the tempo going while cutting people off.

This same person has never worked in her life for any money... All she has is giving to her by people, I included.

Its not my nature mock people with their predicament.

I had a lot I would have told her that could send her straight into depression. I kid you not but for sake of her condition, I restrained cos I know she is not as strong as she tries to claim or make you believe.

I am dating someone else already who has never asked me for dime nor gotten even 20k from me in comparison to the girl above who had gotten quite more... Plus the new girl is professional nurse in making while our madam didn't not even finish. She (the new girl also worked or often search for works during holidays.

I don't need a leech in my life for real.

backbone503:
Keep prioritizing what he/should earn(s). At 30, your brain go begin reset, and you go begin see clearly. Shiloh dey, you dey.

Relationship/marriage is firstly and majorly about YOU, the other person only has a complementary role to play. Develop yourself. Do it to the point where you can survive with or without ANYONE.

Raptor15:
so, because a woman is scared of reaching menopause she should put herself into poverty right? I think you are the "idiot" here bro not the lady.

Emmaco:
Savagery epic. ��

And some fools will start insulting her here. How can a man support his family with 50k a month for goodness sake. A man earning 50k should be looking for a way to improve his earnings not a wife. As the economy is now a wife should be his least concern. I support this lady 100%. For those of you that want to die in poverty, or any man that is looking for a woman that will be feeding him can support her.

Most of this yeyebrity attention seeker
Even with 25k you can be married and happy

oldtime:
A valid question for this loose untrained type of ladies who think Money is all there is in Marriage, Ask her. Is she working Herself?
They have no tire, they want a Benz Man
they have nothing in their Bank Accounts, yet they want a Man who is a Millionaire
A typical Nigerian Lady, when once you say "I love you" believes you are owing her
These Type of Women Brings Nothing to the Marriage, Rather they are a Burden that you must bare
That is why a woman outside of Nigeria gets married faster while Nigerian ladies at 45 are looking for intimacy gadgets all about like Toke and Ton..

okafor200:
Please Nairalanders I Need Your Helps!
i really want to become a billionaire.